Looking 4 Reviewer rayrayxxx3, Need help re: an Escort in L.A.

[Aldo]

I am writing this to seek help in locating a reviewer on Daddy's M4M Reviews that goes by rayrayxxx3. If you are out there or if anyone knows how to contact him, please let me know. This is regarding an L.A. escort that we (rayrayxxx3 and I) both know. I am very spooked because this escort has now resorted to harrassing me with vulgar text msgs threatening to disclose our encounters to my (almost estranged) boyfriend if I don't send an advance to him from our next session. We have been seeing each other regularly for the last few weeks, but today, when I refused to send an advance, he sent me numerous text msgs calling me all kinds of names, threatened to come to my house and talk to my bf, called me a "son of a bitch", etc.... out of nowhere. I am very very concerned as he knows quite a bit about my home, schedule, cars, etc..... The texts were incessant for awhile and I was given until 3 pm to send him $, or he says he will go to my home and talk to my bf, that he saved all the emails and text msgs, etc., etc. He also attempted to call my cell several times as he text msgs were coming. I am new to hiring and am very surprised that this is happening. I always thought it was the client that can sometimes go crazy over an escort when the client develops feelings for the escort, etc., as I've seen with some friends of mine. Needless to say, I carted my BF to go shopping all afternoon so not sure what happened at home, if the escort did show up.

 

Please help!!!! If rayrayxxx3 reads this, pls resond here and I will forward u my info.

Thanks!!!

[East2West]

Wow. Sorry to hear about the predicament. Describing it as unsettling I'm sure is an understatement.

 

I'm not an expert in law but if I were to receive threats from anyone for any reason, especially ones that verbalize coming to my home or property, I'd file a police report. This guy might be blowing smoke and just trying to scare you but the tone of his texts (from what you describe) and the threat of coming back to your home should be enough to formalize some sort of action. The only response I would give him is the police report # and respond to nothing else.

 

Also, it sounds like your ("almost estranged") partner finding out about this makes it even worse. You may have to come to a realization that you can not keep something like this under wraps from him, especially if the escort escalates the harassment.

 

Best of luck getting this resolved. Hope it all works out!

[Aldo]

Thanks, East2West. I actually saved all the text messages with the thought of going to the police to file a report. It was actually very scary as the text msgs were rolling on my screen such as "you have until 3 pm" (to send the $) "or I start a war". "Clock's ticking you son of a bitch". "You screwed over the wrong guy!" and "I saved it all! I will show him (my bf) everything!" "I'm sick of your fucking games." "Game on"; send $ "or I will come to your house and tell your bf everything". "You don't want to fuck with me. You screwed me over for the last time!"

 

The anger astonished me as I have been nothing but honest, accommodating and helpful to him.

 

I told my bf everything after I received the text msgs, as I anticipated the possibility of the guy showing up sometime banging on our front door. It was not easy but my bf and I have been having issues after a decade or so together. The good part is that, at least, he understood why I did what I did. Our bigger issues stem from the fact that my sex drive is still high and his has tapered quite a bit many years ago.

 

I'm keeping my fingers crossed that the harrassment from the escort will not go on. Thanks again for your input and advice.

[JT Brooklyn]

Has anyone remembered reading a rayrayxxx3 Review Apparently not yet?

[Aldo]

Hi Brooklyn Guy. rayrayxx3 only has one review on here, but he knows the escort in question. I was just really bothered by what happened and want to seek his thoughts. I hope I can find him. It has been a very crazy day indeed!

[Irtwo]

I would let the escort know that you have informed, or are about to inform, the police (whether you actually do or not), That could be enough to stop him.

[Aldo]

Hi Irtwo. Yes, I actually intended to send a reply to the escort's text stating that I was on my way to the police, but the text msgs kept rolling on angrier and angrier. He basically gave me until 3 pm to send a Western Union wire to him, but at 2:21 pm, he decided otherwise and sent me a series of text msgs-- "Let's do this!" "Fuck the money now." "Now I'm coming to tell your bf the truth. Keep your fucking money".

