Following up With a Client After a Session

[Rusty Blue]

How do you like to follow up with a client?

I can get pretty excited after a particularly nice session and will want to follow up with

an e-mail or text message; essentially, letting a client know I had a great time with

them. Sometimes I'll want to say more, telling a client I'd be happy to see them again

without seeming pushy.

I'm curious to know what's acceptable to other escorts and clients. Am I crossing

unspoken boundaries by contacting a client after our exchange? Or is my level of

sentiment out of hand?

[down_to_business]

From this clients perspective. I would appreciate such an email. I think you will find most clients would appreciate such an email. I estimate it at about 55% would prefer it, 30% would not prefer it and 15% could care less either way. The problem area would be, of the ones that would not prefer it, some number of them would strongly not prefer it, and what seems like such an innocent or nice gesture to you and me would be a very off-putting and not appreciated to them.

 

Texts are a lit trickier and I think the percentages would fall possibly in the opposite range 30% prefer it, 55% not prefer it, and 15% care less. I have much less confidence in its success. Some people forget to turn sound off (for example) on their cells and a text message at an inappropriate time could be embarassing or worse (i.e. a closeted man in front of his wife).

 

I think it would be a nice gesture, most of the time. It may generate some repeat business- sometimes we really don't have a clue if you guys could care less or even want us to hire you again, but for a few it may anger them, force them to explain something they would rather not explain, and cost you a repeat.

 

You really have to walk a tightrope sometimes!

[PATRICK12]

As a client I always appreciate a contact if the experience was enjoyable for the escort - usually best method is by media of initial contact i.e. if client had contacted first via email I think it safe to consider that is the most comfortable media for them in terms of privacy, if the client is not wanting to continue the association he can always ignore or reply with a negative email. Voice calls could be difficult as you cannot know the clients situation when he takes the call.

[jawjateck]

I welcome follow-up emails. I don't feel better for receiving one, or worse for not, but it let's me know whether the provider appreciates my biz. So if I had a good time, a follow-up email will more likely induce another appointment. Unless a client gives you the specific ok to contact him again via cell, use restraint using voice/text due to discretion issues. I don't text much, and do so only with select escorts.

[+ Charlie]

I am among the clients who do not want a follow-up email or call, partly because I rarely hire anyone more than once. Follow-ups, no matter how sincere, can appear to be attempts to drum up more business. I would suggest that you wait until you have seen a client more than once before contacting him afterwards, and even then you should probably ask him at the end of the session if he minds being contacted, and how he would like you to do it. An escort whom I had seen a couple of times once called me while I was hosting a family dinner party; it annoyed me so much that I never hired him again.

[Rod Hagen]

I am among the clients who do not want a follow-up email or call, partly because I rarely hire anyone more than once. Follow-ups, no matter how sincere, can appear to be attempts to drum up more business. I would suggest that you wait until you have seen a client more than once before contacting him afterwards, and even then you should probably ask him at the end of the session if he minds being contacted, and how he would like you to do it. An escort whom I had seen a couple of times once called me while I was hosting a family dinner party; it annoyed me so much that I never hired him again.

 

I think you are perhaps more sensitive than most.

 

What you can tell an escort before during or immediately after an appointment, nicely, "As you know discretion is very important to me, so please don't email me and please please don't call me. I'll contact you next time we are going to meet. Ok?" Potential future problems solved.

 

Otherwise a thank you email to a client from an escort shortly after an appointment is not indiscreet and shouldn't be a problem. JUST after an appointment a phone call, if you don't have their email and you are 100% certain they are still in their car on the way home, is ok l, but don't leave a voicemail and be sure to block your number in that instance.

 

I'm too old to text, so I forgot about that option which is why I'm editing this now. If you have their email address, email the thank you. If you have their phone number but no email and you REALLY want to thank them and you know for sure they aren't back at home or work because only a short time has passed since they left your love-nest and they told you they were stopping at the gas station on the way home, then it's MUCH better to call in your Thank You from a temporarily blocked number, NOT leaving a voicemail, than it is to text.

 

If they miss the text and someone else sees it later, they have lots of splainin' to do. Same goes for a missed, non-blocked, call.

 

Even if they texted you earlier/initially, phone back. Actually, that's good advice in all situations involving escorting: you receive a text, you then GIVE a call.

 

So this begs the question of whether or not it's ok to email a client days afterward, because certainly it's not ok to phone the client days afterward unless of course you are also friends who talk often. Emailing a client out of the blue, while preferable to a phone call out of the blue, is probably a bit needy/grabby but is also very VERY common.

 

p.s. What's a family dinner party?

[KMEM]

From this clients perspective. I would appreciate such an email. I think you will find most clients would appreciate such an email. I estimate it at about 55% would prefer it, 30% would not prefer it and 15% could care less either way. The problem area would be, of the ones that would not prefer it, some number of them would strongly not prefer it, and what seems like such an innocent or nice gesture to you and me would be a very off-putting and not appreciated to them.

 

Texts are a lit trickier and I think the percentages would fall possibly in the opposite range 30% prefer it, 55% not prefer it, and 15% care less. I have much less confidence in its success. Some people forget to turn sound off (for example) on their cells and a text message at an inappropriate time could be embarassing or worse (i.e. a closeted man in front of his wife).

 

I think it would be a nice gesture, most of the time. It may generate some repeat business- sometimes we really don't have a clue if you guys could care less or even want us to hire you again, but for a few it may anger them, force them to explain something they would rather not explain, and cost you a repeat.

 

You really have to walk a tightrope sometimes!

