Clients who don't cum

[Tighty]

I've seen posts where clients expressed disappointment when the escort does not cum. How about the other way around? Do escorts feel disappointed if the client doesn't cum?

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[SteveEscort]

It's rare any clients leave me disappointed yet i only cum in maybe 1 in every 20 appointments

 

Once a client has cum there's is very little interest from them in me Cumming

[UconnFlyer]

It's rare any clients leave me disappointed yet i only cum in maybe 1 in every 20 appointments

 

Once a client has cum there's is very little interest from them in me Cumming

 

See I kind of disagree as a client. I like to see the escort cum and I'm a little disappointed if they don't. No matter how good my orgasm may have been, the experience doesn't feel totally complete if the escort doesn't cum.

[actor61]

See I kind of disagree as a client. I like to see the escort cum and I'm a little disappointed if they don't. No matter how good my orgasm may have been, the experience doesn't feel totally complete if the escort doesn't cum.

 

I agree completely. When an escort doesn't cum with me, then I think it's because he is only interested in the money and in my fantasy, I pretend he's interested in me too! I've posted about this before but I'll reiterate: If I'm paying $250 for an hour, I want to see the goods emerge. I have never rehired an escort who did not cum.

[Strafe13]

I am like 99% bottom, and I practically never cum while getting fucked during an experience with either escorts or personal hookups/lovers. Just not my thing. I've often had escorts express bewilderment, coupled with a slight twinge of frustration, as to my lack of interest and/or inability to reach orgasm with them. I guess for them, it's so common that a client cums, that it's hard to imagine it not happening unless he's not enjoying the session. I try to explain that it has nothing to do with them, and that I enjoy our sessions thoroughly, but that I'm just wired differently than most guys. Some accept that in an apparently sincere manner, while others seem to believe I'm lying to spare their feelings or disarm a tense and awkward moment. I've only had one escort who took it upon himself to "force" the issue, leading to an explosive never-before-seen or felt experience on my part. I've since tried to recreate that experience with others in private and professional scenarios with extremely limited success, so I'm now convinced that I'm just wired differently -- period. Although I did see that escort again 5 months later and he turned me out again. Still can't really duplicate it, so I think it's just some weird connection I have with him, although he's so nonchalant that he thinks it's no big deal at all. How wrong he is. ;-)

[geoffk]

as a client , sometimes I cum, sometimes I don't

 

you have to be somewhat careful about cumming in that if you cum too soon or early in the session many escorts feel that this is the end of the session and it's time

for him to leave. so maybe by trying not to cum, even tho i could, i just don't want the session to end at that point. and by holding back it affects my performance later.

[ErieBear]

I know that I am new to gay sex, and some may find this strange, but I have not yet been able to cum while with another guy. At this point, for me, it's more about the connection than anything else. I've been with some incredible guys, but it just hasn't happened. I know it's about me learning to relax and also about me needing to drop a whole bunch of weight. It is what it is.

[tom1980]

you have to be somewhat careful about cumming in that if you cum too soon or early in the session many escorts feel that this is the end of the session and it's time

for him to leave. so maybe by trying not to cum, even tho i could, i just don't want the session to end at that point. and by holding back it affects my performance later.

 

I agree with this completely. There've only been a few times that I've been with an escort and could not cum, but sometimes if I have to focus on not cumming for a while, I have trouble when it is finally time to wrap up the session. Usually I have difficulty when the escort is focusing too much on getting me off, and I feel like it has become a chore. If I can get the guy to back off for a minute so I can focus on getting turned on, things go more quickly.

 

Other times, usually with masseurs, I find that their technique just doesn't do it for me. In those cases, I try to tell the guy what he should do differently to move things along, but some guys get offended (especially younger ones who don't seem to realize that some guys respond better to a different sensation than the masseur himself responds to).

[seeker630]

... but sometimes if I have to focus on not cumming for a while, I have trouble when it is finally time to wrap up the session. Usually I have difficulty when the escort is focusing too much on getting me off, and I feel like it has become a chore. If I can get the guy to back off for a minute so I can focus on getting turned on, things go more quickly.

 

Other times, usually with masseurs, I find that their technique just doesn't do it for me. In those cases, I try to tell the guy what he should do differently to move things along, but some guys get offended (especially younger ones who don't seem to realize that some guys respond better to a different sensation than the masseur himself responds to).