 

I had composed this whole text about the police and my building security but decided not to send it so as not to ignite his anger even more. I did not mention this in my previous post but the first text came in at 1:09 pm, and the last was at 2:23 pm. Not to mention attempts to call me at 2:21 pm twice on my cell, which I, of course, did not answer-- so it went on for awhile. It's a newer phone and the voicemail has not even been set up so he was unable to leave messages! Thank goodness! I could just imagine what those messages would have sounded like! And I did not do anything bad to this person-- at all!!! So ran out of the house then, got in my bf's car and told him all about the incident. That was the next ordeal for me!

 

Well, no more text and phone calls so far, so I hope this is the end of it!

[Walker1]

Did you wire him an advance before? Why is he expecting an advance? He sounds like he is high on drugs.

[Aldo]

Hi Walker1. We actually had a couple of overnights, and just before the second one, I did advance him a few hundred dollars, and the balance was given to him at the end of the second overnight session. I realize that my mistake may have been getting too close to him-- we confided in each other quite a bit, me and my bf woes, him and his past relationships and jobs, family, etc. I then noticed a few weeks later that he had become more and more aggressive with me-- easily agitated at times, and rather demanding with me. Once when I was at a bbq with my bf's family, he called and I was unable to pick up at first; he called a second time, so I walked away from the group to answer it. He actually berated me, yelling "can you NOT step away from that damn boyfriend of yours" to answer his call.

 

I am still confused. I think maybe there was heavy drinking involved that exacerbated the texting incident earlier today, as I know he drank quite a bit during our dinner dates and during the overnights. Drugs I thought, based from what I was told, was not something he indulged in or liked. But who knows???

[instudiocity]

I am writing this to seek help in locating a reviewer on Daddy's M4M Reviews that goes by rayrayxxx3. If you are out there or if anyone knows how to contact him, please let me know. This is regarding an L.A. escort that we (rayrayxxx3 and I) both know. I am very spooked because this escort has now resorted to harrassing me with vulgar text msgs threatening to disclose our encounters to my (almost estranged) boyfriend...

 

• rayrayxxx3 has two reviews posted on Daddy's Reviews if you can believe Google. 11/08/2012 and 12/21/2011
  
• Why do you think rayrayxxx3 can contribute anything to protecting you from this person?
  
• How do you know this person threatening you is the escort? Couldn't it be someone who has found information about the escort and his trysts with you and is now seeking to destroy the escort's reputation?
  
• Why haven't you already called the police?
  
• Why haven't you already filed an harassment report with the police? Even if hiring escorts is illegal, the police have no evidence of that misdemeanor. While you say there is plenty of evidence of the present felonies. Protecting you from whomever this person is should be paramount.
  
• Are you not aware that every reviewer provides Daddy with an not only an email address but a phone number? If the police determine that the circumstances warrant it, they can compel Daddy to turn over rayrayxxx3's phone number.
  
• I'm still confused, though. What can rayrayxxx3 contribute to this matter: someone is harassing you via text and phone; someone is making criminal threats; someone is attempting to extort money from you?
  
• The real question is Who else is this other party threatening? Surely, you and rayrayxxx3 are not the only ones. Considering rayrayxxx3's November review, I'd say he would have greater reason to threaten rayrayxxx3. Yet that is still a matter for the police.
  
• BE SAFE. If I were in your wadded up panties, I'd be sitting in police station waiting for the officers to interview said escort.
  

[Aldo]

Thanks for the info. I have some personal info from the escort himself about rayrayxxx3, which leads me to believe he (ray) may have an idea as to whether the escort will really carry on his threats. Can't disclose that info for now, but if the harrassment stops, it will be a moot point locating the guy.

 

Agreed that the police may have to get involved if the harrassment continues, though. I'm taking it day by day at this point. Still believe it has stopped for good, but what do I know??? Look at the mess that happened to me?

[jgoo]

It sounds like the time frame was a few hours where the threats occurred so it is quite possible he was drunk or high, and since he didn't do anything at the deadline as far as you know, unlikely he will follow through and once he sobers up he will be more rational. The problem is when he gets drunk or high again how ar will he take it. There is also the real possibility that he is mentally imbalanced.

 

The threat of telling your bf is no longer a threat since you told your bf however the escort doesn't know that and may not even believe it if you do let him know his threat is meaningless now (or even worse, he could take things to the next level). So he could continue to harass, stalk you and/or physically assault you....all real possibilities. Rather than take it day by day, as a minimum, I would at least go to the police, have a conversation with someone there and see what they have to say/recommend on possible options for how to proceed. You can decide how to go from there but at least you will have the benefit of some options they may offer. At least it might make you feel better and at most it can avoid any possible regrets in the future if you don't seek help. While it might be a bit embarrassing for you to go into the details, it isn't something that you should take too lightly the way things are today. Maybe I am over reacting but from what you wrote I would say why even take a chance.

