Running into a client when he's not a client...

[maxwellissmart]

This happened to me just the other day at the grocery sto and isn't the first time. While I don't tend to be Chatty Cathy with someone I know biblically, I don't exactly turn around and run either. This guy is one of the latter examples—he saw me across the produce arena and basically made a beeline away from me as fast as possible. Hell, if I hadn't had my glasses on I wouldn't have even recognized him. I guess I could understand if we had had a bad time together (he came twice and left me a $50 tip on top of my fee)—so perhaps his wife was there and since I shop in my pink sparkly chiffon cocktail dress and cat-eye glasses, she would have known what was up immediately. Or maybe he isn't allowed to have male friends. Yes, that must be it.

 

The other end of the spectrum is the client who won't shut up and wants to talk business in the middle of the produce aisle. "How's business going? You been busy—seeing lots of guys this weekend?" said in more-than-inside voice.

 

And naturally I've had to email a client before to let him know that I was coming over—and not as an escort. I've been invited to parties by a friend of a friend and discovered when the door is answered that "Oh hey, I've fucked your husband. Yes, it is a lovely bedroom—and your sheets are SOO soft! I mean, they look like they would be soft." This is a great way to realize you've been undercharging that guy who tells you he'd see you more often but his just can't afford it—as you're invited out to the garage to see the new family RV and their collection of BMW touring bikes for themselves and the kids. I've also been invited inadvertently as a plus one by the client, who is friends with my date. This usually ends up with questions like "We're still on for next Friday, right? Of course ________ and I are just fucking. You know I'd marry you. Why don't you show me the upstairs bathroom?" It's always fun to sneak a grope in these kinds of situations, or a rimjob. I have yet to actually fuck a client in his home while his wife/partner is there and doesn't know what's going on—but you never know.

 

Escorts?

[josephga]

I saw a massage client once 2 hrs after a massage in a restaurant once. I never said anything. I had one client piss me off once. he was a lawyer came to me 3 times. My brother was selling his home and the lady he sold to happen to have this lawyer as her closing attorney. He met my brother and recognized the resemblance. Even though he is 3 years younger we look almost like twins. He said to my brother aren't you related to Joe ****** ? Boy does he give me a good massage he ha ha ha hint hint. My brother who I have no relationship with since coming out in 99 couldn't wait to get to my mother with this information... Who I now no longer have a relationship with..

[maxwellissmart]

I saw a massage client once 2 hrs after a massage in a restaurant once. I never said anything. I had one client piss me off once. he was a lawyer came to me 3 times. My brother was selling his home and the lady he sold to happen to have this lawyer as her closing attorney. He met my brother and recognized the resemblance. Even though he is 3 years younger we look almost like twins. He said to my brother aren't you related to Joe ****** ? Boy does he give me a good massage he ha ha ha hint hint. My brother who I have no relationship with since coming out in 99 couldn't wait to get to my mother with this information... Who I now no longer have a relationship with..

 

Ouch. He must have been extra-sleezy to the point of not caring, because I've probably slept with half the lawyers in my hometown and every one of those was fucking ultra paranoid of being found out.

[josephga]

I wonder how he would have felt if id said that too his wife. omg you must be so and so's wife. He speaks of you all the time. i've jacked your husband off 3 times i feel like a member of the family give me a hug sweetie ha ha

[jjkrkwood]

What happened to the Sacred Code of Anonymity in public ????

[maxwellissmart]

What happened to the Sacred Code of Anonymity in public ????

 

Mr. Loudvoice wasn't buying what you're selling, sister.

 

"WHEN ARE WE GONNA GET NAKED AGAIN?????? AND ARE YOU GONNA GIVE ME A DEAL THIS TIME?"

[Bosguy]

Just reminded me of a story my favorite working guy told me a while ago. He was at an airport waiting fot his flight to board. He spotted one of his not favorite hiring guys who also spotted him and was rapidly heading towards him. He got up and headed to the restroom--hiring guy in hot pursuit. We're still on the phone and he's saying "Where should I go" Luckily he was a member of one of those airline clubs so he was able not to have to deal with this publicly insistent hiring guy.