 

Sounds familiar. Sometimes, when I've held back from cumming early in the session, I get to the point that I can't. But I've found that after relaxing a bit and resuming with some sensual stroking,kissing, etc., I can get myself off.

 

But I don't think anyone has ever gotten me off manually - no one's hand knows you as well as your own, lol.

 

(btw - I always make it clear beforehand that I expect the escort to cum).

[adriano46]

as a client , sometimes I cum, sometimes I don't

 

you have to be somewhat careful about cumming in that if you cum too soon or early in the session many escorts feel that this is the end of the session and it's time

for him to leave. so maybe by trying not to cum, even tho i could, i just don't want the session to end at that point. and by holding back it affects my performance later.

 

yes -- MY EXPERIENCE TOO.

[Guest Starbuck]

The first time I hired (not too long ago), the escort let me know in advance that sometimes he doesn't cum for days at a time but that, since I wanted him to, he would TRY. He succeeded ... and I was the one who didn't cum during that session. He was (very kindly) concerned about that, told me it's what most guys expect of a session and I ended up reassuring him that I was FULLY PLEASED with our time together. For me, on that day, I was so into him--so into Just Being With Him--that my own orgasm was a non-priority. (I hope he believed that. I loved it that he wanted to make sure.)

[Keenan]

I've seen posts where clients expressed disappointment when the escort does not cum. How about the other way around? Do escorts feel disappointed if the client doesn't cum?

 

I don't feel disappointed if the customer doesn't cum but would be concerned that he is enjoying his time. I want all my customers to enjoy the time they spend with me and if someone doesn't I want to change that.

 

Keenan

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[Michael Wayne]

This is a valuable thread! My policy is that I will always cum for a client IF they can LAST long enough to get me there! lol! I simply CANNOT cum in fifteen minutes. It takes me a good 45 minutes to an hour to get close. However I NEVER hold off or hold back. I give my ALL to EVERY client as the goal is to get REGULARS and REPEATS! Now as far as clients cumming or not??? IT is very typical for my clients to battle with premature ejaculation. If it happens I always reassure them and give them a long massage. We visit and usually they can get hard and cum again. Occasionally they DO NOT cum at all. Usually it is because of various medical conditions usually involving the prostate or blood pressure meds. anti-depressants also can retard ejaculation. I always let them know that as long as they are otherwisw satisfied then I am ok with it. http://www.rentboy.com/magicmikey

[desertguy1954]

I love it when the escort cums with me, though that does not happen to often. Also, if I am enjoying being fucked, I want to hold off cumming for as long as possible.

[desertguy1954]

With me you could cum as many times as you wanted.

[Dave]

actor61, I’m just wondering - if you never rehire escorts who dont come when they’re with you, do you actually make it clear to them beforehand that that’s something important to you? if not, IMO, you should...

 

I personally think coming is overrated. some of the best sexual experiences I’ve ever had didnt include orgasm. now dont get me wrong, I love to shoot my load just as much as the next guy (well, judging from this array of comments on the thread, maybe not the next guy - but the guy next to him... LOL)

 

speaking of that, I have found there really is no “typical” in this:

some guys wanna come, and wanna see me come, too.

some guys wanna come, but don’t need to see me shoot.

some guys don't need to come, but really want to see me come.

some guys don't need to come, and don't care if I do either.

and then, there are SOME guys who really DON’T want me to come. they are so worried about come, that they dont even want to be near someone else’s. alas, there is a lot of ignorance out there about STDs and health and safety, which holds some people back.

I had to laugh when I read Mikey9nola’s comment about how long it takes him to come. I have a similar thing going on, but 45 mins or an hour, Mikey? wow....

in my case, it takes me at least a good 10 minutes. and if I start to sense that the client isnt really interested in waiting it out, isnt really into helping me come, or even if I feel like we have a time constraint or something else, the time can get extended longer. I think for me its both an asset and a liability... I haven’t any pre-cum, can fuck for long periods of time, can play indefinitely, and so all that’s good. then, though, the liability is if someone wants to see me come NOW - well, thats just not gonna happen. I need at least 10 mins, and all the planets have to align - heh heh - for the spunk to fly.

