Performance Review/Suggestions

[Maxx00]

Hey Guys. Question for the escorts:

 

After a session, have you ever had a client ask you for a review of their (the client's) performance and/or suggestions to improve their skills? If so, are you honest with the client, even if it may be somewhat embarrassing to the client, or do you gloss over the truth (lie) in hopes of retaining them as a client?

 

Just wondering if it is worth asking the question afterward to see if there's anything I'm missing in my own performance.

 

Thanks!

[jjkrkwood]

Hey Guys. Question for the escorts:

 

After a session, have you ever had a client ask you for a review of their (the client's) performance and/or suggestions to improve their skills? If so, are you honest with the client, even if it may be somewhat embarrassing to the client, or do you gloss over the truth (lie) in hopes of retaining them as a client?

 

Just wondering if it is worth asking the question afterward to see if there's anything I'm missing in my own performance.

 

Thanks!

 

This question suggests that the escorts word is the "word of God". Its simply ones persons opinion on YOUR performance, and his answer is not necessarily a problem with you, but just a problem for "him". Good sex is about 2 people "connecting" and having chemistry, which is a mish-mash of many things.. Perhaps some elements were lacking "for him" ? I wouldnt put too much stock in the answer, but if an answer could possible ease your insecurity, Then ASK !

[Guest MajorTomp]

Maxx, there is one escort here who coaches, teaches and mentors during his time with you. It's always done in a constructive and supportive way - he's just a natural born teacher and for him great sexual performance is related to your knowledge about the human body and it's response to different stimuli. His knowledge on top of being the most SEXUAL person I've ever met make him the top of the trade for me.

 

I still think fondly of him telling me my deep throating techniques was the one area that "could use some improvement" and then proceeding to provide instruction while shoving his dick down my throat! LOL

[SteveEscort]

To be honest I couldn't review a client that way, I am a very confident person but I am not that confident.

 

I have one client I see a lot who thinks he's the UK's number 1 stud, he's not, he's mediocre at best but he's a big macho bloke, full of confidence and very sure of himself and so I tell him he's the best fuck ever as he's banging away and slapping my ass cheeks. He thinks he's great and it's my job to make him feel great not offer advice.

[seeker630]

This question suggests that the escorts word is the "word of God". Its simply ones persons opinion on YOUR performance, and his answer is not necessarily a problem with you, but just a problem for "him". Good sex is about 2 people "connecting" and having chemistry, which is a mish-mash of many things.. Perhaps some elements were lacking "for him" ? I wouldnt put too much stock in the answer, but if an answer could possible ease your insecurity, Then ASK !

 

I don't see anything suggesting that the escort's opinion is 'the word of God'. Your post suggest the escort's opinion is essentially worthless.

 

IF a client is interested in feedback, it implies he wants to improve the experience. And for some clients. their own pleasure is tied at least partially to the escort's pleasure.

[+ poolboy48220]

I've never thought of asking, but now that you bring it up, I'd be interested in hearing an escort's opinion. It'd be a great way to learn to get better. What if I'm using my teeth giving head & not realizing it??!!

 

Major Tom, which escort are you referring to? I'm really interested.

[+ Travis69]

It's a good idea and would benefit the client, or any sexual partner, in the future but I can see it being taken in the wrong way and feelings being hurt. An escort might not want to take a chance and offend someone. I would have loved to have been able to review or offer suggestions to many bosses in the past. I can see some accepting my criticism and others getting pissed off.

[BostonPhil]

I am more comfortable giving that sort of advice on the spot. A sort of review may leave a client feeling inadequate at the end of the session. If you really want to know, just ask for a bit of coaching at the beginning of your session and take it from there.

 

To JJ's point, it is true every one is different. One thing I can say is that sex with a woman is much different than sex with a man. A lot of hiring guys have a lot of experience with the former and very little with the latter. Ask for and being open to feedback makes a session more enjoyable for both. Also, always pay attention to the signals your partner is sending you. If I jump up and off of your finger, that is a sign that what you were doing probably didn't feel good and you probably shouldn't not keep doing it over and over.

[bigvalboy]

I don't see anything suggesting that the escort's opinion is 'the word of God'. Your post suggest the escort's opinion is essentially worthless.

 

IF a client is interested in feedback, it implies he wants to improve the experience. And for some clients. their own pleasure is tied at least partially to the escort's pleasure.

 

I agree seek. I think many times the escorts feedback can be very valuable. I just went through this exact situation. I have NEVER done this before, but felt something was a little off and I wanted to know if it was on my end, so that in the future I would not repeat bad habits. At the end of our session, I asked the escort specific questions, not necessarily about the sex, but about several other things as well. Those questions are private and will remain between him and I.

