Text Arrangement for Meeting vs Voice Arrangement

[Guest badboy11]

I am trying to set something with an escort, and he will text me and I will text him, but I have asked to talk to him (really so I could hear his voice) . He will not call me or answer his phone. And-- frankly it takes me forever to communicate what I want and arrange the meeting time and place etc etc in a text...which takes forever. I really dont want to hire him if he will not talk to me over the phone. Am I being too unreasonable? I know that is common but hearing the voice is important to me and being....definite..... on "things."

[Juan Vancouver]

In escorting there are no pre-agreed upon terms that can be considered reasonable or unreasonable. This is an activity that obeys entirely personal rules and there will be as many set of rules as people escorting or using escorts.

 

All of these rules are valid and "right", the only secret is to find an escort or a client with whom your personal set of rules match. Once you have this, you have greater chances to have a fulfilling professional relationship with them.

 

You are not being unreasonable; you are entirely in your right to only meet an escort after hearing his voice.

 

He is not being unreasonable; he is in his perfect right to not talk with you and expect to have sessions booked.

 

The only thing I am seeing here is a mismatch; you are not right for him and vice versa. If hearing his voice is important to determine whether you want to meet or not, then I believe you must move on and find another escort with whom you can have better chance to receive what you desire.

 

Neither you nor him are right or wrong. You are just not compatible.

 

(And I am with you; I can not imagine meeting with someone with whom I have not spoken beforehand.)

 

I wish you toe-curling, deliciously sensual sessions!

[Bearman]

I am trying to set something with an escort, and he will text me and I will text him, but I have asked to talk to him (really so I could hear his voice) . He will not call me or answer his phone. And-- frankly it takes me forever to communicate what I want and arrange the meeting time and place etc etc in a text...which takes forever. I really dont want to hire him if he will not talk to me over the phone. Am I being too unreasonable? I know that is common but hearing the voice is important to me and being....definite..... on "things."

 

I understand you completely. You might want to find somebody else who is more "professional" and who provides the type of service you desire and deserve. From the start, from setting up the appointment, to the finish when he leaves you. You're NOT being unreasonable. Gentlemen should find and do business with others who behave like gentlemen.

 

Best of luck to you!

[mmk123]

I am probably one of the 1% of the population that does not have a cell phone so I never text (obviously). Some people actually say they think it is great that I do not have a cell Phone. Anyway, I do agree that when setting up an initial meeting I do feel it is important to actually talk to the person you are setting up the meeting with. I think that it is the proper way to handle it. I could see where texting back and forth would be okay if future meetings are being set up but for now I do think that the escort should actually talk to you when setting up the first encounter.

[bigvalboy]

Interesting Badboy, I agree with Bearman. Find someone who is more professional and is willing to speak to you. This has happened to me twice. Once I was texting an escort and he seemed really pleasant. I mentioned to him through a text message that I wanted to hear his voice before we met. I told him to call me at a specific time the following morning so that I could speak directly to him. That way if he followed through with my request then I would go through with the appointment, if not then I would cancel via a text to him. He did call, and everything was fine. The second time however, with another escort, we were texting back and forth, and I made the same kind of request and made arrangements for a phone call the next morning. Instead of calling, he texted me the final arrangements, I simply texted him back and canceled. I thought it to be a simple request and if he had reasons for not wanting me to hear his voice, well I just wasn't interested.

 

Good Luck to you though!

[JT Brooklyn]

I don't know what "Market" you are in... But most Major Markets are full of CALL ME Working Guys IF the "Voice" is a major concern to you!

 

But then again the Voice is no guarantee of a Good Time either...

[+ glutes]

But then again the Voice is no guarantee of a Good Time either...

 

There are no guarantees in life.

 

The world is run on tricks...

[+ Travis69]

I also require a phone conversation. Is the escort a person of foreign origin who fears his English skills won't be up to par?

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

Badboy - I agree that your request is reasonable. I've often texted someone to ask a good time to call and discuss what I'm looking for. In one case, the text messages were fine; however when speaking to him, he sounded high and I didn't go through the appointment. There are things you can pick up from a conversation that will not come through text messages.

[+ newatthis]

For me it's not just hearing the voice, but having a conversation as well. Not necessarily a long conversation, but enough to ask and discuss, if necessary, certain questions that will give both of us an idea of what to expect and how compatible we are. For me, those need the give and take of a real conversation; texting or email won't do.

[+ glutes]

There are things you can pick up from a conversation that will not come through text messages.

 

And same truth about meeting said escort before appointment.

 

Do they live up to their pics? Do they have any teeth??

[seeker630]

I think Juan has articulated it very well. It's not a matter of 'right' or 'wrong', it's a matter of what you are comfortable with.

 

The only thing I would add is that perhaps it's worth making sure the escort understands that a voice conversation is IMPORTANT to you, and why. That MIGHT make a difference in his willingness to comply. i think younger people have different views of email vs voice vs texting than many of their typically-older clients.

