Within a few seconds of answering the phone can you tell if he will close the deal?

[marylander1940]

Within a few seconds of answering the phone can you tell if he would close the deal and hire or you or if he's just shopping around?

 

I know escorts who tell me every time they hear: "What's up?" they know the would-be-client won't close the deal and its a waste of time.

 

Do you have a sixth sense and can tell a flake?

[jackjackjack]

Marylander, You ask such interesting questions. +++++++ I'll be interested in reading the escorts' responses.

[+ BigRic]

In a word, yes. The fact that you're even asking the question--and the way you've phrased it--seems to indicate that you're already aware that this is often the case.

 

I try not to let the weight of past experiences make me overly prejudicial. But for me part of the rub is that eventually that past experience has to make us/me a little defensive about time wasters.

 

And IMO and experience it's not even demeanor on the phone that's the biggest tell. Rather, it's those who text instead of calling. I've reached the point wherein I take texters less seriously, and am almost at the point wherein if someone texts me "Hi" I don't even respond. FWIW I generally tend to take someone more seriously if they get to telling me where they are, what they're looking to get into and when and asking about my availability sooner rather than later.

[Edward]

Well BigRic you wont be getting me as a client.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

 

And IMO and experience it's not even demeanor on the phone that's the biggest tell. Rather, it's those who text instead of calling. I've reached the point wherein I take texters less seriously, and am almost at the point wherein if someone texts me "Hi" I don't even respond. FWIW I generally tend to take someone more seriously if they get to telling me where they are, what they're looking to get into and when and asking about my availability sooner rather than later.

 

I'm perfectly fine with texts and emails, however I agree that texts that begin with nothing but a "hi" or "what's up" almost never go anywhere so I usually ignore them too. I also don't reply to messages that are sent after midnight, asking if I'm immediately available.

[RussJohnson]

I don't know...some people especially first timers can be nervous or awkward, I will respond to two messages before making a judgement. I've had "hi" pan out multiple times, "what's up" texts not so much...

 

 

I've made that mistake twice (never again!). I do take appts scheduled in advance after midnight though.

[Todd99]

So, I've noticed several ads recently on rentmen where the escort will ask to be contacted by text or email, but then does not include contact information. That forces me to use the rentmen email, which is crap. Please include phone and email in the body of the ad. It makes it so much easier.

 

As far as texting "Hi" or "What's up", what is it that escorts want me to say on a first text to someone I have never met? "Hi, Mr. Escort. Are you available to fuck me at 9:45pm on Tuesday night." Is that a proper initial text? Personally, I'd rather start out with "Hi" and hope the escort picks up the conversation.

[RussJohnson]

So, I've noticed several ads recently on rentmen where the escort will ask to be contacted by text or email, but then does not include contact information. That forces me to use the rentmen email, which is crap. Please include phone and email in the body of the ad. It makes it so much easier.

 

As far as texting "Hi" or "What's up", what is it that escorts want me to say on a first text to someone I have never met? "Hi, Mr. Escort. Are you available to fuck me at 9:45pm on Tuesday night." Is that a proper initial text? Personally, I'd rather start out with "Hi" and hope the escort picks up the conversation.

 

Actually...yes! Well..."Hi, Mr. Escort. Are you available at 9:45pm on Tuesday night for ___ hour (s)."

 

You can also add, "I'm staying at the ____" or "I would like incall with you."

 

To which we respond "Hello, yes I am available. Thanks for getting in touch. Give me a call to chat a bit more about our plans/tell me a bit about you/do you have any questions for me?"

[Kevin Slater]

But why would you ever do this, when you could start with "hi" then "sup" then "more pics" then "into?" and so on and get your rocks off without ever having to meet or pay the escort?

 

Kevin Slater

[MikeyGMin]

I'd rather start out with "Hi" and hope the escort picks up the conversation

 

I prefer to text and usually start with something like. "Hi. My name is Mike. Saw your ad on Rentmen and would like to know if you are available (throw out a couple dates)?"

 

1. It gives him a name (even if it's fake) to use in his response and makes is so much simpler if there is a need for a couple texts back and forth.

