Looking to Become an Escort

[AtlStudent]

Hey guys,

 

Young guy here in Atlanta and I was thinking about becoming an escort. Was just curious to here from others how they began their careers, how did they find clients, and was there a way of making sure those clients were who they said they were?

 

Thanks

[JamahlBrandon]

Hi there,

 

What's one of the reasons you're looking to escort? It seems like you've done your research to get to this point, which is good, now all you have to do is try it out and see if you like it.

 

As for how I got into it, I guess I was lucky. My first couple of "clients" we're just guys who offered to pay me, and I found attractive. And like you...I was a student and needed some money. $40 was like the easiest job ever to me, but then a friend told me about rentboy where people actually did it as a real job. Then I seen $220 an hour and was like...okay, not bad for $20 a month. I didn't believe it was really a real thing, but I decided to go for it. And so here I am now.

[+ Keith30309]

Hey guys,

 

Young guy here in Atlanta and I was thinking about becoming an escort. Was just curious to here from others how they began their careers, how did they find clients, and was there a way of making sure those clients were who they said they were?

 

Thanks

 

Welcome to the forum!

[jawjateck]

Welcome aboard! Enrollment in this institution will help you conduct your research and make appropriate decisions. Let us know if you begin an internship in the biz.

[YoungAD]

I seen

 

I cringe every time you write this.

[Kuriousity]

Well, get a business plan together, because escorting--for most escorts--IS a business. Determine what financial goals you want to reach. Decide how you want to market yourself/your product (Good photos are key--nothing too badly lit and remember to smile IF you show your face. From what I have seen here, escorts who show their face and smile in their photos do generate positive buzz.). Determine what geographic area you wish to serve. Decide how you are going to report earnings to the IRS--provided you get to a Kevin Slater/Kurtis Wolfe/JD Daniels level of business. If you are going to use social media, decide which will be personal media & which will be business media. Familiarize yourself with Daddy's Reviews, and if you have a good session or two, encourage the booker to post a review there, since a large part of success in escorting is from word of mouth--the more positive chatter there is about you, the more the demand will be for your services. Finally, realize an escort has a shelf life, so even while you escort, lay the groundwork for your next Life chapter.

 

Also, if you can, get a burner phone for escorting.

 

One last thing---most clients are NOT going to look like you. Being a body fascist means you will not be a good escort. If you give ANY indication that you do not find a client attractive, then that will get out among the booker community. You do not want a Sean Zevran reputation, who really only wanted to escort for clients who generally looked like himself.

[+ DERRIK]

Welcome to the forum

 

Suggestions

 

• Lurk in here
  
• Get a sense of do's and don't
  
• Limit the number of pics you supply to prospects
  
• Participate in the forum occasionally
  
• Reach out to those providers / clients that seem to have thier act together
  
• As with any social media - don't take it personal if men disagree with a posting
  
• Have a sense of humor
  

Good luck

[AtlStudent]

Hey guys,

 

Thanks a bunch for the comments so far, looking into them. In regards to clients, is there a way that you guys have verified/know they are a "real" person?

[+ Lance_Navarro]

Hey guys,

 

Thanks a bunch for the comments so far, looking into them. In regards to clients, is there a way that you guys have verified/know they are a "real" person?

 

There is really no way to guarantee that a client is legit. You WILL have flakes and guys just wasting your time. As a general rule, guys that are serious will get to the point in their communications. They will communicate when they wish to schedule and introduce themselves to you. If you have someone being really vague, saying things like "I'm going to be in your area in the next few weeks", they probably aren't serious. Also, if someone wants to talk on the phone and the call starts feeling like phone sex, it's probably not gonna go anywhere. A mention was made about getting a "burner phone". I'm not sure that's necessary, but having a second phone number through Google Voice is a good idea.

 

So, take yourself out an ad on Rentmen and give it a shot. As was mentioned in another post, know that your clients will come in all ages, shapes and sizes and hopefully you're ok with this. Your job as an escort is to spread joy, compassion and acceptance. You should expect your clients to be showered and hygienic, but you should be ready and able to happily work with guys but small and large, young and old, otherwise, it's probably not the best fit.

[MikeyGMin]

Check out this thread. There is a lot of information from established, experienced and smart escorts that you can probably benefit from on the "client screening" front.

