Travel with a bi escort

[LoveMidwest]

Hello Everyone,

 

It seems I have to keep learning travelling with an escorts.

 

I recently travelled with a bi escort to overseas..... We have met each other several times..... He made me want to trave with him.

During the trip, he called to his family and friends on pay-phones every morning and evening every day. It took over one hour everytime.....

One night, he said he would call to his family when we came back from dinner. Thought he would come back in an hour or so. But he did not came back for 5 hours. I was worried, so I looked for him in the hotel and found him kissing with a lady......

 

I knew he was a bi, but I felt lonely.........

 

Do we have to expect this when we travel with bi guys??? If so I better be into gay guys.....

 

i know I am pathetic.....

[Decatur Guy]

I don't think it's realistic to command every hour of an escort's time on a travel situation. Everyone wants alone time, etc.

 

But unless it's discussed ahead of time, the sexual fraternizing with anyone else -- of either sex -- should be a no-no to me.

[JoeyBryant]

But he did not came back for 5 hours. I was worried, so I looked for him in the hotel and found him kissing with a lady......

 

Do we have to expect this when we travel with bi guys??? If so I better be into gay guys.....

 

i know I am pathetic.....

 

No, THAT guy is pathetic.

 

He's just trying to ride along. I would have suggested traveling with a gay guy but that's not to say they won't pull the same thing.

 

That's just uncalled for though. A vacation should not be about drama...which is exactly what that guy was all about. It's supposed to be about having a good time with each other, maybe a couple hours to oneself...but not running off with someone else.

[adriano46]

Had a similar - awful - experience in Las Vegas with two bi escorts. Took them for a 2 day all-expenses paid trip when they were visiting the US (and staying in NYC). I knew one was definately bi, the other it was "maybe". Anyway, after checking in, gave them each "play money" (about $500/each), took them on a tour, fed them, went touring casinos, a night club, back to our own hotel and then to bed (them on their beds, me on mine as we were all wiped from the trip, time difference etc). Next day, after a late start, took them to brunch, a tour outside the city, shopping, poolside (they had also 2 hrs in gym while I caught up on business), then a long walk up and down the Strip, dinner, back to hotel room for a rest.

 

They woke about 90 minutes later and wanted to hit a western-themed bar with mechanical riding bull, then after going through enough of my money, wanted to head upstairs (I thought, for the night). Insytead, they took turns smoking cigarettes in the non-smoking bathroom; took showers, changed, and told me they would be back in an hour -- and headed out (I later discovered without cell phones, ID's, nothing....)

 

By 2:30 AM I panicked as I had no way of reaching them, they were gone, and they had also left their wallets in the hotel room. I ended up foolishly calling the local hiospitals, and finally local police. At 5:15 AM I heard their voices in the hotel corridor - just sitting in a lounge space laughing and talking quietly, each with some souvenirs they bought... I lost it. I was livid they were so inconsiderate. Discovered they had gone bar-hopping to meet some girls.

 

Check out was done in absolute chlled silence - plane back to NYC was worse. They actually accused me of being unreasonable. I learned a lesson. Guys who are bisexual and do what they want but I do not date them.... ever....

[leigh.bess.toad]

First off, LoveMidwest you are not pathetic. Far from it.

 

And I am sorry you and my friend Adriano (and wherenhave you been hiding btw) had your problems. But I don;t think this is a bi/gay issue. It's a poor escort who has no sense of his/their job.

 

I have already told my bi escort that he will be accompanying me to Palm Springs weekend next spring. The legendary Dave, Dave Rockin will be my escort in PS. And I have no concerns or worries at all. We will build into the schedule a couple of hours a day for him to attend to his personal affairs, which seems only fair and reasonable. Other than that I have no doubt he will be at my side (or front or back depending on the moment) the whole time. Because he is a true professional. And that unfortunately cannot be said about your escorts.

 

But we know this could never happen with a gay escort because gay men are models of decorum and would never chase a hot piece of ass, would they?

[rossthebosssf]

I don't think traveling with a bi escort is the issue at all as a gay escort you could have easily caught with another guy.

 

When hiring and traveling with any escort, you and he need to be up front with both of your expectations. While it is unprofessional for your escort to fratenize with anyone else whether it be male or female, you do need to allow your escort to have a couple hours off each day to workout, take a walk, make phone calls, etc.. However, anything over those two hours, unless previously negotiated are not acceptable.

