What do you expect/want/need from the client info wise prior to appointment?

[killianjamesnyc]

I think the clients here are overthinking it. It's my job as an escort to make you feel comfortable and to gather whatever information I need to make me feel comfortable before we meet. You shouldn't have to worry about what information to disclose to me in advance.

 

Now there are plenty of other valid approaches to escorting, but my approach is you say jump, I jump as high as I can without even asking how high. I have enough self-respect to impose my limits, but I'm otherwise going to do your bidding. I will ensure that setting up an appointment within our mutual comfort zones will be as seamless as possible for you from the get go. That's my responsibility as an escort, not yours as a client. Too many prima donna and elitist escorts out there setting up restrictive barriers to meeting that turn off clients.

 

Yes, it's irritating when a client texts me as his first ever communication to me , "Ho, I want to sick your bug cock. I kike your look." But I'm extremely grateful when any potential client reaches out to me and wants to set up an appointment. A client shouldn't be afraid to express his preferences and ask whatever he needs to ask in advance of meeting me. My life as an escort is damn easy, and I'm extraordinarily privileged to be an escort, so contact me wherever, whenever, and however you want to, and I'll figure out how to meet on your terms or direct you to someone else better suited to your needs.

 

You'd actually enthusiastically respond to a text like that? The best they'd get from me is "OK, Sounds good, call me when you're ready to do it," and I'd ignore the silly texts that would naturally follow. There is a clear difference between asking legitimate questions to set up a great time and having a strange number text you that greeting. It's not even about respect, it's about initiating communication in a mature way that will progress into setting up a time to meet. There's nothing elitist or entitled about expecting someone to have a hint of couth the first time they call you. Even though I've only been escorting for two years, I've come to learn behaviors of people which tell me how much they value what we do. It's like we learn in 5th grade, ask questions, they require an answer, which leads to a conversation If someone said "Hi I saw your ad online, when can we set something up so I can suck that hot cum out for you?" Now that's an appt I'd be eager to make happen

[bigvalboy]

http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-3EtBCulQlKU/T7T1Zg9qtfI/AAAAAAAAF1E/VT1eGqJrKgg/s1600/1532.GIF

[Juan Vancouver]

I've found a lot of conflicting information regarding clients' personal information. Many of the female/traditional escorting tips say to get a face pic, name, home phone #, and do as thorough of a background check as you can, short of hiring a private investigator, while withholding as much personal information as possible (as an escort)

 

On the flip side, I've read how some clients get freaked out if an escort even knows their first name, let alone a number that is attached to their name and an address.

 

So my question is, how much personal/identifying info do clients share prior to meeting? I'm trying to schedule something with a client who I'm getting kinda weird vibes from. Not sure how to explain. But he has no picture, hasn't given even a pen name (like "John") to chat with, no #, and talks about he hopes one day I might see him because I want to & not because he pays me (highly unlikely since I literally don't know who he is). The questions he asks makes me think he's never hired before. He's now asked for a face pic, which usually is understandable, but I'm not sure I want to share it if he has unsavory motives. I think I'll ask for some info from him before I give any more on my end, at least a name.

 

Am I being paranoid?

 

Being the very special situation that you are a FTM man and a twink I would suggest to try to stick to the strict straight female background check for every client. It is not a secret the sad reality that men escorting and women escorting have to deal with entirely different situations. Female escorts tend to attract clients who want to overpower them, force them, abuse them in all sorts of ways. My guess is that you might encounter such clients as well.

 

Under no circumstance meet anyone who refuses to give a phone number you can call back to confirm. Don't show up at a hotel that you have not called back to confirm the client is there and do not give your information unless you are certain that you did everything in your power to confirm the sanity of this client, and everything feels right inside your gut. Even after that, as soon as you walk in the door or the client gets into your place, be in the middle of a phonecall with your security person and in front of the client say "Hey, I am just getting to my client at the right address and I will be here ____ hours. Everything looks great. I will call you as soon as I get out. Thank you" In the unlikely event that he might wanted to do anything shady he knows your security person is on him, knows who he is os has enough information to give to the police and will be waiting for your call right after the session is over.

 

ABSOLUTELY NOT, you are not being paranoid. Glad to read you realized you answered your own question. Makes us all reassured that you have a head on your shoulders. =)

 

You need WAY MORE than his name before you share anything else. He does sound like a basket case. I know it's horrible to hear this when you are starting and need the money, but it sounds as if you would be better off skipping this one..

