Personal plans and the Escort

[maxwellissmart]

One of the hangups/positives about this "hobby" is the strange hours you have to keep. I'll get calls at 11:30 at night wanting to meet—sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. What's good about that is my schedule is relatively flexible and it's nice to be able to make some quick bucks during a time that isn't always busy. What sucks is that I'm always adjusting personal plans or even sleep because clients call at the last minute and want to get together—and as Steve said earlier, "it's hard to say 'no' in this economic climate." And without much of a support system other than my, ahem—assets—I am definitely in chipmunk mode just in case something happens and I'm out of work for a while.

 

Do you find it hard to make plans because you want to keep your schedule free? It's hard for me to take "me" time from escorting and do something fun, when in the back of my head I'm wondering if I am missing out on opportunities.

[josephga]

I keep my massage hours 10am to 9pm then on sundays 12pm to 6pm. Normally I'll just work stuff in. I also refuse to take clients after those hours. I feel working 7 days a week that any thing after 9pm belongs too me until the follow day. I wont email return calls doing that down time

[SteveEscort]

Oand as Steve said earlier, "it's hard to say 'no' in this economic climate." And without much of a support system other than my, ahem—assets—I am definitely in chipmunk mode just in case something happens and I'm out of work for a while.

 

Thats so true however I do tend to call it a night at a certain point. I won't lie, I like to wind down every night with a something 75cl, white, usually French and 14% proof and I won't see clients when I have had a drink or two.

 

Once I have opened that bottle of wine, that's me for the night. If it's 9pm and I've just switched the TV on, sipping my first glass of wine and a guy rings then yes I will probably see him, but after that initial glass I am off for the night. It's my way of saying no way, no more today.

[maxwellissmart]

Thats so true however I do tend to call it a night at a certain point. I won't lie, I like to wind down every night with a something 75cl, white, usually French and 14% proof and I won't see clients when I have had a drink or two.

 

Once I have opened that bottle of wine, that's me for the night. If it's 9pm and I've just switched the TV on, sipping my first glass of wine and a guy rings then yes I will probably see him, but after that initial glass I am off for the night. It's my way of saying no way, no more today.

 

Ah yes, the chenin blanc.

[Guest JackF]

I actually think about this quite often. I am similar with some of you - although my ad will say available 12am-8am, that is meant for overnights, not a call at 3:30am and expecting to get together. I've had many comments regarding this, "Oh what do you mean you won't see me at 3am?!?! But it says it on your ad!" I have to be honest and let them know that I am typically sleeping at that time.

Also agreed with the having a drink or two before bed during "me and wind-down time" I refuse to see anyone after then or offer to see them the following day. Of course I'm sure we all hear all sorts of comments, excuses, complaining to this, but it is what it is. I often have a hard time "turning things off" at night when I'm trying to relax, if some emails come through or a text/phone call, I'll answer or return it. I should probably stop this like josephga.

[maxwellissmart]

I actually think about this quite often. I am similar with some of you - although my ad will say available 12am-8am, that is meant for overnights, not a call at 3:30am and expecting to get together. I've had many comments regarding this, "Oh what do you mean you won't see me at 3am?!?! But it says it on your ad!" I have to be honest and let them know that I am typically sleeping at that time.

Also agreed with the having a drink or two before bed during "me and wind-down time" I refuse to see anyone after then or offer to see them the following day. Of course I'm sure we all hear all sorts of comments, excuses, complaining to this, but it is what it is. I often have a hard time "turning things off" at night when I'm trying to relax, if some emails come through or a text/phone call, I'll answer or return it. I should probably stop this like josephga.

 

Probably the latest I've ever seen someone was at 2am, but they contacted me in advance and I charged extra for it. My cutoff time is usually midnight. If someone contacts me after that, it's usually someone who isn't serious.

 

Or they're drunk.

[KMEM]

Thats so true however I do tend to call it a night at a certain point. I won't lie, I like to wind down every night with a something 75cl, white, usually French and 14% proof and I won't see clients when I have had a drink or two.

 

Once I have opened that bottle of wine, that's me for the night. If it's 9pm and I've just switched the TV on, sipping my first glass of wine and a guy rings then yes I will probably see him, but after that initial glass I am off for the night. It's my way of saying no way, no more today.

 

Corporate pilots all over the world who are on "standby" duty, which ordinarily lasts until 5 PM local, almost universally open one can, bottle or whatever of beer so they can no longer "legally" fly that day. If you were wondering what that psssst was at that time, now you know.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

[leigh.bess.toad]

Corporate pilots all over the world who are on "standby" duty, which ordinarily lasts until 5 PM local, almost universally open one can, bottle or whatever of beer so they can no longer "legally" fly that day. If you were wondering what that psssst was at that time, now you know.

 

Best regards,

KMEM

 

Interesting comment KMEM. Would you mind enlightening us what are the standards as far as drinking? Is there a different standards for corporate vs. commercial?

