Overnight and extended hiring question

[down_to_business]

I have an escort that I am engaging for a week+ vacation. I really like the guy and we have vacationed for long weekends successfully in the past. Unfortunately, I don't like him as much when he drinks and he likes to drink.

 

Do I have a 'right' to ask my escort not to drink or at least to limit his alcohol intake over the course of our vacation?

[Guest Merlin155]

It should be part of the negotiations. You have a decision to make if he won't at least temper his drinking.

[OneFinger]

I have an escort that I am engaging for a week+ vacation. I really like the guy and we have vacationed for long weekends successfully in the past. Unfortunately, I don't like him as much when he drinks and he likes to drink.

 

Do I have a 'right' to ask my escort not to drink or at least to limit his alcohol intake over the course of our vacation?

 

I'm a client (not an escort) but here's my take on things.

 

Suppose the shoe was on the other foot and the escort said, "I really like servicing you. But, I enjoy it more when you don't drink as much (or don't take Viagra or don't use poppers, etc)." Do you feel the escort should dictate conditions like that to the client?

 

I think the client has every right to set reasonable conditions for the escort. But, if you know he drinks too much then I'd probably reconsider hiring him for a week+ vacation. I think the drinking conditions for a short hire may be reasonable. But, over a week+ vacation I think it would only put the escort on edge and possibly interfere with his ability to perform or meet your expectations (both physically / emotionally).

 

Yes, you have the "right" to set those limits. But, is that reasonable and really in anyone's best interest? I think you may be considering the wrong guy for the job.

[maxwellissmart]

I have an escort that I am engaging for a week+ vacation. I really like the guy and we have vacationed for long weekends successfully in the past. Unfortunately, I don't like him as much when he drinks and he likes to drink.

 

Do I have a 'right' to ask my escort not to drink or at least to limit his alcohol intake over the course of our vacation?

 

This is a recipe for disaster. I would hire your escort for short-term engagements and try someone else for the vacation.

[Lookin]

Hmmm. Almost every escort I've ever hired started drinking soon after I arrived and was positively stinko by the time I left. http://www.maleescortreview.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/rolleyes.gif

[SteveEscort]

I have an escort that I am engaging for a week+ vacation. I really like the guy and we have vacationed for long weekends successfully in the past. Unfortunately, I don't like him as much when he drinks and he likes to drink.

 

Do I have a 'right' to ask my escort not to drink or at least to limit his alcohol intake over the course of our vacation?

 

Yes you do......... I said in a different thread that I like a drink or 3 but that's in my personal life. I like to meet with friends a couple of nights a week and have a couple of bottles of wine in my village pub and catch up with the gossip and I like girlie weekends away to european cities with my cousin whom I have very close to and we bar hop and flirt with guys. That's me...... but ..........

 

When I am working as an escort I rarely touch it, I will have a sociable drink with the client in the room, bar or his home but I am usually driving so I am limited to 1-2 drinks. If a client doesn't drink at all I don't even think about it. Tonight I will probably have a glass of wine when I get home from my appointment. I have one booked in for 9pm tonight. I may have one drink with the client, if he offers, but if he doesn't I will have a glass of wine when I get home and relax in my own time.

 

I take my lead from the client and stick to it.

[+ purplekow]

If you ask and he agrees and then he drinks anyway, say on day #1, what are you to do?

 

You are there, he is there and one would assume the trip is underway.

 

Before hiring him, I would tell him, just as you told us, that you do not like him as much when he drinks and that as a condition of his coming he has to agree to forgo a portion of his payment, should he not be sober. If this is unacceptable, I would find someone else. In general, I would suggest you find someone else to start off, but if you like him, then you may want to make a go of it. You might also offer him a midweek day off for himself. On this day he could drink himself into a coma should he want to do so.

[SteveEscort]

You might also offer him a midweek day off for himself. On this day he could drink himself into a coma should he want to do so.

 

If I am on an extended appoinment, I ask during negotations if I can have an hour off to myself each day, just so I can sit down, have 5 minutes to myself, ring home and see how the kitties are, ring my cousin and see how my doggie is, check my emails, texts and voicemail on my work phone and then I can relax and get on with my day. It's not actually much to ask and it's never been denied. He's usually got calls/emails to make anyway so it's healthy on an extended appointment.

[MFLV]

If the guy likes to drink and you don't like him

as much when he drinks I think you need to find someone else. Sounds like a recipe for resentment and tension to me. Is that what you want to deal with on a vacation? I wouldn't.

