Tristan Baldwin DC Visit

[skibum]

I need to vent on an unpleasant experience.

 

Two attempts at an appt. with Tristan here in DC: The first was for two hour in December, which I made with Rick. I texted Tristan the morning of our appt. to find out his hotel information. I heard back from Rick that because of snow in New England that Tristan was not going to make it to DC that day. Understood; he can’t control the weather.

 

Undeterred, a week ago, I booked only a one hour appt. (based on comments in the thread “Tristan Baldwin and Handlers”) with Tristan through Rick for today (Wed) @ 4PM in DC. Rick assured me that Tristan would be getting in touch beforehand to let me know his hotel, etc. At 3:15, I still had not heard from Tristan, so I texted Rick to ask what was happening. At 4:07 Rick replied “Tristan told me he texted you that his train schedule had changed. We apologize. He hasn’t even left Boston yet”. I never received a text from Tristan.

 

What is really strange is that on both appointments, the entire interface has been through Rick, with no conversations or texts from Tristan, in spite of what is stated in his ad.

 

I always treat everyone with respect, including escorts. I am not new to hiring escorts, as I’ve been doing it for a number of years, but I’ve never been treated with this type of disregard. I’m a busy professional and I don’t have time to waste on stupid game playing.

 

He may get glowing reviews as a nice guy and professional, but that has not been my experience. As the saying goes “your mileage may vary”.

[kjun]

At one time I thought this guy was the hottest man and very desirable. Now, I feel differently. As they say: "Too much drama" in hooking up with him. All this crap of having to go through an intermediary and not knowing until the last minute that he won't show is too much BS for me. This is just my opinion from what I have read, but he is off of my list.

[+ ArVaGuy]

Look on the bright side.

 

Think of the money you just saved.

[Becket]

I agree it was very weird talking to Rick about an appointment with Tristan. It was almost like having to speak to the nurse for fifteen minutes before one would be allowed to see the doctor. Rick wants lots of details about what the client is seeking, and is very detailed and explicit regarding what Tristan will and will NOT do. I guess that's all fine. Can't complain about too thorough communication. But for me part of the session is the little bit of mystery. "What will the escort really look like? Will he be into me? etc." I have as much fun fantasizing about the upcoming event than the event itself. (And haven't we all had those times when the fantasy was far better than the reality.) I guess with Tristan one will know exactly how the session will go. And likewise, the patient knows exactly how a prostate exam will go. Not much fantasy or mystery in either one of those appointments I'm afraid.

[+ tristanbaldwin]

Well, I'm sorry that the two posters above feel that way. However, without being too sarcastic, someone please inform me of how I'm being 'too much drama' to connect here? I will respect the clients particulars here and just say that a situation exists where I was specifically told not to call or text, due to discretion reasons. Thus, when you get a call from a number you dont recognize/blocked but no voicemail, thats as close to a 'bat signal' that I can give that I need to notify you of a change in the travel arrangements, without violating the prescribed rules of communication...set forth by the client...not me.

 

So are you going to sit here and say I blew you off on an appointment in DC? Please post in open forum what hotel I'm staying at in DC, then. How can you blow someone off/stand them up when you don't even have an idea of where we were to meet? Thats the information you needed to be able to answer the voicemail or text to receive.

 

Not looking to be combative here, but please do me a favor- pull up the weather for December 27th, 2011, the day we were to connect in DC. Did 12"+ of snow not fall in NJ and CT, including CLOSURE of the Jersey turnpike for several hours, just north of the Bordentown exit? I can show this forum my EZPASS receipts, for the aforementioned trip. But of course, it's unreasonable for me to be expected to show up in DC on time, through 12" of snow, to make that appointment on the 27th.

 

I wish you luck finding escorts in the future, not calling me for your needs is your perogative. But before you slam on the forums, please remember that there are two sides to every coin and you as a business professional would do well to play Devil's advocate before the clarity is offered so rudely as this...because this benefits no one.

 

If a client was to cancel on an appointment because he had to commute through 12" of snow, as you felt irked by me doing in December(27th, again, pull the weather)..do the escorts flame people on forums? No, they try to be realists, shrug their shoulders, and say 'next time'. Thank you for feeling that snowstorm was my intention, and my responsibility, to be drudged up here.

 

Thank you for your thoughts, everyone is entitled to them.

