Phone vs. Texting

[+ Reisr30]

Hello,

 

Is it usual for an escort to prefer only to text vs. speaking on the phone? I set up a meeting with a well reviewed individual and was hoping to ask some questions on the phone. He wrote he preferred to text. Am I being too paranoid that I don't want to text my questions around donation, preferences, etc? I'd rather do that verbally than in writing. So now I supposed I will wait for the session to ask my questions and will make assumptions based on the add. Thanks for your help.

[big-n-tall]

Hello,

 

Is it usual for an escort to prefer only to text vs. speaking on the phone? I set up a meeting with a well reviewed individual and was hoping to ask some questions on the phone. He wrote he preferred to text. Am I being too paranoid that I don't want to text my questions around donation, preferences, etc? I'd rather do that verbally than in writing. So now I supposed I will wait for the session to ask my questions and will make assumptions based on the add. Thanks for your help.

 

No, it is not. Some escorts are in a situation where they may not be able to talk openly on the phone. So they'll prefer texting. Just as escorts vary, so do their forms of contact/communication. Some won't meet until they talk to the client on the phone before meeting. Some don't care how they are contacted. It runs the gamut.

 

You can politely try to get him to talk on the phone, but if he isn't keen to do it, I don't see how you can make him. Your choices are to do as the escort wishes, wait (as you stated) until you meet him in person, or just move on.

[rickp]

I would have imagined it was the other way around. I generally perceive it to be a red flag if a client refuses to talk on the phone, so I gather the same would be true for escorts.

[Epigonos]

It can also be a matter of age. The younger generation is really into texting. I have always preferred starting my communications with an escort by email and then progressing to telephone. I had a flip top telephone until last December but then decided it was about time I join the 21st century so I bought a LG smart phone. It has been a bitch of a learning experience but I'm now texting still somewhat unhappily but successfully when that is what the escort prefers.

[+ azdr0710]

text (!) the guy and ask when he'll be free to talk on the phone.....he can call you or vice versa....if he STILL doesn't want to talk live, you have a decision to make

[bigvalboy]

text (!) the guy and ask when he'll be free to talk on the phone.....he can call you or vice versa....if he STILL doesn't want to talk live, you have a decision to make

 

I concur...Text or email, with a call just before the appointment. I can't remember anyone refusing to have a conversation by phone. I much prefer texting over calling.

[+ Reisr30]

Thank you all. I just found it odd. I guess it must be a generational thing as was suggested.

[tyro]

Don't read too much into this. I can remember when I would have sworn I'd never text anyone ever! Now I would much rather text than talk.

T

[+ azdr0710]

I have a cheapo pay-as-you-go phone for this sideline hobby.....and it still makes you push one, two, or three times for the letter you want when writing a text!.....

 

yup, you guessed it, I prefer email or phone to texting!!

[OneFinger]

I still use a flip phone that has NO ( yes I repeat NO) data / text capability. I don't do text and wouldn't hire an escort that didn't respond to e-mail or phone calls.

[Gar1eth]

Don't read too much into this. I can remember when I would have sworn I'd never text anyone ever! Now I would much rather text than talk.

T

 

 

There's a subtle or sometimes not so subtle delay on mobile phones. It's especially bad when both parties are on mobile phones. I think it affects how long you want to talk to someone. Also mobile phone speakers aren't as good as the speaker on a regular phone. I think all this plays into it. I mean yes sometimes texting is easier. But if we were all back on landlines-even cordless-I think teenagers would prefer it for home use if they realized all the emotional content they are missing by texting.

 

Gman

[Nebost]

I am fine with starting with text or email...I usually do because it gives the escort time to respond at his own convenience. If an escort is well reviewed and communicates well via text, that may be all I need to set up an appointment. However, more often than not I need a brief phone call, just to get a better sense of the guy, so much is conveyed in voice and tone that is missing from text. I'll always ask 'May I call you for a brief chat?' before calling. If I were the escort, I think I'd want to have some comfort level with who I was meeting as well . I'm not calling to waste anyone's time...just getting the info I need because I sincerely intend to meet.

[+ poolboy48220]

I'm with everyone who needs that phone call before sealing the deal. Texting is fine to set up logistics, but I do want to hear the voice to get a sense of the person, which doesn't come through via text or email.

[Rudynate]

I resist everything about cell phones. Including texting. Nonetheless, I am forcing myself into the 21st century by double checking before I leave the house to make sure I am carrying my phone. I have resisted texting because of the way it is changing the way we interact. For example, the woman who does my cleaning started texting me to confirm that I wanted her to show up for our regular standing appointment, and then wouldn't show if I didn't text her a confirmation. I finally killed that off - worked it out with her that a standing appointment means that she shows up, she doesn't need to notify me, she doesn't need a confirmation from me, which is the way it had been for ten years before she started all of this weirdness with text messages.