[leigh.bess.toad]

I constantly marvel at some of the stuff at you guys have to put up with. Weird requests, fruitcake callers, the works. So do these excessively late night calls happen often? A couple of times a week? A couple a month? And what percent are sober when they call you?

[maxwellissmart]

I constantly marvel at some of the stuff at you guys have to put up with. Weird requests, fruitcake callers, the works. So do these excessively late night calls happen often? A couple of times a week? A couple a month? And what percent are sober when they call you?

 

They used to happen much more frequently but have tapered off. Usually when I ask for a phone number (which is almost never provided up front) they back off and stop the email thread. That actually happened last night with this asshat who continually contacts me saying he'll drive in from 100 or so miles away and all I have to do is give him my address. Last night I requested his phone number so I could call him to give him directions and that stopped him cold. Stupid fucker—I figured he was a phony when I suggested about 6 email threads ago that he give me a day's notice and I would be able to book, and he completely ignored that advice. I finally put him in the block filter—so if he's legit, too bad. No experiencing the Sublime Glory of Being With Maxwell and Having Him All Up In Your Stuff for him.

 

Oh, and the drunk ones are maybe 1:4.

[Steven_Draker]

I doubt my personal coach would agree with anything French and 75cl large.

[SteveEscort]

I constantly marvel at some of the stuff at you guys have to put up with. Weird requests, fruitcake callers, the works. So do these excessively late night calls happen often? A couple of times a week? A couple a month? And what percent are sober when they call you?

 

I usually have 1-2 missed calls almost every night, often with drunk answerphone messages left. I flick the little switch on the side of my phone to silent after about 10.30pm and leave them to their own devices

[Guest JackF]

Agreed with maxwell here, on average, I get 1-2 drunk or ultra late night calls/texts a week. Some weeks are worse and some are better, like with everything. It's almost like "when the moon is aligned just right with the stars" everything that you could hear/get happens within a 24-48 hour period, ha. Like maxwell, I also silence or typically turn my phone completely off when I am sleeping.

I have had a few who wanted to book for odd hours or 11pm-12am and that, I found, is often those who are still new or nervous/scared about it and want that time to have a drink (usually far more than ONE) then have me come over. I usually can tell when that happens and tell them that I'd prefer to hang with them sober so I can get to know them, not their "alter ego" if you will.

[maxwellissmart]

Agreed with maxwell here, on average, I get 1-2 drunk or ultra late night calls/texts a week. Some weeks are worse and some are better, like with everything. It's almost like "when the moon is aligned just right with the stars" everything that you could hear/get happens within a 24-48 hour period, ha. Like maxwell, I also silence or typically turn my phone completely off when I am sleeping.

I have had a few who wanted to book for odd hours or 11pm-12am and that, I found, is often those who are still new or nervous/scared about it and want that time to have a drink (usually far more than ONE) then have me come over. I usually can tell when that happens and tell them that I'd prefer to hang with them sober so I can get to know them, not their "alter ego" if you will.

 

Speaking of drunk phone calls—my aforementioned drunk client has apologized now, like 5 times.

[+ Travis69]

I wish escorts and masseurs would put their preferred working hours in their ads. I don't like disturbing guys at 11:00 p.m if their idea was checking off all the hours on Rentboy, etc to show availability for overnights. The 4 hour selection on rentboy is too vague. Perhaps in the text of your ad put "I take appointments M-F 10:00 a.m. to 10:30 p.m. Available for overnight requests also." Something more definite.

[maxwellissmart]

I wish escorts and masseurs would put their preferred working hours in their ads. I don't like disturbing guys at 11:00 p.m if their idea was checking off all the hours on Rentboy, etc to show availability for overnights. The 4 hour selection on rentboy is too vague. Perhaps in the text of your ad put "I take appointments M-F 10:00 a.m. to 10:30 p.m. Available for overnight requests also." Something more definite.

 

Yeah, I can see your point but then again you'd still get calls asking for a different time. People don't read ads—they scan them and make assumptions and generalizations. I've taken criticism on here for being vague about stuff like rates, but that affords me the flexiblity to work around needs on a case-by-case basis. Same with time—I can post times that I'm available, but I may change those and stop earlier or work later. More often than not it solely depends on the initial approach that the client takes with me, and whether or not he seems fun and generous, or difficult and potentially scammy.

[SteveEscort]

I wish escorts and masseurs would put their preferred working hours in their ads. I don't like disturbing guys at 11:00 p.m if their idea was checking off all the hours on Rentboy, etc to show availability for overnights. The 4 hour selection on rentboy is too vague. Perhaps in the text of your ad put "I take appointments M-F 10:00 a.m. to 10:30 p.m. Available for overnight requests also." Something more definite.

 

I think though, any guy with anything about them would think that overnight would mean overnight but booked in advance. I will offer overnight but my website says I answer my phone 10am to 10pm so I think that's more than sufficient