 

All the best! Stay safe!

[Maximus69]

I've said this before on here but before meeting I like to have a phone number, a face picture and a full address (with apt number included) it just makes me feel secure that this guy is legit and isn't wasting my time. I have met guys before previously without a face picture but that is a rarity. Most of the times I've been stood up is when I had no information on the client such as a number or face hence why I ask for all of those now.

[LADoug1]

I've said this before on here but before meeting I like to have a phone number, a face picture and a full address (with apt number included) it just makes me feel secure that this guy is legit and isn't wasting my time. I have met guys before previously without a face picture but that is a rarity. Most of the times I've been stood up is when I had no information on the client such as a number or face hence why I ask for all of those now.

Aren't many clients reticent to provide face pics because of discretion concerns?

[Maximus69]

Aren't many clients reticent to provide face pics because of discretion concerns?

 

some are, some aren't, maybe its wrong of me and its making me lose clients, any advice?

[MikeyGMin]

some are, some aren't, maybe its wrong of me and its making me lose clients, any advice?

 

Personal opinion here and you should rely more on what the other escorts have to say.

 

If you are requesting the picture because you think it is a good way to weed out flakes...you may want to rethink it. You are probably weeding out serious clients also.

 

If you are requesting the picture because that is what you need to feel safe...you should keep doing it. You need to do what is necessary to be at ease and protect your physical safety.

[MrMattBig]

Honesty, I like to keep things very simple. Even though I am young, I believe in the old fashioned way of dating. During the initial contact I prefer to keep things very ambiguous. For safety reasons I do screen, I know it can be very troublesome giving out your personal information. Often times I do find out where my clients work, if they are married, and their social media platforms. While on the subject, social media and advertisement sites today let you know pretty much everything you would need and want to know about the escort you are interested in meeting.

My biggest pet peeves are flakes, endless questions, and the ones that cannot afford an escorts rates. Most of my clients are very simple and we end up having a great time together. Everyone is different, so just double check to see if the escort specifies to call, text, or email. I personally prefer text messages. With that being said, the only information that should be discussed when contacting an escort is day and time of desired meeting, and location of meeting.

[stop]

Honesty, I like to keep things very simple. Even though I am young, I believe in the old fashioned way of dating. During the initial contact I prefer to keep things very ambiguous. For safety reasons I do screen, I know it can be very troublesome giving out your personal information. Often times I do find out where my clients work, if they are married, and their social media platforms. While on the subject, social media and advertisement sites today let you know pretty much everything you would need and want to know about the escort you are interested in meeting.

My biggest pet peeves are flakes, endless questions, and the ones that cannot afford an escorts rates. Most of my clients are very simple and we end up having a great time together. Everyone is different, so just double check to see if the escort specifies to call, text, or email. I personally prefer text messages. With that being said, the only information that should be discussed when contacting an escort is day and time of desired meeting, and location of meeting.

 

Matt, I am curious what do you mean by screen? Are you looking to see if you are a match or are you looking to see if the guy has a shady history or a combination of both? are you using reverse google search for numbers and photos? Its interesting to think pros are doing the same thing clients are doing. I never really thought of it from that perspective. I get the safety issues we should all have that but didn't think much beyond that. very interesting.

[jawjateck]

With that being said, the only information that should be discussed when contacting an escort is day and time of desired meeting, and location of meeting.

 

I always respect a pro's right to develop and stick to his business model, but some of the clients (myself included) in this community will not agree to meet based on so little preliminary information exchange.

 

Oh and welcome to the forum. I hope you enjoy your time in the village.

[+ quoththeraven]

Matt, I am curious what do you mean by screen? Are you looking to see if you are a match or are you looking to see if the guy has a shady history or a combination of both? are you using reverse google search for numbers and photos? Its interesting to think pros are doing the same thing clients are doing. I never really thought of it from that perspective. I get the safety issues we should all have that but didn't think much beyond that. very interesting.

 

What's sauce for the goose... I always assumed escorts did their own screening, whatever that may be. I know for some it includes a mandatory phone conversation before the first meeting.

[MrMattBig]

I always respect a pro's right to develop and stick to his business model, but some of the clients (myself included) in this community will not agree to meet based on so little preliminary information exchange.

 

Oh and welcome to the forum. I hope you enjoy your time in the village.

