What's the best (sincere) compliment you ever told a client?

[marylander1940]

Not an escort...

 

But I got a few. Most compliments are about my kissing. Some were about my dick. Some were about my hands and my tongue and what I can do with them.

 

I've also gotten compliments on my skin, my youthful appearance, my lips, and my eyes. I've been told I'm a lot of fun.

 

One guy, I guess you could say we are physical opposites in every way. He once remarked how much he is turned on by me. That he is surprised by the attraction. I guess in his private life I'm not the type he typically goes for.

 

There are also the nonverbal compliments I have gotten.

[big-n-tall]

So I'm curious. Why did you restart this topic (adding "sincere" to the title) and quote me?

 

I'm was being facetious of course, but I do believe some of the compliments I posted were indeed sincere. I've heard the same thing from different working guys.

 

If what I said isn't what you considered sincere... how about this? I am often told, not just by working guys, that I'm an extremely sweet guy and rather comforting. Of course, I like to think of myself as the jackass with a heart of gold.

[Alec Andrews]

I concur... JWAHOG!

 

... and good taste in singlets.

[big-n-tall]

I concur... JWAHOG!

 

... and good taste in singlets.

 

 

Well not that I get to see you in the singlet for long, but you do look good in it. And out of it.

Maybe I'll change my screen name to JWAHOG, but that would probably confuse people.

[+ purplekow]

Best sincere compliment I have gotten from an escort? "Oh the serial numbers on your 20's are in order, I love that." My point being, once money is involved, sincerity is no longer part of the conversation. I accept any compliments from an escort as a friendly nod in my direction with perhaps a bit of self promotion for the escort. Am I really a great kisser; a monster cock possessor; an intellectual giant; a wide eyed humanitarian; an indefatigable, lovemaking machine with only two settings: Incredible and Utterly Incredible; well yes.....but I just because I was told these things (thanks again Mike Gaite LOL) doesn't mean I think the escort was being sincere.

So the sincerest compliment I actually received from a escort was: Hey I am free tomorrow afternoon, want to have a cup of coffee or catch a movie?

That says I enjoyed your company and want to get to know you a bit better more than any traditional compliment can.

[Juan Vancouver]

My point being, once money is involved, sincerity is no longer part of the conversation. I accept any compliments from an escort as a friendly nod in my direction with perhaps a bit of self promotion for the escort.

 

That made me really sad. How could you stomach it if you think every compliment is a way to get more money out of you?

 

It's a terrible fate; I don't know which escorts you are seeing but I am sure that some of those compliments are sincere and would show you a side of you of which you are not aware, but we can see it. Nobody finds it harder to see our own beauties but ourselves. It's a fucking shame that you have beauty finding specialists and you are just thinking "Yeah yeah, that's just whore talk."

 

Gman has been creating this mythology in which I am a strict rule obsessed prick, so he might actually like to read this: Yes, I have a rule that I never break; If the compliment is not true, I don't say it.

 

Of course compliments are incredibly hard for some people to take. Gman himself once called me a liar when I wrote something about him that I thought was nice.

 

Often people talk about how giving compliments is a generous thing. That is not so; appreciating something is normal, is how we are wired. Our social interactions as primates are created by this kind of exchange. The really generous thing to do is to learn to take a compliment. There's joy in giving, only if it is received.

 

Such a hateful thing to hear a compliment and resist it, question its veracity and interpret it as a means of manipulation.

 

You might think you are being modest when you renounce a compliment, but what you are really doing is telling the person who complimented you that either he is a liar, or he is stupid because what he is saying is wrong.

 

Therapist get paid and can see the greatness of their clients. Nannies get paid and love their children. Teachers are working when they praise their students.

 

Not saying all escorts will compliment you honestly all the time, but it is a fucking pity if you are missing kind, loving insights into your own beauty.

 

Show me a person who can graciously and gratefully take a compliment and I will show you a masterful lover.

[+ bashful]

Not saying all escorts will compliment you honestly all the time, but it is a fucking pity if you are missing kind, loving insights into your own beauty.

 

As a client, I never questioned the sincerity. It was just really, really nice hearing (at the risk of boasting): "you have a nice cock", "you're a good kisser", "you have pecs", "I love your sense of humor". Thanks guys (if you're out there reading this).

[+ purplekow]

Juan, my point, and I did have one, is that when money is involved, talk is barter material. Show me something, like wanting to spend time with me, that is the compliment, more than words which may or may not be true. I can accept a compliment (go ahead, give me one and I will accept it) but give me some of your time, now that is a gift.

