Who initiates play?

[Edward]

When you are in a situation of meeting someone for the first time for a sexual encounter who and how should the play be initiated? It is sometimes ackward for me. It seems like on an hour appointment thing do not happen as quick as I would sometimes like.

[bigvalboy]

When you are in a situation of meeting someone for the first time for a sexual encounter who and how should the play be initiated? It is sometimes ackward for me. It seems like on an hour appointment thing do not happen as quick as I would sometimes like.

 

Personally if it is only an hour, then I initiate, as time is short and a valuable commodity at that point. Two hours plus, if dinner is involved especially with an overnight, I let the escort take the lead. I feel there is plenty of time for play. I love the feeling of being seduced.

 

If I do not feel, on say a two hour that he is not responding sexually fast enough, then I will initiate. I have only had that problem once, where the escort did not initiate, and it will not happen again, especially at todays prices, it is "Like throwing money out the window." In my opinion.

[jawjateck]

Years ago, most escorts would initiate the fun in short order; perhaps my more youthful appearance hastened the fun, but now.....my hair is thinner and my waist has 2 more inches, and I have to initiate the action with most escorts now, whether newbies or well-reviewed, short appointments or overnight. Some guys will sit at greater than arms length distance from you unless/until you make a move.

[+ purplekow]

I try not to let them get too good a look at me, so I keep the lights dim and go right in for a deep kiss as soon as the door is closed. I think of myself as having particularly stellar kissing skills so that once the lips have been locked a few times, I feel comfortable in slowing down the pace and allowing the escort to lead the way.

[jjkrkwood]

Its your Dollar, you should call the shots. Or arrange with the hire beforehand how the scene will playout. The clock is ticking man......no time for dilly-dally

[zach_wilson]

Hey Edward,

I feel that this is a common problem when meeting new clients, is i never know their comfort level. Sometimes some people are really nervous and wont really try and make a move for fear of doing something wrong, I am one of these people. Whilst I curtail every appointment to each particular ones likes and needs, if it is someone new this can be hard to do. So, in the instance they are new then I will usually once I feel both are comfortable and they feel that it is okay to make a move on me then I scoot really close maybe take a little more clothing off claiming to be getting comfortable. Usually this trick works and they understand that I am trying to signal I am ready. However if it is someone I have met with before I am not as weary of doing something they wouldn't like done and will make more of a move. Also the question here is hard to answer as Jjkrkwood said, you call that shots. Some people in that position choose to take longer talking and getting to know each other/catching up. Some prefer playing before talking or just playing. Whichever it is for you just remember some people may require you to make the first move as they are nervous too. Hope this helps a bit

 

xoxo zach