Leaving the comfort zone behind...

[maxwellissmart]

I've said this before: one thing I've discovered about escorting (and I've talked to a number of clients about this) is that the activity affords me the opportunity to observe and experiment and participate with different activities that I might not get to otherwise.

 

Some things I've picked up over time:

- Before I escorted, I was almost exclusively a bottom. Now I'm predominately a top.

- I love doing anything in the shower.

- Chairs/tables are great for fucking.

- So is the corner of the bed.

- I can actually come in a rubber.

- My nipples actually DO work.

- Other ethnicities can be very hot.

- Age ranges that I wouldn't normally be interested in can be quite fun.

and so on.

 

Surprisingly, these are things I've never really experienced with a BF, which may be one of the reasons why BF-sex tends to drop down to virtually nothing after a while.

 

Granted, there are some activities I'm not interested in participating in—I'm not a particularly verbal person, but I used to be completely silent (I think it was more embarrassment than anything) and now I do enjoy making quite a bit of noise during sexytime. I also like using porn, toys, fingers, etc. Slings are awesome. Sex can be that much hotter with clothing. Or outside.

 

So, do you ever get out of your comfort zone? Do you use an escort to do this, or do you look at hiring as being something where you're going to tend to sticking with a "safer" activity that has the lowest margin for possible disappointment, since money is involved? Erie seems to be an example of someone who threw caution to the wind and kinda went for it, which I find to be exciting and admirable.

[bigvalboy]

So, do you ever get out of your comfort zone? Do you use an escort to do this, or do you look at hiring as being something where you're going to tend to sticking with a "safer" activity that has the lowest margin for possible disappointment, since money is involved?

 

For me it has nothing to do with money. I hire because I am looking for a very specific kind of experience. I do use escorts to fulfill this fantasy. You are correct, I don't want disappointment and therefore rarely try anything that is new. Recently I did try my hand at 'bondage'..I had one successful hire and most recently a complete and utter disaster. The escort actually asked me to leave, because I made him feel uncomfortable. (No details will ever be told beyond that last statement). But in short, I started hiring at 17 years old, because I wanted a very specific kind of guy and experience, and I rarely if ever have deviated from that since that first hire at 17...which by the way, was and still is one of the most amazing times I have ever had.

[maxwellissmart]

For me it has nothing to do with money. I hire because I am looking for a very specific kind of experience. I do use escorts to fulfill this fantasy. You are correct, I don't want disappointment and therefore rarely try anything that is new. Recently I did try my hand at 'bondage'..I had one successful hire and most recently a complete and utter disaster. The escort actually asked me to leave, because I made him feel uncomfortable. (No details will ever be told beyond that last statement). But in short, I started hiring at 17 years old, because I wanted a very specific kind of guy and experience, and I have not deviated from that since then...

 

Well obviously it's up to you whether or not you share the details, but don't you think it would be helpful to examine what happened and why with some other POVs? Unless of course you're not interested in pursuing that particular scene again.

 

SEVENTEEN? My word.

[bigvalboy]

Well obviously it's up to you whether or not you share the details, but don't you think it would be helpful to examine what happened and why with some other POVs? Unless of course you're not interested in pursuing that particular scene again.

 

SEVENTEEN? My word.

 

It was an ugly and disturbing night, I have thought about it at length and I know exactly when and where things went terribly wrong, and I really am interested in forgetting about it. Now bondage I have not given up on, and will be leaving in a couple of days for Chi-town to further that little fantasy. AND yes...17 it was wonderful!

[Boner]

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[bigvalboy]

That was wonderful Boner!!! For one fleeting moment, I was 17 again, and thought fondly of what could have been..."Oh to be young again" and with that, I think I will go out for some air, and a nice walk...

[Boner]

That was wonderful Boner!!! For one fleeting moment, I was 17 again, and thought fondly of what could have been...

 

Life begins when you realize that what could have been, will someday be. Keep walking outside!

[jjkrkwood]

I am almost 61, and have been GAY my entire life.... Therefore, I have done a lot of experimenting, and at this point in life KNOW what works for me and what doesnt. Yes I have particular

fetishes that are not readily available to me in REAL life, and for THIS I hire... not for run of the mill regular sex which I can still easily get for Free.... I am in touch with my mind and body and am Blessed that I am still healthy and able to engage in the sexual activites I enjoy. I dont regret anything in THAT area. !

[bigvalboy]

Life begins when you realize that what could have been, will someday be. Keep walking outside!

 

I disagree, I am realistic, I think life begins when you come to the realization that, 'what could have been'...possibly never will be, and that you as a person and your life are still OK. Some things in the past cannot not be pursued into the future. Life is ever changing and evolving, and to accept the past for what it is, can often be liberating. I think I will stop walking now and come inside. I have packing to do for Chi-town...where I will meet a host of good, real and decent friends for food, wine and laughter...

[Boner]

I think life begins when you realize that there is the possibility that, what 'could have been'...never will be, and that you as a person are still OK.

 

I disagree. it will never be Ok, to be Ok, with anything short of who you are now or who you can and want to be in the future. Never. Ever.

 

If you embrace never-that is who you will become.

 

Some things in the past cannot be pursued in the future.

 

And so, they should not. The future reflects what you are leaving behind as much as it projects everywhere of which you are going.

 

Life is ever changing and evolving, and to accept the past for what it is, can often be liberating. I think I will stop walking now and come inside. I have packing to do for Chi-town...where I will meet a host of good and decent friends for food, wine and laughter...

 

You are soo on your way to the happiest days of your life. Never look back, until it's an important, step forward.

[unsub2O17]

BVB, I have a fair suspicion of what and who you're going to do. And I am SO jealous that I can hardly stand it--and I hope that knowledge makes it even better for you. I really do! Unsub

[bigvalboy]

BVB, I have a fair suspicion of what and who you're going to do. And I am SO jealous that I can hardly stand it--and I hope that knowledge makes it even better for you. I really do! Unsub

 

Unsub...I will send you pics!! AND I will toast one for you...Cheers, BVB

[unsub2O17]

Unsub...I will send you pics!! AND I will toast one for you...Cheers, BVB

 

Promises. Promises.--- Enjoy!

[gallahadesquire]

I disagree, I am realistic, I think life begins when you come to the realization that, 'what could have been'...possibly never will be, and that you as a person and your life are still OK. Some things in the past cannot not be pursued into the future. Life is ever changing and evolving, and to accept the past for what it is, can often be liberating. I think I will stop walking now and come inside. I have packing to do for Chi-town...where I will meet a host of good, real and decent friends for food, wine and laughter...

 

I agree wholeheartedly. I would rebut Boner, but I'm just not in the mood for it. I think the operative word is "Possibly". I will never be a top, I will never climb the Tower of Learning in Pittsburgh again ... and I'm damn lucky to be alive and able to walk. I have a whole third-phase of my life to enter. I have six days to retirement. Much to do; people to annoy.

[robberbaron4u]

Ah, me! The corner of a bed: The celebrated Jaime Lee's favorite place for exploration and drilling. . .