What do you expect/want/need from the client info wise prior to appointment?

[BtmBearDad]

Gents,

 

I haven't been a client in over 10 years now and while things have changed in my life that see me returning as one, I cannot help but notice - through posts here in the forum as well as reading reviews - that things seem to have changed quite a bit. As such and not wanting to put my foot wrong, I'm wondering what exactly is expected from the client prior to the appointment?

 

For example:

 

1. Initial Contact - Same City

In my active days, I would e-mail the gent with my particulars and what I'm looking for to see if we're a match both ways. Once we established we were, then a phone call to book and done. Looks like most want the text or even call first now. I know that's more convenient for all, but I'm not sure a text is the best way to describe oneself. It is very important to me that the gent be into someone like me -- I want an interactive experience, not a mechanical go through the motions one. Thoughts?

 

2. Initial Contact - Different Cities

I'm going to be in another city, I see a gent I like. As above, I would have e-mailed stating when I was in town, describing myself (and asking if my description fits in his wheelhouse), what I was looking for, and asking his availability. However, I see many ads now stating only to text when in the area - which I suppose makes sense with flakes and all. What say you gents? E-mail as described prior to trip or wait until in town then text?

 

3. Client Information

I know there was a similar thread about this and I do see some ads with text about wanting a description or pic to make sure there's a match, which is fine - as I said, I don't want a go thru the motions encounter. I'm curious though beyond the physical description, what about any limitations a client may have i.e.; ED, back issues, knee issues, etc. - how forward do you need the client to be and what would be too forward in an initial contact?

 

4. Smoking and Drinking

There used to be search functions on RB to sort out gents who did smoke and/or drink (as well as party I believe) but not so on RM (a few other sites do offer it). I would guess escorts who smoke wouldn't mind a client who does but I also know many people just don't like smoking, period. Do you want/expect a potential client to let you know up front that he smokes and likes a drink (we're not talking falling down drunk, but say would have wine with dinner or drinks at the bar or hotel with you)?

 

5. Appointment Expectations

While I like the appointment to be organic (i.e.; no timetable of X at Y o'clock; A at B o'clock, etc.) and always booked multi hour appointments or overnights, I also like to be upfront with what intimate activities I'd like to experience. I know each has their own limits, but isn't it better to have this sorted first not only to see if there is a match but also to make sure one doesn't cross those limits during an appointment and thus kill the mood. Usually this discussion would be over the phone and not in an e-mail or text but again, is there a line not to be crossed in such a discussion?

 

Am I over thinking all of this? It is deathly quiet at the office today and that may be why - lol

I'm usually a pretty direct person but as this is a unique transaction, I wouldn't want my directness to come across in the wrong way (e-mails and texts can be such flat mediums, subject to all sorts of interpretations) and offend a gentleman.

 

I appreciate any/all feedback you gentlemen may offer here or in a PM.

 

 

Cheers,

BBD

[seaboy4hire]

These are my thoughts and what works best for me. I'm going to go in the number order you did.

 

1. Initial contact. I prefer email and text. I work 2 jobs. One is from 530am till 1030am. From there I run to the second job across town. That one I start between 12pm and 130pm and am not off till 830pm. I don't like to talk biz while in public. So for me texting and email is the best form of communication at this point in time.

 

2. Different cities. I prefer to have contact when one is in Chicago. Flights get delayed, biz plans change, folk get sick. Money wise I would be out pay for one job if there's a cancelation. That'd make me sad. I don't count on escorting earnings till it's in my pocket.

 

3. Health issues. It helps for the client to be as open about their health issues as possible ahead of time. That way ways of getting around it and what not can be discussed. I'm HIV positive and am one of the few working guys that is open and honest about it in a public forum. It's easier that way. It gets it out of the way and potential clients can decide whether or not they want to see me. And yes, I am on meds. So the road can go both ways.

 

4. Smoking and drinking. It doesn't bother me if one smokes nor if they're a light drinker. What would bother me is if they were a user of meth or something harder. If they smoke the pot I don't care. I don't smoke it but to each their own.