 

Regards,

 

Tristan

 

 

Re: Beckett-

 

Appreciate your thoughts, offering both the positive and negatives of that communication method. As far as too thorough of communication, and taking the 'mystery' of it- youll never see me get accused of saying Ill do 'X', taking money for 'X', and then NOT doing X. No bait and switching, like guys who'll say theyll do something and end up not. Would rather tell the truth and never book a client, then lie to a client just to get a payday. Not worth the karma.

[jimboivyo]

Well, I'm sorry that the two posters above feel that way. However, without being too sarcastic...

 

with you and rik it seems there's never just a apology for the break down in communication. always a barb in thrown in. always another excuse

 

when things go wrong and they seem to a lot with you, just apologize, promise to do better next time and move on. it's unprofessional as hell to sit here and throw it back at him

 

you do yousrself a great dis service by coming here to argue

[JT Brooklyn]

"Popularity" has its Price and Problems. I have always found the Non-Stars to be the Best Investment in Time & Money!

 

"Longevity" is not always a guaranteed Good Time with a Working Guy!

[Becket]

What I meant to say was that we will indeed trade off mystery for more certitude when an escort has a handler. It will be interesting to see if other escorts take on handlers in the future. Perhaps it is the new "wave" in the industry. And I certainly didn't mean to compare an appointment with Tristan to a prostate exam. That was a cheap shot for which I apologize.

[JT Brooklyn]

What I meant to say was that we will indeed trade off mystery for more certitude when an escort has a handler. It will be interesting to see if other escorts take on handlers in the future. Perhaps it is the new "wave" in the industry. And I certainly didn't mean to compare an appointment with Tristan to a prostate exam. That was a cheap shot for which I apologize.

 

Maybe a few "Working Guys" who can get $400-500 an hour will part with some of it for a "Middle" Man..But it just never will make any Financial sense to the Average Working Guy! It's tooo much damn Work to pay a pimp the other name used for 'middle' men!

[Epigonos]

Having followed the previous Tristan Baldwin thread (without comment) and now this one I must say that for my money jimboivyo and Brooklyn Guy have nailed it.

[nycfan2003]

Hey, Tristan, You are correct. Let me give an example. I had the greatest massage in Phoenix last weekend and scheduled again for today.

Unfortunately, I got the flu. I contacted my masseur and he understood completely . I hate to cancel, and the masseur and I have been in contact since.

He did not want to get sick, and hoped I got well.

If someone doesn't want to see you, that's too bad. They are missing the very best.

And to have to schedule through Rik is not a problem for me. When we were meeting in December, snow definitely delayed you. I appreciated Rik's

call to tell me you would be delayed. No worries and we had a great time.

Ignore the posts. I consider you the best, and enjoy talking to Rik.

[down_to_business]

I would speculate that if things continue on the same path, poor customer service, that there won't be any scheduling problems to worry about in the future. I could care less if that poor customer service came from the service provider or the answering service.

 

Once again jimboivyo got it right and has given you some excellent advice. Say sorry, I will do better next time, and move on.

[zach_wilson]

Tristian,

As stated it is best to apologize and hope that maybe next time the flight isn't canceled etc. no one can control the weather. In business it is stated that "the customer is always right" whilst it may not always be the correct thing to say in the business we are in, it stands true. As far as contact with clients maybe try to after Rik books the appointment down just send a text saying "Hey it's Tristian I just wanted to touch base and let you know I look forward to our meeting together and greatly appreciate your interest". Also you stated that we as escorts don't put clients on blast for canceling however if you were to look in the "ask an escort" division and search clients canceling you will find a few threads on how as escorts we are unhappy when this happens. We just don't put their names on the forum.

[operalover21]

"Join Date: Dec 1969"

 

Huh?

[operalover21]

"The customer is always right"

 

Easily makes the top five stupidest -- and most incorrect -- things ever uttered by man.

[Xander]

Tristian,

 

I know it is very hard keeping up with all of your clients when you travel as much as you do. Its got to be awfully hard keeping all of your ducks in order. The fact of the matter is: You're popular, and clients want the very best from you. This is a good thing.

 

I am not one to give advice, but I would suggest that you look into the financial viability of scaling your operations down a bit if this sort of problem happens more often. Or at least accounting for a buffer should things wrong (especially during winter/spring!). I understand where you are coming from, and I think you should take this (and other) criticisms as messages for you to make yourself better than you are.

