cancelations and security deposits

[maxwellissmart]

I think if an escort is experiencing a lot of trouble with this it is something they can consider.

 

I miss the good old days when M4RN was free and you could create one account and a fake account to see if someone was really sick/sincere or just fucking with you.

[unsub2O17]

Prepay non cancellable or changeable airfare, yes, not a problem, I pay directly to the airline and the escort has my show of good faith but he also has no way to sell the ticket and rip me off. Pay a deposit for or per-pay an appointment, never again- it happened twice and I was completely ripped off. Escorts have no-called no showed on me time and time again- maybe 33% of all the appointments I make. If I prepay you, there is no incentive for you to show up and I have almost no recourse. Yes, I can write a bad review but you get the last word and could easily say 'look at all my other reviews that are good.. I did no such thing..I don't know who this person is..or fill in the blank with any excuse you want.'

 

I think it sucks that people treat you this way and I believe in honoring my obligations, but there are plenty of escorts who flake out and no show for appointments to and they don't ever reimburse me for my time or expenses.

 

Ouch! Your experiences can serve as a warning to both "sides".

[Michael Wayne]

HEY ZACH, Offering my advice to young escorts is something I enjoy but it is becoming more frustrating so I do it less and less these days unless I am specificly sought out and asked for it. All I will say is from my YEARS of actual experience in the field asking for any kind of deposit other than a round trip plane ticket is not good business practice. Accepting cards or paypal is DANGEROUS and common sense says do not do it. In all my years in the BIZ I have lost maybe a total of 5 clients who issisted on cards or pay pal. It is not worth it. This biz is a discreet and a CASH biz. Somethings do not and should not change. Finally, ALL of us are having the cancellation problems now (see my recent thread on the cancellation carosel continues) HOWEVER as we figured out in that thread as an escort you just have to man up and take it. Complaining and bitching about it does no good and accomplishes nothing but make you look like a whiner. This was what 90% of the members here concluded and I agreed with the. This forum can be very helpful when it reaches an overwhelming opinion. I know it is frustrating and pisses you off but keep your feeling to yourself. Also, get so far ahead financially that 5 or 6 cancellations do not hurt you int he wallet. You usually have to go through 10 flakes, fools and frauds to get one good, loyal regular client or multiple hour client but once you get him he is a gold mine for you. Be nice to everyone and if someone cancels just move on and don't worry about it. Even I have had to learn this very hard lesson. Mikey @ http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

[Michael Wayne]

Anton. I said nothing of the kind about Zack. I said that if he continues to speak of cancellations then he will be considered a whiner and a complainer by the board (not by me). My figures were from a thread I started called, "The cancellation carousel continues." In that thread I talked about an epidemic of cancellations and how we should respond to them. The VAST majority of answers suggested that I and all other escorts should simply man up and not speak of them BECAUSE we would get the reputation as whiners and complainers. Thus I stopped talking about the subject. Zach is an intelligent and cute young escort. Zach is NOT by any means compalining or whining at all. Others, however, will see it that way. My purpose on this forum is to be helpful

[Michael Wayne]

but to those here who do not like me then anything I say here is attacked

[BostonPhil]

I don't think Mikey was saying Zach was whining or bitching. I think he was cautioning him against coming here to blow off steam about work, the clients here are certainly understanding of the frustration cancellations bring. It seems he was more saying he didn't want Zach to be perceived as whining or bitching.

[down_to_business]

Hi Mikey,

 

Thanks for the clarification. Because of the remark "This was what 90% of the members here concluded" I thought you were referring to the current thread.

 

LOL, and frankly, I don't agree with these 90%.

 

We escorts have a business to run. I see no reason why we should have the burdon when a client has a job that changes his schedule on a regular basis. Our time is just as valuable as everybody else's. I don't find that whining, that's making a valid point.

 

But most of all, thanks for the clarification. (It's always good to have misunderstandings corrected.)

 

Sincerely, Anton.

 

Anton- being a client who is 100% opposed to a deposit based on my past experiences, may I ask you a question in all seriousness that might enlighten me or allow my view to evolve on the topic. If I give you a deposit for a meeting and you fail to show for the appointment (and it could be for the best reason in the world), how would you go about trying to compensate or make it up to me-- or would you feel that you didn't owe me anything?

 

Thanks