Casing the Joint

[+ purplekow]

PK, I was "expanding" on a thought, not being literal here. Obviously MY tolerances for these types of things are NOT as liberal as yours are. Its your perrogative to treat your guests any which way you choose, as it is mine to do so as well. We have seen many times, with many topics on this site that no 2 people are in complete agreement. Suffice it to say that if something works for you, and you are comfortable with it, then thats the way FOR YOU. Doesnt make someones elses choices less viable....

In fact, I generally agreed with your assessment of going into the host's refrigerator, though in this case there is no evidence that occurred and in an incident where it did occur, my example, other factors played a role in making it acceptable FOR ME as I stated. I would bet there would be times that EVEN YOU might find it acceptable as well, say for example, if you went into hypoglycemic coma and the escort opened the refrigerator to get you juice, my guess is that this would be acceptable.

Would you have difficulty with an guest getting wine from an already opened bottle that was out and opened on the counter or does that still cross borders? I ask because I wonder how much freedom does one give to a guest in his home generally and what would be the response if someone took too "liberally" of that freedom? But perhaps if one does not consider the escort in his home to be a guest, this may not be a germane question.

[gallahadesquire]

Actually, I as remember, i'd asked him if he wanted some wine previously. He had said no. We were watching a movie, and he got up. "Where are you going?" I asked. "To get some wine. Would you like some?"

 

So the motive of the crime was well founded: He'd been offered wine previously (even though the bottle was closed). I'm just confused as this is not what I've had with a previous escort who I saw for four years, but then, we never met at my home.

 

But you have all given me, THE O.P., insights that I wouldn't otherwise have; and for that, I am very greatful.

 

I hope you all had a fantastic Christmas and that you are looking forward to a Very Happy New Year!

[maxwellissmart]

So the motive of the crime was well founded: He'd been offered wine previously (even though the bottle was closed). I'm just confused as this is not what I've had with a previous escort who I saw for four years, but then, we never met at my home.

 

 

In all honesty I don't know who is more socially inept here—a saucy escort who dares to change their mind about wanting some wine, or someone who thinks that all escorts should act like the other escorts they've previously hired.

 

Here's what I think you should do: direct the escort to this thread, and your posts about his behavior. He can then weigh whether or not the money is worth seeing you and causing you such distress.

[gallahadesquire]

Well, maxwellissmart, we'll see how he does in his initial exposure to Disneyworld for a week. So far, all the plans are in his favour, and the worst case scenario is that we both sit in the living room reading for an afternoon.

Which, given it's florida in March, might be more exciting than usual.

 

I have been looking for clairty, and I think I have received more than enough from you gentlemen. For that, I am truly greateful and appreciative. Any other questions will come through later, and probably in the forum.

[jjkrkwood]

In fact, I generally agreed with your assessment of going into the host's refrigerator, though in this case there is no evidence that occurred and in an incident where it did occur, my example, other factors played a role in making it acceptable FOR ME as I stated. I would bet there would be times that EVEN YOU might find it acceptable as well, say for example, if you went into hypoglycemic coma and the escort opened the refrigerator to get you juice, my guess is that this would be acceptable.

Would you have difficulty with an guest getting wine from an already opened bottle that was out and opened on the counter or does that still cross borders? I ask because I wonder how much freedom does one give to a guest in his home generally and what would be the response if someone took too "liberally" of that freedom? But perhaps if one does not consider the escort in his home to be a guest, this may not be a germane question.

 

Your question cannot be answered simply, because EACH person will probably respond in a different way that makes sense to them. I also would suspect that once a "relationship" is established with a particular escort, the guidelines can shift a bit, and perhaps he becomes a guest. For me, a transient escort is NOT a guest in my home, he is an employee, and the respect I extend to him would be that of ANY paid professional that enters my home. I have never hired a single escort more than 2 times, so for me the guidelines remain pretty clearcut....They are neither a friend nor a guest.