[Traveler North]

Hey kjun, have arranged to see Tristan thru Rik several times and everything went smoothly. Tristan has several "irons in the fire" and Rik helps keep a handle on his escorting. Have never had a problem going thru Rik, who I have talked at length a few times. and ALWAYS had a wonderful time with Tristan. Tristan is very masculine and a wrestler but he has always been to kind, considerate, compasionate as well as hot guy to be with.

[+ azdr0710]

sometimes we reap what we sow

[jimboivyo]

Hey kjun, have arranged to see Tristan thru Rik several times and everything went smoothly. Tristan has several "irons in the fire" and Rik helps keep a handle on his escorting. Have never had a problem going thru Rik, who I have talked at length a few times. and ALWAYS had a wonderful time with Tristan. Tristan is very masculine and a wrestler but he has always been to kind, considerate, compasionate as well as hot guy to be with.

 

its gotta be true that the guy can deliver- look at his reviews. I don't doubt them for a second

 

my problem is how they handle people. it sounds down right clinical. why not just have wouldbe clients send in a fill in the blank test too? what ever happened to the art of getting to know someone through real conversation?

 

too many hoops to jump thru for a guy who doesnt seem to be able to handle whats on his plate. tristan doesn't need to put another hurdle in the way (rik). he just needs to realize this is a customer service based job

[Epigonos]

Had I been smarter than I am I would have avoided this entire thread like I did the previous one regarding Tristan.

 

Tristan has an absolute right to operate his businesses in any manner he chooses. Potential clients have an absolute right to comply with his business practices OR look elsewhere. Tristan is obviously happy with the way he is doing things and will undoubtedly continue to do so in the same manner.

 

Now I for one am definitely a member of the group that would NOT under any circumstances go through a middle man (pimp) to arrange a meeting with an escort. The entire idea is simply beyond my realm of comprehension. Should my opinion on this matter changes Tristan’s way of operating – absolutely NOT that’s his choice NOT mine.

 

Did skibum have the right to vent his frustration on this forum? ABSOLUTELY! He couldn’t write a review. Daddy has frequently stated in the past that if one hasn’t eaten in the restaurant one can’t write a review and skibum didn’t eat in the restaurant. Did Tristan have the right to contest skibum’s comments? ABSOLUTELY! Now as far as I’m concerned that’s where the whole damn thing should have ended. There is no reason what-so-ever for a multitude of posters, myself included, to jump in and take sides. What frankly is the point?????

 

P.S. I have promised myself that this is the absolute last comment I intend to post regarding Tristan's business practices.

[MrBigTL]

Had I been smarter than I am I would have avoided this entire thread like I did the previous one regarding Tristan.

 

Tristan has an absolute right to operate his businesses in any manner he chooses. Potential clients have an absolute right to comply with his business practices OR look elsewhere. Tristan is obviously happy with the way he is doing things and will undoubtedly continue to do so in the same manner.

 

Now I for one am definitely a member of the group that would NOT under any circumstances go through a middle man (pimp) to arrange a meeting with an escort. The entire idea is simply beyond my realm of comprehension. Should my opinion on this matter changes Tristan’s way of operating – absolutely NOT that’s his choice NOT mine.

 

Did skibum have the right to vent his frustration on this forum? ABSOLUTELY! He couldn’t write a review. Daddy has frequently stated in the past that if one hasn’t eaten in the restaurant one can’t write a review and skibum didn’t eat in the restaurant. Did Tristan have the right to contest skibum’s comments? ABSOLUTELY! Now as far as I’m concerned that’s where the whole damn thing should have ended. There is no reason what-so-ever for a multitude of posters, myself included, to jump in and take sides. What frankly is the point?????

 

P.S. I have promised myself that this the absolute last comment I intend to post regarding Tristan's business practices.

 

I am totally with you, I never go through agencies or handlers or pimps or introduction services. I have never used an agency even back in the good ole days when it was more popular. If I can't make direct contact then I simply am not going to hire. For me there has to be a sexual connection and the way and manner in which the escort speaks can make all the difference in the world to me. But as you have stated it is a personal decision and issue on both sides and my own choice in the manner should not dictate how others chose.

[skibum]

Well, I'm sorry that the two posters above feel that way. However, without being too sarcastic, someone please inform me of how I'm being 'too much drama' to connect here? I will respect the clients particulars here and just say that a situation exists where I was specifically told not to call or text, due to discretion reasons. Thus, when you get a call from a number you dont recognize/blocked but no voicemail, thats as close to a 'bat signal' that I can give that I need to notify you of a change in the travel arrangements, without violating the prescribed rules of communication...set forth by the client...not me.

