Cross Dressing

[SteveEscort]

After much consideration and thought I have decided to put on my website that I will no longer see cross dressers. Is this bad of me ?

 

I have had a number of cross dressing clients over the years and although some are just a pair of panties, some turn up in the whole regalia including fishnets and on occasion high heels.

 

Being gay, womens underwear doesn't interest me, I cringe at having to run my hands down sheer stockings and I find stained panties that they've stolen from their wives, to sniff in private, to be vulgar.

 

Is this just an England thing or do other escorts get cross dressers too. About 1 in every 30 men I see have some kind of kink about it and being COMPLETELY gay I find the whole experience distressing at times. I try not to look disappointed when a smart suited hairy businessman arrives in a suit to find he's got a basque and stockings on underneath.

[Kevin Slater]

I have nothing interesting to say about your decision not to see cross dressers, but I do think you don't need to advertize that. Your marketing is for the clients you do want to see. Why confuse that with a "no" message?

 

Kevin Slater

[jjkrkwood]

Only YOU can decide the focus of your business and what works for you. I dont think you have any obligation to accommodate the entire public, and always have the right to select the clients you choose and prefer to see. If the affect of excluding crossdressers is tolerable to your income, then there is absolutely no reason that you should do something you are not comfortable with.

[+ Travis69]

Would the suited businessman with just a pair of women's panties consider himself a cross dresser or just a little kinky? You might want to be very specific in your advertising if you proceeed with this decision.

[SteveEscort]

I don't mind the panties ones Travis, I am slightly offended by the ones wearing stained underwear which stinks to high heaven and I don't think a trucker called Brian looks good dressed as Madonna. I find it hard to maintain an erection during such appointments, especially when they want fucked in something they bought off ebay for the larger lady, I am very good at the dirty chat with men but not when they want to be called Cindy.

 

I don't know what to do

[+ Travis69]

I don't mind the panties ones Travis, I am slightly offended by the ones wearing stained underwear which stinks to high heaven and I don't think a trucker called Brian looks good dressed as Madonna. I find it hard to maintain an erection during such appointments, especially when they want fucked in something they bought off ebay for the larger lady, I am very good at the dirty chat with men but not when they want to be called Cindy.

 

I don't know what to do

 

Correct me if I'm wrong but I get the sense that you definitely prefer to be the bottum. If so I would market myself as such and that might take you out of situations you find unappealling. Do you enjoy fucking a man without the stained panties, etc.?

[SteveEscort]

I do market myself as bottom but I am around 60% bottom 40% top so they still phone LOL

 

Most don't mention it and turn up with it on under their clothes. I had one this afternoon since writing then who was wearing french knickers, he never mentioned them and neither did I and the appointment wasn't about them. I think it's more the role play that gets to me a little with it

[+ Travis69]

Perhaps in your ad - "No disrepect to people who enjoy crossdressing, but it does nothing for me and actually has a negative impact on my ability to give you a good session. Perhaps another escort would be better suited for those into any form of crossdressing."

[+ deej]

This is very similar to something that comes up often and with predictable results: Should an escort advertise "NO BLACKS"? (Or "NO FATTIES", etc.)

 

There are, predictably, two points of view and both are hotly contested. 1) He's a public accomodation and should accept all customers, and 2) If he's going to have performance problems I'd rather know up front and not waste my time. This one is argued as fiercely as whether or not tipping is appropriate.

 

There's no right answer from a customer's POV. You're going to piss off someone either way. That's just the nature of the beast.

 

From YOUR POV, it depends on how much this kind of situation bothers you. If you can shrug it off and move on, then that's probably the best bet. However, and this sounds more like the case, if it bothers you enough that you become wary of all clients then you might be well served by putting it in your advertising just so you don't end up with the inevitable review saying "he seemed put off by something" without mentioning that the reviewer was dressed like Audrey Hepburn.

[SteveEscort]

I would never turn anyone away like that, although saying that I prefer not to see guys 16-21 either (and before you all start on me, the legal age of consent for gay men in England is 16).

 

The cross dressing isn't for me. As I said, panties are fine as long as they're errrrrrm not someone else's used ones but I draw the line at Greta Garbo and Monroe, Deitrich and De-Maggio

[Edward]

What if you are asked to show up in your workout closes after a workout wearing a jock strap underneath?

[SteveEscort]

What if you are asked to show up in your workout closes after a workout wearing a jock strap underneath?

 

I always wear a jock - easy access

[jjkrkwood]

I would never turn anyone away like that, although saying that I prefer not to see guys 16-21 either (and before you all start on me, the legal age of consent for gay men in England is 16).

