Not quite so dirty talkin'

[TruthBTold]

I thought I might ask guys in this thread about appropriate language that you thought might be used in more "intimate" client/escort situations. For example, let's say you are in situation in which you have gotten together with an escort for many months and are now having fairly intimate sex. During those interludes, you want to say something warm to him. In a "normal" relationship you would probably mutter something like "I love you." But that would probably not be appropriate in an escort/client relationship and would probably freak the escort out. I guess, "That feels good," "Harder, harder" or "Do it just like that" are standards that could be used but they don't seem to convery the intimacy that you might be trying to convey. Is there anything that you could recommend that clients use that would fall short of a marriage proposal but is warmer than the stuff you might read on a bathroom wall?

[rvwnsd]

How about "Oh [fill in his name] you feel so good?"

[raulgmanzo]

There is no more appropiate language than just whatever you feel at the moment. If it comes off too strongly then simply explain yourself. Sure "I love you" can be a bit much or seem phony. So how about just saying you love being with him. Or love holding him. Or love being inside him, being fucked by him etc.

 

But mostly I wouldn't over analyze it. Sexy initmate talk from what one says to a torrid romance, lifelong partner, or anonymous one time hookup all have the potential to sound pretty absurd out of context.

 

I say don't plan it and don't stress about it. It stands a better chance of coming off correctly if you don't plan it. Hell there is another thread here where people are professing love for factory made butter cookies eaten out of a tin. So I can imagine that saying I love you to even a one time hookup could easily be taken as you love the person at that moment for what he or you are doing with no need to worry about meeting each others parents.

 

Still some of my most appreciative, close and regular clients seem to express themselves with little more than purrs, grunts, or ecstatic screams.

 

Sometimes the most intimate moment is afterwards, during dinner or just while getting dressed, saying "wow that was really great". Of course booking another appointment is always a good affirmation of the intimacy.

 

 

I thought I might ask guys in this thread about appropriate language that you thought might be used in more "intimate" client/escort situations. For example, let's say you are in situation in which you have gotten together with an escort for many months and are now having fairly intimate sex. During those interludes, you want to say something warm to him. In a "normal" relationship you would probably mutter something like "I love you." But that would probably not be appropriate in an escort/client relationship and would probably freak the escort out. I guess, "That feels good," "Harder, harder" or "Do it just like that" are standards that could be used but they don't seem to convery the intimacy that you might be trying to convey. Is there anything that you could recommend that clients use that would fall short of a marriage proposal but is warmer than the stuff you might read on a bathroom wall?

[+ purplekow]

instead of i love you try i love the way you bite my neck or i love it when you suck my toes me i just grunt and moan and generally use non language guttaral sounds to make it clear that i am enjoying receiving whatever he is serving. Another consideration that few don't love hearing is "Oh my god you are the best" I know I loved it when I heard it even if I was masturbating at the time.

[Steven_Draker]

 

◄◄ do it again ►play ▌▌pause █▌don't...

 

 

[jjkrkwood]

There is no more appropiate language than just whatever you feel at the moment. If it comes off too strongly then simply explain yourself. Sure "I love you" can be a bit much or seem phony. So how about just saying you love being with him. Or love holding him. Or love being inside him, being fucked by him etc.

 

But mostly I wouldn't over analyze it. Sexy initmate talk from what one says to a torrid romance, lifelong partner, or anonymous one time hookup all have the potential to sound pretty absurd out of context.

 

I say don't plan it and don't stress about it. It stands a better chance of coming off correctly if you don't plan it. Hell there is another thread here where people are professing love for factory made butter cookies eaten out of a tin. So I can imagine that saying I love you to even a one time hookup could easily be taken as you love the person at that moment for what he or you are doing with no need to worry about meeting each others parents.

 

Still some of my most appreciative, close and regular clients seem to express themselves with little more than purrs, grunts, or ecstatic screams.

 

Sometimes the most intimate moment is afterwards, during dinner or just while getting dressed, saying "wow that was really great". Of course booking another appointment is always a good affirmation of the intimacy.

