Online/App dating while having an online escort prescense...

[JoeyBryant]

Sometimes, if we expect a certain response, we tend to interpret things in such a way as to confirm our expectations.

 

Is it possible that's what you're doing?

 

Your sentence, "Not so much that he felt that way, but it's the kind of response that gives off that impression" seems to say that you see a distinction between what he feels and how it comes across, but you seem to be reacting to the latter.

 

I'm just going by experience from how people who are truley comfortable with versus guys that have some reservations about it. His response showed he had reservations. It's not scientific or psychological or anything. I'm not saying those concerns can't be addressed, but if he's already made up in his mind something, then it doesn't matter how I interpret it.

 

I find people who are okay with, are okay with it PERIOD. People who are on the fence about whether they are okay with it or not, will continue on having reservations about it.

 

Since he bomb dropped that he's HIV to me (along with 2 other guys I met in the past week), I wonder how bomb dropping 1 is an escort compares to a person bomb dropping that they are positive? I know the 2 are indirectly related to each other, but I wonder if the escorting thing is a little less accepted? So many people out there gladly accept and embrace their HIV status, without even knowing all the facts. On the other hand, you have those that just outright absolutely won't touch someone who is positive.

 

However as an escort, you have the ones who will gladly take the offer to hookup, but shut out any other type of relationship. Or the ones that just want to "be friends". Bullshit. If you're able to have sex, and be my 'friend' (using that term loosely), then you shouldn't have an issue going to the next level.