[Juan Vancouver]

Juan, my point, and I did have one, is that when money is involved, talk is barter material. Show me something, like wanting to spend time with me, that is the compliment, more than words which may or may not be true. I can accept a compliment (go ahead, give me one and I will accept it) but give me some of your time, now that is a gift.

 

Oh, I understood you perfectly well the first time. You made your point very clear.

 

Actually you reminded me of something that I thought when I read your original post but forgot when I posted my reply:

 

Not only you are not accepting a compliment -that may or may not be honest- but in order for you to even grace the compliment with your consideration you are asking the escort to prove it and do something on your own terms.

 

You are not taking a compliment, and on top of that you are asking for a gift instead.

 

This goddamned horse and its long teeth! I don't believe you want to give me the horse, I much rather you gave me a Mercedes Benz.

 

Was it Zeb Atlas who refused all gifts except for the very expensive ones he listed? I can't remember.

 

In many spiritual traditions they warn against resisting a blessing. They say, blessings that are not accepted become curses.

 

I am not saying you will get bad luck or some shit like that, but that is exactly how it feels, the hurt of your judgment and your mistrust when someone is doing something nice for you.

 

I am not here to convince you of anything. I seriously doubt I can even get my point across. I just wish you could see the moments of ineffable beauty you might be missing.

 

Here's to wishing...

[LADoug1]

So the sincerest compliment I actually received from a escort was: Hey I am free tomorrow afternoon, want to have a cup of coffee or catch a movie?

That says I enjoyed your company and want to get to know you a bit better more than any traditional compliment can.

I'm glad that this happened to you. It happened to me too and I really appreciated it. It was indeed a compliment.

[mattr]

The escort/client relationship is a really complicated one. Since money is involved, I think it is only natural for clients to be suspicious that everything the escort says and does is about maximizing the financial benefit to him and the fact that a number of escorts operate in that mode helps to confirm that suspicion. I also think that refusing to believe almost any compliment that doesn't involve a refute of financial remuneration (meeting off the clock even for coffee) is a confirmation of the fact that the relationship is based on cash. Having said that there are a number of escorts who are kind, caring, and sincere and honestly mean the compliments they give. When the client starts out out being suspicious though, his bullshit detector is on high alert and that may prevent him from recognizing sincerity when it is presented. I also think that the refusal to accept a sincere compliment could be a defense mechanism on the part of the client. Just as the escort wants to maintain a professional relationship, the client, by refusing to accept/believe any compliment, could be keeping the escort at arms length so he doesn't become too attached to the escort and therefore avoid eventual disappointment.

 

I love being complimented but I find it difficult to accept compliments in general, and more so from escorts because money is involved. If an escort tells me I have a great body my bullshit detector goes off like a fire alarm. However, if he tells me I have beautiful eyes while he stares into them, that is believable and I will try to accept it graciously.

[Nvr2Thick]

Best sincere compliment I have gotten from an escort? "Oh the serial numbers on your 20's are in order, I love that." My point being, once money is involved, sincerity is no longer part of the conversation. I accept any compliments from an escort as a friendly nod in my direction with perhaps a bit of self promotion for the escort. Am I really a great kisser; a monster cock possessor; an intellectual giant; a wide eyed humanitarian; an indefatigable, lovemaking machine with only two settings: Incredible and Utterly Incredible; well yes.....but I just because I was told these things (thanks again Mike Gaite LOL) doesn't mean I think the escort was being sincere.

So the sincerest compliment I actually received from a escort was: Hey I am free tomorrow afternoon, want to have a cup of coffee or catch a movie?

That says I enjoyed your company and want to get to know you a bit better more than any traditional compliment can.

 

"Bitchin' wallet, Dude."

[+ Keith30309]

I'm glad that this happened to you. It happened to me too and I really appreciated it. It was indeed a compliment.

 

It has also happened to me but it left me in a quandary. I've set the precedent of occasionally paying for lunch time at a companion's regular hourly outcall rate. When I'm invited to lunch do I pay? Asking seems tacky.

[marylander1940]

So I'm curious. Why did you restart this topic (adding "sincere" to the title) and quote me?

 

I'm was being facetious of course, but I do believe some of the compliments I posted were indeed sincere. I've heard the same thing from different working guys.

 

If what I said isn't what you considered sincere... how about this? I am often told, not just by working guys, that I'm an extremely sweet guy and rather comforting. Of course, I like to think of myself as the jackass with a heart of gold.

 

Please quote me so I can get an "alert" and reply to you if I consider it to be necessary.