 

speaking of which, I have a photo I'd like to add to this thread - my recent come load shot about 6 feet, onto the mirror above my bed - but I can't upload the damned pic without posting it first online. so if anyone can do it for me, I'll send it to you via email...

[bostonman]

I personally think coming is overrated. some of the best sexual experiences I’ve ever had didn't include orgasm. now don't get me wrong, I love to shoot my load just as much as the next guy (well, judging from this array of comments on the thread, maybe not the next guy - but the guy next to him... LOL)

 

I had a very sweet time with an escort last night. We had talked beforehand about what we wanted to do, and though he knew I wanted to focus more on servicing him and definitely wanted to get him off, he offered to get me off as well, which was great. In the scheme of things in actually meeting him, he wound up cumming, I didn't. And I was totally fine with that. I enjoyed what we did, I enjoyed his orgasm, and then later I had a very erotic time jerking off, thinking back to what we had just done together, and giving myself a very big "big O" lol. It didn't bother me in the least. And since he and I were very open with each other throughout, the fact that he didn't ask me if I was ok with that just seems to say that he already sensed that. What we DID share - a very intense hour of sensual and sexual fun, was great on its own without my little swimmers having to appear, lol.

[JT Brooklyn]

I have always discussed the Working Guy cumming before "Sealing the Deal" which to me has always been the Highlight of the Session.

 

Making Appointments EARLY in the day and for 2 Hours usually there's No Problem on their end.

 

Those who like to make very Late Appointments in the day may end up being disappointed for the obvious reasons.

[+ FreshFluff]

I know that I am new to gay sex, and some may find this strange, but I have not yet been able to cum while with another guy. At this point, for me, it's more about the connection than anything else. I've been with some incredible guys, but it just hasn't happened.

 

Erie, I'm the same way; I can rarely come with someone else, because everything (the touch, the fantasy) needs to be just right. I'm confident that this will change the next time it happens if that's with the guy I have my eye on.

 

I know it's about me learning to relax and also about me needing to drop a whole bunch of weight. It is what it is.

 

 

Erie, do you think losing weight will make you more self confident and help you relax? Or does the extra weight interfere with the sex somehow?

[ErieBear]

Erie, I'm the same way; I can rarely come with someone else, because everything (the touch, the fantasy) needs to be just right. I'm confident that this will change the next time it happens if that's with the guy I have my eye on.

 

 

 

 

Erie, do you think losing weight will make you more self confident and help you relax? Or does the extra weight interfere with the sex somehow?

 

Honestly, my weight and my sexuality are intricately tied together. I've been using my weight to avoid having sex and dealing with my sexuality. I really, really think that I will lose my weight and begin feeling better about myself (and my sexuality) at the same time.

[adriano46]

In the earlier years hiring, I never had an issue cumming, nor with the escort cumming. For me it was easy enough in the course of an hour or 90 minutes to cum, not once but often, if the guy was really hot and pushed my buttons, at least twice.

 

I know that take blood pressure (hypertension) meds has an effect, but oddly I can cum once a day just skimming porn, but when I am with a guy "in the flesh" tings do not work as easily. I do make it clear with each escort that THEIR cumming is not a real issue for me (BUT I want the guy to be rock hard for much of the session). I also tell them that getting me off, or having me cum is not required and they should not feel bad if we do not go there.

 

Occasionally, just occasionally an escort somehow gets beyond that threshold and causes an enormous reaction, which usually is seen in a generous "tip". I have been with some of the most terrific guys out there and have not felt disappointed one way or the other; if they do what I place as my "must haves" in the encounter, then they get high marks from me. Cumming is - no pun intended - icing on the cake.

[Guest verymarried]

Does anyone sense that when the escort becomes focussed on making the client reach orgasm, he is actually focussed on figuring a way to end the session at the earliest opportunity?

[big-n-tall]

Does anyone sense that when the escort becomes focussed on making the client reach orgasm, he is actually focussed on figuring a way to end the session at the earliest opportunity?

 

Feeling that I'm being rushed hasn't happened to me personally. Most of the escorts I have seen (once they figure out they can make me hard again pretty quickly) try to get me to cum again. Others will cuddle or talk with me after, that is if I don't cum until the end of the session.

 

And yes, sometimes I can't come for reasons most of my regulars know, but its rare.