"Exclusive" Arrangement - Would you hold to it at your end?

[bcohen7719]

If you were provided with an "exclusive" arrangement, with more than enough income so

that you didn't need to see any other clients, would you cheat on your

chief benefactor?

 

BC

[jjkrkwood]

If you were provided with an "exclusive" arrangement, with more than enough income so

that you didn't need to see any other clients, would you cheat on your

chief benefactor?

 

BC

 

"Exclusive arrangements" also come to an end..... Its never wise to burn your bridges. and, the "grass always looks greener"....

[KMEM]

Do married people who enter into an exclusive contract ever cheat?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[RockHard]

The question (as worded) seems awfully silly. Cheat? Is the OP equating "exclusive arrangement" with an escort as monogamy and marriage?

 

I imagine control issues play a large role in Sugar Daddy arrangements. Many gay men who pay (and enjoy paying) want to maintain control over their escort. I can't imagine any man trying to control me, so I could never be a success at escorting.

 

If a rich guy handed me a legal contract that demanded monogamy, the fee for that sacrifice would have to be other worldly. If the price is right, you can purchase most anything. But I wouldn't include love and devotion on that list. I've never seen a contract that included those.

[seeker630]

If you were provided with an "exclusive" arrangement, with more than enough income so

that you didn't need to see any other clients, would you cheat on your

chief benefactor?

 

BC

 

Is it realistic to expect an honest answer in a public forum if the truth would damage the escort's reputation?

[jjkrkwood]

Is it realistic to expect an honest answer in a public forum if the truth would damage the escort's reputation?

 

As is well known here Seek, some escorts choose to remain anonymous, so a realistic answer might be expected.

[seeker630]

As is well known here Seek, some escorts choose to remain anonymous, so a realistic answer might be expected.

 

True, JJ, but if you look at those who typically actually respond, the number of anonymous is pretty small.

[RockHard]

Is it realistic to expect an honest answer in a public forum if the truth would damage the escort's reputation?

 

There are some questions that have no place in the presence of an escort, whether in public or in private, because some questions are disrespectful. Some are just plain silly, offering no positive outcome, and aren't worthy of a response. The other silly question on the board: "How many of my fellow pros enjoy the biz?" is another self-serving joke.

 

We members look at these questions and always consider who is doing the asking. Then we question motive. Then we look at who responds and judge accordingly.

 

There are some questions no self-respecting escort should answer.

[jimboivyo]

if you had an arrangement and the escort broke it, it's his fault. remedy it or find someone new I say

[+ Cash4Trash]

Part of any exclusive arrangement I might have with any escort would include a clause in the contract insisting that he have sex frequently outside of our arrangement.

Ain't no way I can keep up with the libido of any of these guys. Want someone else to wear him out before he comes home to cuddly, bunny slippered me.

[cany10011]

I had an "arrangement" with a craigslist escort several years ago. I paid his bills and rent and spent nearly 5K per month (3K for rent and utilities, 2K for the escort). Our arrangement was two overnights per week; however, i never requested that he stop escorting, i just assumed that if i took care of things he would be able to pursue his real interests. He was free to come to my place and had keys to help with my errands (dog walking etc..). The times we weren't together, he worked in his civilian day job but periodically i'd see his ad up on craigslist. I didn't think anything of it as i saw other escorts on the side. As long as he kept his deal with me (2 nights per week), i was ok. However, when i discovered one day that he was using my place as a hookup pad with his "friends" on my frette linen, that was the straw that broke the camel's back. He's out of the picture now. I could deal with him having clients but not hooking up at my place.

 

 

If you were provided with an "exclusive" arrangement, with more than enough income so

that you didn't need to see any other clients, would you cheat on your

chief benefactor?

 

BC

[bcohen7719]

The question (as worded) seems awfully silly. Cheat? Is the OP equating "exclusive arrangement" with an escort as monogamy and marriage?

 

I imagine control issues play a large role in Sugar Daddy arrangements. Many gay men who pay (and enjoy paying) want to maintain control over their escort. I can't imagine any man trying to control me, so I could never be a success at escorting.

 

If a rich guy handed me a legal contract that demanded monogamy, the fee for that sacrifice would have to be other worldly. If the price is right, you can purchase most anything. But I wouldn't include love and devotion on that list. I've never seen a contract that included those.

 

RH:

 

What would be a better wording of the question?

