3 questions: sex with people you don't respect & 2 others

[lieut_kije]

1) Would you schedule a subsequent appointment with a client you didn't respect?

 

2) If "no", do you feel disappointment (from a business sense) that things didn't stick to sex so that you might have had another regular customer?

 

3) Do you lie or stretch the truth about your enjoyment of a client? E.g. In response to an email where I described my fantasy, an escort said it was just his thing and I sounded great. Actually this happened more than once; one escort somehow said this in a way that even though I didn't believe him, he was so sweet it didn't bother me. Other escorts just came across as bad salesmen and I would have preferred that they just tell me whether they can provide the scene or not.

[Juan Vancouver]

1) Would you schedule a subsequent appointment with a client you didn't respect?

 

2) If "no", do you feel disappointment (from a business sense) that things didn't stick to sex so that you might have had another regular customer?

 

3) Do you lie or stretch the truth about your enjoyment of a client? E.g. In response to an email where I described my fantasy, an escort said it was just his thing and I sounded great. Actually this happened more than once; one escort somehow said this in a way that even though I didn't believe him, he was so sweet it didn't bother me. Other escorts just came across as bad salesmen and I would have preferred that they just tell me whether they can provide the scene or not.

 

1. No. I am convinced that the most important element in my profession is respect. I am not sure what you mean by saying a client I didn't respect, and I don't know how you imagine that loss of respect could happen, but if I ever found myself realizing that I don't respect someone I would not be able to see him again. Doing so, would be disrespectful towards myself. (And sorry, I remember someone's pet peeve word being disrespect. I have no idea why.)

 

2. If at any moment I had lost respect for a client, a colleague or anyone else I would not be feeling financial disappointment, but personal disappointment. I believe we are here to honour and respect one another, and when I fail to do so I feel really sad and I feel a desire to remain more vigilant and more compassionate. When I am not respectful towards someone else, I am just being disrespectful towards myself.

 

3. This one is easy. As it has been profusely documented in this forum and pretty much everywhere else, I am a bit of a slut. I love sex, I love all facets of sex and I really enjoy what I do. Chances are that if you tell me what you enjoy I ill be able to tell you that I enjoy it too. Because chances are I do. If I don't enjoy something that someone wants me to do with them, though, I think it is important for me to say so. Even if many people are convinced that escorts have to be actors, I personally believe that no amount of acting helps you disguise discomfort or unease, and certainly will not help you feel happy about doing what you are doing.

 

If someone wants a service that I don't provide I rather refer them to someone who does, or simply say I don't.

[maxwellissmart]

1) Would you schedule a subsequent appointment with a client you didn't respect?

 

2) If "no", do you feel disappointment (from a business sense) that things didn't stick to sex so that you might have had another regular customer?

 

3) Do you lie or stretch the truth about your enjoyment of a client? E.g. In response to an email where I described my fantasy, an escort said it was just his thing and I sounded great. Actually this happened more than once; one escort somehow said this in a way that even though I didn't believe him, he was so sweet it didn't bother me. Other escorts just came across as bad salesmen and I would have preferred that they just tell me whether they can provide the scene or not.

 

1) No. I turn down clients all the time because I don't like the sex or I don't like them. If I don't respect them (for example, I had a client who poormouthed me repeatedly and insisted it was the only way for him to become a regular. I reduced my rate because he was nice, had a reasonably hot body and was easy. I found that he was seeing my escort friend and paying almost twice my rate, and seeing him just as frequently. I quit seeing him because he was taking up my time from full-price clients, but more so because he was a liar).

 

2) No—that's assuming the reason I quit seeing them was personal and not business. I often blur the lines between the two and allow my own feelings to dictate who gets a pass and who doesn't, rather than my wallet. If I didn't, I'd be about 25% busier than I am now, but I'd also be miserable.

 

3) No, and I'm honest and have no problem turning down someone if I feel like it's not going to work. I'd rather not have to do damage control over a session with someone that was mediocre or even bad and possibly lose many clients as a result, rather than be preemptive and refuse an appointment with one client. I had a client read me the riot act about a month ago because I told him no—I had misread his initial email and thought he wanted one thing, when it was in fact the opposite that he wanted. When I told him I made a mistake, he accused me of wasting his time (which was 2 emails) and that I was being a stubborn asshole about the whole thing. I explained to him then that I'd rather miss out on an appointment and for him to have a good time rather than for me to try to fake something I knew I wasn't going to be into. It's the same logic with the faceshots or the "rates vary" message—for every client who passes me by because of these things, there's another in line.

 

If I've been told anything again and again by clients—it's that I'm absolutely NOT a bad salesman. I know what I'm doing for the most part.