Dear escorts, how do you last so long (before cumming)

[Wolfer]

I ask this because I'm currently being treated for prematur ejaculation. I'm a top. I'm already getting a lot better! Today I was able to go for more than a minute before I came (I think, it's hard to keep track of time).

And I don't say this sarcastically, because a couple of months ago, when I had my first sexual experience after not having fucked for years, I literally was on the edge of cumming after two pumps (and came on the third).

 

But with the escorts I've been with, it seems they have incredible stamina. True, none of them have fucked me. But they can take a serious blowjob or handjob for the longest time and often there won't be an orgasm at all (I don't mind that, by the way. I used to prefer it, but now it's fine).

 

So, any special trade secrets that let you guys go for so long without being on the edge? Without cumming? I'm in awe sometimes when I see how long an escort lasts in bed before cumming (or not al all, even).

[+ purplekow]

Well let's look at this realistically. For me, I am having sex with a beautiful, desirable, sexy man who knows a thing or three about supplying pleasure. So it is clear why I would be excited and ready to orgasm.

The escort is having sex with me. I do not think I need to take that to its natural conclusion.

[+ glennnn]

But we still have our beautiful souls, kow. Beauty isn't everything.... it's only 90%.

[+ purplekow]

But we still have our beautiful souls, kow. Beauty isn't everything.... it's only 90%.

Oh I know I am a catch, I would do me and I have the T shirt to prove it. But the question as to why an escort may last a lot longer than the average client, well...I think I made my case

[+ Funguy]

Oh I know I am a catch, I would do me and I have the T shirt to prove it. But the question as to why an escort may last a lot longer than the average client, well...I think I made my case

 

PK - what about the rest of average us - we are stellar, sexy, beautiful, and just as desirable as the escort! So how does he not just cum all over as soon as he sees us?

[AdamSmith]

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[adannyboy]

Practice.

[gallahadesquire]

Local Anesthetic?

[Juan Vancouver]

Well let's look at this realistically. For me, I am having sex with a beautiful, desirable, sexy man who knows a thing or three about supplying pleasure. So it is clear why I would be excited and ready to orgasm.

The escort is having sex with me. I do not think I need to take that to its natural conclusion.

 

Absolutely everything he said... NOT.

 

It's not about who is attracted to whom. This is all about one simple, but powerful word: Relaxation.

 

Wolfer, I am sure that the cornerstone of the treatment for premature ejaculation is relaxation. Once you feel you get close, you relax everything, while physically impeding your orgasm with two fingers.

 

It is possible to start the session with that sense of relaxation. Now, relaxation doesn't mean not caring or being aloof. (Or being hotter than the other) You can be mindblowingly attracted to your partner and still approach the session with a supple body, an open body language, a relaxed core, breathing deeply. Whenever you feel pleasure forming up that familiar ball of contraction that sooner or later will end up in an orgasm, it is possible to simply breathe through it, relax it and keep going.

 

Adannyboy hit it in the nail. We, escorts, have had the chance to practice many many times, so when you see us even if we are excited and turned on, we are relaxed and comfortable with the whole process. Body is supple, breathing is deep and rhythmical, we are focusing in the pleasure of the journey, not the pleasure of the destination, because we KNOW once we reach safe port, all sails will come down and there will be no more sailing, so we like to take it easy,

 

All you have to do is practice. Whenever you are experiencing pleasure whether on your own or with a partner, you have to focus on opening up your chest, throwing back your shoulders a little, breathe deeply imagining you are breathing all the way to your stomach, and relaxing everything in the inside, from your lungs to your intestines. This will allow you to feel the pleasure all over your body, will delay your orgasm and will send the signal to your brain that you are in control, inhibiting the secretion of cortisol, the stress hormone.

 

An animal that is threatened during sex has to cum really fast to run for cover. An animal that fucks under stress crunches up into himself protecting himself from attacks. (Think a scared dog).

 

An animal that has no predators and is safe can relax and fuck for as long as it wants. An animal that is safe, has an open body language and has all his tender parts exposed. (Think King Kong).

 

But more importantly... get out of your head. Who the fuck gives a shit whether you last three pumps or three hours? There is no better or worse. There is no industry standard. There is no goal. There is no destination.

 

The pleasure is in the journey, wherever the journey goes, however long it takes.

 

Out of your head, and into your body, you beautiful, relaxed, powerful animal!