 

Where or how did you come up with those stats? They may be entirely correct but not necessarily intuitive, at least according to me.

 

I usually send an email stating how well a meeting went to the escort and I appreciate (and expect) some sort of reply but I ordinarily hire for at least one day, if not longer, and usually with multiple visits that either already have happened or will soon.

 

There is no "stock" answer for every situation.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[+ Charlie]

p.s. What's a family dinner party?

 

A dinner party for family members (in this case, it was a birthday dinner for my mother).

[KMEM]

Charlie-

 

You are only being too kind. A family dinner party is simply any late meal which involves family members; some are more "important" than others, such as one for your mother. They may or may not be "royal" occasions.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[+ Travis69]

Why not just take a few minutes at the end of your session to tell the client how much you enjoyed it, appreciate his busy and hopes he comes back? Do this before he leaves. I make all appointments by phone and would not like a "thank you call". If I did use email or text to set up the appt., I already get enough emails and texts for business/friends and don't need another one.

[+ sf westcoaster]

As a client I have received and have appreciated a folllow-up note from the escort. It need not be lengthy, just a thank you and, if you (the escort) are so inclined, say that you would open to a future session. Email should be the avenue of communication, never a telephone call and texting is still a bit too impersonal.

[jimboivyo]

I am among the clients who do not want a follow-up email or call, partly because I rarely hire anyone more than once. Follow-ups, no matter how sincere, can appear to be attempts to drum up more business. I would suggest that you wait until you have seen a client more than once before contacting him afterwards, and even then you should probably ask him at the end of the session if he minds being contacted, and how he would like you to do it. An escort whom I had seen a couple of times once called me while I was hosting a family dinner party; it annoyed me so much that I never hired him again.

 

wow. you sure sound like a dream client. lol

[Rod Hagen]

Why not just take a few minutes at the end of your session to tell the client how much you enjoyed it, appreciate his busy and hopes he comes back?

 

Of course as they both dress the good escorts let the client know how much he appreciated the time that just transpired and how they look forward to repeating it.

 

Nevertheless, I can not over emphasize how grateful clients, Charlie and Travis and a few others aside, are to receive a thank you email on the heels of the appointment. The responses to the thank you are more often than not 1. grateful 2. effusive 3. even more likely to produce a return than simply giving a great session and thanking them at the end of it.

 

Everyone is busy, everyone gets too many emails, but nobody is required, nor feels compelled, to respond immediately to a casual thank you. In fact, a Thank You email requires no response at all, and only 9 seconds to read.

 

Rather than email, Young escorts are much more inclined to text afterward: "U R fun, thanks Lets do again!" (I know this from 3Somes) and maybe even to text a few weeks/months later, but this is the direction of our culture. Not much can be done.

[Rod Hagen]

A dinner party for family members (in this case, it was a birthday dinner for my mother).

 

So, NOT Pizza slices on paper towels balanced on the knee in front of the family TV. Got it.

[+ Charlie]

Perhaps I misread the intent of the question. A thank you note right after a successful appointment is always appreciated. I was thinking in terms of a call days or longer afterwards, which usually strikes me as fishing for a return engagement.

 

And yes, jimboi, I am probably not the ideal client from the perspective of most escorts, since I am normally looking only for a quickie to get my rocks off, as it were, rather than a relationship of any sort. I could count on my fingers the number of escorts I saw more than once, or for more than a couple of hours, in three decades of hiring (from which I am now, alas! retired). I'm sure most serious escorts would prefer someone who comes back regularly. That doesn't mean, however, that I treat escorts like Kleenex when I am with them.

[nycfan2003]

If I have had a good experience, I always reply with an email and let him know.

And I always get a reply back. I think it's a good idea to affirm what happened.

Perhaps a bit naive, but that's me.

[leigh.bess.toad]

I always appreciate a quick thank you email or text after a session. And most times I think I've always received one. Even from guys I've hired many times.

 

But the record for speed for me was from the wonderful Peter Hung. Who sent me a very brief thank you text. Which I received not more than 25 feet from the front door of the hotel as I left our meeting.

[+ Travis69]

I would hope that the client wouldn't hold it against the escort or masseur if they didn't send a thank you. The business is supposed to be about discretion and sometimes being overly cautious with emails, texts, or calls is the best.

[Decatur Guy]

I'd be quite happy to get an e-mail or text or phone call (in that order) within 48 hours of a session, thanking me for the get together.

[Steven_Draker]

I think a discreet unobtrusive thank-you email would be O.K.

 

A phone call or text message is more delicate since many clients have obligations and are otherwise engaged.

[geoffk]

I appreciate hearing from the escort that he enjoyed the time.

[+ not2rowdy]

I think a discreet unobtrusive thank-you email would be O.K....

 

Appreciated - as emphasized above.

[Guest countryboywny]

I like it when an escort sends me a thank you note. Discretion is necessary for me, but the email, phone number etc. that I use in contact are open for any communication, so a thank you note to that address is not a concern. A thank you note and/or the expression of desire to get together again is helpful because then I know he felt comfortable with me and that I treated him properly. Of course, I RARELY get those messages! But it is important to me to know that he enjoyed the time.

[Steven_Draker]

then I know he felt comfortable with me and that I treated him properly.

 

Properly? ... Anyway who on Earth would want to have a repeat with you? ...

[rickp]

I've used the following system for thank you notes with a client: If he contacted me by email, I always send the thank you via email. If he contacted me by phone, I do nothing. If he contacted via text in advance and there was a rapport established, then I thank him via text; if it was just a quick text to set up the appointment, then I do nothing.