 

I prefer to make arrangements via email - I find it easier to be explicit in that medium and (for what its worth), I feel more comfortable having a record of what requirements & preferences I expressed and he agreed to. Occasionally I contact someone who has little pateince with this route and who responds in monosyllables or stops replying after one or 2 emails. My conclusion from that behavior is he isn't willing to expend muich effort meeting my preferences, and that attitude might carry over into an actual session. And so I move on to someone else.

[Michael Wayne]

I book via text without a call if that is the client's wish. I respect that. However, personally. I PREFER phone contact. If assures me it is not some underage kid playing games and it assures me it is not a set-up. Also it lets the clients know I am really a masculine guy if they hear my voice. Alot of escorts are afraid their voice will turn off a client if they sound feminine. so, since we are discussing calling: here is my new phone number : 239-464-6053. I am available to come anywhere in the USA anytime to see you or I can host in Warm, sunny Southwest Florida. Mikey

[Guest countryboywny]

I am trying to set something with an escort, and he will text me and I will text him, but I have asked to talk to him (really so I could hear his voice) . He will not call me or answer his phone. And-- frankly it takes me forever to communicate what I want and arrange the meeting time and place etc etc in a text...which takes forever. I really dont want to hire him if he will not talk to me over the phone. Am I being too unreasonable? I know that is common but hearing the voice is important to me and being....definite..... on "things."

 

If the escort resists my preferred method of communication or doesn't respond in a timely manner.. I move on. I have been dealing with this situation very recently and, I've moved on!

[instudiocity]

... And-- frankly it takes me forever to communicate what I want and arrange the meeting time and place etc etc in a text...which takes forever. ...

 

I am probably one of the 1% of the population that does not have a cell phone so I never text (obviously). ...

 

Just a point of fact here guys, YOU CAN TEXT WITHOUT A CELLPHONE. I communicate with a young man in my life singularly via text message. He lives 2 doors down from me, never answers his phone, never setup a voice mail, will not respond to emails that he never reads and rarely comes by to see me. So IF I wanna know what's going on in my son's life, I have to text - PARAGRAPHS even EPISTLES!

 

Simply use the search engine of your choice to search the string, "SMS via computer" and you will get hundreds of services that offer FREE TEXT MESSAGING via computer.

 

A friend spent some time in Asia last year. We found a service that assigned him a domestic phone number that worked through an iPhone app to convert text messages into Internet traffic that could be interpreted by the iPhone app and operates just like text messaging. So FOR FREE, he was able to maintain his relationships in the US via text simply by initiating new texts with his buddies from the iPhone app.

 

Now, so my post won't be too far off subject, I would never make an appointment me with man I had not spoken to via Voice Communication - Phone, Skype, Facetime, iChat or AOL Instant Messenger voice. Just me, but if I showed up for a session and the guys sounds like Minnie Mouse or Olive Oil, he's not getting paid and I'm leaving immediately!

[Phil_musc]

I don't understand the appeal of texting at all. I would much rather receive a phone message or an email. What is so tough about making a phone call?

[Mark450]

You are not being unreasonable and neither is the escort. It just might be that this particular meeting will not happen.

I actually prefer text messages. I am horrible on the phone with people I do not know and quickly begin to stammer. I'm a fairly reserved person so the act of hiring an escort is very intimidating to me. Texting allows me time to gather my thoughts. It's different in person, I can't explain it but I do much better with conversation in person. Since this is the case, it is very rare for me to have had prior contact with an escort by any other means except text. So far, with maybe one exception, a lack of phone contact has not been an issue.

[Irtwo]

This seem odd to me because usuallly it is the escort who insists on a phone communication. I think the poster above has it correct when he said that the escort is probably foreign origin who fears his English skills won't be up to par.

[seeker630]

This seem odd to me because usuallly it is the escort who insists on a phone communication. I think the poster above has it correct when he said that the escort is probably foreign origin who fears his English skills won't be up to par.

 

I think it varies. While some ads state that they prefer to be contacted by phone, almost all the guys I've hired were satisfied with email contact. I would guess that I've spoken to less than 10% of my hires by phone. There have been a few tho who weren't very responsive in their emails and I loved on to someone else.

 

I suppose email IS the least convenient and most time-consuming channel.

[ErieBear]

Another idea is that he may be afraid that it's going to turn into a phone sex thing and then you won't follow through with the appointment.

 

Just a possibility. Have you asked him why he won't talk on the phone?

[EastbayMike]

I would never hire a masseur or an escort without first hearing their voice on the phone.

[Steven_Draker]

Ask him is there a reason why he doesn't want to talk to you over the phone.

[Lohengrin1979]

Hmmm....I don't see a problem with arranging things entirely by text or email but then again, I hire masseurs mainly so I guess the voice is less of a factor. I could understand wanting to hear someone's voice before spending an overnight with them though for a run of the mill encounter I don't see how it would be a deal breaker.

 

Lohengrin