 

All of that having been said, the more I use my cell phone and the more I use text messages, the more I like it. The convenience is seductive.

[thickornotatall]

no talk...no way....I need to hear the voice to make certain that 1) it is indeed a male 2) the voice is not high and squeaky 3) I need to hear how the person at the other end responds...maybe better than text..maybe so short and abrupt I'd rather not meet..Not a complicated feat to speak on the phone....I've done that for years...

[+ José Soplanucas]

As probably most of you do, I feel that a conversation on the phone is much more personal than an email or texting exchange. So I like to combine the best of both worlds. The first contact and the intro (the big picture of what I am looking for and a few questions about his preferences and fees) are done through texting, rarely emailing. Consider that I am usually contacting more than one candidate to make a decision after a little questioning. Once I am close to arrange a meeting, I switch to the phone call, to discuss the specifics and check the tone and demeanor of the candidate.

[hunterlee]

I am part of the younger generation, I do prefer text messages but love emails ! Usually because of my day job I am out in public environment and can't pick up calls unless urgent

[N13]

It is, imho, generational. I don't even know how to text. I prefer e-mail to telephone because I am not normally in a position to speak about 'services' in my normal environment

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If a text is required or there is no e-mailing I don't use that provider.

[Gar1eth]

Part of the problem is cell phones. I don't think you can hear as clearly in them as a good landline or VOIP. I think the slight delay and poorer speakers lends to a disinclination for in depth phone calls. The crystal clear voice from a regular phone on a landline is going to be one of the things the younger generation is going to miss without even knowing it.

 

Gman

[buckguy]

I can't believe this conversation is going on at late date. Texting is perfect for back and forth that doesn't really need a phone call. Given that some guys only ever wanted an email exchange in the old days, there's nothing surprising about text only communication.

[OneFinger]

I can't believe this conversation is going on at late date. Texting is perfect for back and forth that doesn't really need a phone call. Given that some guys only ever wanted an email exchange in the old days, there's nothing surprising about text only communication.

I don't have a cell phone with text capabilities!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do you really think everyone has the latest technology????

 

Not everyone embraces new technologies. Some of us are old farts that are technologically challenged. Some of the younger escorts are missing out on some significant $$ when they start limiting the ways they can be contacted by clientele. I've got a fair amount of disposal income that could support regular hires. But, if texting is that important to an escort, they'll not get any of my money.

[N13]

+1 Well-said!

[Odinochka]

If I ever did hire, I would have to speak on the phone...roughly 20 minutes or so. The reason is that I would need to hear the texture of the voice. I could not care less about what they say, but how they say it. For example, let's say the contractor in question is Hispanic (in particular Dominican or PR)--when I was military, I was stationed with a lot of folks from these two communities, and one thing I noticed was that even if they had been stateside for generations, many spoke with very noticeable (if not downright heavy) accents and some were rather hard to understand. If the escort has too thick of an accent, odds are I will pass, because that could lead to communication problems. If the escort is British, I would have to hear him speak. If he sounds like Paddy O'Brian, then that is a pass because I just dislike that accent...does not matter how hot the man is. If it's scouse, Geordie, or brummie, I'm out--they make my teeth grind. I know that is unfair, but if a man's voice just irritates me, I am not going to pay him to put his hog into my anatomy. I guess I approach the phone thing from a different angle.

[Mocha]

I don't have a cell phone with text capabilities!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Do you really think everyone has the latest technology????

 

Not everyone embraces new technologies. Some of us are old farts that are technologically challenged. Some of the younger escorts are missing out on some significant $$ when they start limiting the ways they can be contacted by clientele. I've got a fair amount of disposal income that could support regular hires. But, if texting is that important to an escort, they'll not get any of my money.

 

People also say the same about guy who don't like texting. They say they are missing out.

 

Personally, Whether someone texts or calls doesn't matter anymore...unless it's obsessive. because although I used to prefer calls, sometimes I just can't take a call or answer questions. However, what does annoy me is when someone sends an email asking for now or within a couple hours.

 

A regular client sent me an email at 7:30 in the morning, when I'd already given him my number. I didn't even notice the email til later in the day, and then after that...he took 2 days to respond to my email, only to tell me he's tied up.

 

That kinda stuff really tests my patience.

[N13]

Mocha, a lot seems to "test(s) your patience." Reading your posts always makes me question whether you are in the right business. Your attitude and constant complaining are not conducive to making anyone want to contact you.