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/another-side-to-the-no-emails-text-or-phone-only-thing.110556/

 

Welcome to the forum!

[AtlStudent]

Check out this thread. There is a lot of information from established, experienced and smart escorts that you can probably benefit from on the "client screening" front.

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/another-side-to-the-no-emails-text-or-phone-only-thing.110556/

 

Welcome to the forum!

Thank you Mikey!

[Alec Andrews]

Carefully decide on how being an escort might affect your personal life should this knowledge become public. Will you truly be ok with that? If so, go for it, if not, give it some serious thought. Do you want to show your face or not?

 

Escorting in my personal experience is havoc on personal relationships... because our society condemns it... which translates into romantic partners often being unable to handle it. The same goes for family, should your parents or family find out, how do you think they will react? Just food for thought. Escorting is not EASY money... it is FAST money.... but like everything in life, it comes at a price. What price are you willing to pay?

[Rudynate]

Carefully decide on how being an escort might affect your personal life should this knowledge become public. Will you truly be ok with that? If so, go for it, if not, give it some serious thought. Do you want to show your face or not?

 

Escorting in my personal experience is havoc on personal relationships... because our society condemns it... which translates into romantic partners often being unable to handle it. The same goes for family, should your parents or family find out, how do you think they will react? Just food for thought. Escorting is not EASY money... it is FAST money.... but like everything in life, it comes at a price. What price are you willing to pay?

 

 

Very thoughtful comments.

[BaronArtz]

Welcome!

 

I have witnessed up close the difficulties one of my friends had/is having LEAVING the business. He simply cannot get a 'real' job because his name, his pictures and his escort activities can all be traced back to him, simply by doing a google search. My advice is this - think in advance about what your financial and other goals are, and think about your exit before you even get started. In practical terms

 

- make sure your escort pictures cannot be traced back to any form of social media that will divulge your real identity

- use a separate phone number for your escort and your other activities

- do not EVER disclose your real name to anyone

- be prepared to not have a social or a dating life while you are escorting

 

Think carefully about whether you can really 'do' this job. I sense you are worried about who the clients are. I don't know where you live, but do the following. Go to a mid-priced or high-end retail store in your area. Stand near a cash register. Look at who the men are that shop there. Look at them carefully. Your clients are likely to look very similar to them. Can you see yourself undress in front of them, kiss them and let them touch your private parts? Can you see yourself faking arousal while this is going on? If there is the slightest hesitation, don't do it. This is not for everyone.

 

As Alec said above, it is FAST money. And there is a hefty price to pay to get it.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Hey guys,

 

Thanks a bunch for the comments so far, looking into them. In regards to clients, is there a way that you guys have verified/know they are a "real" person?

If your avatar picture is yours, call me when you are in the DC area. I'm real and I want you.

[AtlStudent]

Thanks guys for the insight, taking these thoughts into consideration!

[MikeyGMin]

- be prepared to not have a social or a dating life while you are escorting

 

I think it would be more accurate to say be prepared to have difficulty in dating. It adds a layer of complexity. Alec has said that in his personal experience it has been very difficult, but in the "Dating" thread other escorts have said that they do indeed have successful relationships.

 

On this forum we saw that Greg had to stop escorting so he could pursue a relationship, but Juan has had no problems. I don't know why Juan would be the exception to the rule. I can think of several escorts who have relationships right off the top of my head. So it's obviously a different experience for different people.

 

Throwing in no social life to that statement really seems extreme. Escorts keep unusual hours and some travel a lot, but the ones I have known well enough to know a little about their personal life, all have friends and a social life. Of course there is some stigma and their friends have to be open-minded people, but who wants friends that aren't?

[LADoug1]

remember to smile IF you show your face

 

++++1

[LADoug1]

if you have a good session or two, encourage the booker to post a review there

I agree but do this very politely and subtly.