 

5. Time and sexy time. I like to know about how long a visit will be. It helps me plan my day or evening. Plus for safety reasons I let one or two people I trust know where I am at and report in after the appointment to let them know I wasn't killed. Some clients might feel this might be an invasion of privacy but I need to make sure I'm safe. As for telling the escort what your into and expectations I'm all for it. The more we know the better we can serve you. For me, if the client isn't happy I'm not happy. Sure the cash is good but what's the point if the client isn't happy?

 

I hope this helped a little bit. These are just my thoughts. I'm sure the other guys will chime in soon with varying thoughts on your questions.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[BtmBearDad]

Thank you, Greg for taking the time to provide such a well thought out reply - much appreciated!

 

One follow up if I may -- regarding different cities, wouldn't it be acceptable for a potential client to reach out prior to (a) make sure you and he are a match and (b) you will be in said city when he is? I remember when I was active and traveling on business, I would e-mail gents with a quick "Hi this is who I am, when I'll be in your town, what I'm looking for. Do you think we'd be a match and will you be in town when I am?" If I get a positive response, I'd let them know I'd be in touch when I'm in their city. I wouldn't expect them to hold an appointment for me - as you say, things can (and do) happen. From my point of view, I'm only verifying you (or whoever the gentleman may be) find me a match and you plan to be in town when I will be. when I am in town, another client has booked you, that's fine and that's the way cookie crumbles sometimes. I just think it make a bit of sense for a client to figure out that our of say 100 gents in X City, 5 of which he may be interested in, that 3 are a match and thus potentials for when he will be in town.

 

Or, again, am I overthinking it all?

 

Thank you again, Greg!

 

Cheers,

BBD

[seaboy4hire]

Thank you, Greg for taking the time to provide such a well thought out reply - much appreciated!

 

One follow up if I may -- regarding different cities, wouldn't it be acceptable for a potential client to reach out prior to (a) make sure you and he are a match and (b) you will be in said city when he is? I remember when I was active and traveling on business, I would e-mail gents with a quick "Hi this is who I am, when I'll be in your town, what I'm looking for. Do you think we'd be a match and will you be in town when I am?" If I get a positive response, I'd let them know I'd be in touch when I'm in their city. I wouldn't expect them to hold an appointment for me - as you say, things can (and do) happen. From my point of view, I'm only verifying you (or whoever the gentleman may be) find me a match and you plan to be in town when I will be. when I am in town, another client has booked you, that's fine and that's the way cookie crumbles sometimes. I just think it make a bit of sense for a client to figure out that our of say 100 gents in X City, 5 of which he may be interested in, that 3 are a match and thus potentials for when he will be in town.

 

Or, again, am I overthinking it all?

 

Thank you again, Greg!

 

Cheers,

BBD

 

I don't think it's unreasonable to find out if there's a match prior to arriving to your destination. That seems perfectly reasonable to me.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ saminseattle]

I also like to be upfront with what intimate activities I'd like to experience. I know each has their own limits, but isn't it better to have this sorted first

 

It may very well be, but keep in mind that some may have legal concerns, particularly given recent events. Of course, this can present a bit of a conundrum as was discussed in this thread:

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/rentboy-vs-communication.108500/

[Mikegaite]

If you write in complete sentences and reference the fact that you're a forum member, escorts should respond with alacrity. If someone's legitimately trying to set up an appointment with me, I'm happy to answer any and all questions. I wouldn't stress about initial communication with an escort unless he is new/lightly reviewed.

[sincitymix]

If you write in complete sentences and reference the fact that you're a forum member, escorts should respond with alacrity. If someone's legitimately trying to set up an appointment with me, I'm happy to answer any and all questions. I wouldn't stress about initial communication with an escort unless he is new/lightly reviewed.

Really? So if I say im a forum member on daddys I should get a response super fast? Does that really work? truly?

Hmm I guess it could work as long as the escort is also on daddys.

