Redux

[maxwellissmart]

Another topic that might have been addressed before, but here it goes...

 

How do you approach the topic of "I think we've met before"?

 

Escorts change their names for one reason or another—I've had to do it, and I've had to explain to clients that I've seen them before under a different name. I've also seen clients who contacted me under different emails and set up another appointment.

 

Escorts: You've changed your name and a client from the past contacts you. Do you clue him in or pretend that you've never met? Before or after the meeting? How do you handle clients who contacted you before that you don't want to see again?

 

Clients: You suddenly realize (for better or for worse) that the guy with his head between your legs has been there before. How do you address it, if at all? And have you ever played the switcheroo game yourself to see someone who has blacklisted you or dropped the communication ball for whatever reason? Did you confront him about it, or let the issue go?

[jjkrkwood]

This is an issue of "De Ja Who" ?..... and if you feel it needs addressing, it should be done so openly and honestly, like anything else.

 

However, I am not sure it would need addressing for me. I like to live in the now, and the escorts personal business is none of mine if it doesnt affect ME personally, so whoever he wants to be at the current time is OKee Dokee ......

[maxwellissmart]

"De Ja Who" ?.....

 

Your title is better than mine.

 

In my case, I told the client before I met with him that he had contacted me before and I had enjoyed meeting with him—and I explained why I had to change my profile. I also gave him the opportunity to opt out of meeting if he wanted to. We met again and had a great time.

[Guest JackF]

I changed my name once before, not that I needed or had to, but to protect myself and my future. I had a ton of phenomenal reviews online but I wanted to change my info before something "went wrong" or it was too late. I had to sort of "re-start" things all over and work for new reviews under my new name. I had some guys contact me under a different name because they recognized the pictures. They asked the name switch via email or when they would leave me a email message on M4RN or Rentboy.

 

I either explained it to them if they inquired further or if they didn't then I just let it be and never worried about it. Does that sort-of answer your question, I hope?

[+ Charlie]

In the days before the Internet, when most connections were made through print ads, I made an appt. with an escort whose name and NYC location I didn't recognize (I always prefer to do in-calls at the escort's place when travelling). When I got there and saw him, I realized that I had hired him a year before when he was using a different name. I explained that I hadn't had a bad experience the previous time, but I was not interested in doing it again. He became hostile, insisted we had never met before, and said that if I tried to leave he would beat the shit out of me; he was much bigger and younger than I, so I submitted to going through with it, and it was actually better than the first time.

 

A couple of years later, I was in another city (SF), answered an ad, and arrived to find the same guy. This time I pretended that I didn't recognize him, and he (probably) pretended not to recognize me. The sex was great. A few years later I was back in NYC, answered an ad, and there he was again. He seemed more mellow, so at the end of the session, I told him I recognized him, and he admitted he recognized me from the previous session in SF. The sex was OK, but not as good as the previous two meetings. Finally, a couple of years later, it happened again in NYC. By this time he had bulked up to the point that I no longer found him really attractive, but he had also turned quite affectionate, and I did it again for old times' sake.

 

Every name and ad had been different. I sometimes wonder if the second time he thought I WANTED to be forced into doing something, or if I just caught him on a really bad night.

[jjkrkwood]

If Only it were THAT easy for us Regular folk to reinvent ourselves, what a wonderful world it would be. !

[Steven_Draker]

... When I got there and saw him, I realized that I had hired him a year before when he was using a different name. I explained that I hadn't had a bad experience the previous time, but I was not interested in doing it again.

 

A couple of years later, I was in another city (SF), answered an ad, and arrived to find the same guy. This time I pretended that I didn't recognize him, and he (probably) pretended not to recognize me. The sex was great. A few years later I was back in NYC, answered an ad, and there he was again. He seemed more mellow, so at the end of the session, I told him I recognized him, and he admitted he recognized me from the previous session in SF.

 

Both examples show that you're consistent in your taste, even if you didn't recognized them from the ad.

[down_to_business]

If we had met previously under a different name and you realized this prior to our appointment, I would definitely appreciate a heads-up and the ability to decide whether or not I wanted to meet 'again'. If you didn't recognize me until we were actually face to 'fill-in-the-blank', then I think it would be nice to let me know before, during, or even after.

 

One time I did a 'unaware' repeat. He did not mention it at all so I didn't say anything either. I found it awkward, but not the end of the world uncomfortable.

[Guest joeburger]

it's happened to me where the client will just flat out say it. some clients from 4 to 5 yrs ago will resurface and will ask and i have changed names since then, i don't use a stage name anymore but i don't use my last name either. the situation is really not all that awkward.