[+ glennnn]

Absolutely everything he said... NOT.

 

It's not about who is attracted to whom. This is all about one simple, but powerful word: Relaxation.

 

Wolfer, I am sure that the cornerstone of the treatment for premature ejaculation is relaxation. Once you feel you get close, you relax everything, while physically impeding your orgasm with two fingers.

 

It is possible to start the session with that sense of relaxation. Now, relaxation doesn't mean not caring or being aloof. (Or being hotter than the other) You can be mindblowingly attracted to your partner and still approach the session with a supple body, an open body language, a relaxed core, breathing deeply. Whenever you feel pleasure forming up that familiar ball of contraction that sooner or later will end up in an orgasm, it is possible to simply breathe through it, relax it and keep going.

 

Adannyboy hit it in the nail. We, escorts, have had the chance to practice many many times, so when you see us even if we are excited and turned on, we are relaxed and comfortable with the whole process. Body is supple, breathing is deep and rhythmical, we are focusing in the pleasure of the journey, not the pleasure of the destination, because we KNOW once we reach safe port, all sails will come down and there will be no more sailing, so we like to take it easy,

 

All you have to do is practice. Whenever you are experiencing pleasure whether on your own or with a partner, you have to focus on opening up your chest, throwing back your shoulders a little, breathe deeply imagining you are breathing all the way to your stomach, and relaxing everything in the inside, from your lungs to your intestines. This will allow you to feel the pleasure all over your body, will delay your orgasm and will send the signal to your brain that you are in control, inhibiting the secretion of cortisol, the stress hormone.

 

An animal that is threatened during sex has to cum really fast to run for cover. An animal that fucks under stress crunches up into himself protecting himself from attacks. (Think a scared dog).

 

An animal that has no predators and is safe can relax and fuck for as long as it wants. An animal that is safe, has an open body language and has all his tender parts exposed. (Think King Kong).

 

But more importantly... get out of your head. Who the fuck gives a shit whether you last three pumps or three hours? There is no better or worse. There is no industry standard. There is no goal. There is no destination.

 

The pleasure is in the journey, wherever the journey goes, however long it takes.

 

Out of your head, and into your body, you beautiful, relaxed, powerful animal!

 

 

Everything you said, YES. I am, or have been, an actor and musician. Relaxation is the first step and the last step to performance.

[Gar1eth]

It apparently is a skill that can sometimes be learned either through relaxation techniques or certain squeeze techniques-I've heard about squeezing at the base -and maybe also another technique squeezing at the frenulum (these are two different techniques-not to be applied at the same time) at right before ejaculation.

 

It's interesting. I think the majority of escorts that I have met over the years have been able to delay ejaculating better then I can even if they are new to escorting. I've even met at least one escort-possibly more- who said that it takes him so long to ejaculate that at times it causes problems. I wonder if guys who can hold off are more likely to think about becoming escorts-in my unscientific survey-I think escorts have a tendency to have larger/longer tallywackers too.

 

Gman

[Wolfer]

Practice.

Yes, but what sort of practice!

 

It's not about who is attracted to whom. This is all about one simple, but powerful word: Relaxation.

 

Wolfer, I am sure that the cornerstone of the treatment for premature ejaculation is relaxation. Once you feel you get close, you relax everything, while physically impeding your orgasm with two fingers.

True, I've only just started, but the first thing I'm learning is being aware of my pelvic floor and what happens to it during sex and relaxing it through breathing. I haven't heard about the two finger technique.

 

Who the fuck gives a shit whether you last three pumps or three hours? There is no better or worse. There is no industry standard. There is no goal. There is no destination.

On the one hand that's true. But I care because the one time I took medication to delay my orgasm, the fucking for me was a billion times better and more satisfying. It was amazing being able to really fuck a guy properly and my orgasm was a billion times better too. Of course, there's a lot more to sex than fucking. But I absolutely love to top and it really confirmed to me how much fun it is to be able to properly rail a guy. So far I've been very grateful that I'm not in my head about it (there's no fear or anxiety, just a mild annoyance and a drive to get better), I drag out foreplay during sessions and dry hump and that's fun too. But the topping is so immensely pleasurable, I'd love to be able to do it for longer. I am grateful for this hobby to allow me to explore my premature ejaculation in a safe and understanding environment.