[rvwnsd]

Really? So if I say im a forum member on daddys I should get a response super fast? Does that really work? truly?

Hmm I guess it could work as long as the escort is also on daddys.

Mike stated that you should write in complete sentences as well as reference the fact that you are a forum member.

[sincitymix]

Mike stated that you should write in complete sentences as well as reference the fact that you are a forum member.

Never! Hsssssss! =^..^=

[rvwnsd]

Never! Hsssssss! =^..^=

No replies with alacrity for you! More replies with alacrity for those of us who use complete sentences and correct grammar!!! purrrrrrrr =^..^=

[MikeyGMin]

Mike stated that you should write in complete sentences as well as reference the fact that you are a forum member.

 

I had a favorite of mine many years ago tell me that when someone mentioned Daddy's he sometimes took it as a veiled threat or warning. He was top notch and had no reason to sweat bad reviews but it always made him uncomfortable. Just food for thought that it could be a double edged sword with guys who are less than 100% comfortable with this site and its denizens.

[+ Truereview]

Although I'm honored to be a forum member and I try to behave at my best with anyone I hire, I no longer mention Daddy's. The way I look at it is that if things go badly with me, I don't want it to reflect on other forum members. I also don't like to put undue pressure on any escort. I have witnessed a couple of guys get a bit more careful/nervous. I actually had a guy call me bc he was running late and say "please don't ding me on Daddyreviews" Lord, I'm just not built that way.

 

Only time I mention it now is when I know the escort is an active forum member, and I do so to avoid the impression I was hiding my forum persona.

[rvwnsd]

If you write in complete sentences and reference the fact that you're a forum member, escorts should respond with alacrity. If someone's legitimately trying to set up an appointment with me, I'm happy to answer any and all questions. I wouldn't stress about initial communication with an escort unless he is new/lightly reviewed.

 

I had a favorite of mine many years ago tell me that when someone mentioned Daddy's he sometimes took it as a veiled threat or warning. He was top notch and had no reason to sweat bad reviews but it always made him uncomfortable. Just food for thought that it could be a double edged sword with guys who are less than 100% comfortable with this site and its denizens.

 

The suggestion was made by a very well-reviewed escort (Mike Gaite) who participates in this forum. Can't speak for how other members feel, but I think he is one of the many escorts whose advice is respectable. However, the way in which the forum reference is made can make all the difference. I'd guess the same prospective clients who make a forum reference sound like a threat would have other, similar, communication characteristics when describing their expectations from a session.

 

For what it is worth, I do not mention the forum when communicating with escorts. I do speak in complete sentences, as Mike suggested, and tend to get responses with alacrity. When I get a one-word response I don't automatically write the guy off (he might be trying to demonstrate promptness while he is engaged in doing something else) unless all of his responses are one-worders.

[MikeyGMin]

I would definitely take Truereview's approach with an active participant on this board. If we're talking Mike, Greg, Juan, etc. I might even make the first contact through the board, but would otherwise give them my avi immediately. With a simple scan they would learn more about me than they ever wanted to know.

 

My friend from years ago did not participate in the forum but was familiar with the site. He knew he had a few (good) reviews and had been discussed a couple times. He HATED it! It was actually a sensitive topic so we did not discuss all the reasons in detail.

 

Part of it could be that he only intended on escorting until he had enough money for a down payment on a house. He stuck to his plan and retired long before I was ready to see him go.

[Mikegaite]

I think the clients here are overthinking it. It's my job as an escort to make you feel comfortable and to gather whatever information I need to make me feel comfortable before we meet. You shouldn't have to worry about what information to disclose to me in advance.

 

Now there are plenty of other valid approaches to escorting, but my approach is you say jump, I jump as high as I can without even asking how high. I have enough self-respect to impose my limits, but I'm otherwise going to do your bidding. I will ensure that setting up an appointment within our mutual comfort zones will be as seamless as possible for you from the get go. That's my responsibility as an escort, not yours as a client. Too many prima donna and elitist escorts out there setting up restrictive barriers to meeting that turn off clients.

