Tipping

[rvwnsd]

... I understand it is best to leave the agreed payment out either in an envelope or just sitting on a table and not hand it directly to the escort (correct me if I'm wrong on that)...

 

I'm not sure where this understanding originated, but I never do that. I have the fee set aside in the pocket of my pants, in a drawer, in my backpack, etc. However, I do not leave it on a table nor do I give it to the escort up-front. After the session, I hand him the fee, which I often place in an envelope so I do not inadvertently leave some in my pocket.

 

 

...My question is, how do you handle the tip if everything goes well?

 

Keep the tip separate from the fee. If you choose to tip, add the tip to the fee before you give it to the escort.

 

I had an unfortunate experience with a fairly well-reviewed escort. Since he was well-reviewed, I included a generous tip in the envelope I had already set out...

 

Don't tip based on someone else's experience. Reviews capture a person's impression of the experience they had with an escort. Reviews are not an indication of the experience you will have with an escort.

 

The experience was less than satisfactory (it was over in about 35 minutes) but I was too embarrassed to dig through the cash to remove the tip or say anything (it was only my second escort experience). Needless to say, I won't make that mistake again. So, what is the best way to tip at the end? Just hand it over directly or add it to the payment on the table or in the envelope? Sorry if this sounds like a silly question.

 

Abandon the concept of leaving the fee on the table and hand it to him at the end. Typically, the escort thanks me when I hand him the fee.

 

I'm curious about the concept of tipping an escort. The escort receives the entire fee unless he works for an agency, so what makes you feel that you need to tip? The only time I have tipped in recent memory was when an escort drove a couple of hours to meet me and refused to charge me extra for doing so. I slipped enough money to cover what I would have spent to see him plus some extra $$s.

[maxwellissmart]

...so what makes you feel that you need to tip?

 

For the same reason that when I'm with a particularly nice or fun client who goes out of their way to make the experience enjoyable for me—I'm in no hurry to get out the door.

[jjkrkwood]

For the same reason that when I'm with a particularly nice or fun client who goes out of their way to make the experience enjoyable for me—I'm in no hurry to get out the door.

 

But if you stay past the alotted time, do you charge them ????

[BostonPhil]

But if you stay past the alotted time, do you charge them ????

 

Not if it is my choice to extend it. Mostly they insist on paying though.

[jjkrkwood]

Not if it is my choice to extend it. Mostly they insist on paying though.

 

YOU're a SWEET boy !

[BostonPhil]

YOU're a SWEET boy !

 

And Tangy

[robberbaron4u]

As by prior advisement, it is my custom to "tip" with clothing of the escort's preferred "brand", and, Ihold the "tip" separate and apart from his "fee". .

Hi guys. No, this is not the typical tipping question. I understand it is best to leave the agreed payment out either in an envelope or just sitting on a table and not hand it directly to the escort (correct me if I'm wrong on that). My question is, how do you handle the tip if everything goes well? I had an unfortunate experience with a fairly well-reviewed escort. Since he was well-reviewed, I included a generous tip in the envelope I had already set out. The experience was less than satisfactory (it was over in about 35 minutes) but I was too embarrassed to dig through the cash to remove the tip or say anything (it was only my second escort experience). Needless to say, I won't make that mistake again. So, what is the best way to tip at the end? Just hand it over directly or add it to the payment on the table or in the envelope? Sorry if this sounds like a silly question.

[Keenan]

If and when I am tipped I am usually tipped at the end. It depends on how comfortable the client is but they will either slide extra into the envelope while I'm getting dressed or they will hand it to me directly. Either option works.

 

Keenan

Hi guys. No, this is not the typical tipping question. I understand it is best to leave the agreed payment out either in an envelope or just sitting on a table and not hand it directly to the escort (correct me if I'm wrong on that). My question is, how do you handle the tip if everything goes well? I had an unfortunate experience with a fairly well-reviewed escort. Since he was well-reviewed, I included a generous tip in the envelope I had already set out. The experience was less than satisfactory (it was over in about 35 minutes) but I was too embarrassed to dig through the cash to remove the tip or say anything (it was only my second escort experience). Needless to say, I won't make that mistake again. So, what is the best way to tip at the end? Just hand it over directly or add it to the payment on the table or in the envelope? Sorry if this sounds like a silly question.

[nate_sf]

I would handle tipping like this: keep the original fee in one place and the possible tip amount in another, nearby place.

"Hey, this is for you—and thank you! I put something extra in there for you—you deserve it."

