"Ask me" vs a set price per hour/overnight

[timmsown]

I am just curious and would like to hear from thoes in the business, the etiquette in asking a price of an escort who says "ask me" as his price. Is it impolite to negotiate or is that somewhat expected. When a provider mentions a specific rate I never negotiate as I feel that would be akin to asking a sales associate in Macy's to sell me a sweater for $25 less than the ticked price. Thanks for the feedback.

[Steven_Draker]

Hi Tim and welcome to the Message Forum. I see that you joined here in December this year.

 

There was a recent thread about "Ask me" rates (in case you've missed it) --> http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?89694

[timmsown]

Hi Tim and welcome to the Message Forum. I see that you joined here in December this year.

 

There was a recent thread about "Ask me" rates (in case you've missed it) --> http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?89694[/color]

 

Thank you Steven. I assumed it had come up in the past and appreciate your linking me to it. I guess my question remains, is it impolite to negotiate with an "askme" escort? Thanks again.

[Kevin Slater]

I guess my question remains, is it impolite to negotiate with an "askme" escort?

 

You won't find consensus on this contentious issue. Truly, the only opinion that matters is yours and the escort's in question. One point to ponder is whether you want to hire a personal service after having haggled negotiated its price.

 

Another issue is that one of the big escorts sites, Men4RentNow, (retch retch, gag gag) has recently pulled all pricing information from the ads and forced every escort to list "ask me" for their rate. I suspect the majority of those poor souls who have left ads on that horrid little site didn't intend to welcome the negotiations that result.

 

Kevin Slater

[jimboivyo]

ask me means ask me. I dont get why so many folks have issues with this. I see escorts who have both public and private rates, so when I set something up I ask. This amount of time for that amount of money

 

if you want to negotiate, that's your call. some esocrts immediately will nix you for trying, some will go lower. the worst thing that can happen is someone says no. not the end of the world

[timmsown]

You won't find consensus on this contentious issue. Truly, the only opinion that matters is yours and the escort's in question. One point to ponder is whether you want to hire a personal service after having haggled negotiated its price.

 

You make a good point Kevin. I HATED being in Cairo and having to barter with folks over some silly little souvenir. Just tell me the price and I can decide.

[Bart]

Hi

Your approach and demeanor are very important if you wish to negotiate a price.

I think the comment that you should keep in mind is from Kevin:

"One point to ponder is whether you want to hire a personal service after having haggled negotiated its price."

Ask me does not equate with negotiate in general I take it to mean based upon our email or conversation I will charge you $XXX.

I think negotiating an hour appt is silly and very negative way to start, but some people think everything is negotiable.

If you are talking several hours which is how I usually go, then there might be room if you so incline.

In general I go with the philosophy I will ask the price, if I dont like it I will simply say, No Thank you, " and move on.

I have had gentlemen several times come back with well what would you pay and I politely decline primarily because of the statement Kevin made, even though I am not the one negotiating I have nearly every time the gentleman has asked me that question and I give an alternate dollar amount the outing has been a bust. I will honestly say the issue being I feel the gentleman feels he is not getting paid appropriately. So rather than deal with that I just pass.

Nothing worse than someone sitting there thinking he is being underpaid, the effort is lacking.

[uwsman2]

The one and only time I called an escort who had "ask me" in his ad, I asked (his picture had just totally seduced me) and he quoted a price above what I was set to pay, so I told him that was high for me. He came right back with a counteroffer that was within my range and we got together. But somehow I felt there was a lack of enthusiasm, which I haven't sensed with other escorts, and I couldn't help thinking it was because he was just going through the motions because he wasn't getting his usual rate... I could have been misinterpreting the situation, but my experience confirms what Kevin says. Do you want to go through such an intimate service with somebody after haggling over the price?

[Xander]

The one and only time I called an escort who had "ask me" in his ad, I asked (his picture had just totally seduced me) and he quoted a price above what I was set to pay, so I told him that was high for me. He came right back with a counteroffer that was within my range and we got together. But somehow I felt there was a lack of enthusiasm, which I haven't sensed with other escorts, and I couldn't help thinking it was because he was just going through the motions because he wasn't getting his usual rate... I could have been misinterpreting the situation, but my experience confirms what Kevin says. Do you want to go through such an intimate service with somebody after haggling over the price?

 

That is why I don't haggle. My rate is what it is so I can keep money out of the picture and focus on what is important. Haggling isn't good for the escort or the client, and it should never be a part of the game.

 

Plus, when someone wants to haggle with me, it makes me feel like i'm worth less than what I say I am. (Hence why I usually hang up)

[Decatur Guy]

If they say "Ask Me," whether by choice or being forced to do so by Men4rentnow, you simply have to ask or either hope the escort brings it up, which I have never had an escort do.

 

But I'm not a haggler. If they say ask me, and I ask, and they tell, then I have a price. At that stage, it's either yes or no from. I'm not going to get into the bargaining game. If he wants $350 an hour, he's not getting it and I'm not going to ask $250.

[+ poolboy48220]

Totally agree with the not negotiating, at least in this case. If someone asks $350 but settles for $250, I feel like I'm going to get 67% effort on their part. Or something like that, it's too early to do the math.

[Guest countryboywny]

One point to ponder is whether you want to hire a personal service after having haggled negotiated its price.

 

 

I don't like to "haggle" for anything. Just tell me the price, if I like it, I'll buy. If I don't like it, I politely say thank you and move on. Kevin's comment is spot on for me. I've had escorts offer me discounts from time to time, I never accept them. I pay the full rate because to do less "cheapens" the experience for me.