 

The feedback I got back was to say the least very hurtful, but very valuable to me, and I also learned a lot from our brief exchange. Going forward, I am personally going to approach hires in the future much differently than I have in the past. I think that you should not ask for feedback unless you are willing to handle the truth.

[tyro]

Wow. I sure as hell wouldn't rush right out to repeat that experience. I know that sometimes the truth hurts, but geez.

T

[bigvalboy]

Wow. I sure as hell wouldn't rush right out to repeat that experience. I know that sometimes the truth hurts, but geez.

T

 

Don't worry 'T'.....LOL you don't need to tell me twice. I am done for awhile. On my way to Fort Lauderdale mid July, think I will stick with the dancing boys, and a lap dance or two..... or three.

[unsub2O17]

I know that you asked for escorts' opinions, but I can tell you what I do. First and foremost, I ask for instant feedback and to make it verbal. I'm not that good at reading body language, so I need to be told, i.e. "do this harder or softer, that feels great or I don't care for that, let's try this". The escort's enjoyment is a real biggy for me, so I couldn't wait for an end of session evaluation. I request him to be in charge and give me instant feedback. BTW, I do the same.

[seeker630]

I am more comfortable giving that sort of advice on the spot. A sort of review may leave a client feeling inadequate at the end of the session. If you really want to know, just ask for a bit of coaching at the beginning of your session and take it from there.

 

To JJ's point, it is true every one is different. One thing I can say is that sex with a woman is much different than sex with a man. A lot of hiring guys have a lot of experience with the former and very little with the latter. Ask for and being open to feedback makes a session more enjoyable for both. Also, always pay attention to the signals your partner is sending you. If I jump up and off of your finger, that is a sign that what you were doing probably didn't feel good and you probably shouldn't not keep doing it over and over.

 

I know that you asked for escorts' opinions, but I can tell you what I do. First and foremost, I ask for instant feedback and to make it verbal. I'm not that good at reading body language, so I need to be told, i.e. "do this harder or softer, that feels great or I don't care for that, let's try this". The escort's enjoyment is a real biggy for me, so I couldn't wait for an end of session evaluation. I request him to be in charge and give me instant feedback. BTW, I do the same.

 

We talk a lot about the importance of communcaitIon, and rightly so, but more often than not it's in the context of making hiring decisions and setting up appointments. This thread is a good reminder that communication DURING a session can enhance the experience. Sometimes it's verbal (or at least audible), sometimes its a physical response (drawing away or pulling something closer). Some of us need more explicit feedback than others.

 

And it can be tricky for an escort to determine the best channel for a client. I was with an escort a few months ago who repeatedly moved my hands toward or away from certain areas; for some reason, that bothered me - I would have preferred a verbal suggestion (maybe because I like to feel that I am the on 'in charge').. No way for him to know that, of course, and TELLING him would have probably made the situation more awkward. I have a habit of putting my hands on someone's head and pushing/pulling them down - but if there is resistance, I'll stop.

 

I tend to think that if there's feedback (& attention to it) during the session, there will be less need for a post-session debrief.

[maxwellissmart]

Hey Guys. Question for the escorts:

 

After a session, have you ever had a client ask you for a review of their (the client's) performance and/or suggestions to improve their skills? If so, are you honest with the client, even if it may be somewhat embarrassing to the client, or do you gloss over the truth (lie) in hopes of retaining them as a client?

 

Just wondering if it is worth asking the question afterward to see if there's anything I'm missing in my own performance.

 

Thanks!

 

Yes, and they were always adequate to good to excellent. The ones who are truly dreadful never seem to care or are completely clueless.

[Guest MajorTomp]

Poolboy, Check your PMs.

[BostonPhil]

I've never thought of asking, but now that you bring it up, I'd be interested in hearing an escort's opinion. It'd be a great way to learn to get better. What if I'm using my teeth giving head & not realizing it??!!

 

Major Tom, which escort are you referring to? I'm really interested.

 

Pay attention. LOL I hate teeth. Some people like it. If it happens a little I don't care cause teeth happen, but if it is going on a lot I am going to tell you. If you keep doing it, I will move us along to another activity. Besides the immediate pain, it can hurt later too.... Just don't suck dick like you see the girls in straight porn do. No offense to the ladies on the forum.

