How Do You Prepare for Appts with Escorts ?

[jjkrkwood]

Initially, I was gonna ask how you prepared for an out call with your hire (going to his place), but then I realized that unforseen things can happen whether the call is at his place OR yours. So I wanted know if you guys have a procedure in preparing for a session (other than showering and primping for those guys Not into the raunch/pig scenes).

 

1) For those of you "OUT" to family and freinds, do you give them the escorts name and other info you might have (email address, text msg, website etc.) ?

2) Do you show them a pic of the escort ?

3) do you arm yourself in any way (you DONT need to be specific here)

4) if you live in an elevator bldg, do you go down to meet the escort in the lobby, or just have him come up?

5) if call is at your home, do you have a friend there who meets the escort, then leaves.

6) If you are NOT "out" to family and friends, what other precautions do you take, if any.

 

All of this may sound VERY paranoid to many of you, but i beleive when strangers are involved, you can never be TOO careful. Thanks for any info you might share.

[Lewis H]

And here I thought your thread might involve mouthwash and enemas!

 

These are all great precautions, and I can say I have definitely undertaken 1, 2, and 4, and not just with escorts, but especially with sex hookups. So these apply when I meet strangers in general.

 

This site is especially good for pre-investigating whether or not you need to be overtly cautious. The first thing to do is make certain that red flags don't start waving before you meet them, by reading reviews and asking for feedback in this very forum. If they check out more or less and you get a good enough vibe to make an appointment, my safety checklist involves letting a good friend know where I'm heading by texting them the address and phone number of the escort before I go to their place for an incall, and then calling or texting the same friend after the appointment is done so they know that I'm at the very least home safe. Sometimes if I feel reasonably sure of an encounter, I will just leave a note in my apartment with the information, for someone to find just in case (although that may not do much for me if anything does happen and the note is found days later!).

 

If they come to me, sometimes I arrange to meet them outside before they come up. I have doormen so there's a level of security with having them identify people coming and going (such as it were) even if I just let them come up straight away.

 

This is, for the most part, a fairly amicable and friendly community, so thankfully these precautions are just that - being cautious. I imagine escorts have similar checklists to ensure their own safety, especially if they receive strangers into their homes. Better safe than sorry, for sure!

[leigh.bess.toad]

Since I have never done an incall at home (I'm out to my wife but having an escort in would probably be a bridge I don't want to cross, and since there is no one in town to hire), I've only gone to them. And since the only guy I see at "his place" (as opposed to a hotel) is Dave Rockin, it normally involves meeting them at their hotel. I have a few friends who normally know who I am seeing and when. But I also only hire guys here who are so completely vetted and reveiwed that I've never had the question come up. I don't really have any concerns about any of the guys I hired (every one was on the escort of the year list this year). And since being here, I think I've established a good reputation on my part so I don't think the escorts have any concern about meeting me either for the first time. I think being an active and known member here certainly must reduce any stress level an escort may have about meeting clients from here. And the escorts do talk to each other, so if you have a good (or bad) reputation, it will get around.

 

However, the same precautions, and maybe more may be needed and used when hooking up with someone from the "general public" from A4A, Manhunt, Scruff, Grindr, et al. I normally will have a safety person who has the contact information of the guy I'm going to meet (screen name, phone #, and address) and if they don't hear from me after a period of time, they would certainly call.

 

I'm not sure about the idea of being armed though. That may be a bit much. But nowadays, who knows.

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

For the most part, never have done anything; not incall or outcall to a local hotel.

 

I do have one friend who knows that I have "traveled to see a friend I met on-line" but that was not on our first meeting. It was only after accidentally slipping a "we" into the conversation about sight-seeing activities on a trip that I admitted to taking the next trip with someone.

[buckguy]

I also thought this might be more of a housekeeping and hygiene post from the title. I don't do any of this, except for #4, but I rarely have anyone meet me at home. If you're doing an incall at the guy's hotel, the only real risk is that he'll be a clockwatcher, inattentive, a lousy lay, etc. It's their turf and they are the ones who will be guarded about what happens there. Traveling escorts usually prefer doing incalls to outcalls as they don't have to deal with cabs, driving, figuring out how much time between appointments, etc., so they will want you to come to them. If someone meets you at a hotel (or at home), a common response by escorts is to check-out/use the bathroom to make sure there is no "extra client" present. Don't be surprised if you see this.

 

There are certainly stories of escorts doing great harm or robbing clients, but it's fairly rare event and if you are new and feeling paranoid, to this I would stick to guys who have generated positive comments from regulars here and those with regular reviews from multiple clients, particularly those who have written more than one review. I also would look at some of the "411" threads to see the strategies people use to judge credible ads (typically, the presence of face pics, internal consistency of pics--with nothing that looks like old porn star pics, a consistent and straightforward story about what their likes/dislikes, the absence of stuff like PNP or barebacking).

[+ Axiom2001]

Whether it is an "outcall" or an "in call," I've never gone through any of the steps and procedures as stipulated in the poster's initial post. Throughout my eleven or more years of my having to engage the services of escorts-- I've contacted the man; he and I have seen each other in his hotel room or in mine. On two occasions an escort drove to see me at my townhouse after I'd had knee surgery. I did NOT alert anyone of his visit, and since I am trusting, he was himself as he was when we'd seen each other in the numerable hotel rooms in the SF Bay Area.

 

When I have traveled to Buenos Aires, Rio de janeiro, Sao Paulo, and to Thailand-- I've hired, and the guys have come to my hotel room or rented apartment; everything, thus far, has gone quite pleasantly and well!

 

So, I will continue to remain positive and hire those men who have been reviewed here or elsewhere or who have given me some sense of trust through their ads.

 

<I've hired masseurs from Craigslist before they were removed; the guys were NOT good at all! Now I only use http://www.massagem4m.com and/or www.masseurfinder.com.>

[Guest Bauer]

Having a "bachelor pad" -- a trick pad -- is one way of being able to do "one's business" without bringing it into the cocoon of the home.

 

In a word, RENT, for the rentboys.

[+ azdr0710]

occasionally, I'll leave a piece of paper on my living room floor with the "name", phone number, address, etc. of a dude I'm meeting elsewhere for the first time....so if I'm never heard from again, they at least have something to go on (!!).....

 

I don't do any of the things listed in the first post....but, then, I only see "regulars" now.....I've never hosted, but will get a hotel room or go to their place.....

[Epigonos]

I’m completely with Axiom2001 on this one. Over the last ten years I have gotten together with dozens of guys. Some I’ve met at their place (home or hotel). Some I have met at my hotel. A very few I have met at my place. I usually hire only guys who have been well reviewed on this site. I have NEVER encountered a problem. Also I have NEVER taken any of the precautions presented in jjkrwood’s original post.

[zeyfur]

Hygeine is the most important thing. I have a shower and use the douche to avoid any embarrssing accidents during sex.