 

Sorry you had a bad experience, but you can't overgeneralize just because of one escort. I mean, was this escort reviewed before on Daddy's? There's lot's of very professional bi escorts with whom I've had a fantastic time with during trips on this site.

[+ purplekow]

Adriano I might have considered going down to the front desk and getting my room changed. Then when they returned, they had no cell phone, no wallet and at least some anguish. Maybe you are not that vengeful but it seems like you got ripped off for a great trip for two for them and a night of heartache for one, you.

[imrthr]

Oh, East is East, and West is West, and never the twain shall meet, - - -

 

Rudyard Kipling had it right - I thought of his ballad when I read the story of the two opportunists described by the original poster and the experience reported by adriano46.

 

Of course, it is possible for so called “bi” escorts to show affection and attention to a client and go through the expected motions agreed on by both. However, the fact that they are attracted to females should alert you to the possibility your escort could lose interest in you, on an extended trip, and pursue females if an opportunity to do so appears.

 

Maybe the “bi” guys might appear more sensual than an admitted gay guy but at least you are less likely to have a similar situation as described in this thread, if you choose the gay guy.

 

Certainly do not consider yourself “pathetic” as you wrote. To the contrary, it is the self involved and deceptive escorts who did not keep their part of the contract/agreement that are pathetic.

 

Have you considered writing a review of the escorts involved?

[+ sf westcoaster]

Travel with an escort, bi or gay, requires a significant amount of up-front discussion. You as the client must clearly describe your expectations and that includes the amount of time you expect the escort to be by your side and the amount of free or alone time that he will have. Travel can be strenuous and some alone time allows for recharging. There is no substitute for communication, communication and more communication.

[robberbaron4u]

Although I am sympathetic to your plight in the matter. I surmise you had unrealistic expectations of the "escort business". I had an escort who I saw for several years, and, on occasion, he did come to me, at my expense, to my hotel in Florida. I provided a separate room for him, and, of course, I picked up the tab for food and beverage and entertainment in the course of his stay. Two of three days after his arrival, a car and pocket money was provided him to enable him to visit with his mother who made her home in the vicinity; as she lived in close proximity to an airport, he was given a "return trip" plane ticket home. In my honesty, I had a weakness for the lad, but, I never considered him for a travelling companion to distant lands as long-term attentiveness was not his strong suit, two or three days being his limit on playing, with some success, the "I love you" line.

[Bart]

Is it rude for me to ask Love Midwest and Adriano why you are choosing not to do a review? If the gentlemen involved have been threatening, please let Daddy know he is actually quite helpful in those situations.

 

I loved Purple Kow's response. Unfortunately in the moment we dont think of those things. LM Sfwestcoaster is right expectations clearly stated and communication clearly helps a great deal. Bi, gay or straight is irrelevant in either of the cases mentioned. Adriano very generous of you to give each gentlemen $500 to play with. Their behavior intollerable. The events described in both is how sometimes traveling with friends can be complicated but since your paying I cant believe they would not be timely in their appearances.

 

It is appropriate for gentlemen to schedule 2 hours to themselves daily, so they can best attend to your needs knowing theirs are in good hands. LM yours is just a bit more surprising because you have spent time with the gentleman in question. So he certainly knew you and expectations would be easy, but to go down and find him making out with someone would be enough for me to return to the room gather my things and move to another hotel or at least room quickly. Then send him a text saying the "the room is free if you wish to take the trash up to the room, I am sure she will be happy to pick up the rest of the tab."

[LoveMidwest]

Thank you very much for all of your comments. I now think that was not a "Bi or Gay" issue. That was his issue.

 

Bart, Actually, I called the front desk and returned all of his luggage to the desk. He saw his luggage in the lobby, then he was surprised and came back to my room.

He was very mad.....

 

 

I will look for a right one to travel with me.....

 

Thanks again.

[+ nycman]

What we have here is a failure to communicate.....

 

Both situations suck, but each time it sounds like the escorts spent

loads of time with you. God forbid they took a break and had some

time on their own. Yes, they should have communicated their need for

"down time" in the initial negotiations, but sometimes long hires are

new to the escort as well as to the client.