[down_to_business]

I have an escort that I am engaging for a week+ vacation. I really like the guy and we have vacationed for long weekends successfully in the past. Unfortunately, I don't like him as much when he drinks and he likes to drink.

 

Do I have a 'right' to ask my escort not to drink or at least to limit his alcohol intake over the course of our vacation?

 

 

I appreciate the advice from all. Sometimes it's hard to convey the situation properly in text. Here are a few more bits of information. that I hope put it in context. My options to consider are to either discuss alcohol use before the trip, disucss it durring the trip, or just not bring it up at all. I will acknowledge some of you raise a good point that I may have been better off not arranging this trip, but that part has been done.

 

1) Changing my companion is not an option at this point. Flights have been booked and other arrangements made that are non-refundable non-changeable. He has taken the time off his job etc to make this trip with me, he is counting on the money for the trip, its really an incredible trip, and I am not the kind of person who would cancel on an escort like that, period.

 

2) The escort is really a fantastic man and a great companion in all other regards. I enjoy his company, he is attentive to me and my needs, hes doesn't smoke, he's attractive, kind, considerate, fun to be around, a good conversationalist, killer smile, great body, great dick, reasonable rates, awesome kisser, doesn't make me turn off the lights to have sex, warm and affectionate, and pretty damn good in the sack.

 

3) When I say I don't like him as much when he drinks, I still like him. He does not get mean, he does not get violent, he just gets 'silly' and more outgoing and uninhibited. He can handle his liquor well, he doesn't throw-up, he's still fully functional.

 

4) I could probably put up with the alcohol use and still have a good time.

 

Again, I appreciate all the advice, including the don't book the trip stuff-- but I would most appreciate any advice focusing on whether or not to confront the issue before it happens, after it happens, or not at all.

 

Thanks so much for the advice and your perspectives.

[SteveEscort]

Again, I appreciate all the advice, including the don't book the trip stuff-- but I would most appreciate any advice focusing on whether or not to confront the issue before it happens, after it happens, or not at all.

 

Thanks so much for the advice and your perspectives.

 

You could email/speak to him and say, "Bars and drinking arn't really my thing, I don't mind a social drink or a glass of wine at a cafe bar on a long hot summer afternoon but I am not into excessively drinking".

 

As I said above, I take my lead from the client and would never venture outside his personal comfort zone.

[MFLV]

Are you concerned about offending him if you mention the drinking issue? I know others will say who cares it's your time and money but I know I would be concerned about offending someone. What you described in your last post really doesnt sound too bad to me but I haven't seen how silly he gets. It actually sounds kind of fun. If you are comfortable with this guy just be honest with how you feel, sounds like you want to get it off your chest before you leave. Trust your gut since you know all the parameters of this situation better than anyone else. Good luck and I hope you have a GREAT time.

[seeker630]

I appreciate the advice from all. Sometimes it's hard to convey the situation properly in text. Here are a few more bits of information. that I hope put it in context. My options to consider are to either discuss alcohol use before the trip, disucss it durring the trip, or just not bring it up at all. I will acknowledge some of you raise a good point that I may have been better off not arranging this trip, but that part has been done.

 

1) Changing my companion is not an option at this point. Flights have been booked and other arrangements made that are non-refundable non-changeable. He has taken the time off his job etc to make this trip with me, he is counting on the money for the trip, its really an incredible trip, and I am not the kind of person who would cancel on an escort like that, period.

 

2) The escort is really a fantastic man and a great companion in all other regards. I enjoy his company, he is attentive to me and my needs, hes doesn't smoke, he's attractive, kind, considerate, fun to be around, a good conversationalist, killer smile, great body, great dick, reasonable rates, awesome kisser, doesn't make me turn off the lights to have sex, warm and affectionate, and pretty damn good in the sack.

 

3) When I say I don't like him as much when he drinks, I still like him. He does not get mean, he does not get violent, he just gets 'silly' and more outgoing and uninhibited. He can handle his liquor well, he doesn't throw-up, he's still fully functional.

 

4) I could probably put up with the alcohol use and still have a good time.

 

Again, I appreciate all the advice, including the don't book the trip stuff-- but I would most appreciate any advice focusing on whether or not to confront the issue before it happens, after it happens, or not at all.

 

Thanks so much for the advice and your perspectives.

 

None of us knows as much about his personality or the history & nature of your relationship as YOU do. I think only YOU are in a position to make the best guess about how he might respond, and to weigh the risk of negative consequences against your own discomfort. How likely is he to take offense at your commments? How much does his alcohol-influenced behavior bother you and how much is it likely to occur on this vacation? These are things to be weighed.

