Making Love-Do You Do This?

[Gar1eth]

I'm walking on air a bit today. As visitors to the Lounge Section most likely know, someone contacted me through an online 'hook-up' site. We liked each other after we met- and we had- to be modest about it- 'relations'!!! It was greattt!!

 

One thing my newfound friend did- which I found to be an incredible turn on- while we were making love he would look into my eyes and say my name. I'm not talking about screaming it. But there did seem to be a lot of passion in it. It seems to me that I've only been with one or two escorts who have done the same-- one of them being Donny from LA. It's such a simple thing to do ( depending on position of course )- look your partner in the eye and say his name. And the affect on me was incredible. I was quite surprised. And when you get down to it, I'd much prefer hearing my name than a continual chorus of 'f-ck me' although an occasional 'f-me' is fine.

 

So any do any escorts use this technique to let the client know that they are concentrating on the client? If so,what has been the client's response. And for those escorts who haven't done this-as a client, I strongly suggest trying it.

 

Gman

[+ purplekow]

I have had an escort look into my eyes and say "Benjamin, Benjamin, Ulysses, Andrew, Andrew, Alexander, Abraham" over and over again. That seemed to turn him on.

[bigvalboy]

Hey Gar I just have to say this again, Sooooo glad that your date went well!!! I just know that it will happen again for you. Once you open yourself up and put yourself out there, sometimes you just begin to attract people. Best to you always, BVB

[instudiocity]

say "Benjamin, Benjamin, Ulysses, Andrew, Andrew, Alexander, Abraham" over and over again. That seemed to turn him on.

Who the hell gives an escort a $5 tip on a $300 fee?

[Dave]

"So do any escorts use this technique..."

it seems to me that if saying someone's name while having relations becomes a technique, it would lose some of the special-ness that i think made you feel so good, Gman. i don't know if i'm expressing it right, but i think this idea of saying someone's name while looking at them, just to make it seem like you're more passionate, seems a bit disingenuous to me.

 

truth to tell, there's only one thing that really bugs me when escorting: when a client assumes that i'm being fake. you know, suggesting that i'm saying things that i dont really mean, saying them "just to make the client feel good." its true that i don't hold back when i want to compliment someone (think about how many people do the exact opposite) but my words are heartfelt.

 

and there have been other times when i've called clients out on something they said, or told them when something wasnt right from my perspective. in escorting, i aim to be as real as possible. i don't come from "The School of Subservient Companions"; i'm a grown man with opinions, i know my place in this world, and i'm not going to compromise my beliefs and thoughts for money. but again, if i tell a client that i think he is handsome, i mean it. i know that some people on this forum may want to chime in about how all escorts are really acting - i see this sentiment expressed here regularly - and i don't think i can change those people's minds about this (have you ever wondered how hard it might be to prove to someone that you really meant what you just said, when they are convinced otherwise? it's a losing battle. and, it's frustrating.)

 

anyway i guess my main point is that i have said someone's name while looking at them, and it has been intense. there have been times i've even blurted it out and felt a little embarrassed afterwards. but intensity is not something that can be pulled out of a hat. with all due respect, Gman, i might hesitate to recommend that escorts use it as "a technique"; i bet most people hearing it could discern the simple ploy from the true passion.

 

suddenly i am reminded of a client i had for many years. he would say, when i was fucking him, "David... David... David... oh, David... David... David!" maybe its because he said it six times instead of just once or perhaps its just the intonation that he used - but i always thought it sounded so overly dramatic, and not at all passionate.

 

aside from all this, i am happy that you met someone you like so much, happy that you had such good "relations" with him, and thrilled that you're walking on air!

[Kevin Slater]

So any do any escorts use this technique to let the client know that they are concentrating on the client? If so,what has been the client's response.

 

Not with my poor memory for names. If I did try it, the response would likely be "why the fuck is he calling me Eunice?" Can't I just moan my own name instead?

 

Christian Slater

[justaguy]

Not with my poor memory for names. If I did try it, the response would likely be "why the fuck is he calling me Eunice?" Can't I just moan my own name instead?