[BaronArtz]

Aldo, I understand from your posts here that you may be living with your bf right? So, how is it even possible that your lunatic escort knows your address? Did you tell him? Worse still, did you invite lunatic-boy to your home for a thryst? If the answer to those questions is affirmative, I am sorry to say: you got exactly what you deserve.

 

This sad story illustrates perfectly why I never ever, under no circumstances, give out personal info to escorts. My appointments are booked via a 'junk' email address or with a throw-away cell phone. And never ever EVER do I invite these guys to my home.

 

In your case, Aldo, the damage is done: you discussed it with your bf. You are hunkering down in fear. Where do you go from here? First, I would entirely ignore his phone calls and text messages. Do NOT respond. And IF he shows up at your door, harrassing you or whatever, then it's the perfect time to call the cops.

 

Rayrayxxx3 can't help you. I read his review. It was negative. He warned you, in a way. What more can he do beyond that? Leave it alone.

 

If anything, I hope this was a learning experience for you.

[jgoo]

This sad story illustrates perfectly why I never ever, under no circumstances, give out personal info to escorts. My appointments are booked via a 'junk' email address or with a throw-away cell phone. And never ever EVER do I invite these guys to my home.

 

In your case, Aldo, the damage is done: you discussed it with your bf. You are hunkering down in fear. Where do you go from here? First, I would entirely ignore his phone calls and text messages. Do NOT respond. And IF he shows up at your door, harrassing you or whatever, then it's the perfect time to call the cops.

 

Rayrayxxx3 can't help you. I read his review. It was negative. He warned you, in a way. What more can he do beyond that? Leave it alone.

 

If anything, I hope this was a learning experience for you.

 

 

Sound advice. The issue of keeping your personal info private is important and often takes a very focused effort. It can be relatively easy when dealing with a one time one hour appointment at his place but can get more complicated (perhaps downright impossible) as meetings grow more frequent, at different meeting places (like your hotel), longer meetings and involving activities outside (dinner, shows, vacation getaways, etc). Nevertheless, it is a good idea to be very aware of info being revealed and to maintain a relatively high level of caution at all times, not being lulled into a false sense of security. Personally, rule number 1 for me is to never have an escort over to my place..no matter how well known or well reviewed he might be (no offense intended to any of the esteemed escort members here, just my own preference/rule).

 

The other point I totally agree with is that I also hope this is a learning experience.

[TruthBTold]

I don't think anyone "deserves" this sort of thing, no matter how many mistakes he makes. I also think this is also against federal law and federal agents are much more aggressive once they get involved. You may wish to remind him about that.

[citylaw1]

1. This is why I favored agencies in their heyday. I truly miss Campus.

 

2. WTF are you on here instead of at the local precinct filing a complaint?

[seeker630]

Has anyone remembered reading a rayrayxxx3 Review Apparently not yet?

 

Hi Brooklyn Guy. rayrayxx3 only has one review on here, but he knows the escort in question. I was just really bothered by what happened and want to seek his thoughts. I hope I can find him. It has been a very crazy day indeed!

 

He has 2 reviews: Dax in LA http://www.daddysreviews.com/search/Active/D/dax_la

and Ryan Turner in Miami http://www.daddysreviews.com/cruise/2012-09-10/ryan_turner_hollywood

[Irtwo]

• Are you not aware that every reviewer provides Daddy with an not only an email address but a phone number? If the police determine that the circumstances warrant it, they can compel Daddy to turn over rayrayxxx3's phone number.
  

 

That point actually is a but unnerving. I would hope that Daddy would fight against any such request by the police.

[JT Brooklyn]

Giving the "Escorts Name" will probably get you more info from others IF he is that popular of an Escort to begin with!

 

We've had other endless discussions about Nameless Escorts that have never had any type of conclusion..with No Name this will probably end the same way....

[BaronArtz]

That point actually is a but unnerving. I would hope that Daddy would fight against any such request by the police.