 

Good luck!

[citylaw1]

 

Again, I appreciate all the advice, including the don't book the trip stuff-- but I would most appreciate any advice focusing on whether or not to confront the issue before it happens, after it happens, or not at all.

 

It's important to note that YOU are on vacation, and your escort is working. You absolutely should mention the drinking prior to the trip. It's not like you're asking him to stand on his head. Perhaps phrase the drinking like, "hey, you're a lot of fun when we go out, and that's one of the reasons that I'm so looking forward to our week away! I would like to limit our drink consumption on this trip. I'm a little more shy than you, and I prefer a more low key approach. Is this an issue?" He'll get the point.

[citylaw1]

It should be part of the negotiations. You have a decision to make if he won't at least temper his drinking.

 

This isn't a negotiation at all. You're paying for his time, companionship, etc. If you don't want him drunk on the clock it's certainly reasonable.

[KMEM]

If he is "sensitive" (what gay guy isn't) likely asking or telling him ahead of time will NOT get things off to a good start. It may not ruin things but why "start" trouble on a vacation? Your best bet could be to just steer as best you can both of you away from drinking situations. Order ice tea instead of beer or wine and if he doesn't take the hint, then you might strongly suggest, why don't we just do ice tea today? Like any "problem", one day at a time is how to overcome it. Have fun.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[citylaw1]

If he is "sensitive" (what gay guy isn't) likely asking or telling him ahead of time will NOT get things off to a good start. It may not ruin things but why "start" trouble on a vacation? Your best bet could be to just steer as best you can both of you away from drinking situations. Order ice tea instead of beer or wine and if he doesn't take the hint, then you might strongly suggest, why don't we just do ice tea today? Like any "problem", one day at a time is how to overcome it. Have fun.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

Pretty good advice. If he doesn't take the hint by employing KMEM's suggestions, then take the next step.

[unsub2O17]

It sounds like this has been an issue for you with him before. Have you ever spoken to him about it before? He may be totally unaware either that he is doing it or that it makes you uncomfortable. So, if you haven't spoken about this before, wait until he is completely sober and bring it up in relation to his drinking when you're together. Something like, "you're terrific fun after one drink, but after two, I think that you get kind of loud and silly". Then, depending on whether or not he listens to you, you can bring it up again, show hesitancy when he orders too many drinks, or, as you have said, just live with it as part of his way of living.

[Michael Wayne]

there are sober choices available to you who are probably just as hot and nice. i never have more than 2 drinks when on the job. a drink or two to be social and to relax is great but as a top specialist my dick simply does not work well drunk...lol! so I learned years ago to know when to say when. http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

[Keenan]

You certainly have the right to ask him, you are paying for his time and he needs to be available for you. When I go out with a client I won't drink unless the client has let me know it's alright to.

 

Keenan

I have an escort that I am engaging for a week+ vacation. I really like the guy and we have vacationed for long weekends successfully in the past. Unfortunately, I don't like him as much when he drinks and he likes to drink.

 

Do I have a 'right' to ask my escort not to drink or at least to limit his alcohol intake over the course of our vacation?

[gp0560]

Since he's a great a companion in so many ways, how about after a few drinks saying, "I'm horny. Let's get back to the room, stat"? That should divert his attention! Yours, too, BTW.

[MiamiLooker]

Are you picking up the tab for his drinks? If so, that might be a reason he overindulges. If he’s paying for his own drinks, you might remind him that one of his goals for the trip was to return home with most of his fee.

[corndog]

I'm going to offer some unorthodox advice...

 

Maybe you should drink more.

 

I find that I'm often annoyed to be around people who are visibly more intoxicated than I am, but if I keep up, and we stay on the same level, everyone has a good time. Maybe you'll loosen up and have a great time. Or, if you try this early on the trip and get a little carried away, you can play the hangover card: "Uhhhgggg. If I see another drop of alcohol this trip, I think I'm going to be sick." Then, perhaps you'll be able to avoid the situation for the rest of the trip.

[Lookin]

I have an escort that I am engaging for a week+ vacation. I really like the guy and we have vacationed for long weekends successfully in the past. Unfortunately, I don't like him as much when he drinks and he likes to drink.

 

Do I have a 'right' to ask my escort not to drink or at least to limit his alcohol intake over the course of our vacation?

 

Why not email this or print it out and show it to him? Then ask him what he thinks.

 

If it's difficult for you to admit to being the one who asked the question, you can tell him you came across it on the internet and it reminded you of something that's been on your mind.

 

Sounds to me like the conversation needs to happen, and the issue is how to get it started.