 

LOL, Kevin. My concern would be remembering my own name...where the car keys are being a lost cause.

 

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Dave, I think you've given a good response. If something comes across as rehearsed it loses its power.

[Dave]

Can't I just moan my own name instead?

 

ha ha ha ha ha - too funny! hey Kevin, next time we're fucking i want you to do this, ok?

[Gar1eth]

So I understand the problems with not remembering the client's name. Yes that would be a definite faux pas while making love. As for it being a cold, calculated technique- I guess it could be that. I was thinking of it more as showing that you were in the moment and really concentrating on the client/partner. And again I guess it's just a personal preference- but I did like it more than an endless round of 'O f--k me'- but it did make the few 'f--k me's' standout even more by being interspersed with my name.

 

Gman

[Bosguy]

ha ha ha ha ha - too funny! hey Kevin, next time we're fucking i want you to do this, ok?

 

Hey Dave,

 

Next time we get together, we'll have to include Kevin and I can just call out "guys" and you 2 can just call out "slut" or "bitch". Besides, I would hope our mouths would be occupied with better concerns.

 

PS Still trying to work out some details on my end for Christmas festivities--and I don't mean carolling!!

 

Boston Bill

[jjkrkwood]

they just call me cocksucker, its easier, and appropriate....

[+ purplekow]

Who the hell gives an escort a $5 tip on a $300 fee?

$55 on $250 Just throw in an extra five for coffee on the way home.

[Decatur Guy]

First of all, congrats on a great encounter and I hope there are more to come.

 

I've never really thought about the name thing very much either way.

[gcursor]

because of my advancing years, when I try doing this with people, I have to have them and I wear those "HI, MY NAME IS..." badges so I won't forget their name in the throes of passion.

[zeyfur]

they just call me cocksucker, its easier, and appropriate....

 

 

That is priceless !

[Gar1eth]

because of my advancing years, when I try doing this with people, I have to have them and I wear those "HI, MY NAME IS..." badges so I won't forget their name in the throes of passion.

 

But at least you'd be making an effort, GC. And I'm sure that would be duly noted by your partner.

 

Gman

[Mark Gordon]

Hey Gman,

Great to hear that you've had a fulflling non-commercial mutual connection. I wish you all the best with your new guy and hope your self-confidence will be boosted.

I agree that it's nice to hear your name while you're playing with someone you like. However, I'm cautious about doing this too much with clients unless I'm sure that they've given me their real name. If they haven't, they may not want to be repeatedly reminded of that reality.

[+ purplekow]

Nice point Mark. When I meet with escorts, I rarely use the name they have given to me as theirs, until I confirm with them that it is indeed their name. I usually say something to the effect, you know it would be a lucky thing you had the name Miles Long and became an escort, but since I don't want to be calling you by a name that isn't yours, please let me know if that is indeed your real name. If it is I will certainly use it. If it is not, do not feel pressured to give me your real name, i just dont want to call you Miles all night if that is not your name. I then will use some generic form of endearment or just grunt and moan as appropriate. This is for the same reason you mention Mark, I do not want to be reminding my partner that he is having sex with someone who does not even know his name. Though the escort is probably used to being called by his escort monicker, I prefer stud, or muscleboy or fucker or some such, to an alias. If he says that his name is indeed the name he has given me, (which has happened twice, I use that name as it is clear that is their preference)

[+ Oliver]

... and I don't mean carolling!! ...

 

Oh ... you mean wassailing!

[scottspearsxxx]

I always make love with my clients as they chose me among all the other escorts out there to have over to satisfy their wants, needs, and desires whether is is vanilla, fetish or kinky play. I really get off on knowing that I got them off!

[leigh.bess.toad]

truth to tell, there's only one thing that really bugs me when escorting: when a client assumes that i'm being fake. you know, suggesting that i'm saying things that i dont really mean, saying them "just to make the client feel good." its true that i don't hold back when i want to compliment someone (think about how many people do the exact opposite) but my words are heartfelt.

 

Guilty as charged -- for most of our first meeting. But not by the end of it, and never since.