 

I agree seek. I think many times the escorts feedback can be very valuable. I just went through this exact situation. I have NEVER done this before, but felt something was a little off and I wanted to know if it was on my end, so that in the future I would not repeat bad habits. At the end of our session, I asked the escort specific questions, not necessarily about the sex, but about several other things as well. Those questions are private and will remain between him and I.

 

The feedback I got back was to say the least very hurtful, but very valuable to me, and I also learned a lot from our brief exchange. Going forward, I am personally going to approach hires in the future much differently than I have in the past. I think that you should not ask for feedback unless you are willing to handle the truth.

 

If you're gonna ask I am going to assume you want a truthful answer, I will tell you. But you need to be prepared to hear it and hopefully not be offended.

[jjkrkwood]

I don't see anything suggesting that the escort's opinion is 'the word of God'. Your post suggest the escort's opinion is essentially worthless.

 

IF a client is interested in feedback, it implies he wants to improve the experience. And for some clients. their own pleasure is tied at least partially to the escort's pleasure.

 

No, all it implies is that he is Insecure.. As far as "word of God goes" , I am unsure if the OP would ask a non-paid individual to rate his "Performance" in the boudoir, which therefore tells me he is giving some browniw points to the escort for HIS opinion. Maybe the OP used too much teeth when sucking the escort off, but the escort likes a "toothless bj". Its all about the individuals likes and not necessarilt something that needs fixing.

[BostonPhil]

No, all it implies is that he is Insecure.. As far as "word of God goes" , I am unsure if the OP would ask a non-paid individual to rate his "Performance" in the boudoir, which therefore tells me he is giving some browniw points to the escort for HIS opinion. Maybe the OP used too much teeth when sucking the escort off, but the escort likes a "toothless bj". Its all about the individuals likes and not necessarilt something that needs fixing.

 

I think he wants more generalities. We do get to see more guys than the average person, we get to know what a lot of guys like and don't. In general most guys don't like a whole lot of teeth. In general most guys don't have girl bits, don't treat an ass like it is girl bits. Cut guys don't have all that extra skin, don't treat the tool like there's give, my skin only stretches so far. If you're on your back and I'm sitting on your dick, if you pull your knees up you're just gonna fall out my ass. Kissing and eating my face are not the same thing.

[jjkrkwood]

I think he wants more generalities. We do get to see more guys than the average person, we get to know what a lot of guys like and don't. In general most guys don't like a whole lot of teeth. In general most guys don't have girl bits, don't treat an ass like it is girl bits. Cut guys don't have all that extra skin, don't treat the tool like there's give, my skin only stretches so far. If you're on your back and I'm sitting on your dick, if you pull your knees up you're just gonna fall out my ass. Kissing and eating my face are not the same thing.

 

Well, I coulda told you ALL those things, and I aint a highly qualified (or extremely cute, skinny, and blue eyed) escort !

[BostonPhil]

Well, I coulda told you ALL those things, and I aint a highly qualified (or extremely cute, skinny, and blue eyed) escort !

 

*BLUSH* Well, you're kinda a slut.

 

You have to remember that a lot of the people we see are married guys who may have never been with another man. Or guys who have been out of circulation for a while. Or they just want to know how to better please me the next time they see me.

[jjkrkwood]

*BLUSH* Well, you're kinda a slut.

 

You have to remember that a lot of the people we see are married guys who may have never been with another man. Or guys who have been out of circulation for a while. Or they just want to know how to better please me the next time they see me.[/QUOTE]

 

A higher fee AND a bigger tip !

[BostonPhil]

*BLUSH* Well, you're kinda a slut.

 

You have to remember that a lot of the people we see are married guys who may have never been with another man. Or guys who have been out of circulation for a while. Or they just want to know how to better please me the next time they see me.[/QUOTE]

 

A higher fee AND a bigger tip !

 

Tee Hee you said "tip"

[jjkrkwood]

 

Tee Hee you said "tip"

 

Yeah, but it WASNT meant in the "money" sense.... I know What you REALLY like !

[Keenan]

I've never run into this situation but if I did I would be honest with the client.

 

Keenan

Hey Guys. Question for the escorts:

 

After a session, have you ever had a client ask you for a review of their (the client's) performance and/or suggestions to improve their skills? If so, are you honest with the client, even if it may be somewhat embarrassing to the client, or do you gloss over the truth (lie) in hopes of retaining them as a client?

 

Just wondering if it is worth asking the question afterward to see if there's anything I'm missing in my own performance.

 

Thanks!

[Boner]

In general most guys don't have girl bits, don't treat an ass like it is girl bits.

 

I'd really like to sink my teeth into your thoughtful post but I have no idea of what this means.