Bad Reviews of Popular Escorts

[ErieBear]

One thing that I've noticed is that even with a very popular escort, you may not have a great time. In fact, it may go disastrously bad.

 

Do you feel pressure NOT to do a review? I was speaking to someone privately about a very, very popular escort and he told me, "It was just plain awful. The escort was late, rude and then..." and he told me about a very, very serious incident that occurred.

 

I asked him why he didn't write a review up and talk about it and his response was, "I didn't want [escort's name] fan club to gang up on me."

 

Do you feel like we may not be hearing everything that goes on simply because of peer pressure?

[tyro]

I know I didn't write a bad, yet honest, review of a beloved escort for just the reasons you mentioned, EB. I'm sure I'm not the only one.

T

[leigh.bess.toad]

I know I didn't write a bad, yet honest, review of a beloved escort for just the reasons you mentioned, EB. I'm sure I'm not the only one.

T

 

Tyro -- you know that I am aware of who you are talking about. You know I am one of his biggest fans. But I also know that every person's encounter is unique to that person, and that some people just don't mesh. So would I be upset you had a bad experience? Yeah, but not because it was voiced, but because it wasn't what you wanted to have happen. I think you were surprised when I told you it didn't affect any relationship I have with you because that is separate and distinct from the relationship we each have had with that escort.

 

However, I have also been here long enough to know that there are guys who will jump to their favorites defense very vociferously. And I can understand the reticence of someone to do that.

[corndog]

I think it depends on the situation. If the reviewer and the escort just failed to have good chemistry, then maybe skipping the review is ok. However, if something like a "very, very serious incident" occurs, I would sincerely hope that a review would be posted to help warn potential future clients. I think that many of us use the reviews (even brief ones with little detail) to help ensure our safety. For better or worse, when I see someone with a few credible reviews, I go into the situation feeling like I'll be physically secure, not dealing with a cop, or a fraud.

 

And, if you're afraid of reprisals on the message forum, isn't possible to post a review under a different name?

[rossthebosssf]

Even the best escorts have bad days and sometimes, those days coincide with meeting with someone who writes reviews. I suspect that the popular and well reviewed escorts have more bad appointments that we never hear about. I've had a handful of not-so-great experiences with both known and unknown escorts. If I felt the escort was having a bad day or weren't on their game, I simply asked if they wanted to make it up another day. This has led to many wonderful experiences and were followed by positive reviews. Only once did I have an appointment where I felt that even a make-up could fix the issues. Personally, unless threats or violence occurred I would allow the escort to amend the situation before writing a negative review. And if that is the case, who cares what anybody on here thinks? No one can discredit how you truly feel. If they do, they really aren't your friends.

[+ newatthis]

I think it depends on the situation. If the reviewer and the escort just failed to have good chemistry, ...

In my reply in the Noah Driver thread, I mention that I used exactly that excuse to myself to justify not submitting a negative review of a local idol, only to discover later that my experience was not unique. Escorts are meant to be professionals and know how to make the chemistry work; if they can't, other potential clients deserve to know that.

 

Here's what happened to me once: I hired a well-reviewed escort and was expecting a wonderful time. After about 10 minutes, I was feeling milding dissatisfied. A couple of minutes later, the escort stopped what we were doing and said "I think we should stop now; I don't think we're really a good fit and I don't want you to have a bad experience." He explained what he thought was going wrong and agreed to accept only a little money. We subsequently had a protracted email correspondence in which I learned a great deal about myself (and about him). I have only positive feelings about him and about our time together. That's what I mean by professional.

[bigvalboy]

I think overall that it is the 'elephant in the room'...many times I know of members who want to talk about a bad experience, but fear repercussions from an escorts fan club. I know of what Tyro is talking about, and I support her in any decision she would make regarding this. I have not posted negative reviews on popular escorts, because of not wanting to deal with unwarranted attacks, though they came anyway. I think that Corndog makes a good point. If it is a matter of chemistry, then posting a negative review might seem unfair, and I would probably opt for a less confrontational approach, however if as Corndog say a "very very serious incident occurs" perhaps posting the details of that incident would help future clients.

