Arpad Miklos Deceased

[leanbtm]

very sad news, my condolences to his friends and famliy. I only met him twice, and he struck me as smart, very level headed, very grounded not the type of person to think this was the best way out. I think it was on his website where he mentioned finally getting out of financial debt and I always thought he would start his own production company. The Lower East Side will be a less colorful place now, so sad.

[bobchitown]

Can this be true? I had a truly hot session with him a couple years ago and was just about to email to set something up for an upcoming trip to NYC. Very sad. Suicide? I guess you never know, he seemed so grounded when we met.

[skynyc]

I had a couple of great romps with him too, and he was lots of fun. I would tease him about being a chemist...and he would tease me about my job. He was the last guy I hired before I moved, and we talked about what I would do in a larger space. And very sadly, I never had him back to see the larger space.

I am not against the concept of suicide, but really hope that it is only used when one has really determined that there are no other options.

Arpad, I wish you well on the next leg of your journey.

[RexAll]

Difficult To Know What To Say...

 

I only talked with Arpad on the phone a few times--but I was never able to arrange things. But ok--I'm out of a job right now. I have been since May--it's sapped my confidence in trying to find a new one. I won't say I've been actively suicidal--but maybe passively. I've thought a lot about wouldn't this be a good time if I died. So I have a lot of time to sit and fantasize about the incredible hunks you see on Rentboy and the other sites. And I would look at a guy like Arpad--and just try to imagine what it would be like being him--handsomer than most actors in Hollywood, physique like a brick sh-thouse, and then of course if the 1st two characteristics weren't enough-endowed enough for at least 2 men. None of which describe me. And at least for now I'm muddling through--not very well, but I am. And I just feel so sorry that a guy like Arpad with everything he had going for him, couldn't find a way to muddle through too. I feel so sad for anyone who can't figure out any other way--and also for those people who were close to him. I'm not very religious--but my religion says--and I'm sure this will be familiar to at least a few of you--May his memory bring a blessing to those he left behind. So while it's not enough--never enough--I hope the people he loved and who loved him can at some point think of him and feel glad for the time they had together without overwhelming sadness. My very best to his family and friends.

 

Rex

[justaguy]

Very sad news. May he rest in peace.

[Pegasus]

I'm having a difficult time processing this terrible news. Arpad and I spent a couple hours together last time he was in Dallas this past October. He seemed upbeat and happy...no outward signs of being troubled at all. He never has seemed like the type to do drugs, etc. Can't imagine what could have led him to end it all. This just makes me very sad. Rest in peace Arpad.

[whipped guy]

When I first read this I could not believe it. That's why like a few others it has taken me a while to process and respond. I think that we all at one time or another have been in the depths of despair and have had thoughts of suicide... Unfortunately for some individuals such musings have been serious considerations. For many others such thoughts have been flippantly fleeting.

 

 

At any rate, I like so many others can't quite believe it. I never hooked up with Arpad, but down deep I knew that we would have clicked. He was always on the back burner... Some one with whom I would eventually see. It was in a way comforting to know that he was always there and that one of these days he would put a smile on my face... Well, unfortunately that will never come to pass... So while a small part of me feels a loss on a personal or in a sense a selfish level, the greater part of me is deeply saddened that Arpad felt that suicide proved to be the ultimate solution to dig himself out of whatever dilemma enveloped his existence.

 

 

May he be at peace.

[leigh.bess.toad]

And now the story of Arpad's suicide is on the front page of the Gay Voices section on Huffington Post. This is truly horrible news and again I offer condolences to all of the many men here who knew him.

[Muscle Lover 2]

RIP Arpad. I only had the pleasure of spending time with him on one occasion but have always loved his movies. He was phenomenal in person. Such a nice man. Just seeing this post heading caused my heart to lurch. I similarly cared a great deal for Erik Rhodes and it is doubly horrible to lose both of them in such a short period of time. I hope each find the peace they apparently needed. My condolences to the family of Arpad.

[jimboivyo]

a 'duh' statement but maybe its time that industry provide some actual care for their performers. they're dropping like flies lately

 

suicide is ugly and unneeded. sad he felt that was his only choice

[JT Brooklyn]

Suicide Gay or Straight is a Tragic Event! Condolenses to his Family and those Close to him at this time. R.I.P. Big Guy...

[tyro]

Rest in peace beautiful man.

T

[Steven_Draker]

a 'duh' statement

 

Grow a HEART !

 

http://www.wallpagers.com/imgbig/wallpapers_1606.jpg

[+ Dane Scott]

I only met him once. I remember my client and I getting weak in the knees as this beautiful sexy man from the movies was standing in front of us. Someone said Gentle Giant. Perfect.

 

Rest In Peace Arpad

[Rick Munroe]

Arpad and I were hired together once upon a time (the client wanted to watch him top me). Very sweet and sexy man. And very, very sad news.

[jimboivyo]

Grow a HEART !

 

http://www.wallpagers.com/imgbig/wallpapers_1606.jpg

 

how about attempting to understand american slang and usage?

