Advice that actually works

[unsub2O17]

To some extent this highlights some of the difficulties faced by clients, especially those that are novices at hiring. On one hand there has been tons of advice that the key to increasing the chances of a good encounter is to communicate with the escort those things that are important to the client or they think the escort should know. But then there is the message from some that there can't be too much detail or it shouldn't be too explicit in the discussions. I tend to spell out what is important to me and then say if any of that is an issue, let me know.

 

I LOVE this post. Thank you, jgoo. As someone who is fairly new to this, I have been really frustrated at the double and, what seems to me, contradictory message of "Communicate! No wait, don't waste the escort's time by fully communicating. He'll for sure think you're a flake." Okay. So which is it? You want your "cake," guys, but do you want to take the time to eat it??

[zeyfur]

It is me the one who must apologize; Since I mentioned in my post one of the worst writers of the last century, which also happens to be dead, I thought it would be clear that my post was a joke. Maybe I should resort to emoticons from now on, just to make sure. =) Or should it be ;-) ?

 

Also, thank you for your feedback; I hate being reiterative. I don't like it! It displeases me enormously to be repetitive... don't like it!

 

As I said directly to you, Joey, I was not distraught at all. I have a very thick skin and even though I carefully listen to feedback to see what I can learn from it, I also know that opinions are like assholes: We all have one and we are convinced ours is the best.

 

I believe my arse hole is the best, though.

 

Oh, I almost forgot: ;-)

 

 

 

Long, thick, hard and throbbing, that's right! =)

 

I need some proof about the long, think, hard and throbbing- personal inspection.

[KMEM]

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This "process" might be akin to buying a car, no, you cannot buy an escort but rent or maybe even lease. One point being is the "car" above $50,000? If so, the "salesman" likely will spend more time with you as compared to the "no brand mentioned" car at $15,000. Even so, if you are "kicking tires" he might not spend much time with you but it is incumbent upon the "sales person" to properly evaluate your "real" interest in buying. Some tire kickers are hiding the fact that they are "real" buyers and only need to be "persuaded" about the merits of the "viewed" car.

 

Back to escorts. If you are talking about an hour "encounter" both the escort and client are not likely to need to "waste" much time describing anything. It is likely to be wham, bam, thank you sir. Longer encounters justify more time being spent in communication by both. Once a meeting has actually taken place, then both are "free" to discover their levels of "happy communication" about future engagements.

 

Escorts, though experience, have various "keys" that alert them to "flakedom" and generally do not waste a lot of time to any who set off those "alarms". I once communicated with a guy in TX who was friendly, intelligent and willing but I was having my own problems with travel arrangements. Eventually, he broke off because I am sure he thought that I was a flake because I wanted to change the "place" of meeting. What he did not know and I did not adequately communicate was, that I was flying by private aircraft and was seeking a locale convenient to him and also with an airport (essential to using an aircaaft, according to me). Too bad. He seemed like a nice kid.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

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This "process" might be akin to buying a car, no, you cannot buy an escort but rent or maybe even lease. One point being is the "car" above $50,000? If so, the "salesman" likely will spend more time with you as compared to the "no brand mentioned" car at $15,000. Even so, if you are "kicking tires" he might not spend much time with you but it is incumbent upon the "sales person" to properly evaluate your "real" interest in buying. Some tire kickers are hiding the fact that they are "real" buyers and only need to be "persuaded" about the merits of the "viewed" car.

 

Back to escorts. If you are talking about an hour "encounter" both the escort and client are not likely to need to "waste" much time describing anything. It is likely to be wham, bam, thank you sir. Longer encounters justify more time being spent in communication by both. Once a meeting has actually taken place, then both are "free" to discover their levels of "happy communication" about future engagements.

 

Escorts, though experience, have various "keys" that alert them to "flakedom" and generally do not waste a lot of time to any who set off those "alarms". I once communicated with a guy in TX who was friendly, intelligent and willing but I was having my own problems with travel arrangements. Eventually, he broke off because I am sure he thought that I was a flake because I wanted to change the "place" of meeting. What he did not know and I did not adequately communicate was, that I was flying by private aircraft and was seeking a locale convenient to him and also with an airport (essential to using an aircaaft, according to me). Too bad. He seemed like a nice kid.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

Thank you, KNEM. Good analogy. So, the rule is: the more complicated the meeting, the more communication is required?

[KMEM]

The "rule" is that "everything" is a "process" meaning that each and everyone must undergo the "ritual" of arriving at a goal. I don't disagree that the more "complicated" the meeting the more communication required but I prefer to think that means the more communication is "desired" by both parties.

 

If you want an hourly, just say so and see what happens, but, if you want a week-end with a more complicated structure (more money) but also more "other" things involved, then say that also.

 

Escorts are trying to make money and clients are trying to have a "nice" encounter. There should be a happy way to do both, don't you think?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[unsub2O17]

The "rule" is that "everything" is a "process" meaning that each and everyone must undergo the "ritual" of arriving at a goal. I don't disagree that the more "complicated" the meeting the more communication required but I prefer to think that means the more communication is "desired" by both parties.

 

If you want an hourly, just say so and see what happens, but, if you want a week-end with a more complicated structure (more money) but also more "other" things involved, then say that also.

 

Escorts are trying to make money and clients are trying to have a "nice" encounter. There should be a happy way to do both, don't you think?

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

 

 

Rhetorical question? Well said, and thanks again for this clarification of an often "confusing" subject for me.

[maxwellissmart]

I'd be happy to meet someone for an overnight—provided they didn't ask me for a play-by-play of what's going to happen every minute, or ask me to describe explicit acts, or ask for pics that are already on my profile, or tell me I'm too expensive when I'm actually at the middle-to-low end of the fee continuum, or contact me three months in advance and then go silent until 45 minutes before they want to meet, or ask for a discount from the get-go because they're "going to be" a regular client... and so on, and so on. Apparently it's been a full moon every day for the month of April.

 

Alas—I can't remember which thread contained my lament about the client with the grammar problem, but I thought I would give him a chance and see if it panned out.

 

He stood me up. Imagine that.

[maxwellissmart]

Alas—I can't remember which thread contained my lament about the client with the grammar problem, but I thought I would give him a chance and see if it panned out.

 

He stood me up. Imagine that.

 

SIX HOURS AFTER OUR SCHEDULED APPOINTMENT I get an email that says: "oh hey—let's shoot for 10am tomorrow." No apology, no excuse—and when I said "we were supposed to meet this afternoon," his response was "oh, yeah—I was late."

 

"Take care."

 

Wow.