Enquiries Where Their Brains Are In Their Pants

[SteveEscort]

I've started advertising on a new site in England and i can tell where the enquiries are coming from as they have to use a webform to contact me.

 

The advert lists everything...... rates........ phone number ........... availability each week etc

 

I've been on a week and I've had a lot of enquiries but stuff like

 

"Hi Steve, what's your number"

 

"Hi Steve what's the rate for 90 minutes"

 

"Hi Steve, how do I contact you"

 

Why do guys ask questions that are there in front of them. Are they so excited that they don't see the obvious details staring them in the face. I am not the only escort who gets asked these silly questions. I emailed a guy back from his webform yesterday and he emailed back asking what my proper email was. Duh.... I replied from it and you replied to it. I emailed back "The one you're replying to........ then spelt it out". Some people !!!!!!!! It's no wonder I am on blood pressure tablets for life.

[jgoo]

Speculating here, but some possible reasons include laziness, horny as hell so in a rush, copy and pasting requests being made to several ads (some not providing the details you provide), game players and one shouldn't discount some people aren't quite with it (i.e. stupid, high, etc). I don't know the site you are referring to but is it layed out well so easy to get all the info? Some sites seem very cluttered and not as user friendly as others.

 

Another reason I couldn't do what you do as those things would drive me up the wall. I'd be self medicating with lots of alcohol to cope.

[josephga]

I get asked those questions too. number 1 what are your rates? number 2 what kind of massages do you do? All of that is in every ad. I know it might sometimes result in a no sale but I will only answer 3 questions. location. availability and I will confirm rates I feel my ads contain enough info that I shouldn't have to provide anything more..

[jawjateck]

As to guys asking for info that is already in the ad, I can't believe that many of those actually turn into paying customers. Their fantasy is probably satisfied just to get an email response.

[jjkrkwood]

I've started advertising on a new site in England and i can tell where the enquiries are coming from as they have to use a webform to contact me.

 

The advert lists everything...... rates........ phone number ........... availability each week etc

 

I've been on a week and I've had a lot of enquiries but stuff like

 

"Hi Steve, what's your number"

 

"Hi Steve what's the rate for 90 minutes"

 

"Hi Steve, how do I contact you"

 

Why do guys ask questions that are there in front of them. Are they so excited that they don't see the obvious details staring them in the face. I am not the only escort who gets asked these silly questions. I emailed a guy back from his webform yesterday and he emailed back asking what my proper email was. Duh.... I replied from it and you replied to it. I emailed back "The one you're replying to........ then spelt it out". Some people !!!!!!!! It's no wonder I am on blood pressure tablets for life.

 

Extended use of Blood pressure medicine affects the erection. I know ! But if you are a bottom, I wouldnt worry bout that. Dont sweat the small stuff man. You are born, then you die. Enjoy everything in Between....:o

[Steven_Draker]

I see it a bit differently. When someone is calling for a first time he's trying to establish contact, probably break the ice and build a mental image about the escort. It's inevitable that some basic questions even answered in the ad will come up again. If you're bothered by answering these trivial question you may turn your cell phone off.

 

Long time ago someone taught me: "Only ask questions to which you know the answer". There's something clever behind that statement. I'll let you ponder on that.

[maxwellissmart]

I see it a bit differently. When someone is calling for a first time he's trying to establish contact, probably break the ice and build a mental image about the escort. It's inevitable that some basic questions even answered in the ad will come up again. If you're bothered by answering these trivial question you may turn your cell phone off.

 

Long time ago someone taught me: "Only ask questions to which you know the answer". There's something clever behind that statement. I'll let you ponder on that.

 

That may be true, Steven—but it's rather irritating to get a contact from someone through my profile on M4RN and get questions like: "remind me who you are again?" or "do you have a pic?" or "what are your stats?"

 

My internal response to all of those is: "umm... didn't you just look at my profile to send me an email?"

[josephga]

I think they ask about rates sometimes already knowing whats in the ad just to see if you will confirm whats there. As far as emails I no longer answer those. In the past id answer then tell them if interested please call too book and confirm. most wouldn't. for me phone and text equal sales emails don't. imo they think they can email and ill just send them my address not happening. I learned years ago you dont let clients come to your home without a contact phone number.

[SteveEscort]

I learned years ago you dont let clients come to your home without a contact phone number.

 

Exactly !!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Yet every week I will receive at LEAST one email from someone wanting to visit me and obtain my address details wholly by email. When I say no, please call, you get the standard response "I'm married and don't want you to have my number".

 

On my website in the Book Me section I state the following

 

I Won't :-

 

Give out personal details to gentlemen on withheld calls, it screams "something to hide", if you want me to trust you with my address details, then you first have to trust me with your contact number. I don't travel out to anyone who calls me on a withheld number either. If your partner was working as an escort would you let them travel to guys on blocked numbers, no so why do you expect me to.

 

See M/F couples, no matter how bisexual the guy is. I don't have sex with women.

 

Accept appointments from a payphone. I don't believe the excuse that you don't have a mobile phone. Not in 2012 !!!

 

Discriminate against any clients regardless of their colour, religious beliefs, sexual orientation or physical wellbeing. I don't, however see clients under 21.

