Review or not review when the best you can say is satisfactory

[Bart]

I recently responed to a fellow poster about an experience I had with a gentleman he is was asking about. I did so privately as has become the norm for me when responded to posters request about information regarding a gentleman unless I have a review posted. Usually this means I have found the outing to between a B and D. How do gentleman feel about getting a satisfactory? Do you feel it is as bad as getting a negative and would you be inclined to respond? My goal is not to hurt the gentleman's business. In this case, I would give the gentleman an A for most activities but there were a couple of glaring weaknesses. Kissing being one which he describes as doing in his ad. I also describe the activities that are most important to me and others I would be open to if the gentleman has interest. Secondly he needs to get his exact measurements, I dont get the idea of telling people you are one height and come to meet they are a bit shorter, it is a fantasy killer. There are a few minor things, not any one is reason not hire or even as a collective. I am very good at giving the gentleman every opportunity to make sure this appt will be positive one for both of us.

 

So that is dilemma, I think I am nit picking and that is why I just dont feel comfortable to write a review. With this particular gentleman, if he comes to my area I may or may not see him again, but I would not go out of my way to do so. How do gentlemen feel about this?

[gallahadesquire]

That's why you write the review. Try to size it up for " lack of chemistry" versus non-fulfillment of contract. If he didn't do things he'd agreed to, we'd like to know. If he's misrepresenting himself in height/weight, we need to know.

 

For what it's worth, I'd be careful using the letters "B and D" as they have a different meaning in a different context.

 

PLEASE write there review!

[Diverdan]

ALWAYS write the review and be accurate... that helps everyone, including the escort, because if he says one thing in his ad and he is not that way, then he needs the feedback to be accurate, IMHO. I would stay away from the letter grades, as gallahad has said, but "satisfactory" is not a negative term, especially if the description you give is accurate. What is a turn off for you, may not be for someone else, which is another reason to be descriptive and accurate.

[rvwnsd]

From this client's standpoint, "satisfactory" is just fine. According to Webster's, "satisfactory" is defined as "giving satisfaction, adequate"

 

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/satisfactory

 

Not to engage in a tirade about language and vocabulary, but superlatives are very, very overused. When I see a comment about the "amazing" produce at the farmers' market I have to wonder "In what way did that zucchini amaze you? Did it wash, slice, saute, and serve itself to you?"

[+ deej]

Write the review.

 

It's a data point that tells other clients the escort is still working and does or does not match his advertised statistics or photos, lives up (or doesn't) to his described offerings. Siskel and Ebert never withheld a movie review because they thought the movie was just "meh". They wrote the review and said the movie was just "meh". Nothing wrong with that.

 

Just follow Hooboy's motto: "Honest in our judgement, truthful in our reporting".

 

(That honesty and truthfulness includes being honest and truthful with yourself. )

[Toulouse]

Hello Bart, here's my two-cents:

Write the review, explain why you he received your "satisfactory" rating, delineate whether you would or wouldn't recommend him to others, and also specify whether you would hire the gentleman again.

[Bart]

First I am not writing a review for this gentleman as my outing took place over 7 months ago, it was just an example.

Second I received a private from the client who I had wrote to, funny he would not write a review because like me he too perceives a "satisfactory" review as a negative.

Third talked to three gentlemen yesterday, none of them like "satisfactory, " two of them wish Daddy did not have it, as it might as well be not recommended. Plus some time ago two other gentlemen I know had received a "satisfactory" and both were perturbed by it because they did not see it coming and both would have preferred no review at all.

I suspected I would only hear from clients. I wanted to know if the term Satisfactory had a negative impact rather than informational and gentlemen agree it does have a negative impact. They also said lack of chemistry or connection is not a negative directed at the gentleman, but could be for any reason that the gentleman can't control.

What happens so often is people only look at the rating but don't read the review. So I am leaning to not do the reviews unless recommended or not recommended.

[seeker630]

First I am not writing a review for this gentleman as my outing took place over 7 months ago, it was just an example.

Second I received a private from the client who I had wrote to, funny he would not write a review because like me he too perceives a "satisfactory" review as a negative.

Third talked to three gentlemen yesterday, none of them like "satisfactory, " two of them wish Daddy did not have it, as it might as well be not recommended. Plus some time ago two other gentlemen I know had received a "satisfactory" and both were perturbed by it because they did not see it coming and both would have preferred no review at all.

I suspected I would only hear from clients. I wanted to know if the term Satisfactory had a negative impact rather than informational and gentlemen agree it does have a negative impact. They also said lack of chemistry or connection is not a negative directed at the gentleman, but could be for any reason that the gentleman can't control.

What happens so often is people only look at the rating but don't read the review. So I am leaning to not do the reviews unless recommended or not recommended.

 

Bart, your comment, "What happens so often is people only look at the rating but don't read the review" surprises me. What makes you think that?

 

To me, the narrative is more important than the rating - but of course, there are some reviews in which the narrative is so minimal or non-specific as to be of little worth.

[Phil_musc]

If so many of you say to write the reviews, how come most of what I read here is at least fairly glowing with post coital bliss? Not often do I read that something was nice but not spectacular. If so much of the hiring has to do with fantasy-fulfillment, does this mean that many of us are fantasying about an average encounter? "Oh, yeah, he was an average kisser, with an average body and equipment and possessed average skills. With some much average-ness, he certainly made me comfortable - there were no awkward moments where I felt that I was in over my head." For an average encounter I can go find that for free.I'm looking for something that rocks my socks and gives me that glow that lasts well beyond the encounter. I don't need to pay for "average" or "satisfactory."

 

And yet, if truth be told, probably most hiring experiences are satisfactory but not great. Maybe this is good information to know when considering a hire. Sure, your mileage may vary, as we hear so often, but a slew of C+/B- grades might help us avoid disappointing experiences. If an escort seems unable to muster the energy needed to ignite the chemistry, then probably we should know about this.

[Guy Fawkes]

I'm assuming you checked out his reviews before you contacted. The question is: "Would want to know?" Is it important enough that it would have affected your decision? An Escort can not be 100% for 100% of the clients. Most will accept the satisfactory review, and hopefully will look what they can improve.

 

His exact measurements? Your height can vary 1-2" through out the day. Your length can suffer similarly. Their age? The biggest fight I have is convincing the 30-something that their foot is not in the grave and that their escorting career isn't over.

[Michael Wayne]

if a client witholds average or negative reviews then the system is flawed. Write the review