2. Mentioning Rentmen (or whatever the source) makes it clear why you are texting and that you have seen his ad and rate. Unless you are going multi-hour or something complex, this helps avoid mixing talk about activities and dollars in later texts.

3. Throwing out a couple dates should help indicate you are serious. I like a guy to know this is something I've thought about and not some whim or game.

 

That's just me. If starting out with "hi" is getting you a response, and it's more than just "hello." Maybe your system will work for you.

[+ BigRic]

So, I've noticed several ads recently on rentmen where the escort will ask to be contacted by text or email, but then does not include contact information. That forces me to use the rentmen email, which is crap. Please include phone and email in the body of the ad. It makes it so much easier.

 

Unless there is some difference in site functionality for, say, registered clients versus non-registered or escorts versus clients, you should be able to click the "Contact Me" tab towards the top of an escort's ad, then click "Call Me Now!" and get the escort's phone number. Likewise, clicking "Email Me!" should reveal an e-mail address.

[+ Italiano]

I had no idea BigRic was so HOT!

[LADoug1]

I usually say "I saw your ad and have heard great things about you. Would enjoy spending (#hours) with you. Are you available for an appointment on (date)?" I might also attach a photo of myself.

[big-n-tall]

I had no idea BigRic was so HOT!

 

Yes! Yes, he is.

[marylander1940]

I usually say "I saw your ad and have heard great things about you. Would enjoy spending (#hours) with you. Are you available for an appointment on (date)?" I might also attach a photo of myself.

 

I prefer to text and usually start with something like. "Hi. My name is Mike. Saw your ad on Rentmen and would like to know if you are available (throw out a couple dates)?"

 

1. It gives him a name (even if it's fake) to use in his response and makes is so much simpler if there is a need for a couple texts back and forth.

2. Mentioning Rentmen (or whatever the source) makes it clear why you are texting and that you have seen his ad and rate. Unless you are going multi-hour or something complex, this helps avoid mixing talk about activities and dollars in later texts.

3. Throwing out a couple dates should help indicate you are serious. I like a guy to know this is something I've thought about and not some whim or game.

 

That's just me. If starting out with "hi" is getting you a response, and it's more than just "hello." Maybe your system will work for you.

 

That makes sense, unfortunately common sense is not common and there are a lot of time wasters out there who won't hire but love to feel the power to tease someone ove the phone.

[stop]

I'm perfectly fine with texts and emails, however I agree that texts that begin with nothing but a "hi" or "what's up" almost never go anywhere so I usually ignore them too. I also don't reply to messages that are sent after midnight, asking if I'm immediately available.

 

that is interesting to see this from a pro's perspective. I am always afraid I have typed in the wrong phone number and say something awkward in the first message....with a pro or with a guy from a hookup site. I usually say something like: hey Is this -----? this is X.....and see if they respond.

 

I have had times where I have said something forward upfront and have typed in the wrong number which always makes me uncomfortable. (it's happened more times than I'll care to admit to)

[Preston Michaels]

Sorry for the abrupt interruption, but I have a few comments to add. As far as the original question - I did not start escorting until much later than most guys do, so I have a better developed intuition about people and situations (I firmly believe that is what keeps me out of trouble ad away from craziness). I am able to tell with in the first two sentences of communication. Some rules that I have set for myself... I do not EVER talk about any details about what is going to happen. This is for a few reasons:

 

1) The obvious reason for avoiding details is for legal reasons.

2) I do not like to set any expectations that could result in a disappointing experience.

` 3) I do not get into details that might compromise discretion.

 

When potential clients start asking me if I top or btm, or do this, or do that.. I start off by playfully trying to avoid answering the question...and then suggest leaving it to the anticipating imagination. As I am sure you can imaging, that is not good enough for some guys. If I am pushed further, I politely but firmly say that I we can talk about that when we meet, for safety reasons. If I get any resistance after that, then I know that we will not be compatible anyways if my limits are going to be pushed before we even meet.

