What would you do? Question to both clients and escorts....

[jimboivyo]

Some escorts seem to have difficulty grasping this concept..

 

and that's why the smartest ones are the guys who don't even get involved here. doesn't take much to see that no matter what an escort says here, eventually folks will find a way to take him down.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Peter -- I have read with interest this thread. I am sorry for the problems you had. I am surprised it was jgoo, but it was a very standup thing for him to come forward. He has been a member with a great rep here so perhaps a bit of slack might be in order -- but just a bit (no 2 week vacations at first, jgoo ). At least until the trust is fully re-established, which it could be.

 

I'm in the camp if you make a commitment you honor it. If you don't cancel within a reasonable time (a day or 2 for a couple of hour appointment, maybe longer for an extended weekend/weekly hire), some compensation should be paid to your escort. If it's a great guy and a valid reason, especially with someone you have seen before, more than likely they will turn it down. But the offer should be extended, at least by my thinking.

 

But what if you are in a session for a multi-hour period and you just don't feel right or well. I'll fess up too. That was me Monday night. After the full gamut of the weekend's events, I was wiped out, spent, kaput. Old age is a bitch sometimes. Yet after everything was done, I still had a 4 hour appointment scheduled with a gentleman I've been dying to see for over a year. I tried to go through with it, but after an hour or two I realized I was going to be in no shape to drive the 2 hours home without being a physical danger to myself and others on the road if I didn't cut it short. It wasn't this gentleman's fault at all. He was everything I had hoped for. But I told him I needed to leave. I of course paid him for the full time (plus a tip), and sent him an email the next day apologizing profusely for not being able to go through with something we had both planned for so long. Of course he said I had nothing to apologize for, but I hope the relationship is intact.

 

I have been very lucky. I have never had an escort cancel an appointment. I had a problem agreeing to a time and location with one that drove me completely nuts (of course it was my very first hire which didn't help any), but in the end no problems. Maybe I'm at a big advantage in that I do know a lot of the guys I hire personally, even before I hire them for the first time. Probably half of the guys I've hired I had met in social settings long before I hired them. And I've communicated with the others enough (either here on the forum or through emails, texts and phone calls) that we did have at least the starting of a personal relationship before I met them for the first time. Like the gentleman on Monday night, with whom I've been exchanging emails and PMs for almost a year. I have never hired off of RB, RM or M4RN -- only Daddy's. Again, I know I'm the odd duck in that regard. But hiring only well reviewed guys here on Daddy's seems to have prevented any problems, at least in my case.

 

And for the most part, I'd bet Peter and most other escorts will have the same to say about clients here at Daddy's. It is the unusual circumstance for a problem to come up with a regular forum member. Not impossible. But certainly your odds of a successful meeting are greatly enhanced. At least that would be my guess. Am I wrong?

[+ peterhung85]

Peter -- I have read with interest this thread. I am sorry for the problems you had. I am surprised it was jgoo, but it was a very standup thing for him to come forward. He has been a member with a great rep here so perhaps a bit of slack might be in order -- but just a bit (no 2 week vacations at first, jgoo ). At least until the trust is fully re-established, which it could be.

 

I'm in the camp if you make a commitment you honor it. If you don't cancel within a reasonable time (a day or 2 for a couple of hour appointment, maybe longer for an extended weekend/weekly hire), some compensation should be paid to your escort. If it's a great guy and a valid reason, especially with someone you have seen before, more than likely they will turn it down. But the offer should be extended, at least by my thinking.

 

But what if you are in a session for a multi-hour period and you just don't feel right or well. I'll fess up too. That was me Monday night. After the full gamut of the weekend's events, I was wiped out, spent, kaput. Old age is a bitch sometimes. Yet after everything was done, I still had a 4 hour appointment scheduled with a gentleman I've been dying to see for over a year. I tried to go through with it, but after an hour or two I realized I was going to be in no shape to drive the 2 hours home without being a physical danger to myself and others on the road if I didn't cut it short. It wasn't this gentleman's fault at all. He was everything I had hoped for. But I told him I needed to leave. I of course paid him for the full time (plus a tip), and sent him an email the next day apologizing profusely for not being able to go through with something we had both planned for so long. Of course he said I had nothing to apologize for, but I hope the relationship is intact.

