How much should I tip?

[Essence7]

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[Kevin Slater]

If you go to the box in the upper right-hand of your screen, next to the magnifying glass, and type in "tipping" ("tip" is too short a search term), you'll see numerous threads with various opposing and strongly held opinions on this matter.

 

Kevin Slater

[jawjateck]

Welcome to our world, Essence. Don't fret about a tip; it is not an automatic thingy. It can be an option for exceptional service or considerate behaviors directed toward you from the escort. I have tipped, but I have had many meetings where I paid the agreed-upon fee, and proffered no extra cash. Quality escorts will not think poorly of you if a tip is excluded. In fact, if you are freshly showered, groomed, fresh breath, respectful, keep the appointment as scheduled, fulfill all pre-meet commitments, pay the fee as agreed, and enjoy your time with the escort, then he has already hit the jackpot with you. Oh, and if you really enjoy the escort's company and schedule a repeat visit, then he will be very pleased with you.

 

So, relax and have fun. It's a blast. The responsibility to make a good impression rests more upon your escort than you.

[+ azdr0710]

as jawja says, be a nice guy and that will be most of the tip....you may also want to consider a gift card to his favorite food store or similar.....

 

jumping right into an overnight for your first meeting?....I hope you've chatted with him about the whole thing and have expectations lined up with each other.....

 

I'm sure you'll have a great time.....smile, have fun, don't talk too fast, hang out, take it easy, ask him questions......

[adriano46]

as jawja says, be a nice guy and that will be most of the tip....you may also want to consider a gift card to his favorite food store or similar.....

 

jumping right into an overnight for your first meeting?....I hope you've chatted with him about the whole thing and have expectations lined up with each other.....

 

I'm sure you'll have a great time.....smile, have fun, don't talk too fast, hang out, take it easy, ask him questions......

 

Excellent advice - and keep the tip hidden away until the end. Lately I find that the gift cards seem to work out well - I keep a few in reserve and in values from $25-$50-$75-$100 so that I can have something "appropriate" -- but I completely agree that often the best tip for an escort is a client who treats them with respect, is nice and thoughtful and shows he put some thought into the date.

[Essence7]

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[seaboy4hire]

Welcome to our world, Essence. Don't fret about a tip; it is not an automatic thingy. It can be an option for exceptional service or considerate behaviors directed toward you from the escort. I have tipped, but I have had many meetings where I paid the agreed-upon fee, and proffered no extra cash. Quality escorts will not think poorly of you if a tip is excluded. In fact, if you are freshly showered, groomed, fresh breath, respectful, keep the appointment as scheduled, fulfill all pre-meet commitments, pay the fee as agreed, and enjoy your time with the escort, then he has already hit the jackpot with you. Oh, and if you really enjoy the escort's company and schedule a repeat visit, then he will be very pleased with you.

 

So, relax and have fun. It's a blast. The responsibility to make a good impression rests more upon your escort than you.

 

YUP!

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Guest Starbuck]

Essence7, I hope you have a great time. Your question put a smile on my face because it was one of the first questions I asked when I started coming to this forum just before the first time I hired. The answers I got convinced me that tipping (or gift-giving) is not an expectation, but an individual decision.

 

I ended up NOT tipping my first or second times. Then, foolishly, I tipped the third guy even though it wasn't my best experience (not bad, but definitely not tip-worthy if I didn't tip the first two guys). In hindsight, I wondered if I gave that tip to convince myself that I'd had a better time than I did. As I said--foolish.

 

My fourth time was a repeat visit to the second man I hired, the one I definitely liked best of the guys I'd met and hoped to keep seeing. It was in mid-December. I brought a couple of small gifts--things that meant something based on what I'd learned about this man during our first visit. That made for a nice start to our time together and after he opened his presents, he said, "I've got something for you too." (Guess what?) We had a good visit, shared more about ourselves than we did the first time, and on my drive home I was glad that I'd left a Christmas card in the envelope with his payment. I'd written a short note on the card and included $50 above the fee for his time.

 

I guess the tip on top of the gifts came as a surprise. That night I got an email saying, "You made it feel Christmas around here today. You've been so good to me; next time you visit, let me take you out to dinner." I wasn't expecting that, but I sure appreciated the feeling that we were mutually inclined to be gracious and generous with one another.