 

Send face, cock or additional pictures to you by email or phone, so please don't ask

 

If that's not acceptable then .......... you're not worth meeting

[josephga]

I don't get the email i'm married response. once I request a phone number to finalize they don't email back. I have plenty of married massage clients who have no problem with providing a number. last friday I had a A list actor get a massage and his number wasn't blocked. i'm married can't give my number means nothing too me. taking clients from blocked numbers or booking by email without a number on the books is a good way to get ones ass beaten up robbed or sometimes killed.. imo trust goes both ways.

[bigvalboy]

I am a bit surprised that asking questions about something that is already in your ad would bother someone. I have on occasion asked a masseur or escort questions that were already in their ad, only once I was given some attitude.

 

 

The only negative experience I had was when I was calling a local masseur. I was trying to set something up for the following day. It did say very clearly in his ad "same day appointments only" for whatever reason, I simply did not see that. His response was rude and sarcastic. I simply hung up the phone. For God's sake, I wasn't going over final contracts in some negotiation, it was a freakin ad to have sex, and was an honest mistake. His ad, his business, he is allowed to act anyway he wants, but it is also my money. If I am given attitude when trying to hire someone, either when I call or send a text or email...Hell, I just move on. Way too many guys out there to hire to worry about those that choose to act like that.

[josephga]

I normally just answer anyway when they ask rates or for anything already posted. Ive only gone off the deep end a few times when I say no to something and they ask why not or get rude about it first. imo No doesn't req a explanation it just is... I feel very uncomfortable if a client asks about rates and then ask if a massage comes with a release. they don't realize saying yes to the wrong person could result in being arrested. promise of a release is sex in the eyes of the law. anytime i'm asked that I can just feel the blood draining from my face because you never know who's on the other line

[MiamiLooker]

I've started advertising on a new site in England and i can tell where the enquiries are coming from as they have to use a webform to contact me.

 

The advert lists everything...... rates........ phone number ........... availability each week etc

 

I've been on a week and I've had a lot of enquiries but stuff like

 

"Hi Steve, what's your number"

 

"Hi Steve what's the rate for 90 minutes"

 

"Hi Steve, how do I contact you"

 

Why do guys ask questions that are there in front of them. Are they so excited that they don't see the obvious details staring them in the face. I am not the only escort who gets asked these silly questions. I emailed a guy back from his webform yesterday and he emailed back asking what my proper email was. Duh.... I replied from it and you replied to it. I emailed back "The one you're replying to........ then spelt it out". Some people !!!!!!!! It's no wonder I am on blood pressure tablets for life.

 

Why not just cut and paste the reply from your ad?

[seeker630]

I can understand some of the frustration here - particularly about phone numbers, etc. On the other hand, sometimes the 'facts' listed in the ad (e.g., rates, stats, what an escort will do) change. I usually ask for confirmation of such things, unless the escort is well-reviewed or known to me. We've all seen those reviews of escorts whose stats were out of date or who changed the rates when they actually met the client or wouldn't do certain things. I'd certainly feel more justified in objecting if the escort had given me incorrect info directly.

 

I also look at the preliminary communications as a gauge of how interested the escort is in making sure that I am pleased; if he can't be bothered to answer a few questionand re-assure me, then I wonder how concerned he'll be with giving me what I want.

[SteveEscort]

I am a bit surprised that asking questions about something that is already in your ad would bother someone.

 

I do answer all their questions, I just get a bit annoyed at stupid silly questions that are easy to find, that I know they will have seen.

 

If I get flustered with them, I never let it show. I want the appointment, if they're genuine, so their enquiry is always important, even if they do ask the obvious

[SteveEscort]

On the other hand, sometimes the 'facts' listed in the ad (e.g., rates, stats, what an escort will do) change.

 

When it comes to "services" for want of a better word, then yes I believe every client should check and double check that what they want is on offer.

[+ occ3672]

Let me answer your question with a legitimate reason--at least it's legit in my case. I'm married and often travel with my wife. Not knowing what my availability will be in advance, I often put several phone numbers on one piece of paper without any details of escorts that I want to see. I can then go down the list when I know I will be available but can't remember all the details as I sometimes make this list several weeks in advance. I'm also trying to establish if there is chemistry over the phone. Hope this helps explain a possible answer to your frustration.

[Walker1]

Sometimes it is just small talk. If you have never met before, you can't just start off with your deepest sexual desires . Need something to start on, before you go there.

[+ poolboy48220]

That's a great answer. It's awkward, at least to me, to go into explicit detail in the first few minutes of conversation with someone. I'll start with generalities& see if the escort is interested in the general direction before going into specifics. More communication is better when you've got something a bit more complicated in mind. It doesn't always work, though - I spent 20 minutes discussing scenarios with an escort, a lot of planning went into it (and he seemed totally amenable to extended discussion), and then when it finally happened we were so out of sync it was a very disappointing experience, for both of us.

[SteveEscort]

More communication is better when you've got something a bit more complicated in mind. It doesn't always work, though - I spent 20 minutes discussing scenarios with an escort, a lot of planning went into it (and he seemed totally amenable to extended discussion), and then when it finally happened we were so out of sync it was a very disappointing experience, for both of us.

 

I find appointments where you're having to follow a script to be very hard work. You're constantly on edge thinking "should I be doing this bit now, have I forgot that". I hate it when you're doing a role play and he wants me to take the lead because I panic in case I've not got it right. Those appointments never go according to plan. I'd rather the client took the lead when he has specific requests.