 

The cross dressing isn't for me. As I said, panties are fine as long as they're errrrrrm not someone else's used ones but I draw the line at Greta Garbo and Monroe, Deitrich and De-Maggio

 

Just Vogue, vogue, vogue ...........

[JustASailor]

Joe Dimaggio deserves a chance.

[justaguy]

Steve,

 

If something distresses you to the point that it makes your job so unpleasant that it affects both your attitude and your performance, you shouldn't do it. That being said, I became confused as I read through your replies. A large part seems to focus on hygiene--to me smelly stained underwear is a turn off no matter what gender it was made for. You've also said that panties are fine but an entire outfit isn't. At that point I'm not sure how you would phrase your ad to indicate where you draw the line.

 

In the end, though, it doesn't matter what I or any one else thinks. It's your life. You need to do what's best for your own happiness, including what gives you job satisfaction.

[+ Lucky]

My mom advised me to always wear clean underwear. She did too, but I never wore hers. I can't imagine a client showing up in dirty, smelly underwear, even if it is his.

[SteveEscort]

My mom advised me to always wear clean underwear. She did too, but I never wore hers. I can't imagine a client showing up in dirty, smelly underwear, even if it is his.

 

Well they do, you've just not come across any yet. Do this for 12 years like me and you most certainly will. They're the exception not the rule but it does happen

[SteveEscort]

Steve,

 

A large part seems to focus on hygiene--to me smelly stained underwear is a turn off no matter what gender it was made for. You've also said that panties are fine but an entire outfit isn't. At that point I'm not sure how you would phrase your ad to indicate where you draw the line.

 

Wearing their wives stained underwear and sniffing it is a horrible experience for me but it turns them on I suppose. They obviously like the smell, each to their own. I cringe at having to touch guys wearing seamed stockings, pretending I like the feel of them and I can't do the dirty talk with them when they're dressed like Shirley Maclaine. I can do dirty talk when he's a big 6ft 8 hairy bloke with his cock buried deep inside me, that's ok but I find calling a builder called Alan his other name such as Penny to be difficult.

[SteveEscort]

Just a quick follow up for you all, stinky panties man phoned me yesterday to see me at 4pm. I told him I couldn't see him after the last appointment and that I was a little distressed after the appointment and couldn't get the smell out of my head. He asked to see me without the cross dressing and role play, however 90% of the appointment is role play and I am top during the appointment and so I still refused it. I am 95% sure I still couldn't get an erection and I know he wants the dressing up and role play and so I want him to get what he wants, even if it happens to be with someone else.

[BaronArtz]

I sometimes ask escorts that I am familiar with to dress as a priest. Weird, right? Anyway, I have this thing about having sex with a priest. Or somebody who looks and dresses as a priest. Would that qualify as cross-dressing? They are naked under the robe ...

[+ Travis69]

I sometimes ask escorts that I am familiar with to dress as a priest. Weird, right? Anyway, I have this thing about having sex with a priest. Or somebody who looks and dresses as a priest. Would that qualify as cross-dressing? They are naked under the robe ...

 

I would assume for it to classify as "cross-dressing" it would have to cross the gender roles such as you wanting to dress like a nun or have them do so. Your request I would classify as a fetish. A HOT one too. I will have to add it to my list.

[BaronArtz]

I would assume for it to classify as "cross-dressing" it would have to cross the gender roles such as you wanting to dress like a nun or have them do so. Your request I would classify as a fetish. A HOT one too. I will have to add it to my list.

 

Travis, I was clearly thinking of gay sex, a male with a male priest (in traditional garb, i.e. a black robe with a roman collar). A Freudian trained psychologist may say that this reflects unresolved issues involving casual sex with priests as a teenager, but I have discarded those. Now I simply think it's HOT.

 

There is a sub-genre of soft porn movies involving sem-naked women dressed as nuns - the only clothing items worn by the 'actresses' are a nun's head gear, black gloves, a garter belt and nothing else. This used to be very popular in Germany in the 1970s, I am not sure it still is. I thought of it as highly entertaining in my early teens, but my tastes have thankfully evolved since then.

[robberbaron4u]

"Alexandros", familiarly known as "Lexi", at LA plays this particular "role" to perfection: 310.497.4581; he doesn't reply to email communcations.

[BaronArtz]

"Alexandros", familiarly known as "Lexi", at LA plays this particular "role" to perfection: 310.497.4581; he doesn't reply to email communcations.

 

Robberbaron - thank you for this recommendation, which I appreciate very much. I will make sure to contact 'Lexi' when I am on the West Coast next time.