 

I was howling laughing as this is going on because I could only think of the old rental car ad with OJ running and vaulting through the airport.

 

Point. A nice visual acknowledgement or a friendly hello is all that is needed.

 

Boston Bill

[whipped guy]

Yep... It can often be a hoot when one bumps into clients in the grocery story or where ever! Also, as alluded to, such sightings can run the whole gamut of possibilities. Some run the other way, while others go out of their way to make contact with you (for some reason 'accidentally' bumping into your shopping cart with their shopping cart seems to be a time-honored technique)... some simply give a congenial hello and others get chatty beyond belief... Also, clients seem to travel in groups. There have been times that I go into a store and it is like a client reunion or assembly... but I guess that happens when you live relatively close to where you work.

 

Incidentally, not being in the "oldest profession", I often get introduced to spouses and significant others. However, for those in "the business" it certainly must make for an awkward situation. Plus, it is hard enough to remember all their names to begin with... and if the escort and the client are both going by aliases it might make things just a bit more complicated!!!

[robberbaron4u]

By the "rules ofhe game", "contact" is permissible only in the event that the client acknowledges you, and, of course, the client must initiate the contact. As I have stated in this forum in the past, a knowledge of social etiquette would benefit any escort. And, doubtlessly, any numbers of clients. . .

[robberbaron4u]

And, of course, the rentboy may choose decline the acknowledgment of the client, "I am at a loss to recollect our acquaintance". The play then goes to the client who must properly introduce himself, "I am John Troll of New York City" with a handshake, or, he may excuse himself in a case of mistaken identity and return to his "corner". The "situation" dictates the protocol.

[rvwnsd]

I usually ask escorts what to do when we run into each other on the street. We usually agree that it is OK to say hi and chit-chat, but stay away from "hey, your asshole was unusually tight/man I'm still walking funny from last time we met!" I've had a few escorts ask that I not acknowledge them in public and I respect that request.

 

Regarding Joseph's attorney client, has he never heard of "masseur/client" privilege? Makes me wonder if he is that loose-lipped about his own clients.

[whipped guy]

Even though I don't live in an area populated by escorts, sometimes it can be a small world. Consequently, I have often wondered what I would do if I were in a public setting and bumped into an escort that I had hired... Even though I probably would want to jump his bones... I guess I would simply give a sly wink, a cagey nod, a stealthy smile, and go on my merry way.

[maxwellissmart]

I wonder how he would have felt if id said that too his wife. omg you must be so and so's wife. He speaks of you all the time. i've jacked your husband off 3 times i feel like a member of the family give me a hug sweetie ha ha

 

You would have to say the last part in Nathan Lane's voice a la "The Birdcage," or I would be dreadfully disappointed in you.

[maxwellissmart]

I usually ask escorts what to do when we run into each other on the street. We usually agree that it is OK to say hi and chit-chat, but stay away from "hey, your asshole was unusually tight/man I'm still walking funny from last time we met!" I've had a few escorts ask that I not acknowledge them in public and I respect that request.

 

Regarding Joseph's attorney client, has he never heard of "masseur/client" privilege? Makes me wonder if he is that loose-lipped about his own clients.

 

What's funny is when you see someone in public and you know that you know them from somewhere and then there's the slow dawning of horror—"oh, it's YOU"—and you feel like you're reenacting that scene from "The Poseidon Adventure" with the purser and you're playing Stella Stevens.

[JoeyBryant]

Well see, with me...I don't live in any area where my clients live. I live in the next county over and nobody in that town really hires anyone. Very few do.

 

I've never ran into a client in public (besides a gay bar, that in itself can be a bit awkward). Only once I met a guy years ago in Tampa, he was like in his 40s...I was like 18. We would do stuff in his car after the club. That's fun when you're 18 LOL. Silly me at the time, there was no money involved...

 

Wasn't it a trip when we ran into each other at BayWalk with his friends and my parents not far off? My parents must have been like...how the hell do you know him??? And the guy seemed so embarrassed...

 

And, of course, the rentboy may choose decline the acknowledgment of the client, "I am at a loss to recollect our acquaintance". The play then goes to the client who must properly introduce himself, "I am John Troll of New York City" with a handshake, or, he may excuse himself in a case of mistaken identity and return to his "corner". The "situation" dictates the protocol.