 

I have been very lucky. I have never had an escort cancel an appointment. I had a problem agreeing to a time and location with one that drove me completely nuts (of course it was my very first hire which didn't help any), but in the end no problems. Maybe I'm at a big advantage in that I do know a lot of the guys I hire personally, even before I hire them for the first time. Probably half of the guys I've hired I had met in social settings long before I hired them. And I've communicated with the others enough (either here on the forum or through emails, texts and phone calls) that we did have at least the starting of a personal relationship before I met them for the first time. Like the gentleman on Monday night, with whom I've been exchanging emails and PMs for almost a year. I have never hired off of RB, RM or M4RN -- only Daddy's. Again, I know I'm the odd duck in that regard. But hiring only well reviewed guys here on Daddy's seems to have prevented any problems, at least in my case.

 

And for the most part, I'd bet Peter and most other escorts will have the same to say about clients here at Daddy's. It is the unusual circumstance for a problem to come up with a regular forum member. Not impossible. But certainly your odds of a successful meeting are greatly enhanced. At least that would be my guess. Am I wrong?

 

Dear Lee,

 

Thank you very much for your posting. I am happy to say that I talked this over with client #2, and we both agreed that this was a pure miscommunication on both ends so it is settled now. You are right that if a client is looking for an escort on this forum (or an escort looking for a client) then setting up a meeting via this forum is not only safe®, but - in my opinion - you tend to meet quality people here which makes the entire session a lot better too!

 

Hope you have a pleasant evening!!!

[RockHard]

Professionalism and SUCCESS.

 

the smartest ones are the guys (escorts) who don't even get involved here

 

Sounds a little too bitter to me.

 

It is smart for some escorts to avoid participation on internet escort forums. Any escort, like Scott Sloan, who has contempt for this business and/or his customers will never build a successful business when his contempt is exposed.

 

When you write to express yourself, you reveal things that may not shine the most flattering light upon you. Life in the service industry is not fair: customers can get away with murder while business owners cannot.

 

However, after reading what you have to sign away by paying for an ad on Rentboy, I think it can be smarter and more cost-effective for an escort to come here and engage with actual customers. This forum can be a great tool to build your business and your reputation. Best of all, it's free. (You have Daddy to thank for that.)

 

It's true, not every customer is going to love your writing skills, or your sense of humor, or your desire to self-promote, or your looks, or your photographs, or your fake age, or your rate. Also true, the men here are very forgiving. You can suck at writing. Your sense of humor can annoy. Your self-promotion can piss people off. You can be remarkably not hot. Your photographs can be butt ugly. Your age can be off by twenty years. And your rate can be laughable. Nonetheless, there will always be someone here who loves you. There will always be someone here willing to defend you, even if you are a complete and utter asshole who happens to have a sweet ass, and/or a really big dick, and/or a sincere love for sex.

 

There is a simple formula for successful escort engagement here: NEVER disrespect a customer in public, no matter the circumstances. By customer, I mean anyone who has paid for your services or anyone who might pay for your services. If you can find a way to follow this simple rule, you will successfully protect your business interests and allow your business to grow beyond your wildest dreams.

 

Warning: the rule is simple, but it's not always simple to follow.

[maxwellissmart]

There is a simple formula for successful escort engagement here: NEVER disrespect a customer in public, no matter the circumstances. By customer, I mean anyone who has paid for your services or anyone who might pay for your services. If you can find a way to follow this simple rule, you will successfully protect your business interests and allow your business to grow beyond your wildest dreams.

 

And that's why I like being anonymous on this board.

[jimboivyo]

Sounds a little too bitter to me.

 

It is smart for some escorts to avoid participation on internet escort forums. Any escort, like Scott Sloan, who has contempt for this business and/or his customers will never build a successful business when his contempt is exposed.

 

When you write to express yourself, you reveal things that may not shine the most flattering light upon you. Life in the service industry is not fair: customers can get away with murder while business owners cannot.

 

However, after reading what you have to sign away by paying for an ad on Rentboy, I think it can be smarter and more cost-effective for an escort to come here and engage with actual customers. This forum can be a great tool to build your business and your reputation. Best of all, it's free. (You have Daddy to thank for that.)