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey man,

 

Whenever someone asks me whether they should become escorts I respond the same thing than when someone asks me if they should become actors. The answer is simple:

 

Don't. It's not for everyone. It's a challenging life that demands a very specific calling and a high level of emotional maturity to make sure that it doesn't hurt you on the long run. Most people get chewed up and left broken after escorting. Very very few people are able to have a successful escorting career and a healthy emotional life. Very few people rise to the top, so it is statistically likely you will not do well and will have to work a lot to live very badly. Also, escorting will stay with you forever. If you are uncertain about the validity of escorting, ethically and morally speaking, (In other words, if you think you might feel shame and guilt about it) then I strongly recommend you to stay away from it. There is absolutely no amount of money in the world that is worth living with shame and guilt. Escorting demands a huge commitment, intelligence, compassion, focus, business savvy, patience and a very strong self-esteem. You can't expect your clients and your reputation to feed your ego, because if you do, you will be at a disadvantage and will do anything for others. It's situations like these what get escorts in trouble.

 

If you got past this and are still convinced this is for you, if you feel a calling and think you would grow and find fulfillment through escorting, then I would recommend you not to show your face, at least in the beginning. Until you are sure this is for you. You also got a few very good pointers:

 

- make sure your escort pictures cannot be traced back to any form of social media that will divulge your real identity

- use a separate phone number for your escort and your other activities

- do not EVER disclose your real name to anyone

All very true. I would also recommend to determine how much money you need to pay for all your expenses for two months. From the beginning make sure you save that money and keep it in your bank untouched at all times. That way you won't be desperate, you will not NEED this next client, which will give you an amount of freedom and ability to think objectively about your work.

 

- be prepared to not have a social or a dating life while you are escorting

 

This is absolutely not true. Many escorts are happily partnered and or dating. Most escorts who are nice people have lots of friends who love them and respect them. Your ability to make friend depends on your social skills, not your profession. True, you might be ostracized on Sundays at some Churches, your really uptight and judgmental acquaintances might not respect your choices, but if you care about your judgmental friends' opinions, then you really should not escort in the first place.

 

Whatever you decide, I sincerely wish you you will take good care of yourself and become aware of your own limits and make sure you respect them.

 

Lots of hugs and welcome to the forum.

[stop]

I think you have gotten some good feedback from others but my additional thought is if you are serous about it then i suggest you hire a couple guys anonymously and see how they do things. Pick guys you have seen on here and that you respect and that you would want to mimic. See how they make you feel at ease, how they run the session etc. The best way to learn how to do something is on the job training. The sex is the sex everybody has their own way of doing it but the other part of escorting is the human interaction. It would be helpful for you to get a feel for how successful pros handle the job from beginning to end.

[+ Keith30309]

I think you have gotten some good feedback from others but my additional thought is if you are serous about it then i suggest you hire a couple guys anonymously and see how they do things. Pick guys you have seen on here and that you respect and that you would want to mimic. See how they make you feel at ease, how they run the session etc. The best way to learn how to do something is on the job training. The sex is the sex everybody has their own way of doing it but the other part of escorting is the human interaction. It would be helpful for you to get a feel for how successful pros handle the job from beginning to end.

.... and if you need anyone to take notes or illustrative etchings please feel free to reach out.

[Becket]

do not EVER disclose your real name to anyone

 

Captain Obvious says: I understand why an experienced escort might suggest this to a new escort. But if the relationship progresses to the point where the escort travels with or to the client, it's hard to fly (or check into a hotel) anonymously these days. I have appreciated the trust a few escorts have offered, understanding that they do take a risk revealing anything about their personal life. The issue of trust has been central to seeing someone over a long period of time. I couldn't imagine being with someone who calls himself something like "hotyoungstud." In that case I am better off using a fleshlight.

[MikeyGMin]

Captain Obvious says: I understand why an experienced escort might suggest this to a new escort. But if the relationship progresses to the point where the escort travels with or to the client, it's hard to fly (or check into a hotel) anonymously these days. I have appreciated the trust a few escorts have offered, understanding that they do take a risk revealing anything about their personal life. The issue of trust has been central to seeing someone over a long period of time. I couldn't imagine being with someone who calls himself something like "hotyoungstud." In that case I am better off using a fleshlight.

 

Agreed. Any esscort I have ever bought an airline ticket for understands that they have to give you their real name. Of course, I'm generally not flying guys around until we have built a level of trust.

 

I can live with a stage name (that is an actual name...not a screen name) but I am always flattered and feel like we have gone to another level when an escort shares his real first name with me. Last names aren't important unless we are flying.

[Nvr2thick4me]

AtlStudent - I love your profile pic - wish I lived in Atlanta!