What Would You Do?

[ErieBear]

I'm in LA for about 2 1/2 weeks, but pretty busy while I'm here. Had a couple days up front to play and a day at the end.

 

Hired an extremely reputable escort for the front end. He came over for what was supposed to be a 4 hour session. For some reason, I really struggled that night and couldn't really relax. There was supposed to be some light BDSM, but due to my inability to relax, I couldn't take very much.

 

Within 2 hours of him being there, he had brought me to a climax. I tried to go on, but by that time, was just plain tired and starting to get grumpy. So we called it a night. I paid him for the entire 4 hours and included a tip on top.

 

I had a good time, but not a "great" time. The escort was a great guy and I feel like the only reason I didn't have a better time was because I couldn't relax very well.

 

Now, i'm looking at the end of my trip. It's looking like I'm going to have Sunday night free. I was thinking of finding an escort for a couple of hours Sunday.

 

Would you hire the same guy again or go with someone new? I'd love to hear your recommendations.

 

Thanks.

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[+ Travis69]

Eriebear - Do you usually use the same escort over and over or do you enjoy the excitement of a new adventure with an unknown? If you usually feel more comfortable with the same escort then I would hire the first guy again but try and figure out how you can relax and make it a great time. I would also just hire for 2 hours with the option to extend. If you don't think you'll be able to relax with the first guy then i would either hire a new guy or not do it at all. Will you be able to relax with the second guy? Figure the relaxation and enjoyment part out for yourself first and then proceed.

[+ jeezopete]

Is this a first time occurrence for you or has it happened before? I’m sure you have reviewed it many times in your head, so have you figured out what might have caused your inability to relax? That would be a big step toward avoiding a repeat.

 

As far as hiring the same escort, it could go either way. On the plus side, you will be familiar with each other so you may be more comfortable right away. Because you paid him so well for your two hour session he will probably be even more willing to ensure that you have a great time. On the other hand, your mind could associate your nervousness with him and that might cause your anxiety level to rise even before he arrives. How do you feel when you think about seeing him again?

 

Some suggestions….first, don’t have any major expectations (how the scene will play out minute by minute), just let it flow. You’re hiring a professional so let him guide the activities while you just enjoy being with him. Second, maybe start with a massage. Let him work on you and then you work on him. It’s a great way to explore each other’s bodies while removing any stress. Or if your tub is big enough, how about soaking & relaxing together? A hot shower together with no sex, just bodies touching, soapy hands gliding, soft moans….. Think about what makes you relax (cuddling under the covers, whispers & soft kisses, watching a movie in bed, sharing wine or food) and start with that. Finally, although your climax is your ultimate goal, don’t forget to enjoy the journey that gets you there. That’s often the best part!

[seeker630]

Is this the same guy you had questions about in your pre-trip post? http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?84617-What-to-do-now&p=761810#post761810

[maxwellissmart]

Would you hire the same guy again or go with someone new? I'd love to hear your recommendations. Thanks.

 

"Good but not great" = Hire someone new. Don't take a Xanax—it's a recipe for disaster (and an expensive one at that). Try to think of something that the escort could do that would be intimate and relaxing before you play—either a bath or shower or massage. Then get busy.

[ErieBear]

No. This was someone I hired INSTEAD of him. And the escort was very, very good. I just felt like I couldn't communicate what I wanted very well. And on top of that, my nerves about this trip was getting in my head.

[seeker630]

No. This was someone I hired INSTEAD of him. And the escort was very, very good. I just felt like I couldn't communicate what I wanted very well. And on top of that, my nerves about this trip was getting in my head.

 

Thanks for the clarification. Sounds like your head wasn't in the right place for that appointment, because of fatigue, stress, etc.

 

You said "I had a good time, but not a "great" time. The escort was a great guy and I feel like the only reason I didn't have a better time was because I couldn't relax very well."

 

Do you think you will be able to relax better (& perhaps communicate better) with him on a second visit? Would hiring someone new be less stressful (no 'history') or more stressful (an unknown, starting all over again.) I would 'go with my gut' - no one here really knows exactly how/what you feel.

 

Good luck.

[+ Charlie]

I have had plenty of "good, but not great" times with escorts who I recognized were "great guys." I have usually regretted hiring them a second time, because although they are great guys, the sexual chemistry between us was not quite right. I would guess that the stress might actually be higher the second time, because I am constantly monitoring my reaction by comparing it to the first time, instead of just relaxing and going with the flow. However, that's me, and your mileage may differ.