 

It's true, not every customer is going to love your writing skills, or your sense of humor, or your desire to self-promote, or your looks, or your photographs, or your fake age, or your rate. Also true, the men here are very forgiving. You can suck at writing. Your sense of humor can annoy. Your self-promotion can piss people off. You can be remarkably not hot. Your photographs can be butt ugly. Your age can be off by twenty years. And your rate can be laughable. Nonetheless, there will always be someone here who loves you. There will always be someone here willing to defend you, even if you are a complete and utter asshole who happens to have a sweet ass, and/or a really big dick, and/or a sincere love for sex.

 

There is a simple formula for successful escort engagement here: NEVER disrespect a customer in public, no matter the circumstances. By customer, I mean anyone who has paid for your services or anyone who might pay for your services. If you can find a way to follow this simple rule, you will successfully protect your business interests and allow your business to grow beyond your wildest dreams.

 

Warning: the rule is simple, but it's not always simple to follow.

 

 

good reply. you bring a lot here. enjoy the response.

 

it's not bitterness from me. it's seeing people I very much love being ripped apart here for things in the past or things that never even happened. lots of lies told so many times that people begin believing them as truth.

[jimboivyo]

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[instudiocity]

it's not bitterness from me. it's seeing people I very much love being ripped apart here for things in the past or things that never even happened. lots of lies told so many times that people begin believing them as truth.

Some here believe if they can repeat the lie, with frequency and intensity, they can change reality - all they really do is prove how big their asses really are...

[+ poolboy48220]

Not quite the same situation, but I'd contacted an escort when I saw we were both going to be in San Francisco in October, and we made plans to meet there. I tried contacting him several times during the trip, and never heard back. I was going to write him off until I got a call from him about a week after the trip, explaining that he'd been caught up in activities while out there (he was out there for personal business), and had really overestimated the free time he'd had. The followup call really impressed me, and makes me want to meet him even more now; just need to find time for a trip to NYC.

[RockHard]

Thank you for the kind words.

 

it's not bitterness from me. it's seeing people I very much love being ripped apart here for things in the past or things that never even happened. lots of lies told so many times that people begin believing them as truth.

 

Imagine what the politicians are dealing with, and the stakes in that career are so much higher.

 

Listen, I'm not going to sugarcoat the escort industry. There's a ton of competition out there, with a lot of game playing and gamesmanship. On top of that, there's enough jealousy and insecurity to fill endless TV seasons in prime time drama. But, if you're smart, drama can be avoided.

 

Many escorts are too stubborn to see the forest for the leaves. For the sake of their egos, many are too eager and willing to burn bridges born out of anger and spite. A true professional knows never to burn bridges, because you never know when the next golden opportunity will come from, and you never know who will provide it.

 

The key to success in the service business: make every customer feel as though he is loved and appreciated, even those customers who are out to clip your tail.

 

Some escorts love danger, so they play fast and loose with their career and their reputation. Some are so full of foolish pride, they have no idea when they shoot themselves in the foot because they're too busy looking away from reality. Some escorts are lazy: they simply don't care enough to build something substantial. They heard escorting was easy money so, hey, why not. Some escorts have a brain, but they forget to use it.

 

If you want to be a successful "star" in the service industry, AVOID CONTROVERSY, AVOID NEGATIVE PERCEPTIONS. If you want to play games with people's heads, use another username, and be smart enough to avoid getting caught.

 

The key to "name" success is to treat your escort name with the same respect you'd want for any blooming business.

 

If you want your business name to go down in flames, then by all means engage in a flame war while using your escort name. If you want customers to question your integrity, then by all means criticize a customer in public while using your escort name. If you want to shoot your business in the foot, then by all means belittle a customer in public, using your escort name.

 

Some men are self-destructive. Nothing I say will change that. From my experience, it takes a lot of mistakes to finally realize the rules of success. Mistakes are your friend. The sooner you embrace them and forgive yourself, the faster you can grow and get on the road to prosperity once again.

[instudiocity]

Imagine what the politicians are dealing with, and the stakes in that career are so much higher...

RH, another master dissertation in how to run ANY business. Thanks

[Guest Rusty_McMann]

by now someone has probably mentioned this, but: I always get deposits for appointments scheduled in advance. It's a simple as this: everyone takes everything more seriously when there is money involved. The point isn't so much that I don't trust the clients to come thru with the money, but that the client will taked the appointment more seriously once he's paid a deposit.

 

that's my two cents