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[jjkrkwood]

While race may play an important role in the hiring process, I dont think we should make it a racial issue HERE. Its merely a preference in most cases and not worthy of having the topic beaten to death. People should just try to DISCUSS without throwing blame around. Its easy here to make accusations behind a screen, but all we know is what is presented to us and once you write it, its hard to take it back.... and I do think that you yourself play a large part in your own destiny.

[Guest countryboywny]

You may not think you're attacking me, but you just did LOL. Most of the people from the forum are either in California or New York or DC or places where escorts are generally more prevalent in.

 

When a client tells me, "whenever I go on men4rent, I call all the Black guys 1st"...then I don't expect him spending much time on daddys forums. Why? They probably glanced at it and seen that non of the guys being mentioned on here were what they were interested in and moved on. They are not interested in my posts. They are interested in getting their needs met and fulfilled. Unfortunately, there really isn't any resources out there for men to specifically chat and review over Black male escorts. Now, I've had people who've mentioned seeing my reviews but that's about it.

 

I'm not negative all the time. I mean, I have checked around with other people around my caliber and not many have as many good feedback as I do in such a short period of time. So, regardless of what I say...there's still people saying good things too. Now, it's not to be complacent and think that perhaps someone hasn't been turned off...but when someone is trying to reach out to other escorts as Mikey has been doing, then that's just part of the game. That's why you have to advertise on different sites, have different windows for people to see you in...and keep it moving.

 

Matter of fact, I find that when I post about current issues...they suddenly go away! It's like writing a memo. Cancellations stop cancelling, flakes stop flaking. It's like sending out a note to the universe, and sometimes it's necessary. One time I wrote about an incident that has occurred over the summer, and although no one from the forum was able to assist, I ended up meeting someone from an un-related website and in an instant the issue had vanished. Sometimes...you just have to speak to the universe regardless of whether or not you think it may or may not please everyone.

 

Joey,

 

First, if you took my suggestions as an attack, I apologize. Second, I live in Buffalo, hardly an escort paradise. None of the top tier escorts visit here, ever. The only time I see an escort here is if I fly him in. Third, I like black men and have hired a couple. Yes, I hire more white men than I do black men because most black escorts advertise as "thugs" and show themselves in gang clothes etc. I'm sure there is a market for this, but it's definitely NOT my cup of tea. As I said before, you make some very good points in your posts, and I'd like to meet you someday. Be sure to post your next trip to Buffalo! LOL Again, all I'm saying is that your screen persona would be greatly enhanced if you didn't SEEM so angry.

[jjkrkwood]

Joey,

 

Again, all I'm saying is that your screen persona would be greatly enhanced if you didn't SEEM so angry.

 

I think a more accurate word would be "disgruntled" ? and I have always totally agreed with that assessment.

[JoeyBryant]

then there are some of us who wouldn't be interested in hiring someone with a racecard chip on their shoulder. you always bring skin color into the conversation. get over it.

 

I'm sorry you felt that way, but that was not the point I was making. It was not a complaint. I simply made a statement based on the observations of the forum, the posts mentioned, and the escorts mentioned. Sure, every once in awhile someone will bring up a subject about one...but not as often. And for always bringing skin color into something...I've written 2 and 3 page long posts without mentioning skin color. So not sure where the f**k you get that from.

 

 

YES, while i do agree members tend to "gush" over thier hires, it has absolutley Nothing to do with Race as far as I am concerned.

 

I didn't say it did. I was referring to what it had to do with my meeting guys from the forum. Plus, as far as I'm aware I'm about the only one among escorts like myself that post here, unless someone is willing to confirm otherwise. I suspect 1 other person might be...but I'm not sure about him.

 

that may be, but here is not the place for him to complain about it.

 

besides, I don't buy into that pity party. life is what you make of it. if you put out negativity, you get it back.

 

Pity party as in? Life is what I've made it. I don't know why you're getting all serious. All I did is again, make a statement based on observation on posts. Now, whether you see that complaining or not is your prerogative, but I'm not going to argue about something that is obvious.

 

Maybe instead of focusing on negative, try not to lash out in every one of your posts.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

now...about those cancellations. Anyone noticing a decrease in them since middle of March? I think the Christmas credit cards have been paid off LOL.

[jjkrkwood]

Joey, while I can appreciate your explanation regarding your comments, I think if more than 1 persons misunderstands something you write, perhaps its written in a way that encourages the misunderstanding. While it was my interactions with YOU that got me Banned from this site, I owned what I said, and after re-reading it, wouldnt have changed anything. i wanted it received in the manner it was presented. But perhaps its always best to RE-READ what you right and determine as an impartial reader if you are getting your point across CORRECTLY and in the spirit you mean it ?

 

If every post made requires several followup explanations, there is something definitely wrong in the original presentation?

[rguer]

And for always bringing skin color into something...I've written 2 and 3 page long posts without mentioning skin color. So not sure where the f**k you get that from.

 

To some people, even an occasional mention of the existence of race or class differences is an offense.

 

It's a bit like those people who ignore the constant stream of blatant heterosexuality everywhere, but if two guys so much as hold hands in public, it's rubbing homosexuality in their face.

 

Hmmm. Having some homosexuality rubbed in my face sounds good right now.

[JoeyBryant]

While it was my actions with YOU that got me Banned from this site, I owned what I said, and after re-reading it, wouldnt have changed anything.

 

Correct. But let me say further your reactions to me was what got you banned. If you keep your composure and speak intelligently rather than brash-fully...then there would be no need for it.

 

That said, this is Mikey's thread...I am not fixing to backtrack. I would like to think I've made some valuable contribution thus far and needn't carry on.

 

As for as the 'not change anything'...I was quite amused the other day when a guest of mine showed me a tattoo reading, "you can't fix stupid"...but it was only readable in a mirror. I know New York has some AWESOME tattoo artists, perhaps you can consider?

 

...I'm kidding. I don't believe in bullying.