 

I understand where you are coming from. I think one of the many challenges escorts are faced with is determining whether or not the potential client wants to meet or just wants to get off on pictures and conversation exchange. On top of that, Law enforcement typically targets female escorts but that doesn't completely rule out male escorts. I have had my few run ins with Law enforcement. I do not want to be taken advantage of nor do I want to put myself at risk for arrest or incrimination. For the most part I have a decent amount of clients that contact me so I am able to exercise discretion over who I meet with..

 

Thanks, I have been looking for a community like forum.

[MrMattBig]

Matt, I am curious what do you mean by screen? Are you looking to see if you are a match or are you looking to see if the guy has a shady history or a combination of both? are you using reverse google search for numbers and photos? Its interesting to think pros are doing the same thing clients are doing. I never really thought of it from that perspective. I get the safety issues we should all have that but didn't think much beyond that. very interesting.

 

My needs to screen a client are also similar to your needs to screen an escort. From my point of view it breaks down to make sure they are not criminals, law enforcement, and to check their track record with other escorts.

[jawjateck]

I understand where you are coming from. I think one of the many challenges escorts are faced with is determining whether or not the potential client wants to meet or just wants to get off on pictures and conversation exchange. On top of that, Law enforcement typically targets female escorts but that doesn't completely rule out male escorts. I have had my few run ins with Law enforcement. I do not want to be taken advantage of nor do I want to put myself at risk for arrest or incrimination. For the most part I have a decent amount of clients that contact me so I am able to exercise discretion over who I meet with..

 

Thanks, I have been looking for a community like forum.

 

To your credit, you have an ad and website with alot of information about you, your scene/specialties, rates, and plenty of hot pics, so that decreases the need for alot of upfront back and forth, trying to ascertain compatibility. I think most clients could glance at your ad and website and make a quick, accurate guess of compatibility.

 

Unfortunately, many ads skimp on too many details. Yours is an exception.

[MrMattBig]

To your credit, you have an ad and website with alot of information about you, your scene/specialties, rates, and plenty of hot pics, so that decreases the need for alot of upfront back and forth, trying to ascertain compatibility. I think most clients could glance at your ad and website and make a quick, accurate guess of compatibility.

 

Unfortunately, many ads skimp on too many details. Yours is an exception.

 

 

You are absolutely right. That is why I have taken the time to create the website and ads that I have and currently still working on them to make them even better.

[Mark Alexander]

It's nice to know what a person is generally into if they want to say, especially if it's a fetish, but they don't need to say much. I don't play 20 Questions with them. I do like to have a quick friendly chat on the phone. I find that I can tell a lot more about a person on the phone... more so than from emails and texts.

 

I do not ask for a photo of a client. Both for discretion and for the fact that many clients are hiring precisely because they don't want to be judged based on appearance like happens on gay dating sites.

[+ Keith30309]

It's nice to know what a person is generally into if they want to say, especially if it's a fetish, but they don't need to say much. I don't play 20 Questions with them. I do like to have a quick friendly chat on the phone. I find that I can tell a lot more about a person on the phone... more so than from emails and texts.

 

I do not ask for a photo of a client. Both for discretion and for the fact that many clients are hiring precisely because they don't want to be judged based on appearance like happens on gay dating sites.

 

Well said - and Welcome Mark !

(And nice web site as well )

[Mark Alexander]

Well said - and Welcome Mark !

(And nice web site as well )

Thank you!

[KJJ]

Being new to this site myself and only having asked a couple questions in previous posts I have to say I have learned a considerable amount from everyone here on how to be a better client. I must say I have appreciated everyone's thoughts and insights from both a client and escort perspective that I hopefully, as client at least, I am communicating more thoughtfully and with the escorts needs in mind as well.

 

With some of the recent changes on other sites about reviews I have come to use this site as a resource in the process and it has helped in a few cases in deciding if I should move forward or move on to someone else.

[+ glennnn]

Being new to this site myself and only having asked a couple questions in previous posts I have to say I have learned a considerable amount from everyone here on how to be a better client. I must say I have appreciated everyone's thoughts and insights from both a client and escort perspective that I hopefully, as client at least, I am communicating more thoughtfully and with the escorts needs in mind as well.

 

With some of the recent changes on other sites about reviews I have come to use this site as a resource in the process and it has helped in a few cases in deciding if I should move forward or move on to someone else.

 

Welcome to the Forum, KJJ and believe that many of us went through the same process you describe above. With the wealth of experience found here you can get helpful advice on ANY aspect of life. Use it. If it is an issue you want to discuss more privately, pick someone here you relate to and try a private conversation. Most of us are glad to help, having been helped ourselves.