Proper Etiquette

[Edward]

Is it proper to ask an escort about other escorts? And if it is how far can the questions go?

[Steven_Draker]

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[bigvalboy]

On occasion I have asked several escorts about others escorts that they know. To be clear, it was only a matter of curiosity on my part. I will tell you that every single time the escort has remained very diplomatic in his response, and none of the escorts in question ever said anything other than they knew the other person and as far as they knew, had only heard good things about the other escort. Even after explaining that it was simply a matter of curiosity, the escorts would not volunteer any additional information.

[+ Travis69]

They are in competition so unless I could really trust the escort I'm asking I would take any negative criticism with skepticism.

[Griffin Donavon]

In my opinion, how my mind works is network! Help each other out, the secret to success is too network with other successful people. People who are not successful just look for work, of course if a referred them I would want the other escort to know and ask for a 10-20% fee.. Because if I didn't he wouldn't have got the work.. You pay it forward someone else will do the same.. I think looking at it as competition is a bit negative which creates emotional outburst and jealousy.. When we should unite as a team.

[Griffin Donavon]

However this is a controversial subject, so ill tread lightly.

[Kevin Slater]

I'm always happy to help someone find his best possible match. It's not a competition, and perhaps today he's just in the mood for a different flavor.

 

Kevin Slater

[Edward]

Thanks Kevin, To often I am reminded of this song:

I've been walkin' these streets so long

Singin' the same old song

I know every crack in these dirty sidewalks of Broadway

Where hustle's the name of the game

And nice guys get washed away like the snow and the rain

There's been a load of compromisin'

On the road to my horizon

But I'm gonna be where the lights are shinin' on me

 

Like a rhinestone cowboy

Riding out on a horse in a star-spangled rodeo

Like a rhinestone cowboy

Getting cards and letters from people I don't even know

And offers comin' over the phone

 

Well, I really don't mind the rain

And a smile can hide all the pain

But you're down when you're ridin' the train that's takin' the long way

And I dream of the things I'll do

With a subway token and a dollar tucked inside my shoe

There'll be a load of compromisin'

On the road to my horizon

But I'm gonna be where the lights are shinin' on me

 

Like a rhinestone cowboy

Riding out on a horse in a star-spangled rodeo

Rhinestone cowboy

Gettin' cards and letters from people I don't even know

And offers comin' over the phone

 

Like a rhinestone cowboy

Riding out on a horse in a star-spangled rodeo

 

FADE

Like a rhinestone cowboy

Gettin' card and letters from people I don't even know

[Diverdan]

I am happy to say that I have had wonderful responses when asking one guy about another in the same business. Kevin is right on in his response, and that is what I have found... it has helped me more clearly decide what I want and the responses have been positive. If I ask about someone who they don't think highly of, they usually respond that they don't know the person, or are not in a posiition to give a personal recommendation. On the other hand, I have had positive recommendations for many guys, and their recommendations were right on, and very helpful to me. I usually am able to "repay" that recommendation or referral by more frequent patronage to the person who provided the information. And, I have let my friends know what a great person both individuals turned out to be. But, I respect those who do not want to comment or respond to questions about others too. It is a very personal situation.

[+ Chris Eisenhower]

They are in competition…

 

Not necessarily.

[+ Travis69]

Obviously the concept of competition in the escort world is wrong. I do apologize for even mentioning it.

[Steven_Draker]

Obviously the concept of competition in the escort world is wrong. I do apologize for even mentioning it.

 

Nothing is wrong here, Travis, just a little ... hmm hmm ... "politically incorrect" :-)

 

When you thread this subject you'll meet a bit of everything: some mean people, some really nice people and some "posing" as nice.

 

And let's bear in mind that this is a public board and some topics cannot be discussed openly with a bunch of "anonymous" posters and a couple dozen of (semi)public figures who have an image to protect.

[scottspearsxxx]

I have clients asking about other escorts all the time. Usually when they want to do a 3way or have a group party. The ones I talk about are only the ones that I have experience with. I think that is fair as I am going to be in the room as well...

[instudiocity]

Kinda of a funny story. I was trying to get an appointment with Escort #1 who is well reviewed here. Never got a timely response. Made an in-call with Escort #2, when I walked into the apartment, Escort #1 was on the sofa watching TV. After a fun hour with Escort #2, I said, "You know, I've been trying to make a date with your boyfriend for about 2 months. He never responded to me faster than the next day so I'd made other arrangements." Escort #2 says, "Well, honestly, he's not your type."

 

Three dates later, I asked Escort #2 about another Escort #3. #2 and #3 had been reviewed in a three way on Daddy's. Escort #2 said, "You should try him. I think he's definitely your type." #2 was correct, #3 was my type. Oh, yeah, and #2 was my go-to-guy for over 3 years until he moved away.

 

Escort #1 is still in the business and getting great reviews. And yet, I've never attempted to see him after #2 read me so well.