[jjkrkwood]

Hiring an escort is not like bartering at a Flea market, although I do prefer to know a price upfront and not have to ask. I have always felt that when you ask, the escort is trying to field the highest price he can out of you, and I am not into that. If you know a price, you either take it or leave it, at least thats how I handle it. I am not into bargaining for human flesh...

[EZEtoGRU]

Do we really need another thread on this topic? Seems like we covered all these issues in the other thread that was posted on extensively just 1-2 months ago.

[josephga]

That is why I don't haggle. My rate is what it is so I can keep money out of the picture and focus on what is important. Haggling isn't good for the escort or the client, and it should never be a part of the game.

 

Plus, when someone wants to haggle with me, it makes me feel like i'm worth less than what I say I am. (Hence why I usually hang up)

 

I agree. I think when someone asks for a lower price then you shouldn't expect that person to give you a 100 percent. I have people asking that for massage then I remind them that a licensed massage therapist has a higher over head than those who are not. I view massage as well as escorting a luxury item. If I can't afford to tan i stop tanning I don't call the salons and whine for a lower rate. I do without.

[maxwellissmart]

Do we really need another thread on this topic? Seems like we covered all these issues in the other thread that was posted on extensively just 1-2 months ago.

 

I agree completely. Next.

[jjkrkwood]

I agree completely. Next.

 

I think repeated topics should not be dismissed and are for the benefit of NEW readers who may not want to search archives and recreate a conversation, but who might want more current real time responses. I know its often difficult for some of you to think of OTHERS, but try..... its good for the soul ! Plus the fact that noone is offering up anything really new and exciting to discuss, so whats the difference ?

[maxwellissmart]

I think repeated topics should not be dismissed and are for the benefit of NEW readers who may not want to search archives and recreate a conversation, but who might want more current real time responses. I know its often difficult for some of you to think of OTHERS, but try..... its good for the soul ! Plus the fact thats theres really nothing new and exciting being discussed, so whats the difference ?

 

I think that the better approach is to post links to prior threads that already cover the topic (sometimes ad nauseam), since starting the thread over again rehashes the same arguments. Just because someone is new to the forum doesn't mean that they don't know how to use the search feature—in fact, I'm surprised at some of the old threads from years past that get a new post on them because someone did a search.

[jjkrkwood]

I think that the better approach is to post links to prior threads that already cover the topic (sometimes ad nauseam), since starting the thread over again rehashes the same arguments. Just because someone is new to the forum doesn't mean that they don't know how to use the search feature—in fact, I'm surprised at some of the old threads from years past that get a new post on them because someone did a search.

 

Seems like alot of work for nothing. Since you usually know the Topic before opening the thread, if something is Old News to you or not of interest, just dont read it, but dont deprive others who might be interested or want to discuss the topic even further than it may have already gone. Its is basically a discussion site, right ??? And as I said, due to the lack of anything NEW to talk about, whats the Big Friggin Deal ??? Oh, BTW Max..... Seasons Meatings !!!

[EZEtoGRU]

I think that the better approach is to post links to prior threads that already cover the topic (sometimes ad nauseam), since starting the thread over again rehashes the same arguments.

This of course is the logical approach. I forgive the OP for not initially doing a search but once Stephen posted a link to the other thread, the discussion should have continued there. It makes no sense for everyone to start making all the same comments again on a new thread when the other thread is still fresh. I don't know why this thread hasn't been locked.

[maxwellissmart]

This of course is the logical approach. I forgive the OP for not initially doing a search but once Stephen posted a link to the other thread, the discussion should have continued there. It makes no sense for everyone to start making all the same comments again on a new thread when the other thread is still fresh. I don't know why this thread hasn't been locked.

 

Stephen and Kevin Slater are both quite good at redirecting people to other threads. JJ—the reason why I click on threads is to see if something new has been added to the discussion. This is one thread in particular that has been deliberated over and over and over again, and no one is adding anything fresh into the mix. People either don't care about "Ask Me," or it's the worst thing in the world. Now go find some hot pics and post them for my amusement.

[jjkrkwood]

Stephen and Kevin Slater are both quite good at redirecting people to other threads. JJ—the reason why I click on threads is to see if something new has been added to the discussion. This is one thread in particular that has been deliberated over and over and over again, and no one is adding anything fresh into the mix. People either don't care about "Ask Me," or it's the worst thing in the world. Now go find some hot pics and post them for my amusement.

 

Sarcasm so suits you Max, and just an FYI, the pics are not posted for you. They are for the members that can appreciate them without snide comments, and seem to be kinda popular from the emails I get. At least its a usefull contribution to some, rather than a self-indulgent suggestion to NOT discuss certain topics that are tiresome to you.... YEAH, thats VERY useful. I guess you did end up sleeping with EZE since it seems you've taken on his evil ways ? Or is it just a case of sour grapes ? Happy Daze Mate!

[EZEtoGRU]

I guess you did end up sleeping with EZE since it seems you've taken on his evil ways ? Or is it just a case of sour grapes ? Happy Daze Mate!

 

Look who's stalking again. I wondered how long it would take.

[jjkrkwood]

Look who's stalking again. I wondered how long it would take.

 

Stalking ? How Funny. Dont flatter yourself. Believe me, I didnt have to stalk you to find you. My nose led me to you.

[BostonPhil]

Ladies ladies ladies.....

 

Calm down.