 

Exactly right. That's the reason I have never submitted a review. I don't give out my phone number. Sorry!

[BaronArtz]

Giving the "Escorts Name" will probably get you more info from others IF he is that popular of an Escort to begin with!

 

We've had other endless discussions about Nameless Escorts that have never had any type of conclusion..with No Name this will probably end the same way....

 

Well ... it has to be 'DAX", right? He's the only escort in LA reviewed by rayrayxx3. And it was a negative review ...

[seeker630]

Has anyone remembered reading a rayrayxxx3 Review Apparently not yet?

 

Hi Brooklyn Guy. rayrayxx3 only has one review on here, but he knows the escort in question. I was just really bothered by what happened and want to seek his thoughts. I hope I can find him. It has been a very crazy day indeed!

 

Well ... it has to be 'DAX", right? He's the only escort in LA reviewed by rayrayxx3. And it was a negative review ...

 

I don't think the OP said that rayrayxxx3 reviewed the escort in question, so I'd be hesitant to reach that conclusion without corrobaration. But the OP does say that he knows of rayrayxxx3 from the escort...

 

Actually, it all sounds pretty strange.

 

In another thread, the OP says he broke up his long term relationship several months ago.

[citylaw1]

I don't think the OP said that rayrayxxx3 reviewed the escort in question, so I'd be hesitant to reach that conclusion without corrobaration. But the OP does say that he knows of rayrayxxx3 from the escort...

 

Actually, it all sounds pretty strange.

 

In another thread, the OP says he broke up his long term relationship several months ago.

 

I'd be hesitant to reach any conclusions from this post.

[Jaker27]

 

Actually, it all sounds pretty strange.

 

In another thread, the OP says he broke up his long term relationship several months ago.

Ah the plot thickens.

[Aldo]

Thank you for all the advice. Yes, I now admit I made some crucial mistakes specifically in giving my home address and other pertinent personal information. I am also hesitant to be specific about the escort to avoid any possible retaliation at this point, but make no mistake about it-- if pushed, I will fight back vigorously as I certainly do not deserve this! AT this point, I will not disclose anyting more specific until I feel safe. I don't know if that makes sense, as I am still very confused and rather wary....

 

My bf and I do still live together, but he had moved out of the master bedroom a few months ago, right about the time I joined the forum, which is also when I started thinking of hiring. I did break up with him but he has not officially broken up with me. He wants to make it work, as a lot of the issues we have been undergoing as a couple had a lot to do with the emotional issues he is having, and he felt that once he is able to conquer them through whatever avenues (couseling, etc), that the 12+ years should not be thrown away that easily. I was not as hopeful or excited about the prospect of regaining our "love" for each other, but if this texting incident did ONE thing, it is to remind me that I am actually pretty lucky to have a man like my bf that stands by me, worships me and will go to great lengths to make our relationship work. He has a good heart, is a really good guy, but not without his baggage.

 

As for the escort, I now realize that we got too involved in each other too deep, too soon without really "knowing" each other first. A big part of that was I felt very lonely, what with my relationship seemingly "dead" to me. Upon reading the text exchanges, though I only responded twice during his barrage of text messages, I did indicate in a previous text to the escort the day before that I did not think he was happy with our arrangement, and that perhaps we should move on. I said this because of the increasingly erratic behavior he had exhibited during the days/weeks before, the temper that would crop up, etc. So when he started his texting tirade the ff day, he asked if I "sent the fucking money", and also stated he was "sick of me and my fucking bad jokes and games"!!! The chronology of text msgs now makes what happened make a little bit more sense, but not the inexcusable barrage of insults, foul mouthed as can be!

 

It's only 10:20 am here, still early and this is the day we were supposed to hook up, so I am just keeping my eyes and ears open, and hoping for the best.

 

With regards to the speculation about who this escort is, if I feel I should make that revelation, I am not even sure I am allowed to mention his name on this forum. This and the retaliation bit is the reason I am being sketchy with the details on him and rayrayxxx3 at this point. This forum has helped me tremendously these last 2 days in dealing with this. Obviously, my intention is not to smear the escort, but to get advice and protect myself, which is mainly why I posted this here. I really only wish the best for the escort, that he is able to conquer what I now believe to be a mental imbalance, temper issues and maybe alcohol-related issues??? Perhaps in due time, if it will make sense, I will reveal more.