 

and there have been other times when i've called clients out on something they said, or told them when something wasnt right from my perspective.

 

Or needed to learn something or any of the other myriad of things I've learned from you. Been there, done that. many times with you. And that honesty and integrity is what I want from all my escorts and what I definitely get from you.

 

anyway i guess my main point is that i have said someone's name while looking at them, and it has been intense. there have been times i've even blurted it out and felt a little embarrassed afterwards.

 

Yes you have. But I don't seem to recall you being embarrassed.

 

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So Gman -- how about an update? Was there a follow-up meeting. As with the others, I am so thrilled you had this experience.

[gallahadesquire]

Oh ... you mean wassailing!

 

Wassail, wassail, all over the town,

Our toast it is white and our ale it is brown

Our bowl it is made of the white maple tree,

With the wassailing bowl we’ll drink to thee!

[Dave]

Guilty as charged -- for most of our first meeting. But not by the end of it, and never since.

 

Or needed to learn something or any of the other myriad of things I've learned from you. Been there, done that. many times with you. And that honesty and integrity is what I want from all my escorts and what I definitely get from you.

 

Yes you have. But I don't seem to recall you being embarrassed.

 

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So Gman -- how about an update? Was there a follow-up meeting. As with the others, I am so thrilled you had this experience.

 

ahhh, Lee - you are so genuine and honest on this forum (and in our time together) - i really appreciate that from you, as well.

 

yeah Gman, how's about an update?

 

Hey Dave,

Next time we get together, we'll have to include Kevin and I can just call out "guys" and you 2 can just call out "slut" or "bitch". Besides, I would hope our mouths would be occupied with better concerns.

PS Still trying to work out some details on my end for Christmas festivities--and I don't mean carolling!!

Boston Bill

 

hey Bill, contact me if you're serious about christmas festivities. i had a client who was bringing me out to san diego for those days before xmas (remember that crazy post i made about me having free time then? the orange line, below?) and just learned that the trip is off... his elderly mother is having some health issues.

 

point is, whether its those days or some other time around december, lemme know!

[Guest countryboywny]

"So do any escorts use this technique..."

it seems to me that if saying someone's name while having relations becomes a technique, it would lose some of the special-ness that i think made you feel so good, Gman. i don't know if i'm expressing it right, but i think this idea of saying someone's name while looking at them, just to make it seem like you're more passionate, seems a bit disingenuous to me.

 

truth to tell, there's only one thing that really bugs me when escorting: when a client assumes that i'm being fake. you know, suggesting that i'm saying things that i dont really mean, saying them "just to make the client feel good." its true that i don't hold back when i want to compliment someone (think about how many people do the exact opposite) but my words are heartfelt.

 

and there have been other times when i've called clients out on something they said, or told them when something wasnt right from my perspective. in escorting, i aim to be as real as possible. i don't come from "The School of Subservient Companions"; i'm a grown man with opinions, i know my place in this world, and i'm not going to compromise my beliefs and thoughts for money. but again, if i tell a client that i think he is handsome, i mean it. i know that some people on this forum may want to chime in about how all escorts are really acting - i see this sentiment expressed here regularly - and i don't think i can change those people's minds about this (have you ever wondered how hard it might be to prove to someone that you really meant what you just said, when they are convinced otherwise? it's a losing battle. and, it's frustrating.)

 

anyway i guess my main point is that i have said someone's name while looking at them, and it has been intense. there have been times i've even blurted it out and felt a little embarrassed afterwards. but intensity is not something that can be pulled out of a hat. with all due respect, Gman, i might hesitate to recommend that escorts use it as "a technique"; i bet most people hearing it could discern the simple ploy from the true passion.

 

suddenly i am reminded of a client i had for many years. he would say, when i was fucking him, "David... David... David... oh, David... David... David!" maybe its because he said it six times instead of just once or perhaps its just the intonation that he used - but i always thought it sounded so overly dramatic, and not at all passionate.

 

aside from all this, i am happy that you met someone you like so much, happy that you had such good "relations" with him, and thrilled that you're walking on air!

 

What Lee said, goes for me.. I stand corrected!