[JoeyBryant]

Is it proper to ask an escort about other escorts? And if it is how far can the questions go?

 

I'm okay with it...IF we met already. What I don't like is when someone calls me who I have not met before, last minute, and asks if I know anyone who can "come sooner". It's like okay...if you're going to call me when my ad says away between 12/13-12/29 and ask for another escort, why not just call another escort? If I was the Jetsons family, I'd totally be able to see you.

 

However, there is an escort who've I've never met in person yet but seen his video...I finally got the nerve to call him a few months ago. I've had conversations with other clients about him, and we just happen to see the same clients during our travels. I find the talk nothing but interesting.

 

I think looking at it as competition is a bit negative which creates emotional outburst and jealousy.. When we should unite as a team.

 

I agree...but at the same time let's not be naive. We can unite as a team, but at the same time competition is real and can be seen as healthy as well. If we were a team, everyone would be putting in tips at the end of the night like resturaunts do and everyone gets dibs, when they next guy's bills get paid, mine should be too. But since they don't, we're competing. Fortunently, there's no win or lose. Having more clients or having higher rates isn't necessarily a barometer of success, more like what works for each individual.

[MikeCruiseNYC]

I have quite a few clients ask me to recommend other working guys for 3ways. I only recommend other well_reviewed escorts who I know to be a good time from either personal play experience or a mutual hire and don't have that silly attitude of competition. I think that attitude is palpable by both client and partner and really kills the vibe of a potentially great session.

And if I haven't met them I just say so and don't gossip, also a bonerkiller.

[wayout]

I don't think it need be considered a breach of etiquette if the question is asked respectfully and in the proper context (i.e. asking after a reasonable reason for not being able to meet with the escort you are asking the question of). If it is just a fishing expedition to get info, then better not to ask.

 

I've asked quite a few escorts who weren't going to be in town at the time I was visiting. I've gotten a wide range of responses, from being very helpful with strong recommendations to being very indignant at being asked. In between there were polite declines for suggesting anyone, silence or some casual references to others. So for me, I go by the philosophy that it really doesn't hurt to ask but be prepared for any kind of response.

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[Steven_Draker]

don't gossip, also a bonerkiller.

 

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[JoeyBryant]

I only recommend other well_reviewed escorts who I know to be a good time from either personal play experience or a mutual hire and don't have that silly attitude of competition.

And if I haven't met them I just say so and don't gossip, also a bonerkiller.

 

Not sure if that was in response to my post, but in the case I was mentioning...it's usually more of the clients volunteering things more-so than me asking. Anyone knows I don't ask about anyone or indulge heavily on any 1 person, especially if we have met as I definitely wouldn't talk about someone I have met.

 

As for the 'silly attitude' of competition, it's all in how you see it. When people say 'study your competition/know your competition, etc' I don't think there's anything silly about it. Competition doesn't = enemy. I'm not using it in that context. Now, if I were to know someone in my area that I could really trust and had an experience working with, I'd absolutely refer someone to them, if they asked. But there's no one I know close to me who is on my level, and the ones who are...are intimidated by me because they know my potential and would probably not refer someone to me. They say they will, but never do. Therefore, they are competitors, not teammates. One has to earn that title. As in, actually getting together in person and having a successful 3 way. Because at the end of the day, will they refer someone to me?

 

But this thread doesn't really talk about what relationship the escort has with whoever the client is asking about. I assume it was random escorts. Of course, if it's someone you've worked with, it's not a big deal to hand out a referral. That's just acting in good faith.

[+ Cash4Trash]

I have had escorts who know me and my tastes ask about other escorts I've seen. They're looking for dependable, quality men who they can rely on when a client asks for a group scene.

Happy to pass on info about the good guys.

[JoeyBryant]

Obviously the concept of competition in the escort world is wrong. I do apologize for even mentioning it.

 

This isn't directly related to this, but wanted to add to my previous post that I mentioned that competition need not be seen as 'bad', but rather something to acknowledged.

 

There is certainly unhealthy competition out there too, even outside of escorting. I've had friends (and 1 in the picture now) who felt the need to always compete against me in every social venue on every night we're together. He's not even an escort, God forbid if he was one it would never work. They'd try to make friends/people they've had past liaisons with off limits to me, even if the person seen an interest in me. I meet someone who I'm feeling a connection with, he goes off and meets someone right away just to prove he can do the same. Some claim to know (of) every attractive person you ever come across, and then finding something revealing to say about them to steer you away from them because THEY couldn't keep the guy around.

 

That kind of competition is 'silly' as Mike mentioned. But that's the bad stuff. Some people are in a perpetual competitive mode, and don't know when to quit it and forget it. I'm just here to have a good time, it's not a race. Being that I've met many guys who tend to operate in this type of mode with many of their friends and acquaintances, however subtle (after-all, competitiveness is ingrained in our gender), I can't imagine things would be that much different in the escort world.