Report from a first-time client

[Cal28]

Last week I posted here about being a nervous and excited first-time client, and I received lots of great suggestions and comments. So now that I have returned from my adventure, I want to report back.

 

First of all, it was terrific… just what the doctor ordered. I’ll soon be submitting my overwhelmingly positive review. I believe in the importance of this; not only does this guy deserve all the business he can handle, but those of us who venture into this universe, particularly ones who do with care and trepidation, deserve guidance and honesty.

 

So here are some things I discovered, which I hope will be useful to new clients, and maybe even to escorts:

 

- Talking beforehand IS important. I was able to do so with him a couple of times over the phone, though we kept it very brief (he didn’t want email). Then we talked again for a few minutes soon after he arrived, which was really when I felt at ease. So I recommend that intimidated clients be assertive with getting this, even though it can cut into the session, and that escorts be particularly approachable at this stage. It’s worth it.

- Letting go is the way to go. I had made a request for him to wear posing trunks, which he said he would… and then he forgot. Fortunately, I had prepared myself for this possibility in my mind, and decided in advance to be OK with it. Shrugging it off good-naturedly was the best thing I could have done, because the session was still off-the-charts (and they wouldn’t have stayed on for long anyway). Had I been a real boy scout, I would have picked up a pair beforehand, but no matter. That philosophy helped me on other ways as well. As long as my foot was on the brake, I had no problem letting him steer.

- Vanilla can be an awesome flavor. After reading my earlier post, one escort responded to my rather tame description of my intentions by suggesting that I seek out a masseur instead of an escort. Fair enough, except the guy I signed up with fit the body profile I was seeking perfectly, and no one offering a massage did. I was willing to spend the extra $$, and as it turns out, this guy wasn’t into the more ambitious stuff anyway (or at least he wasn’t with me). So everyone was happy.

- Take it for what it is. Some of this guy’s reviews claimed that he really “connected” with them, either through passionate kisses or eye contact. Uh, well… not with me. Don’t get me wrong, he was friendly and approachable, and he pressed all the right buttons. But lovemaking it was not. I hope I was a better-than-OK client; I was fresh and clean, respectful, in good humor, got into it and gave a good tip. Still, I get it: I was a job. I think I knew this would be the case intellectually, but I had to experience it in order to understand it emotionally. This realization gave me a moment of pause, but I snapped out of it with one of the best quotes I know: “What someone else thinks of you is none of your business.”

 

I’m glad I did it, and this forum really helped. If I end up doing it again, I’ll know where to turn. Thanks a lot.

[Irtwo]

"Some of this guy’s reviews claimed that he really “connected” with them, either through passionate kisses or eye contact. Uh, well… not with me."

 

Thanks for you feedback. Not sure I could give an overwhelming positive review based on that part. That's essential for me.

[maxwellissmart]

I had made a request for him to wear posing trunks, which he said he would… and then he forgot.

 

This irritates me. I'm glad you were able to overlook it and still have a good time.

[+ purplekow]

Glad you had a good time. Sometimes a bit of distance in a session is a good thing, allows you to do things you might hesitate to do otherwise. When I was dating women, I would push the sexual envelop further and faster with someone I was not necessarily looking to see again. Of course, sometimes when you push that envelop you also push a button that leads to your partner wanting to continue the hot sex. Such was the case of a young lady i left tied to the bed and when I awoke at home in the morning, there was a phone message asking me to return for a second act. But i digress. Still the best advice is relax and enjoy.

[RockHard]

This homie don't buy the dog ate my homework.

 

But lovemaking it was not.

 

Love is a required ingredient for "lovemaking." Some escorts are great actors, but if you want love, you'd have to pay me much more than $300 an hour. No matter what you pay, I don't see how anyone can provide "love" in a first-time, one-hour appointment.

 

It helps if all first-time clients don't let their fantasies turn into daytime soap operas.

 

I had made a request for him to wear posing trunks, which he said he would… and then he forgot.

 

That's a deal-breaker for me. I have specific things that turn me on (posing trunks not among them). If I inform you of those things beforehand, it's because I view them as important, even necessary. If you forget, that says to me my wishes weren't important enough for you to remember. What kind of customer service is that? I don't let go of these things easily.

[maxwellissmart]

Love is a required ingredient for "lovemaking."

 

That, and a soft easy chair and fresh, morning air.

[bigvalboy]

Agreed Max and RH...I rarely understand how a simple request will be ignored. I recently did a two hour, because I wanted time to really connect and if it went well then we would be off to Palm Springs. I asked twice through emails that he open the door with a long sleeve button down shirt and explained my reason and fantasy. It was simple really, but when he opened the door, he had on a tight pull over longsleeve t-shirt type shirt. My immediate reaction was, damn that's not what I asked and we were off to a bad start. Was it a deal breaker no, but it said that he really wasn't listening to my needs or maybe he did not care enough or repect me enough to accomodate my simple request.

[Phil_musc]

I guess I really don't have the gay gene that some of you have - I don't care what the guy is wearing at all when he opens the door. No deal-breaker for me. Now if I took the time to enumerate special things, it would kinda piss me off if the guy seemed to ignore them or "forget." Hmmm. Yes, poor customer service, I'd say.

 

Can't wait to read the review, Cal. I'm glad it worked out well for you and that you learned a lot in the process.

[Guest JackF]

That, and a soft easy chair and fresh, morning air.

 

You're so easy to please, maxwell.

[whipped guy]

Cal28… I think that you approached things with the perfect attitude… you were a “job”… and even though the good ones will bend over backward (literally and figuratively I might add) to please… at times they can be forgetful… some are not the brightest bulb in the marquee… and other’s just plain preoccupied… as you are not the only “job” that they have to accommodate… Still, it would have been nice if he indeed had remembered about the posing trunks.

 

Also, the first escort I hired definitely undersold himself… I was not sure if he was really into S&M to the extent that I wanted him to be (your equivalent of ‘massage vs. vanilla escort’), but when I got there he could have written the book on the subject… That was a good move as it didn’t scare me away and I didn’t set my sights overly high and subsequently set myself up for a disappointment.

 

Still, there will be disappointments along the way… it is inevitable…The key to success is to reduce the potential for letdowns. Moreover, with the help from this forum and the review section any frustrations will hopefully be minimized… Plus you seem to possess the correct mindset as I noted above… nothing is perfection in life… and at times one needs to bend a bit in order to make things work. (Speaking of posing trunks/underwear one guy wore red thinking it was my favorite color… but he was so awesome in other ways that it was easily overlooked… plus as you said they would be not be worn for long anyway!) Finally, we all “connect” differently… What you considered to be no real connection might be some other client’s Elysium.

 

In any event, I am glad you enjoyed… and may you take pleasure in many more!

[wayout]

 

Still, there will be disappointments along the way… it is inevitable…The key to success is to reduce the potential for letdowns. Moreover, with the help from this forum and the review section any frustrations will hopefully be minimized… Plus you seem to possess the correct mindset as I noted above… nothing is perfection in life… and at times one needs to bend a bit in order to make things work.

 

Very well said and I agree 100%

[Michael Wayne]

so glad you had a good time. f.y.i. 4 u: THERE IS A HIGHER LEVEL OF SERVICE that you can get- another dimension that the great ones possess. We DO kiss! You will NEVER feel like a job or be rushed. You will experience EVERYTHING YOU WANT. This is called the boyfriend experience and it is available if you choose to pursue it. Again, so glad your experience was positive. One more point: I have NEVER and WILL NEVER forget a special request from a client. That is called being a professional. http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1