 

Yes, it's irritating when a client texts me as his first ever communication to me , "Ho, I want to sick your bug cock. I kike your look." But I'm extremely grateful when any potential client reaches out to me and wants to set up an appointment. A client shouldn't be afraid to express his preferences and ask whatever he needs to ask in advance of meeting me. My life as an escort is damn easy, and I'm extraordinarily privileged to be an escort, so contact me wherever, whenever, and however you want to, and I'll figure out how to meet on your terms or direct you to someone else better suited to your needs.

[+ poolboy48220]

Yes, it's irritating when a client texts me as his first ever communication to me , "Ho, I want to sick your bug cock. I kike your look."

That just made me snort up my coffee. And it's funnier because I can totally see it happening. Just the other night, at the strip club, a friend & I were reminiscing about a dancer whose MO was to approach you, often even before your first drink, and ask "Are you ready for the big hot one?"

[mike carey]

Yes, it's irritating when a client texts me as his first ever communication to me , "Ho, I want to sick your bug cock. I kike your look."

Lol, complete sentences but not standard English, very much a turn off! Mike, you are a consumate professional.

[Brian Kevin]

If I ever cross your path, give me a shout. I'm super easy, I don't ask a lot of questions. I love how passionate you sound, you're the Good type of client who goes into a new session with a new guy with a positive mind set. That's the best way to enhance your session.

[mike carey]

If I ever cross your path, give me a shout. I'm super easy, I don't ask a lot of questions.

Not sure who you are talking about. If we meet we will meet!

[TruthBTold]

I think the clients here are overthinking it. It's my job as an escort to make you feel comfortable and to gather whatever information I need to make me feel comfortable before we meet. You shouldn't have to worry about what information to disclose to me in advance. . . .

 

Putting aside the perhaps too personal, "Ho, I want to sick your bug cock. I kike your look" what kinds of things would you find acceptable in a client's first one or two emails/texts to convey their needs and/or desires? It would be a great help to convey the specificity of a communication that you might expect. Otherwise things might be too vague to render them meaningless or so descriptive as to make you uncomfortable. Of course, I realize individual wants are going to be different in each case.

[AndreFuture]

I've found a lot of conflicting information regarding clients' personal information. Many of the female/traditional escorting tips say to get a face pic, name, home phone #, and do as thorough of a background check as you can, short of hiring a private investigator, while withholding as much personal information as possible (as an escort)

 

On the flip side, I've read how some clients get freaked out if an escort even knows their first name, let alone a number that is attached to their name and an address.

 

So my question is, how much personal/identifying info do clients share prior to meeting? I'm trying to schedule something with a client who I'm getting kinda weird vibes from. Not sure how to explain. But he has no picture, hasn't given even a pen name (like "John") to chat with, no #, and talks about he hopes one day I might see him because I want to & not because he pays me (highly unlikely since I literally don't know who he is). The questions he asks makes me think he's never hired before. He's now asked for a face pic, which usually is understandable, but I'm not sure I want to share it if he has unsavory motives. I think I'll ask for some info from him before I give any more on my end, at least a name.

 

Am I being paranoid?

[MiamiLooker]

..and talks about one day I might see him because I want to & not for pay...

Once he mentioned this, you should've stopped communicating with him.

[AndreFuture]

Once he mentioned this, you should've stopped communicating with him.

 

Yeah, in writing up my question, I was thinking about what was weird about him and realized that there were plenty of red flags for this individual. I basically answered my own question!

[+ Truereview]

Yeah, in writing up my question, I was thinking about what was weird about him and realized that there were plenty of red flags for this individual. I basically answered my own question!

Sometimes we just have to say or write things out. Glad to have a forum where (hopefully) we can do it without too much judgment.

[mattr]

Once he mentioned this, you should've stopped communicating with him.

 

Yep, he doesn't have both oars in the water... move on. No need for further investigation.