 

I think this is a good approach, and it's what I do when I get a massage or see another working guy. There's no need to be subtle about giving the tip... it is indeed optional and should only be given when it's been an above-and-beyond experience, so you might as well acknowlege it. I ususally just keep it simple with something like, "Thanks, that was great (just what I needed ,etc etc). Here you go, and there's a little extra there."

 

I think leaving payment out to the side at the beginning is a traditional approach, but not necessary. Just hand the guy the cash at the end, with or without a tip.

 

And I'll agree with the others that a tip is welcome but not expected. Repeat business and/or a review are better than a tip.

[maxwellissmart]

But if you stay past the alotted time, do you charge them ????

 

If I stay past the allotted time because I lose track of time, no—I don't charge.

[unsub2O17]

Wow! Am I glad that I was out all day. There is so much good stuff (to think about) here. Thanks again, Maxx, for asking this question. So, why do I "routinely" tip. Is it to bolster MY poor self image?? You know, it just may be that! I'll have to think about this some more, but it may even be so bad as to mean that I want to see him again, and he won't see me if I don't tip him. Yes! It may, indeed, be that bad! And wrong! The only question that I feel has remained unanswered is how do you show your special (and I'll have to think more about what "special" means) appreciation to a visiting escort who you will never be able to reward by seeing regularly?

[+ Travis69]

The only question that I feel has remained unanswered is how do you show your special (and I'll have to think more about what "special" means) appreciation to a visiting escort who you will never be able to reward by seeing regularly?

 

A very sincere "thank you. It was very nice to meet you and have a chance to spend time with you. I really enjoyed myself."

[rvwnsd]

...The only question that I feel has remained unanswered is how do you show your special (and I'll have to think more about what "special" means) appreciation to a visiting escort who you will never be able to reward by seeing regularly?

 

By saying the following:

 

"I really enjoyed myself this [insert time of day here]. This was the best time I've had in ages. Thank you very much. Make sure you let me know when you are back in this area so we can meet up again."

 

and meaning it.

[Maxx00]

Thanks for all the great feedback!

 

I really appreciate all the comments and suggestions! I'll be much wiser the next time! I guess tipping is in my nature but I completely understand those who usually don't tip independent escorts. Lots of great stuff to think about.

[jjkrkwood]

Wow! Am I glad that I was out all day. There is so much good stuff (to think about) here. Thanks again, Maxx, for asking this question. So, why do I "routinely" tip. Is it to bolster MY poor self image?? You know, it just may be that! I'll have to think about this some more, but it may even be so bad as to mean that I want to see him again, and he won't see me if I don't tip him. Yes! It may, indeed, be that bad! And wrong! The only question that I feel has remained unanswered is how do you show your special (and I'll have to think more about what "special" means) appreciation to a visiting escort who you will never be able to reward by seeing regularly?

 

unsub, YOU have a unique personality which you have spoken about many times. YOU are a "pleaser", and with that said, your behavior and feelings of "reward" are consistent with that.

You always feel you need to go the "extra mile", while it may not be the case or even expected by your hire. Not sure WHY you feel the guy needs to be "rewarded" for having sex with you ? You've paid your fee and met your oblgation. A simple "THANK YOU", hand shake or peck on the cheek is more than enuf indication you enjoyed yourself. Everything else is about YOU and not the escort !

[bigvalboy]

At the end of the day MaxOO, I never tip on bad service, never! I had a bad experience with a very well reviewed escort once, and I had not separated the tip from the fee, as I was assuming it would be a stellar experience, it was not. SO when I went to pay, I asked him to break a 20 dollar bill so that he only got the fee. He said "No one has ever asked me for change before" I said "well I need change" ...SO since then I always put the fee in one pocket and the tip in another. I don't ever take my wallet into a strange location.

[jawjateck]

I really appreciate all the comments and suggestions! I'll be much wiser the next time! I guess tipping is in my nature but I completely understand those who usually don't tip independent escorts. Lots of great stuff to think about.

 

Hey Maxx.....Glad you are able to benefit from the advice and viewpoints offered. Since you're original question was about the method of tipping, I hope you can take advantage of the suggestions, and sort out the psycho-babble chatter about motivations for tipping; just toss that stuff in the trash where it belongs. You will find treasure and trash in virtually every thread. Sorting is the key to properly benefit from this resource. Happy hunting!