 

I expressed how sad it was and how the industry needs to take a closer look at itself to prevent this on repeat

[Decatur Guy]

I only talked with Arpad on the phone a few times--but I was never able to arrange things. But ok--I'm out of a job right now. I have been since May--it's sapped my confidence in trying to find a new one. I won't say I've been actively suicidal--but maybe passively. I've thought a lot about wouldn't this be a good time if I died. So I have a lot of time to sit and fantasize about the incredible hunks you see on Rentboy and the other sites. And I would look at a guy like Arpad--and just try to imagine what it would be like being him--handsomer than most actors in Hollywood, physique like a brick sh-thouse, and then of course if the 1st two characteristics weren't enough-endowed enough for at least 2 men. None of which describe me. And at least for now I'm muddling through--not very well, but I am. And I just feel so sorry that a guy like Arpad with everything he had going for him, couldn't find a way to muddle through too. I feel so sad for anyone who can't figure out any other way--and also for those people who were close to him. I'm not very religious--but my religion says--and I'm sure this will be familiar to at least a few of you--May his memory bring a blessing to those he left behind. So while it's not enough--never enough--I hope the people he loved and who loved him can at some point think of him and feel glad for the time they had together without overwhelming sadness. My very best to his family and friends.

 

Rex

 

I know exactly what you mean. It's a strange feeling when someone you're envious of does this. And I'm very sorry to hear about your job situation. I hope something comes your way soon. The past few years have been awful in that regard.

[Mikebiz]

Oh my goodness. Very bad sad news. We knew him casually and were always impressed by him. Peace to your soul Arpad.

 

Mike

[JT Brooklyn]

how about attempting to understand american slang and usage?

 

I expressed how sad it was and how the industry needs to take a closer look at itself to prevent this on repeat

 

It has not and may never be "established or published" as to what caused Arphad Miklos to take his own Life!

 

Assuming his Long Porn Career was the reason is just that assuming!

[JoeyBryant]

Arpad and I were hired together once upon a time (the client wanted to watch him top me). Very sweet and sexy man. And very, very sad news.

 

I bet that was fun. Real life porn with a porn star.

 

a 'duh' statement but maybe its time that industry provide some actual care for their performers.

 

I agree...It's a very high profile industry. Of course we just don't know if it was related to the porn indstry or not. It could have been something completely disassociated from porn. We just don't know what's going on behind the scenes. Some of my really good looking friends have some really unfortunate childhoods and past relationships....and 10-20 years later it just comes back with a vengeance.

 

I am not against the concept of suicide, but really hope that it is only used when one has really determined that there are no other options.

 

But what may not be any options at the moment in time may just be that, the moment in time. I can't condone suicide simply because the mere fact of when someone is gone... You can't just go back and re-do it...or wake up and do it all over again. It's not like they've left the country only to return in another lifetime. You can't wish you'd of done 1 more thing after you made that choice.

[Rick Munroe]

It has not and may never be "established or published" as to what caused Arphad Miklos to take his own Life!

 

Exactly. His suicide note explicitly said he wasn't going to give anyone the satisfaction of knowing his true motives (or something to that effect).

 

I bet that was fun. Real life porn with a porn star.

 

I admit I was a bit star struck.

[Steven_Draker]

His suicide note explicitly said he wasn't going to give anyone the satisfaction of knowing his true motives (or something to that effect).

 

Kinda Arpad saw that coming after the subsequent tragic losses of Dror Barak, Erik Rhodes and Josh Weston. He knew that some would die for to know what's the exact cause and manner of death. This isn't the autopsy room.

 

May his soul rest in peace.

[buckguy]

Sadly, it hasn't stopped people from projecting their value judgments or their own personal problems on him in death. The various threads I've seen around the web won't let him rest in peace.

[btmstudnyc]

To anyone that cares....I got this invite....thought I'd extend it...

 

 

Please come and celebrate the life of porn actor, legend and sexy man Arapad Miklos at G Lounge this Sunday from 5- 8pm

Many people loved him, many people watched him, many people got off with him

Now is the chance to pay homage to the man BEHIND the legend, the sweet and lovable person inside the big muscle daddy exterior.

Join us at G Lounge where he was a host of the DILF party. This is a spot where he enjoyed seeing his friends, fans and others while sharing his drink tickets and making us all laugh.

 

So come on, lets laugh, cry, hook up and have a drink in his memory...

Invite people and spread the word. Lets get this place crowded!

I lieu of flowers or any other offerings please make a donation to one of the following charities (which were his favorite) in his name if so inclined.

 

The ASPCA (He LOVED dogs and cats)

www.aspca.org/donate

 

The National Park Service (He visited almost every one)

www.nps.gov/getinvolved/donate.htm

 

or one right here at home

 

The Gay Men's Health Center (He gave a lot back to the community)

www.gmhc.org/

 

Thanks to Jake and G lounge for allowing us to have this event.

 

That's the invite, so if you need more closure.

JIM

I'll definitely try and make it.

[GoodFella69]

Just now reading this terrible news. I never met Arpad, but darn sure would have hired him if I thought there was a chance of convincing him to bottom. Physically, I always thought he is/was a beautiful specimen of masculinity. It's nice to read here and elsewhere that Arpad was also a friendly, generous and considerate man who gave back to "our" community through his work with numerous LGBT charities. My condolences to all of those here who knew him well. RIP.