[adriano46]

I too have met some great guys for what I would call a mediocre encounter. At first I blamed myself a lot and would hire them firna secind try-out that invariably was worse than the first. I now understand more the "chemistry" inherent in each and every encounter, and I also understand that my worst encounters are when stressed out from a bad business day or over-anxious or obsessing about escort. Best when I am totally relaxed and like others here have mentioned, a sexy warm sudsy shower followed by a nice erotic massage get all my personal buttons ready.

 

I would personally try someone else for 2nd encounter as variety is the spice of life.

[xxxdude]

No. This was someone I hired INSTEAD of him. And the escort was very, very good. I just felt like I couldn't communicate what I wanted very well. And on top of that, my nerves about this trip was getting in my head.

 

Would u mind sharing who the escort was? Cus it happened to me one time, early in the morning, I hired this escort and paid so much and since I was exhausted and have to work after, I wasn't able to enjoy it.

[RexAll]

I think the main things to consider are as previous posters have said- was this a one time thing- or are you usually nervous with escorts and the same thing has happened multiple times in the past? The other thing to consider is have you had repeats before. If you have, how did they go- were you just as uptight as with a first time meeting - of were you more relaxed? If knowing the guy ahead of time doesn't help break the ice more, then I might consider going with someone new. And while it doesn't guarantee a good time, I'd try to meet with someone who is a 'known quantity' here at Daddy's or someone whom you trust might have recommended.

 

Rex

[jjkrkwood]

I'm in LA for about 2 1/2 weeks, but pretty busy while I'm here. Had a couple days up front to play and a day at the end.

 

Hired an extremely reputable escort for the front end. He came over for what was supposed to be a 4 hour session. For some reason, I really struggled that night and couldn't really relax. There was supposed to be some light BDSM, but due to my inability to relax, I couldn't take very much.

 

Within 2 hours of him being there, he had brought me to a climax. I tried to go on, but by that time, was just plain tired and starting to get grumpy. So we called it a night. I paid him for the entire 4 hours and included a tip on top.

 

I had a good time, but not a "great" time. The escort was a great guy and I feel like the only reason I didn't have a better time was because I couldn't relax very well.

 

Now, i'm looking at the end of my trip. It's looking like I'm going to have Sunday night free. I was thinking of finding an escort for a couple of hours Sunday.

 

Would you hire the same guy again or go with someone new? I'd love to hear your recommendations.

 

Thanks.

 

Sex is really a psychological affair, and although you feel it was your mood that caused you to have a less than stellar experience, perhaps your mind and body were trying to tell you that "you were just not that into HIM"? If it were me, I'd go with someone different for the final leg of the trip.

[+ g56whiz]

If you can afford it, I'd hire him again for a shorter maybe two hour session and tell him to bring a friend. I'm guessing at the end of the second hour no one will want to end it.

[gallahadesquire]

Hire another guy. Variety is the spice of life! in California, you have all sorts of mixed populations; in Boston, we have Baked Beans and Indian Pudding.

[ErieBear]

Thanks all for your responses. I have decided to hire another escort. And I'll have a beer before he gets there, lol.

[xxxdude]

Thanks all for your responses. I have decided to hire another escort. And I'll have a beer before he gets there, lol.

 

So who did u hire?

[GoodFella69]

I would have hired another guy, too. I hope it worked out great for ya. FYI: In case you are still looking for a good time in LA, I've had good luck recently (in the past month) with both Spencer Whitman and Rod Hagen.

[Toulouse]

So ErieBear, you left us all in suspense. How did your second date with "the other" escort go? Hopefully he was a winner.

[ErieBear]

So ErieBear, you left us all in suspense. How did your second date with "the other" escort go? Hopefully he was a winner.

 

I see him on Sunday. Actually, he doesn't have any reviews, so I'm taking a chance. But hell, the first guy had TONS of good reviews.

[RexAll]

You've still never told us- and of course you may not plan to- whether the nervousness you felt with the 1st guy was usual for you or whether it was out of the ordinary.

 

Rex

[ErieBear]

You've still never told us- and of course you may not plan to- whether the nervousness you felt with the 1st guy was usual for you or whether it was out of the ordinary.

 

Rex

 

It was actually pretty normal for me, but also a bit elevated as well. For the last 2 weeks, I have been at a high-intensity program to lose weight. It was a lot of stress coming in (still is). I saw the first escort just before I came. So, I was a bit more stressed than normal. The other thing is that I struggle to talk about sex in person (or on the phone). I do much better behind a computer screen and keyboard. I need to work on communicating more and being more comfortable with my desires.

[tsgarp]

As someone who has always had a rough time finding a good date in LA, please share the identity of Mr. Sunday if he makes you happy!