[+ Funguy]

I was raised to always reward someone for a job WELL done. That includes all people in all jobs in life. It also does not always mean money. It could be a verbal, a small gift of some sort, a card, and, of course $ - really anything which acknowledges that you recognize that the person has done a great job, not just mediocre one doing what he/she has to do. If it's a repair person or someone who is an employee, I slip him/her some cash, get the name and then I have someone I can call off the books. Someone who is self-employed and does a great job - the same. Or a masseur who is mediocre or lousy - no tip and no callback.

 

Unfortunately, in this country a 20% tip at a restaurant, for example, is expected whether or not the service warrants anything. Some restaurants will automatically add it in for parties of 6 or more (and they include the wine/alcohol on the base they use). I point out the wine (sometimes a very expensive bottle) bit to the Maitre D' and there is always a recalc. In Las Vegas, however, a few years ago I (2 of us) went to a very well-known restaurant, were kept waiting for 45 minutes while people with later reservations were seated, took a half-hour to get just water and bread, by the time we got food it was another 45 min. The waiter had ONLY 2 tables to cover, it wasn't that busy, and he was always in a corner talking to his buds. When the check came, I called the M-D (and the stick up his ass) over and told him exactly why there would be no tip. I have never done that before, and on one hand it felt GREAT but on the other, tho I shouldn't feel it, I felt bad. I have always made the donation and just chalked it up to that's what everyone does.

 

With escorts, it's no different for me. They are self-employed, they set their own fees, etc. BUT, on one hand, I expect to be treated as the wonderful guy that I am, really not different than anyone else, I'm streetable, HWP, clean, etc. and I expect to have a good sex. On the other hand, if I just happen to have a great time, the sex only being part of the equation, but we have great cuddles, we happen to click, and laugh, and it is clear that the escort is doing his best for me to have this great time….a tip from me is warranted. One guy said, "You don't have to do that" when he looked at the bills. I just replied, "I know" and smiled, he gave me a deep kiss and then out the door. IT ALWAYS pays off in the end in many many ways.

 

That's my take.

[Keenan]

Hi everyone. I'm surprised I haven't seen this asked anywhere, forgive me if the search failed me.

 

I'm having my first encounter with an escort soon, it's $1000 overnight. How much should I tip? I'm gathering it's between $100-$200 if all goes well. I definitely want to make a good impression and plan to see him again if things work out. I just don't know how much is to be expected!

 

Thanks

 

Honestly no tip is to be expected. If you really like the service and would like to tip then by all means feel free to tip what you feel comfortable tipping. Otherwise what you are already paying the escort should be enough.

 

Keenan

[Diverdan]

Gratuities are not required, but as in all service industries, it will be very appreciated. I almost always give a tip, unless the experience is really bad. But if it is exceptional I reward with a tip accordingly. I was with a guy for a massage that morphed into a whole lot more in terms of interaction and time. He did not want to accept more than his basic fee, but I doubled his by giving him a tip equal to what he had charged, and I must say it was a great investment for a long term relationship. I was raised by my parents (who were not well off) to provde a tip for good service, and I continue that practice for all good service where ever it is delivered. Just MHO... but it has served me well for many years.

[+ Funguy]

+1, again

[robberbaron4u]

With an escort with whom I have a slight acquaintance, I usually "tip" in clothing of his choice; for those with whom I have a long association, gym fees, airline tickets "home" to visit "ma", tuition, and, on or two occasions, the ACE course and examination fees for personal trainer accredidation. In the giving of a gratuity, I always keep in mind that it is to "to insure promptness" in service, which, with regard to an escort, I entertain as quality of service.

[+ Funguy]

Look at this thread and compare with "My personal trainer" above. Totally opposite answers.

[Atomicshawn]

Welcome to our world, Essence. Don't fret about a tip; it is not an automatic thingy. It can be an option for exceptional service or considerate behaviors directed toward you from the escort. I have tipped, but I have had many meetings where I paid the agreed-upon fee, and proffered no extra cash. Quality escorts will not think poorly of you if a tip is excluded. In fact, if you are freshly showered, groomed, fresh breath, respectful, keep the appointment as scheduled, fulfill all pre-meet commitments, pay the fee as agreed, and enjoy your time with the escort, then he has already hit the jackpot with you. Oh, and if you really enjoy the escort's company and schedule a repeat visit, then he will be very pleased with you

 

AMEN to that. Totally agree. One slightly unusual "tip" I received was while in Vegas with a client. We went out to a club and met a guy who we were both interested in and who was into us. Turned out that he wasn't able to spend time with us that night but I later found out that the client got his number when I wasn't around and the last night arranged a surprise get together with him. Yup, it was a genuinely HOT surprise! But definitely NOT the norm for a tip.