 

BC

[bcohen7719]

I had an "arrangement" with a craigslist escort several years ago. I paid his bills and rent and spent nearly 5K per month (3K for rent and utilities, 2K for the escort). Our arrangement was two overnights per week; however, i never requested that he stop escorting, i just assumed that if i took care of things he would be able to pursue his real interests. He was free to come to my place and had keys to help with my errands (dog walking etc..). The times we weren't together, he worked in his civilian day job but periodically i'd see his ad up on craigslist. I didn't think anything of it as i saw other escorts on the side. As long as he kept his deal with me (2 nights per week), i was ok. However, when i discovered one day that he was using my place as a hookup pad with his "friends" on my frette linen, that was the straw that broke the camel's back. He's out of the picture now. I could deal with him having clients but not hooking up at my place.

 

Very useful and well-told story. Thank you so much for sharing!

 

BC

[Xander]

I've had a few people approach me about this. I don't go into such agreements ... best to diversify my risk. What if he decides to drop me on a weeks notice because he found some cuter boy? I've got bills to pay for and textbooks to buy ... I don't have time to worry about the chance of that happening.

[RockHard]

RH: What would be a better wording of the question?

 

Dear escort: Are you honest?

 

That's basically what you asked. So, who in his right mind is going to answer no?

 

You never defined "Exclusive Arrangement." You offered the word "cheat," but never defined a context. You also offered, "Would you hold to it at your end?"

 

So basically you're asking, "If you make an agreement, will you honor it?" Which is pretty much the same as asking, "Are you an honest, honorable man."

[jimboivyo]

However, when i discovered one day that he was using my place as a hookup pad with his "friends" on my frette linen

 

would it have not been so bad had it been on the costco sheets?

[Xander]

would it have not been so bad had it been on the costco sheets?

 

lol

[zach_wilson]

I think one must define what the rules were in this "exclusive arrangement". I have a friend who is in an exclusive deal, however the guy he sees hires other escorts for him, and pays for flights to events such as atlantis. They have been together for three years now. While they spend 80% of their time together they are still have an understanding there is no monogamy. Also as stated, the fee for that kind of understanding would be a lot. As most professional escorts avg a decent amount per year. I think that as far as if the sugar was to leave you have an legal break up agreement brought up signed by both parties stating that you will receive you allowance at a lower amt for x amount of months after the break up to be able to have time to get back on your feet. However you may choose to do that. This way you arnt totally screwed in that event. I also feel that you need to say my bills are 1800 then you times that by 3 and that is realistic as to an amt as im sure the sugar will pay for any and all other expenses. so you would get 5400 put away 3600 a month also on top of the break up agreement.

 

xoxo zach

[jjkrkwood]

would it have not been so bad had it been on the costco sheets?

 

Oh jimbo, you know name-dropping is a security mechanism to insure people KNOW you have money, or at least aspire to have money. Leave the poor "rich" man alone....

[seeker630]

I think one must define what the rules were in this "exclusive arrangement". I have a friend who is in an exclusive deal, however the guy he sees hires other escorts for him, and pays for flights to events such as atlantis. They have been together for three years now. While they spend 80% of their time together they are still have an understanding there is no monogamy. Also as stated, the fee for that kind of understanding would be a lot. As most professional escorts avg a decent amount per year. I think that as far as if the sugar was to leave you have an legal break up agreement brought up signed by both parties stating that you will receive you allowance at a lower amt for x amount of months after the break up to be able to have time to get back on your feet. However you may choose to do that. This way you arnt totally screwed in that event. I also feel that you need to say my bills are 1800 then you times that by 3 and that is realistic as to an amt as im sure the sugar will pay for any and all other expenses. so you would get 5400 put away 3600 a month also on top of the break up agreement.

 

xoxo zach

 

Sorry - how is that an 'exclusive' arrangement? Do you mean the escorts gets to 'play' with other guys but not accept other clients? Or is it that he ONLY gets to play with whomever the client allows?

[bcohen7719]

Dear escort: Are you honest?

 

That's basically what you asked. So, who in his right mind is going to answer no?

 

You never defined "Exclusive Arrangement." You offered the word "cheat," but never defined a context. You also offered, "Would you hold to it at your end?"

 

So basically you're asking, "If you make an agreement, will you honor it?" Which is pretty much the same as asking, "Are you an honest, honorable man."

 

All excellent points. Thank you so much!

 

BC

[Edward]

Red there would never be a boy cuter than you? You are even cuter than my puppy. Maybe find a guy more hung and more muscular, but never cuter.

 

I've had a few people approach me about this. I don't go into such agreements ... best to diversify my risk. What if he decides to drop me on a weeks notice because he found some cuter boy? I've got bills to pay for and textbooks to buy ... I don't have time to worry about the chance of that happening.