Answering your question, I think sometimes escorts trying to make us feel better about ourselves "embellish" things a little bit.

 

Best sincere compliment I have gotten from an escort? "Oh the serial numbers on your 20's are in order, I love that." My point being, once money is involved, sincerity is no longer part of the conversation. I accept any compliments from an escort as a friendly nod in my direction with perhaps a bit of self promotion for the escort. Am I really a great kisser; a monster cock possessor; an intellectual giant; a wide eyed humanitarian; an indefatigable, lovemaking machine with only two settings: Incredible and Utterly Incredible; well yes.....but I just because I was told these things (thanks again Mike Gaite LOL) doesn't mean I think the escort was being sincere.

So the sincerest compliment I actually received from a escort was: Hey I am free tomorrow afternoon, want to have a cup of coffee or catch a movie?

That says I enjoyed your company and want to get to know you a bit better more than any traditional compliment can.

 

I get your point and I clicked "like" in your posting but let me tell there are things that even the best actor in the world can't fake, and if you've ever hired in LA, many of them are escorting while casting for the big screen.

 

The escort/client relationship is a really complicated one. Since money is involved, I think it is only natural for clients to be suspicious that everything the escort says and does is about maximizing the financial benefit to him and the fact that a number of escorts operate in that mode helps to confirm that suspicion. I also think that refusing to believe almost any compliment that doesn't involve a refute of financial remuneration (meeting off the clock even for coffee) is a confirmation of the fact that the relationship is based on cash. Having said that there are a number of escorts who are kind, caring, and sincere and honestly mean the compliments they give. When the client starts out out being suspicious though, his bullshit detector is on high alert and that may prevent him from recognizing sincerity when it is presented. I also think that the refusal to accept a sincere compliment could be a defense mechanism on the part of the client. Just as the escort wants to maintain a professional relationship, the client, by refusing to accept/believe any compliment, could be keeping the escort at arms length so he doesn't become too attached to the escort and therefore avoid eventual disappointment.

 

I love being complimented but I find it difficult to accept compliments in general, and more so from escorts because money is involved. If an escort tells me I have a great body my bullshit detector goes off like a fire alarm. However, if he tells me I have beautiful eyes while he stares into them, that is believable and I will try to accept it graciously.

 

You said better than me but that's not difficult considering my dyslexia...

Thank you for posting.

[+ Truereview]

I always choose to accept whatever nice things come my way. I had an escort swear to me I was the spitting image of Orlando Bloom. I did notice he stopped that line of thought after I stopped supplying weed for our trysts.

[jawjateck]

I'm so near-sighted & can't find that button. :eek:

[Alec Andrews]

As per usual, I wholeheartedly agree with JV... I don't give a compliment, whether in my function as an escort or just as a human, unless I really mean it.

 

Every single person I meet has something to be complimented on... whether it be a part of the body, eyes, heart, personality, laugh, smile.... If you've already hired me and I've earned my fee, why would I need to give you a compliment? I'm already there, in the door, ready to collect... Would a compliment in and of itself entice you to hire me again? Maybe... I doubt it. You would hopefully hire me again because we had a good time together. Is giving a compliment as part of my "sessions" a duplicitous action meant to create a false sense of intimacy... or is it just part of my personality to be kind and generous both with my time, thoughts, actions, compliments , body mind and soul.... That's for the psychologists to debate. I would hope most would err on the later, as the first would be a sad state of affairs indeed.

[geminibear]

"I didn't think I would like Bruce Springsteen, but I really enjoyed the concert. This was a great weekend, but I did think there would be more sex."

:oops::rolleyes:

[+ Funguy]

Juan, Juan, Juan! When are you going to visit me in LA?

[craigville beach]

That made me really sad. How could you stomach it if you think every compliment is a way to get more money out of you?

 

It's a terrible fate; I don't know which escorts you are seeing but I am sure that some of those compliments are sincere and would show you a side of you of which you are not aware, but we can see it. Nobody finds it harder to see our own beauties but ourselves. It's a fucking shame that you have beauty finding specialists and you are just thinking "Yeah yeah, that's just whore talk."

 

Gman has been creating this mythology in which I am a strict rule obsessed prick, so he might actually like to read this: Yes, I have a rule that I never break; If the compliment is not true, I don't say it.

 

Of course compliments are incredibly hard for some people to take. Gman himself once called me a liar when I wrote something about him that I thought was nice.

 

Often people talk about how giving compliments is a generous thing. That is not so; appreciating something is normal, is how we are wired. Our social interactions as primates are created by this kind of exchange. The really generous thing to do is to learn to take a compliment. There's joy in giving, only if it is received.