 

So are you going to sit here and say I blew you off on an appointment in DC? Please post in open forum what hotel I'm staying at in DC, then. How can you blow someone off/stand them up when you don't even have an idea of where we were to meet? Thats the information you needed to be able to answer the voicemail or text to receive.

 

Not looking to be combative here, but please do me a favor- pull up the weather for December 27th, 2011, the day we were to connect in DC. Did 12"+ of snow not fall in NJ and CT, including CLOSURE of the Jersey turnpike for several hours, just north of the Bordentown exit? I can show this forum my EZPASS receipts, for the aforementioned trip. But of course, it's unreasonable for me to be expected to show up in DC on time, through 12" of snow, to make that appointment on the 27th.

 

I wish you luck finding escorts in the future, not calling me for your needs is your perogative. But before you slam on the forums, please remember that there are two sides to every coin and you as a business professional would do well to play Devil's advocate before the clarity is offered so rudely as this...because this benefits no one.

 

If a client was to cancel on an appointment because he had to commute through 12" of snow, as you felt irked by me doing in December(27th, again, pull the weather)..do the escorts flame people on forums? No, they try to be realists, shrug their shoulders, and say 'next time'. Thank you for feeling that snowstorm was my intention, and my responsibility, to be drudged up here.

 

Thank you for your thoughts, everyone is entitled to them.

 

Regards,

 

Tristan

 

I don’t doubt that Tristan was all that the guys who’ve been with him have said he is, which is why I was trying to book with him. And my interaction with Rick was always very pleasant, which is why I was so surprised that it took this turn.

 

I don’t want to get into a pissin contest, but feel I have to correct some of the spin:

 

 

1. Just to set the record straight: I never spoke to you, EVER!! I expect any escort to be discreet, but never made a request to Rick not to call or text me. My number is not blocked and I can receive texts and voicemail. You contradict Rick’s text to me, which stated that you sent me a text about your still being in Boston at the time our appointment was scheduled. But, I never received a text from you.
   
2. So, you’re saying that I never had an appointment??? Please check with Rick, as I clearly setup an appointment with him. He even encouraged me to take the Feb 27^th date, since you had just added that day to your DC schedule and were completely open. He said that you would discreetly let me know where you were staying once you knew.
   
3. Please read my post: I never said that your canceling in December was a problem and I was not irked. I was merely giving context to our appointment history.
   

 

My post was to vent my frustration with being stood up.

 

I completely agree with jimboivyo that rather than getting defensive, the appropriate thing to do was apologize and move on.

[+ WilliamM]

 

Not looking to be combative here, but please do me a favor- pull up the weather for December 27th, 2011, the day we were to connect in DC. Did 12"+ of snow not fall in NJ and CT, including CLOSURE of the Jersey turnpike for several hours, just north of the Bordentown exit? I can show this forum my EZPASS receipts, for the aforementioned trip. But of course, it's unreasonable for me to be expected to show up in DC on time, through 12" of snow, to make that appointment on the 27th.

 

 

I drove from Albany to Philadelphia on the morning of Decemeber 27. Yes, there was 12'' of snow in Albany and further south. The driving was rough in many places, but not on the major roads. I had no trouble on the New Jersey Turnpike, and arrived in Philadelphia on time. True, I did not drive through CT. And I could understand getting stuck on slippery side streets. Just because I arrived on time does not mean you did not have legitimate problems. But, it was hardly the worst snow of the decade, or even this winter or in December. Note: I assume you mean Dec. 27, 2012, not 2011 as you wrote.

[Tommygunzz]

OK, thankfully that will be one less person stoking the fire around a perfect gentleman, in my opinion, Tristan Baldwin. And, unlike some, I have met him. And, I have booked through Rick. No different, again in my opinion, than using any of the agencies that post on here from time to time. Shake it off, people. Let's move on.

[jimboivyo]

OK, thankfully that will be one less person stoking the fire around a perfect gentleman, in my opinion, Tristan Baldwin. And, unlike some, I have met him. And, I have booked through Rick. No different, again in my opinion, than using any of the agencies that post on here from time to time. Shake it off, people. Let's move on.

 

easy to shake when it wasn't you who was effected. let the man have his say

 

baldwin was voted best of the year and with that comes the spotlight. both good and bad