 

Each person is different, and each person has to decide how much of there privacy and dirty laundry they are willing to air. We all have various levels of comfort, and despite the seriousness of the incident if a member wants to hold back that kind of information, then it is certainly their prerogative to do that. I have always supported members for remaining silent. Each to his own. I would hope that each person that goes through something like this would at least learn from the experience, and come away with a greater sense of self.

[+ azdr0710]

very good thread topic here....

 

as corndog says, poor chemistry should not be confused with concerns like tardiness, rude behavior, physical threats and/or apathy....I also had a long meeting with a very well-regarded guy once....he did all I wanted and did not say or do anything negative, but we just weren't connecting in a friendly, chatty way....I think we both had some things going on that day that made that happen....so, a negative review of him seemed entirely inappropriate.....

 

but I'll use this chance to remind everybody, clients and escorts, that pre-meet communication is the most important thing that can insure a successful meeting

[bigvalboy]

I know I didn't write a bad, yet honest, review of a beloved escort for just the reasons you mentioned, EB. I'm sure I'm not the only one.

T

 

"T"...I will always be in your corner on this.

[Boink]

I know of what Tyro is talking about, and I support her in any decision she would make regarding this.

 

Just out of curiosity, is Tyro a female?

[tyro]

Yes, she is.

T

[zeyfur]

For me it depends on the chemistry. I have been with escorts who were polite, presentable and did everything I asked but there was no spark between us. In such cases I would not write a bad review as it is human nature that we click with some people and not with others.

 

 

If there were specific issues like punctuality, hygeine or attitude, then I would write a review. If the escorts fan club attack me, I don't care.

[jimboivyo]

you either click or you don't. it's that simple

 

chemistry can't be forced and if an escort does, it's uncomfortable. not every meet is going to end up in emotional fireworks

 

now someone who rips you off is a whole other thing. that's wrong. scammers should be known and documented

[unsub2O17]

The chemistry thing can be tricky. I once had, what I thought, was a great time with a well known escort. But, when I mentioned a repeat appointment, he replied that his "gut" said that we were not a good match. This was news to me, but, of course, I accepted his decision.

 

On this issue of writing a negative review, I have only had one time where I felt that such a review/warning was justified. It was on a well reviewed escort, but what bothered me the most were the "less than truthful" responses of the escort himself. If he had a fan club, they only mounted a very tepid defense of him--and no attack on me (and, yes, I would have found that very very distasteful).

[hornytwells]

I also once had a less than great experience with an escort who is beloved here, but I chose not review because I honestly didnt think it was his (or my) fault particularly> He tried his best, but the chemistry for me was off-his looks weren't quite what I hoped for from the photos (hence my reluctance to hire without face pics) and there was no spark. But I put that down to the luck of the draw, and I wouldn't give him a bad review, as I think bad reviews should only be written if the escort was dishonest/couldnt deliver etc. or treated the client badly

[biguy]

Yeah, the chemistry thing is personal. I had 4 appointments with a very well-known escort, I thought we hit it off and on our last get-together, wow, as I was ready to leave, I even got a quickie (and he worked for it) as I could still get it up and a great kiss as I walked out the door. He never answered another email or phone call. He's still out there and getting wonderful reviews so I know he didn't quit the biz. In fact, he's never had anything but stellar reviews and many of them. I wouldn't give him a bad review for this...it's just very disconcerting and unsettling and I begin to wonder if it was me tho I know it wasn't.

[Steven_Draker]

I can understand the lack of chemistry reason, but when someone says "extremely horrible experience" ... does that mean that the escort abused you verbally or physically; pointed a gun to your head; took all your personal belongings; grabbed the money from the table and stormed out the door; put a condom on but in the heat of the moment the condom mysteriously disappeared; fucked you bareback and gave you AIDS or something more serious happened? Inquiring minds want to know.

[ErieBear]

Steven, I'm talking about situations where condoms disappeared or people were pressured to bareback. Or the escort is more wrapped up in himself to focus on the needs and wants of the client. And there are other stories that I've heard but I'm not at liberty to reveal but they put the client in immediate physical danger.