 

That's not very nice

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Last weekend I bumped into the guys who give me a 4-handed sensual massage at the theater. I saw one as he was passing my seat and we said "hi" in passing. He later came back and we discussed the show we were about to see. A while later his partner came over and said "hi" while we talked just as the lights flickered to indicate showtime.

 

Since there were several strangers mingling and talking before the show, my theater party assumed I simply had met them at another show.

[maxwellissmart]

...my theater party assumed I simply had met them at another show.

 

"Did you see who Sam was talking to?"

"I know, right? They are man*****s! I saw them on 'Geraldo' years ago."

"Sluts."

"Trash."

"Shh.. here he comes."

[+ Travis69]

The masseurs should have handed out their massage business cards to everyone in the group......

[maxwellissmart]

The masseurs should have handed out their massage business cards to everyone in the group......

 

From the way that some people on here talk, it wouldn't be out of the ordinary. I don't think I've ever seen a client who knew another client I've seen. The idea of referrals between clients who actually know each other is just kind of strange to me, because I've never experienced it.

[Kevin Slater]

Last weekend I bumped into the guys who give me a 4-handed sensual massage at the theater.

 

Now that's the kind of theater piece I like! How was it received by the audience?

 

Kevin Slater

[+ Travis69]

Now that's the kind of theater piece I like! How was it received by the audience?

 

Kevin Slater

 

The people in the first two rows got mad when they got sprayed with the happy ending.....

[Phil_musc]

In my younger closeted days when I was still living at home, I lived in fear that I would run into someone that somehow or other I knew from some other venue (You understand?). Then in my somewhat older but still-closeted college days, I lived in mortal fear that I would run into someone I knew (or had known somehow, probably Biblically)) with college friends who didn't know my story (at least I thought they didn't) and the resulting questions that might ensue - you know - how do you know him?, etc. Certainy made a strong case for not messing with the more flamboyant of our club. Then I moved to a large city (Philly) where I found the anonymity and privacy that I craved - no more awkward moments or living in fear. I also became somewhat bolder and more out about things so some of those fears went away - actually most of them. But what some of you have described above in this thread sounds like you live on the cul-de-sac of Knotts Landing or at least in some sort of small town where everyone already knows everyone else's business. Good luck with that.

 

Actually, I thought discretion was the rule of day in these situations, but I don't really know. This only happened to me when I ran into a guy that I had hired at the local pharmacy - and even then I wasn't a hundred per get sure. The lighting wasn't that illuminating.

[Phil_musc]

Yes, will that show be traveling throughout the country? I'll want to get my tickets early, I think. But I'll also probably want to wear washable clothes and leave the silks and furs at home. Somehow explaining what those crusty little stains are to my Korean Christian Dry Cleaner Ladies might be more than I'm up for.

[rvwnsd]

What's funny is when you see someone in public and you know that you know them from somewhere and then there's the slow dawning of horror—"oh, it's YOU"—and you feel like you're reenacting that scene from "The Poseidon Adventure" with the purser and you're playing Stella Stevens.

 

That HAS happened to me. A close friend had just started dating a guy and invited me to his new boyfriend's swanky Christmas party. I am there socializing and in walks a guy that whose cock I sucked on a pretty regular basis and whose name I forgot. We looked at each other, shrugged our shoulders, and pretended like we were acquaintances. Which we were, come to think of it. Anyway, he was my friend's BF's close friend. Later in the evening, we were playing "how did you meet the host?" Turned out he and the host met the same way we did. Everyone had a good laugh.

[raulgmanzo]

When I see a client in public I'm content to smile from a distance unless he initiates contact (as RobberBarron suggests) or I know beforehand that he would want me to recognize him and say hi..

 

When I have run into someone in public it is rarely if ever awkward from my point of view. I have a lot of friends and aquaintances of

all ages and walks of life and so my friends, family and neighbors are not surprised to see anybody smile, wave, or walk up and talk to me.

 

But I do request that people use my real name (NOT my escort name) when addressing me in public.