 

The of course, there are the guys that are looking for a texting buddy. When someone makes contact, I definitely take charge of the conversation. I keep focused on the essentials like scheduling and location. Guys that shy away from talking about dates and times are easy to spot. Don't get me wrong, I understand that a lot of guys are first timers (probably as many times as I have been 25), and need some guidance from me.. But those guys are easy to identify also.

 

The wild card in all of this is that all of this is driven by mood swings. One person could be a "time waster" one day because he's not that horny, but then want to meet up at 3 AM.

 

I guess my advice would be to address each contact situation differently as there are many factors involved. Something also should be said for listing to your intuition. If you are not feeling like you are getting reciprocal doses of respect and interest, then it is likely time to just cut your losses and part ways before you find yourself in a room with someone you're paying to make you feel like crap.

 

That's all I've got for now... just be yourself and do what feels natural to you. Your gut will tell you if something isn't right.

 

Thanks for reading,

 

-Preston Michaels

(860)879-8859

 

www.prestonmichaels.com

M4RN

Rentmen.com

Daddy's Reviews

[seaboy4hire]

So, I've noticed several ads recently on rentmen where the escort will ask to be contacted by text or email, but then does not include contact information. That forces me to use the rentmen email, which is crap. Please include phone and email in the body of the ad. It makes it so much easier.

 

As far as texting "Hi" or "What's up", what is it that escorts want me to say on a first text to someone I have never met? "Hi, Mr. Escort. Are you available to fuck me at 9:45pm on Tuesday night." Is that a proper initial text? Personally, I'd rather start out with "Hi" and hope the escort picks up the conversation.

 

Todd what issues have you had with RMs email? I don't recall having issues with it. It seems shortly after they send an email I get a text notifying me.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[LADoug1]

I recently hired an escort who called me after I texted him and asked me so many questions about what I liked and what I wanted and how he should act. He also asked if I knew about his rates. If he wasn't one of the top escorts in the country I would have begun to suspect he was the law and I was being set-up. Some general questions are fine to try and be sure the chemistry is right but this conversation lasted too long and made me uncomfortable.

[killianjamesnyc]

In a nutshell yes. Typically when I answer the phone "hello this is Killian" and the response is "what's up" and then silence or "hey, saw your ad" and then silence it doesn't even turn into an appointment. Funny story. So yesterday a call came in and the voice goes "is this the man on the website?" When silliness gets thrown your way spin it into an opportunity for the person to redeem themselves. Simply state "by the way this conversation is going I'm starting to doubt your intentions to hire me are serious." How the voice reacts after that will tell you everything you need to know. If you're getting the What's Up texts just simply reply "appointments are only made by phone, please call at your convenience, thank you." Always try to be the neck, it can turn the head anyway it wants

[LookingAround]

I often give a generic greeting on my first text in case I have entered the wrong number.

[killianjamesnyc]

that is interesting to see this from a pro's perspective. I am always afraid I have typed in the wrong phone number and say something awkward in the first message....with a pro or with a guy from a hookup site. I usually say something like: hey Is this -----? this is X.....and see if they respond.

 

I have had times where I have said something forward upfront and have types in the wrong number which always makes me ipuncomfortable. (it's happened more times than I'll care to admit to)

 

I think this is just your nerves. There's literally no room for second guessing yourself. You can simply look at the number on the page and then look at the number you dialed, if it's a match then you've messaged the right person.

[+ Truereview]

Well, I'm kinda with @jeepo1. I've hired for over 10 years and that has been my opening line on text since I started using text: 'hi, this is Xx, is this Y?" I'm not nervous, I've triple checked the number before texting my greeting, but im always wanting to ensure the gentleman on the other side of my text acknowledges that he is indeed the person I intended to connect with. If he gave me a smart ass answer - never happened, thank goodness! - I would just move on to the next escort. It is that easy.

[+ azdr0710]

Always try to be the neck, it can turn the head anyway it wants

 

nice!

 

I'm going to use this phrase at my next motivational speaking seminar....

 

I like it...thanks, K

[mattr]

nice!

 

I'm going to use this phrase at my next motivational speaking seminar....

 

I like it...thanks, K

 

It's paraphrased from a line in My Big Fat Greek Wedding