 

You called the hospital and police?...really?

What did you say?..."My *****s ran out on me and left their stuff here"?

 

You had his luggage removed to the lobby....really?

"Vengeful Queen...party of one....your table is waiting"

 

I'm not trying to be mean, but while the situations were unfortunate,

the drama filled overreaction of the clients is pretty funny.

[+ peterhung85]

Correct!

 

I don't think traveling with a bi escort is the issue at all as a gay escort you could have easily caught with another guy.

 

When hiring and traveling with any escort, you and he need to be up front with both of your expectations. While it is unprofessional for your escort to fratenize with anyone else whether it be male or female, you do need to allow your escort to have a couple hours off each day to workout, take a walk, make phone calls, etc.. However, anything over those two hours, unless previously negotiated are not acceptable.

 

Sorry you had a bad experience, but you can't overgeneralize just because of one escort. I mean, was this escort reviewed before on Daddy's? There's lot's of very professional bi escorts with whom I've had a fantastic time with during trips on this site.

 

I think "Rossthebosssf" nailed that one. First of all, this is not a bi or gay question. I am bisexual, I am attracted to both sexes however I would never do anything like that. I think it is a matter of being professional or not. Even if the hottest girl/guy wants to engage anything with me while I am with a client I would turn him/her down in a heartbeat. I am with someone while I am being paid for the company so the bare minimum is that I spend time with that special someone. The other thing is, it is always more advisable to pick someone who is well-reviewed on Daddy's as a travel companion. I have seen/heard many examples where the guy and the client hit it off very well and the trip turned out to be a disaster. And please do not consider this posting as a "Self-advertisement" feel free to pick anybody next time but make sure it is someone who is a reviewed travel companion. I also advise a couple of hours meeting before you take someone as it can be a "gamble" even if you heard good things about the escort. Of course, it is always easy to be "smart" about these things afterwards, I was just trying to highlight how to avoid any disappointment in the future.

 

By the way, I have noticed that most of my clients DO allow me personal time when I travel with them. The amount of time always varies (from 1 hour to 5 hours a day), but I have also traveled with a few clients who literally escorted me to the bathroom and had no single minute by myself for a week. I am good either way and do not mind because in the end... you pay for my companionship!

 

All the best to you!

[LoveMidwest]

nycnman,

 

I really regret what I did because I over-reacted. I was so shocked at that time. The lady who he kissed was like his mother's age.

He came back to our room at 4:30am. I questioned to myself how he could keep awaking next day, I thought he did not think to travel with me....

He wanted to take a nap for 2 hours everyday. I gave him the nap time in addition to his phone call time.

Probably you cannot believe it, but everything was a true story.

I was angry too. I was thinking to sue him, but also figured-out that was not wise.

 

I almost fogot him, so I am moving on.

[Bart]

NYCman if downtime was agreed to by all means the gentleman should take it, everything should have a common ground. However, making out with another person is not part of any deal I have ever heard of. LM under no circumstances should you feel guilty. I applaud you on your guts to express your feelings in definitive way. I have been guilty over the years of leaving a meeting with heel marks in by back and a toe stuck up my ass for poor behavior by so-called gentlemen. I took a stand last year and finally issued a negative review, my first, for horrible behavior. A few hours for rest, catch up on business, work out or just quiet reading time is great but never making out with someone else in the lobby of the hotel you are both staying at. At least go somewhere else.

[Bart]

Really you have clients that won't let you alone, ugh I hope you charged them extra. Wow I need a couple of hours away from the guys I hire so I can relax. I don't hire to be 24 hours on, that would be almost like dating.

[Gar1eth]

I am an old hand at weekends. I usually try to give the escort some alone time for the gym or anything else they need to do--but sometimes,depending on what you have planned, it isn't possible. My weekends usually involved flying the guy in to see me. So if the guy arrived afternoon or evening on a Friday and left around noon on Sunday--that's actually less than 48 hours together. Assuming the client is a decent guy, I would hope most "professional escorts'' could stand being with the client for that amount of time. Of course situations always differ. But it does sound to me like the OP was taken advantage of. It has nothing to do with being bi or gay, and everything to do with being a stand up guy who knows how to treat people. (Note to Peter Hung--if I ever get lucky enough to meet you--and we only have time for a short weekend like the one I described above--while you may not get gym time--i promise not to follow you into the bathroom).