[Steven_Draker]

This is serious indeed. You should write to the management and work towards finding a solution and solving the problem.

 

I don't think that spreading innuendo here would help much.

[corndog]

I'm talking about situations where condoms disappeared or people were pressured to bareback.

 

In situations like these, I think it is unforgivable not to speak up. If an escort is behaving this way, they are an immanent physical threat to anyone that hires them. If you know about this behavior and don't speak up, you're culpable. I'm sure some will disagree with my view, but I see this as simple ethics. This is just like a crowd watching, and doing nothing, as a crime takes place. Unfortunately, this phenomenon is common, but still very, very wrong.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I asked him why he didn't write a review up and talk about it and his response was, "I didn't want [escort's name] fan club to gang up on me."

 

Although I didn't intentionally use a different nickname for writing reviews than I use when posting here, there are times when I am grateful I did.

[Diverdan]

I agree with many, but not all of the comments thus far. I am guilty of not writing a review when things did not go well, in part because I think that many times it is a matter of chemistry, and not unfulfilled promises or agreements. If I had a really bad experience where I knew it was not just chemistry, however, I would certainly try to write an objective review and the other person would be free to reply from their point of view. I have had less than steller experiences with well reviewed individuals, and had some fantastic, mind blowing experiences with others where some of the reviews were less than steller. However, I would not worry about being attacked about a review... the negative comments about a review are not contributing to anything, as a good escort does not need defending, and even they recognize that chemistry is a most important ingredient in something so intimate and personal. Just MHO.

[bigvalboy]

I agree with many, but not all of the comments thus far. I am guilty of not writing a review when things did not go well, in part because I think that many times it is a matter of chemistry, and not unfulfilled promises or agreements. If I had a really bad experience where I knew it was not just chemistry, however, I would certainly try to write an objective review and the other person would be free to reply from their point of view. I have had less than steller experiences with well reviewed individuals, and had some fantastic, mind blowing experiences with others where some of the reviews were less than steller. However, I would not worry about being attacked about a review... the negative comments about a review are not contributing to anything, as a good escort does not need defending, and even they recognize that chemistry is a most important ingredient in something so intimate and personal. Just MHO.

 

I understand what you are saying here DD, but you must realize that not every member possesses the strength to be hauled out in the Forum of public opinion. Many are fragile emotionally and do not want to subject themselves to unwarranted attacks. I respect the wishes of members who prefer to remain anonymous and non-confrontational. I don't think that any of us has the right to speak for another member, regardless how offensive we feel the act was.

 

I had to think long and hard about a number of negative reviews I was considering writing. In the end I opted to take the road that bypassed what surely would have been attacks from other members here. Look around you, this is hardly a compassionate group, good or bad, that is just the way it is.

[VirginiaGuy]

I understand what you are saying here DD, but you must realize that not every member possesses the strength to be hauled out in the Forum of public opinion. Many are fragile emotionally and do not want to subject themselves to unwarranted attacks. I respect the wishes of members who prefer to remain anonymous and non-confrontational. I had to think long and hard about a number of negative reviews I was considering writing. In the end I opted to take the road that bypassed what surely would have been attacks from other members here. This is hardly a compassionate group, good or bad, that is just the way it is.

 

It's kinda disturbing that people would have genuinely bad experiences (condoms disappearing, not 'hey we just didn't click') and hide that out of intimidation. It undermines the entire point of services like Daddy's - particularly for the inexperienced. And it makes me want to thank bigvalboy again for some honest advice he gave me elsewhere. :-)

[JT Brooklyn]

There are not as many "Fan Clubs" on Daddys as has been the case over the Year's. Many members DONOT use the same name when writing a Review or the SMART ONES used to anyways!

 

We have all at one time or another found a "Working Guy" with Great Reviews Disappointing for different reasons. IF your Review is a Negative one the Working Guy has a chance to RESPOND and everyone moves on! Having said a guy gives a great BJ in a Review doesn't guarantee you will get one!