I am Suddenly Not Available

[SteveEscort]

This morning I had a guy phone asking for an incall - Great ..... I am available and ready.

 

He mentioned that he's a cross dresser and liked to be called Harriet - Great ...... I am available and ready

 

He asked if that's a problem - No ..... I am available and ready

 

Am I butch and bearded because he likes a real man with a real man shape and curves - Yes ..... I am available and ready

 

Do you mind if I turn up at the door as Harriet, with ..... stockings, very high red heels, thick red lipstick and a mini skirt and tit top

 

I am suddenly not available

 

I tried to compromise but you know guys, I live in a nice area, I own my own home outright, I have neighbours, who in over a decade have never questioned men turning up at my door but when Priscilla Presley walks down with a cigarette holder, 15 denier, fuck off heels and a tit top, it might arouse suspicion.

 

I said no on the fact it wasn't discreet for me. He/She took offence and said some nasty stuff. Thing is ........ I have to live here and I have to live here for the next 10 years until I retire from escorting and this is 70% of my income and so I am not fucking it up for a cross dresser who thinks it's fun to look like a hooker on heat.

 

Thoughts !!!!

[doitb4ugo]

You did the right thing....even when I meet someone...leather, etc) they arrive with a coat or something that doesn't attract attention (other than their good looks)....If I were in my home and had someone over, I too would not want them to be outrageous in dress of look...for the same reason...

 

Relax and move on with your life...only thought, did you offer to meet at their place...if so then you did nore than enough to accomodate.....

[SteveEscort]

I offered to arrive with their stuff in a bag and to get ready in my lobby or downstairs cloakroom but half of the appointment was the thrill of walking down my street looking like an extra from Pretty Woman. I am sorry but not in a residential area that looks like Wisteria Lane at 11am

[tom1980]

I don't blame you for saying no to this guy. Your reasons are valid and he should understand that you need to be discreet. When you told him it was a problem, he should've asked about changing into character once he was inside your home or if you could come to him. He had no right to be rude to you. The fact that the guy asked for permission instead of just showing up on your doorstep in full Harriet costume shows that he realized the costume could be an issue. When you confirmed it was an issue for you, he should've said thanks for your time and moved along or asked how you could accommodate him while preserving your own discretion.

[josephga]

You did the right thing. I had a guy get pissy with me in a email this morning. he asked if I offered prostate massage as well as fisting as part of the services? I told him no and why. I never offered fisting for a short time I offered prostate massage. I used latex free gloves as well as a prostate massager. After about 10 clients I discontinued it. I clearly told clients that they must douche and shower b4 showing up. most did not or lied about it. like i wouldn't notice. I have no intentions of spending half a hour cleaning shit up off someone and having to trash expensive towels over some nasty men that cant follow simple hygiene directions

[EZEtoGRU]

Don't think twice about it, you did the right thing. Living the fantasy behind closed doors is one thing. Arriving in the fantasy wear for all the neighbors to see is quite another. I was at a straight swinger function about a year ago. One couple arrived and was wearing spike heals and a full length fur (reminds me of the Ann Coulter thread). Once inside, off came the fur.....she was stark naked under the fur!! Point is that anyone who saw them leave their car and walk to the door would have been none the wiser. The fantasy started once she was inside behind a locked door.

[bigvalboy]

I totally agree with you. You have to be respectful of neighbors and he should be respectful of your wishes as well. I am very discreet around my neighbors, though all know that I am gay, but I don't throw that up in their face.

 

A few years back I picked up a kid at my local bar and brought him home (OK more than once)...but he was twenty something and very cute, unbelievable body, but liked to show off the goods, so to speak. We would come home very late and none of the neighbors would see him, but in the morning when I would take him back to Hollywood, I would tell him that he had to completely cover up and act respectful. On one occasion he ignored my request and left the house and stepped out into the driveway before I had a chance to get the car out. With two of my neighbors leaving for work, they just looked across the street in a bit of shock. He apparently thought it was funny. I was livid, but I said nothing. I backed the car out and he got in. He thought 'he was home free'.....WRONG!!! I drove a few blocks in silence and then pulled over and stopped the car, and looked at him right in the eye, and read him the riot act. The next several minutes of conversation, was very unpleasant for him....suffice it to say, he never did it again.

[seeker630]

No question that you were within your rights to decline the appointment.

