Dealing with Abusive Clients

[Guest MikeyJock]

 

What do you guys do when you come across a certain client who tries to push things further than you allow? As far as do's and dont's? I recently had the frustration with meeting a client who diddnt respect my boundaries. Im no shy guy when it comes to letting clients know upfront what im not into and what I am into before meeting. This one was ok with it, but tried to keep pushing my donts while we were meeting, like this, I dont like anything in my butt, he kept trying to finger me even though before meeting we had already discussed these specific details and he said he diddnt like doing it anyways, i diddnt think it would be a problem if he said he wasnt into it.... I kindly cut the meeting short and still charged him for the full hour. He asked for a discount and I explained in a nice manner, that I was not ok with him not respecting my boundries. He paid me the full rate but a few days after I get an email saying he is going to write me a ton of bad reviews so I never get work again unless I give him a free hour. He hasnt written anything so far. But was I wrong in any way by how i handled the situation for price and being upfront and honest to him as to why i was leaving?

[bigvalboy]

Hey MikeyJock, can I as a client chime in here? I think a lack of character on the part of the client is what happened here. For my part, and I am only speaking for myself of course, when I book, I am crystal clear as to what I want to happen, even in booking massages, I am very upfront and am explicit as to what I expect. In this case however, since you were VERY clear what you would and would not tolerate, then cutting the session short was the best thing to do, and I think you were NOT out of line asking for the full fee. If he writes a bad review, well you just can't control everything in this world, so let the chips fall were they may. Over the course of your career, it is your reputation that will carry the day. Good Luck to you, BVB

[Kevin Slater]

You handled it just fine. If that bad review does show up, just post your side of the story exactly like you did here. Meanwhile don't lose sleep over this. It sounds like he got exactly what he wanted out of the session: to push you to your breaking point and see what you'd do. Meeting him again under any circumstances would be a mistake.

 

Kevin Slater

[Xander]

I had a client once who was being very sadistic and cruel to me. We were about 45 minutes through and he said to me "you can leave at any time you like". I opened up the dresser next to the bed (90% of clients think they are hiding the money when they put it in there) took it and said "Great, thanks!". Oddly enough he called me back the next day and was much kinder.

[seeker630]

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What do you guys do when you come across a certain client who tries to push things further than you allow? As far as do's and dont's? I recently had the frustration with meeting a client who diddnt respect my boundaries. Im no shy guy when it comes to letting clients know upfront what im not into and what I am into before meeting. This one was ok with it, but tried to keep pushing my donts while we were meeting, like this, I dont like anything in my butt, he kept trying to finger me even though before meeting we had already discussed these specific details and he said he diddnt like doing it anyways, i diddnt think it would be a problem if he said he wasnt into it.... I kindly cut the meeting short and still charged him for the full hour. He asked for a discount and I explained in a nice manner, that I was not ok with him not respecting my boundries. He paid me the full rate but a few days after I get an email saying he is going to write me a ton of bad reviews so I never get work again unless I give him a free hour. He hasnt written anything so far. But was I wrong in any way by how i handled the situation for price and being upfront and honest to him as to why i was leaving?

 

Hey MikeyJock, can I as a client chime in here? I think a lack of character on the part of the client is what happened here. For my part, and I am only speaking for myself of course, when I book, I am crystal clear as to what I want to happen, even in booking massages, I am very upfront and am explicit as to what I expect. In this case however, since you were VERY clear what you would and would not tolerate, then cutting the session short was the best thing to do, and I think you were NOT out of line asking for the full fee. If he writes a bad review, well you just can't control everything in this world, so let the chips fall were they may. Over the course of your career, it is your reputation that will carry the day. Good Luck to you, BVB

 

As a client, I agree with BVD - if you were clear beforehand, the client should respect your limits. Key question for me is, did you tell the client during the session that he was crossing the line when he did it? Was there an option to continue if he stopped the offending behavior? (I can understand if the mood was ruined at that point.)

 

And if you get a bad review here, you always have the chance to tell your version of events - the key is to keep it truthful and factual and not trash the client in a vindictive way.

[Lookin]

Threads like this make me admire escorts all the more. I know I couldn't handle being around some of the creepy characters who come your way. Even being in the same room would give me the willies, let alone trying to establish some kind of intimacy. I'd guess that clients like these are in the minority, but even one in a lifetime would be plenty for me. Couldn't get rid of him fast enough.

 

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[Steven_Draker]

I'd guess that clients like these are in the minority ...

 

Fortunately clients like that are in the minority. If I get a feeling that someone is too pushy over the phone,

 

I'll politely decline the offer and would rather focus on someone who has a more relaxed approach towards the session.

[instudiocity]

I think Mikey's preemptive post here is BRILLIANT! It's like, "Hey, guys, you might be hearing something negative about me, and I feel really bad about what happened, so if it appears, you were forewarned."

 

And Mikey, your post demonstrates your professionalism and honesty. If the idiot who couldn't control his fingers in the session shows up with uncontrollable fingers in some vinDICtive review, we will already know who the REAL DICk is.

 

And I would second Steven's advice to STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM THIS GUY. Don't try to make amends for something he did wrong. Especially to prove yourself. He's already proven he's a liar, "I'm ok with no anal." and immoral, "Throw me a freebie and I'll forget about this negative review I'm writing." and manipulative. STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM HIM!

 

And yes, you delivered what was promised, you should have been compensated your entire fee. His misbehavior doesn't discount your fee - EVER!

[scottspearsxxx]

I try to determine ahead of time if the client is a "good fit" with me or not in advance as I want the client to have the ultimate experience. Sometimes clients tell me in advance what to expect and sometimes not so it is just a judgement call.

[SteveEscort]

I haven't had many bad clients but I've dealt with more than my fair share of arseholes.

 

Earlier this year, against my better judgement, I seen a client at a hotel which is within walking distance of my home. I was up at 5am to finish packing for my holiday. I had a taxi booked for 8.15am to take me to Newcastle Airport and whilst changing my voicemail, I had a call queueing. I answered it and the guy was 2 mins from my home and wanted an hour at 6am. It was nice and easy for me so I did it.

 

I got there and he was coked off his nut, couldn't speak, couldn't get hard. He was 100% top so insisted in trying to fuck my arse, which he couldn't. I sucked on his limp cock until I nearly had an ulcer develop. Then when it got to 7am he claimed I was leaving before time and tried to force me to stay in the room by blocking the door. I eventually left after dialling the reception for the hotel (it was in my phone, as are all popular local hotel switchboard numbers) and telling the lady I needed assistance in room 305. He even tried to take my phone off me.

 

I would never see anyone I didn't know at such ungodly hours again, it really shook me up and was a bad start to my holiday.

[maxwellissmart]

Then when it got to 7am he claimed I was leaving before time and tried to force me to stay in the room by blocking the door. I eventually left after dialling the reception for the hotel (it was in my phone, as are all popular local hotel switchboard numbers) and telling the lady I needed assistance in room 305. He even tried to take my phone off me.

 

"You're right. Hey—I've got a great idea. Let's play some bondage games! I'll tie you up first and sit on your dick..."

 

Cut to: 15 minutes later, as I'm walking down the street, counting my money...

 

And SCENE.