[+ FreshFluff]

Last year I was out for a pizza at our high end "Pizza Express" chain with 2 friends from London. The service was appalling, she poured red wine in the glass when we ordered white, the starters were quick but the main course took forever. At the end of the evening we left the actual amount that was printed on the bill, right down to the penny and left. I had forgot my scarf and as I walked back in our waitress had her back to us and said to the other "and no bloody tip" so in front of about 50 diners I patted her on the back and said "I'll give you a tip, get the order correct, don't have 45 minutes between courses and smile once in a while".

I went back a month later and they served me bang on time and everything was spot on.

 

The speed at which the entrees were delivered was more likely to be the kitchen's fault unless you saw the entrees sitting under the lights while she blabbed away. Also, if there were 50 other people there, some big party might have gotten their order in ahead of yours. (Appetizers are typically quicker to make.)

 

As far as smiling, some people just aren't big smilers.

[maxwellissmart]

The speed at which the entrees were delivered was more likely to be the kitchen's fault unless you saw the entrees sitting under the lights while she blabbed away. Also, if there were 50 other people there, some big party might have gotten their order in ahead of yours. (Appetizers are typically quicker to make.)

 

As far as smiling, some people just aren't big smilers.

 

Situation: The food is taking a loooong time.

Solution: Hey guys, our kitchen is backed up a little bit. Can I get anyone a round from the bar right now—it's on me?

 

Alcohol and bread sticks and discounts and laughter have a wonderful way of mending fences—particularly alcohol.

 

While it's true that sometimes you don't get tipped and it's not your fault—sometimes you could have done something and instead you did nothing to fix a problem. And anyone who allows a big party to monopolize the restaurant might as well be telling everyone else to get out, since the big party is the only one that matters.

[Phil_musc]

Wise words here, Maxwell. I've often wondered - if a waiter comps you drinks in such a situation, does he actually pay for them or does the restaurant as a customer service/appreciation gesture cover it? (Don't mean to hijack the thread - just curious)

[maxwellissmart]

Wise words here, Maxwell. I've often wondered - if a waiter comps you drinks in such a situation, does he actually pay for them or does the restaurant as a customer service/appreciation gesture cover it? (Don't mean to hijack the thread - just curious)

 

No, in fact it's usually illegal for an employer to try to force an employee to pay for anything unless it's to reimburse for damaged or destroyed property, and even that would probably have to go through court. Management writes off food and liquor all the time—whether it's for their friends, to bring in business, or to cover mistakes. Sometimes it's illegal to give away liquor—it just depends on the state/local ordinances, and how they deal with it. It's usually much easier to comp something than take on an unhappy guest who destroys your business by spreading negative word-of-mouth, or gets you in hot water with the owner. Although I've seen guests get "fired" themselves as well.

[instudiocity]

Wise words here, Maxwell. I've often wondered - if a waiter comps you drinks in such a situation, does he actually pay for them or does the restaurant as a customer service/appreciation gesture cover it? (Don't mean to hijack the thread - just curious)

I have some friends and family in the wait business. The first thing you have to know is if the waitperson has a till.

 

A till is basically a cash drawer that they have to give back at the end of their shift. They are responsible to the restaurant for every dollar they ring into the order system. At the end of the night, the waitperson's orders and credit card receipts are totaled. The waitperson is responsible for the net difference (less starting till) between those totals. For example: Total orders =$1,000, Total Credit Cards (including tips) =$895, the waitperson owes the restaurant $105 + their till. If total orders=$1,000 and Credit Cards (including tips)= $1,200. The restaurant owes the waitperson $200 and they keep any cash (over their starting till) that they've picked up during the shift, too. So, the waitperson may comp you a drink or dessert and ring it on their tab versus your check paying for it out of their tips, or the waitperson can request a comp from management who rings the item on management's tab.

[jjkrkwood]

Situation: The food is taking a loooong time.

Solution: Hey guys, our kitchen is backed up a little bit. Can I get anyone a round from the bar right now—it's on me?

 

Alcohol and bread sticks and discounts and laughter have a wonderful way of mending fences—particularly alcohol.

 

While it's true that sometimes you don't get tipped and it's not your fault—sometimes you could have done something and instead you did nothing to fix a problem. And anyone who allows a big party to monopolize the restaurant might as well be telling everyone else to get out, since the big party is the only one that matters.

 

I have never personally BEEN tipped for the mind Blowing service I provide. but I do get good word of mouth and repeat customers

[scottspearsxxx]

I never have a problem getting a tip extra afterwards especially if the client has had an extra good time.

Scott Spears

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