 

Would HE have wanted YOU showing up at his front door tricked out in ass-less chaps and leather harness?

[jjkrkwood]

No question that you were within your rights to decline the appointment.

 

Would HE have wanted YOU showing up at his front door tricked out in ass-less chaps and leather harness?

 

You never know, he might have enjoyed that ? . I dont think its so much a matter of discretion as it is a matter of Respect. but as they say, the person on the paying end always seems to feel a sense of entitlement. On the other hand, I cant fault the client for asking. There might be an escort out there that would have indulged him? However I do believe he should have accepted Steves refusal to participate and ended the conversation with dignity.

[+ purplekow]

You were not the right escort for this person. He needed someone secure in themselves in such a situation and able to deal with the reaction extreme drag can generate. You were worried about the neighbors and not comfortable. Obviously not a right fit. You were right to refuse. He was not right to get angry. My guess is that his anger was more disappointment and frustration.

[seeker630]

You never know, he might have enjoyed that ? . I dont think its so much a matter of discretion as it is a matter of Respect. but as they say, the person on the paying end always seems to feel a sense of entitlement. On the other hand, I cant fault the client for asking. There might be an escort out there that would have indulged him? However I do believe he should have accepted Steves refusal to participate and ended the conversation with dignity.

 

Good point about RESPECT, jjk. I think it was a matter of both, but you're right that people's need for discretion varies (by person & circumstance), and the real offense here was the lack of respect the cleint showed for Steve's position once it was stated.

[Keenan]

I agree you did the right thing though I would've suggested meeting at a cheap hotel out of the neighborhood and possibly still have the job. Though due to the circumstances charge extra or have a minimum time to recoup the cost of the room or have him pay for the room.

 

Keenan

 

This morning I had a guy phone asking for an incall - Great ..... I am available and ready.

 

He mentioned that he's a cross dresser and liked to be called Harriet - Great ...... I am available and ready

 

He asked if that's a problem - No ..... I am available and ready

 

Am I butch and bearded because he likes a real man with a real man shape and curves - Yes ..... I am available and ready

 

Do you mind if I turn up at the door as Harriet, with ..... stockings, very high red heels, thick red lipstick and a mini skirt and tit top

 

I am suddenly not available

 

I tried to compromise but you know guys, I live in a nice area, I own my own home outright, I have neighbours, who in over a decade have never questioned men turning up at my door but when Priscilla Presley walks down with a cigarette holder, 15 denier, fuck off heels and a tit top, it might arouse suspicion.

 

I said no on the fact it wasn't discreet for me. He/She took offence and said some nasty stuff. Thing is ........ I have to live here and I have to live here for the next 10 years until I retire from escorting and this is 70% of my income and so I am not fucking it up for a cross dresser who thinks it's fun to look like a hooker on heat.

 

Thoughts !!!!

[rvwnsd]

I think you did the right thing. Based on the line of questioning, it sounds like he was building up to the big question, possibly because he has been turned down before. Alternatively, he might have been fucking with you and had no intention of hiring. At any rate, if you are not comfortable with a situation you should decline the job.

[Lohengrin1979]

You were not the right escort for this person. He needed someone secure in themselves in such a situation and able to deal with the reaction extreme drag can generate. You were worried about the neighbors and not comfortable. Obviously not a right fit. You were right to refuse. He was not right to get angry. My guess is that his anger was more disappointment and frustration.

 

This. 100 percent this. It's one thing to indulge a client's fantasy. You do that all the time. It's another for your private life to be impacted by a client's actions. You shouldn't feel even the slightest twinge of doubt about your decision. If it isn't right for you, it isn't right at all. Who would want to hire an escort for a situation or scenario that the escort wasn't comfortable with anyway?

 

Lohengrin

[Guest joeburger]

complete discretion is a 2 way street and harriet needs to understand your discretion. they should have showed up as a man with a suit case and just make themselves ready in the bathroom to full fill the fantacy. no attention would be brought to you from neighbors and harriet can live on.

 

joeburger

[jjkrkwood]

complete discretion is a 2 way street and harriet needs to understand your discretion. they should have showed up as a man with a suit case and just make themselves ready in the bathroom to full fill the fantacy. no attention would be brought to you from neighbors and harriet can live on.

 

joeburger

 

I suspect that part of Harriets fantasy was the public display part. Otherwise it wouldnt have been an issue.