 

Gman

[down_to_business]

First- to the original poster- your escort was a scoundrel (or unprofessional or an assclown etc.etc.) and it would not matter if he was gay, straight or bi unless it makes a difference whether the person he is making out with is a guy or a girl. Anyone who tries to tell you that it was your fault for not communicating your expectations is no better than the escort in question in my opinion. There are things that don't need to be specifically discussed and making out with other people during your time together is one of them.

 

 

...By the way, I have noticed that most of my clients DO allow me personal time when I travel with them. The amount of time always varies (from 1 hour to 5 hours a day), but I have also traveled with a few clients who literally escorted me to the bathroom and had no single minute by myself for a week. I am good either way and do not mind because in the end... you pay for my companionship!...

 

Peter (and other escorts) may I ask what you find reasonable or preferred for these long-term appointments? For example- 1 hour in the AM and 1 in the PM or 2 hours every afternoon or ???

[+ peterhung85]

(Note to Peter Hung--if I ever get lucky enough to meet you--and we only have time for a short weekend like the one I described above--while you may not get gym time--i promise not to follow you into the bathroom).

 

Gman

 

Hey Gman,

 

Thanks for the sweet note! I appreciate you not to follow me to the bathroom I hope I will have a chance to meet up with you at some point. In defense of that client of mine, he did not follow me to the bathroom whenever we were in the suite, only followed me whenever we were out in the casino It makes a big difference, doesn't it ? But oh well, I truly do not care whether my client follows me or not. It might feel weird but I have to accept the fact that I deal with many-many people and everybody is different and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.

 

All the best to you!

[+ peterhung85]

First- to the original poster- your escort was a scoundrel (or unprofessional or an assclown etc.etc.) and it would not matter if he was gay, straight or bi unless it makes a difference whether the person he is making out with is a guy or a girl. Anyone who tries to tell you that it was your fault for not communicating your expectations is no better than the escort in question in my opinion. There are things that don't need to be specifically discussed and making out with other people during your time together is one of them.

 

 

 

 

Peter (and other escorts) may I ask what you find reasonable or preferred for these long-term appointments? For example- 1 hour in the AM and 1 in the PM or 2 hours every afternoon or ???

 

Hey "DTB",

 

Good question. I would say that this part is negotiable. As every client of mine have different needs when they have me as their travel companion. Some like to leave me 5-6 hours a day, some even follow me to the restroom as you read. I have some basic principals when I travel with clients though.

 

If it is just a quick weekend trip, then it is obvious that I abandon literally everything because there is not much that could happen in 2.5 days. That's why I start my meeting with my client with turning off my escort phone and the next time I check it when I am already gone. I silence my personal phone and check it once or twice a day to see if there is any emergency going on. Some of my clients know that I own multiple businesses, have investments in Europe and in the USA therefore if I see that I had any missed call I ask for the permission of the client who I am with if I can do a quick phone call. Everybody who knows me knows, that I would not make a phone call unless it is very necessary. But these official things do not take longer than 5 minutes usually anyway so that's never a problem. Family can wait (as harsh as it sounds) but I can't really think of any reasons why I would have to contact them during this 2.5 days. I like to hang on the internet but during a weekend trip 1 hour is enough per day to check all my emails and respond to them and also to visit a couple of websites that are important.

 

Now, a week - 2 weeks - month gig is totally different. Obviously, I would have to follow up with personal life as things do not "stop" around me. I also require one or two hours online so I can check all the things I need to check and to email to family once a week. For foreign trips I never carry any of my cell phones ( I just do not like the idea of being overcharged for different roaming fees when I come back) but for domestic trips I use the same method for my cell phones as it was described under the weekend trip.

 

Hope that sums it up! If you have any questions please let me know.

 

Have a wonderful day/night

[Dave]

Peter, can i follow you into the bathroom? i don't even need you for a full day. hell, one piss load could probably do the trick.

[+ peterhung85]

Peter, can i follow you into the bathroom? i don't even need you for a full day. hell, one piss load could probably do the trick.

 

Haha :D OK... Only you... I let you do that