 

Such a hateful thing to hear a compliment and resist it, question its veracity and interpret it as a means of manipulation.

 

You might think you are being modest when you renounce a compliment, but what you are really doing is telling the person who complimented you that either he is a liar, or he is stupid because what he is saying is wrong.

 

Therapist get paid and can see the greatness of their clients. Nannies get paid and love their children. Teachers are working when they praise their students.

 

Not saying all escorts will compliment you honestly all the time, but it is a fucking pity if you are missing kind, loving insights into your own beauty.

 

Show me a person who can graciously and gratefully take a compliment and I will show you a masterful lover.

 

 

 

very well said, thank you

[big-n-tall]

Please quote me so I can get an "alert" and reply to you if I consider it to be necessary.

Answering your question, I think sometimes escorts trying to make us feel better about ourselves "embellish" things a little bit.

 

Fair enough. But compliments or not I don't need an escort to make me feel better about myself. I do that on my own.

 

And honestly, as I have said, the same compliments I've been given by working guys, are the exact same compliments I hear from strangers, friends, family, and random hook ups. If Alec thinks I'm a sweet guy and just a big ole huggable teddy bear... he's not the first to mention it. I believe him when says it because of the type of person he is. He picked up on a trait(s) I clearly exhibit to others.

 

Now if he said I had the most beautiful hair in the world (it's extremely soft but not much of it is left )... Then I know he's lying. Lol!

[marylander1940]

Fair enough. But compliments or not I don't need an escort to make me feel better about myself. I do that on my own.

 

And honestly, as I have said, the same compliments I've been given by working guys, are the exact same compliments I hear from strangers, friends, family, and random hook ups. If Alec thinks I'm a sweet guy and just a big ole huggable teddy bear... he's not the first to mention it. I believe him when says it because of the type of person he is. He picked up on a trait(s) I clearly exhibit to others.

 

Now if he said I had the most beautiful hair in the world (it's extremely soft but not much of it is left )... Then I know he's lying. Lol!

 

I've never thought of bear (teddy or not) as a compliment but to each his own.

 

unless you look likes this bears

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/bearmen-calendar-dedicated-to-geminibear.110361/#post-1036686

 

So I'm curious. Why did you restart this topic (adding "sincere" to the title) and quote me?

 

 

Oops I forgot to answer this part, the first thread was about compliments clients told escorts, this one is about compliments escorts told clients.

 

You posted on that thread but as client that you're I thought it would make more sense for your post to be on here and that's why I started a new (similar) thread while quoting you in my first post. I wrote sincere because of all the previous reasons stated above.

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/whats-the-best-compliment-you-ever-got-from-a-client.110746/

[+ glennnn]

I love compliments and try to graciously accept all offered. BUT there are limits to my agreement with the approbation being stated. Yes, I am a sweet, conscientious man. No, I don't have a great body. Yes, i have plenty of vitality and libido for a man 72. No, I wont be the most indefatigable lover ever. Yes, I have a nice, fat dick. No, I am not "hung". Yes, I am a good kisser and sucker. No, i am not a great bottom (yet). My point is, as Alec Andrews said above everyone has some complimentable aspects, and the best escorts perceive them and comment. My best was "you are a very sweet man, and I like being with you ". The fact that he allowed the session to go overtime helped me to accept and believe the compliment was genuine. I am a nice man, and I believed h enjoyed our time together.

[Decatur Guy]

I can't think of a lot of compliments off the top of my head. We're usually down to business, and there's not a lot of time for that kind of talk! I have had some escorts tell me I'm an easy client to work with because I'm communicative but pretty relaxed.

 

I tend to be more distrustful/skeptical if they compliment me physically (but I'm not rude; I say thank you). I don't think I'm good looking and I have a mirror and decent eyesight.

 

I do have a little sexual technique that I try on some of them if I have more than an hour, and I have had several of them have said they never experienced anything quite like that, and I think they were sincere then. That's probably my best compliment.

[TruHart1]

One of my favorite traveling escorts from DC has made mention that he finds my eyes to be what he calls "Husky eyes" comparing them to the bright, attractive eyes canines of the Husky breeds have. He has told me this is definitely meant as a compliment and so I accept it graciously, especially since he often makes the comment during our hot love-making sessions! I have gotten many compliments about how beautiful and/or striking my eyes are over the years, not just from escorts, but never before him, have my eyes been compared to a Husky!

 

ARF!!! :)

 

TruHart1