[outofpractice]

I know about prolonging the experience; however I have run into a person or two in my past which drove me to the point of no return. Have any of the escorts been with a client who have cause them to go beyond the point of no return before they wanted?

[RussJohnson]

I know about prolonging the experience; however I have run into a person or two in my past which drove me to the point of no return. Have any of the escorts been with a client who have cause them to go beyond the point of no return before they wanted?

 

Sure, but then I just make sure round 2 goes above and beyond.

[mattr]

I have exactly the opposite problem... I can't seem to orgasm when I am with an escort.... still looking for mr. right on that score

[Gar1eth]

I have exactly the opposite problem... I can't seem to orgasm when I am with an escort.... still looking for mr. right on that score

 

Are you able to orgasm easily with non escort partners or when you masturbate? If orgasming is difficult-or takes a lot of stimulation to get to at those times-that would probably explain a lot of it-with tension and nervousness when you are with an escort explaining the rest.

 

Gman

[mattr]

I am not a quick shot under any circumstances but I get very nervous with escorts....I need to learn how to relax and enjoy the moment...

[Brian Kevin]

Beauty isn't everything.... it's only 90%.

 

 

i disagree

 

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Im not a ripped, lean, 6 pack buff dude... BUT I am just as busy when I'm on tour

I know how to market myself

[mike carey]

I know how to market myself

You do indeed! More like a 6'6" pack than a 6 pack. But I won't propose!

[Brian Kevin]

More like a 6'6" pack

 

with tacos and fajitas

[Gar1eth]

I am not a quick shot under any circumstances but I get very nervous with escorts....I need to learn how to relax and enjoy the moment...

 

I'm the opposite. I've alway been on the quick side of things-and being around a hot guy making me feel good can hasten things.

 

Gman

[BasketBaller]

Interestingly, this is what usually leads me to hire an escort. As a bottom I have had so many experiences where the guy came too fast for my taste, that I hired someone whose reviews mentioned his stamina. It was all true, he lasted forever, and I loved that. Might have spoiled me for non-escorts, lol.

[Wolfer]

Interestingly, this is what first led me to hire an escort. As a bottom I had had so many experiences where the guy came too fast for my taste, that I hired someone whose reviews mentioned his stamina. It was all true, he lasted forever, and I loved that. Might have spoiled me for non-escorts, lol.

So what is "forever" for you? Ten minutes? Half an hour? An hour?

I'm now delaying my orgasm more and more and I actually get a bit worried around the one minute mark 'cause I'm scared the bottom won't enjoy himself anymore! I know, I know, it's just that I'm so used to things going quickly... I need to change my mindset too.

[Juan Vancouver]

I'm now delaying my orgasm more and more and I actually get a bit worried around the one minute mark 'cause I'm scared the bottom won't enjoy himself anymore! I know, I know, it's just that I'm so used to things going quickly... I need to change my mindset too.

 

May I suggest you don't change your mindset but erase it altogether? While having sex, just relax, go into your body, breathe and relax even more. Most sexual challenges come from the fact one is thinking during sex.

 

Enjoy the ride, listen to your body, listen to the body of your partner and know he is constantly giving you all the necessary clues about what feels good and doesn't.

 

No thinking!

 

So what is "forever" for you? Ten minutes? Half an hour? An hour?

 

Same thing. It doesn't matter how long a marathon fucker can fuck. Comparisons just feed the mind and are always unfair. Forever, when it comes to fucking, should refer to that mindless, thoughtless place of pleasure where time stops and there is nothing but relaxation, joy and pleasure. That forever sometimes lasts a few seconds only, but those are sweet, magical moments that make everything else worth it.

 

You can't get there by comparing, you can only get there by celebrating yourself, embracing the moment and relaxing as deep as you can.

 

You have said many times here that you need more information, that you need to -know-. The only information you need to know about sexual fulfillment, and you are hearing it from the horse's mouth is... there is no information or data that will help you achieve sexual fulfillment, the only information relevant is the one your body and your partner are giving you at any given moment. Being present, being calm, breathing deeply, having your body relaxed and supple. That's the gate. Anything else will only give you mental noise that will hinder your ability to cross that gate.

 

Best of luck in your search of that delicious pleasure!

[big-n-tall]

Mr. Wolfer, just to put your mind at ease a little bit more... not all escorts have so much control that they last forever. I know a few that doing certain things (while getting down to business) can make them shoot quicker than you wouldn't believe.