 

I think the issue here is Not so much what the escort thinks about your words or interprets them but how YOU actually feel about what you are saying. Escorts are more or less trained to "roll with the punches" and I am sure they have heard it all. But I think it has to do more with your OWN feelings in the situation. Alot has been said about clients growing attachments to their escorts, especially if they are in longer term arrangements... Are you becoming too emotionally attached or involved with your escort ? Have you expressed your feelings to the escort outside of SEX? Usually the sexual talk during the act is not just random, but a manifistation of more deep rooted feelings, one which may not be able to be reciprocated by the escort.. The client always needs to get his feelings in check prior to the encounter, and openly express himself if it gets to that "point of no return". Nothing is worse than harboring secret feelings that go unanswered....

[Phil_musc]

Bingo, JJ.

 

PK, you crack me up - loved that bit about you're the best!

[Decatur Guy]

Strictly from my POV, I'd never tell anyone that I'm paying that I love them. It just doesn't go together.

 

However, I do shower lots of deserved praise, usually after the sex:

 

* If you had half as much fun as I did, you had a real good time.

* Man, I love it when you ______ (hold my head now, etc.)

* I forgot just how hot you are (if it's a repeat)

* You're an incredible kisser

* You're not only a hot fuck, but you're just a great guy to be around in general.

 

When I'm having sex, I'm usually much more dirty talk than the post-sex talk:

 

* FUCK. I forgot how fuckin' wide your cock is.

* Fuck me harder! (And when he does ...) DAMNIT, you're a fucking bastard!

* Suck my dick. Now go down (hand on head). Now stay down. Stay. Stay. I said fuckin' stay. NOW go up. (Hand off head)

[Guest Merlin]

Also, consider praising his body and parts. I love your abs. You have great arms. beautiful butt, etc.

[mansniffing]

It's okay to say "I love you." After all it's the passion of the moment and escorts and clients have heard it all. Besides, as my Redneck friend in Vt. says: "You're in charge." Don't forget it.

 

 

“The weaker partner in a marriage is the one who loves the most.”--Eleanora Duse (Actress)

[+ purplekow]

There are no Rednecks in Vermont. In Vermont they feature the other color of the season Green Mountain Boys,

[leigh.bess.toad]

Being a believer in polyamory and as someone who firmly believes in the fact that there are many different types of love, I do tell a lot of the guys I have been with that I love them. Because I do. Not in the "let's run away and be monogamous" sense. But as friends, close personal friends who have shared close, intimate times. Not only sexually, but in many other parts of my life. My "guys" were among the first to know of my developing relationship with my bf. They have been a great source of advice and share the joy I have found with him. Many months ago I said that I love many men but was not "in love" with any. That has now changed because I have found the love of my life with my bf. But that doesn't change the love that I feel for many men here -- both escorts and client friends as well.

 

A couple of threads out there I think are worth re-reading:

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?78676-Do-escorts-fall-in-love-with-clients&highlight=agape

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?78390-re-Clients-Who-Fall-in-Love-With-You&highlight=agape

 

I think what I wrote almost a year ago still seems right:

 

From my point of view, one part of the relationship between an escort and the client that may be mistaken or misconstrued by others may not be love as some are viewing it the romantic sense but is more of an emotional connection between client and escort; a connection that can flow both ways. I can, and do, love many people without being in love with any. I'm concerned for your welfare, I want you to be happy, do well, be content, get everything you want out of life, suffer no harm. I want to comfort you when you hurt, celebrate with you when you triumph, uplift when you are down, make you laugh to brighten your day, and provide an ear to listen when you just need to talk. Because I'm emotionally connected to you. Because I love you. But I'm not in love with you. You're my friend. You're my confidante. You're my pal. You're my buddy. You're my escort. You're my client. It can flow both ways. There can be an emotional connection without a romantic connection.

[GoodFella69]

Also, consider praising his body and parts. I love your abs. You have great arms. beautiful butt, etc.

 

I agree with Merlin2 and Purplekow. I find myself praising my favorite escorts a lot when it is warranted. I also try praise other attributes (besides their body) like personality and style. I might say for examples: "I love how intelligent and conversational you are--I could sit and talk with you for hours," and "I adore hearing you laugh out loud--you have such a great sense-of-humor," or "You have an amazing sense of style, I always love how fantastic you look in whatever you wear."

[Guest countryboywny]

I don't think the work "love" should be excluded at all.. "I'd love it if you'd suck my dick" LOL