Running into clients

[Rhinestone Cowboy]

Hey guys! Do you ever run into clients "outside of work," so to speak? Any advice for how to handle, and any advice for clients about how to act when they run into you?

[josephga]

I say nothing when I run into massage clients outside of work unless they approach me first. in 11 years iv only run into 2.

[orbital sander]

I would imagine that you would let them acknowledge you first as Joseph has suggested, otherwise, keep moving on and respect everyone's privacy. I have been in this very situation. We talked about it later when we were together alone and it was cool. We all have our private lives outside of work no matter what our occupations are.

[Electra 225]

Over the years, I've run into escorts socially (parties, restaurants, bars, coffeeshops, etc.). If it is appropriate, I at least acknowledge them with a nod or a smile or a wink--something that preserves privacy on all counts for everyone--especially if they are with a client or with friends. I make it a practice to let an escort know, when I see them privately and, usually, after the first meeting, that is is usually O.K. to say "Hello" if we meet in public, depending upon their, and my, situation at the moment--it is especially O.K. if they see me sitting alone at coffee or am just wandering through a shop or something like that. Both of us, me and the escort, have private and public lives and we both respect that.

[Mark Gordon]

This has happened to me many times. It has even happened that a client has been at a dinner party I attended. He pretended not to know me and I followed through. Good professional conduct is to take your cue from the client. Their borders are your borders. In public, do not acknowledge them beyond eye contact and a very slight incline of the head unless they approach you. Personally, I have no problem with being approached. If approached, keep the conversation general - you don't know who else may be listening.

[Guest Rich.]

I would respectfully suggest, from a Client's perspective, not bellowing at an Escort: "Hi... [...] (insert working name). This may prove important advice if said former playmate is with his employer and one of his siblings. I didn't find recovery easy. If you happen to do this, you'll hopefully have a consumate socially-adept friend by your side who will shrug, sigh and then whisper to the concerned parties, behind your back: "She's barking mad, darling, totally barking...".

 

Richard

[+ glutes]

If you happen to do this, you'll hopefully have a consumate socially-adept friend by your side who will shrug, sigh and then whisper to the concerned parties, behind your back: "She's barking mad, darling, totally barking...".

 

Richard

 

Rich., you guys are so civil across the pond, and witty to boot.

It is something called discretion, unfortunately here in the USofA, there is one high-profile prostitute that isn't so discreet...

[MPF_1966]

I have run into escorts that I've hired on several occasions. Personally, I never approach them in order to respect their privacy as much as my own. This had been my practice even with escorts that I've seen regularly over a long period of time. In my view, we should respect an escort's privacy as much as we'd like ours to be respected. Having said that, if I get a wink or a smile, I'll respond in kind.

[uwsman2]

The names issue. Of course, many - perhaps virtually all - escorts use different names in their advertising and with their clients than they do in their "civilian" life. This would counsel strongly against referring to an escort by the name by which the client knows him in any public situation, since it might inadvertantly "out" the escort to unsuspecting people he happens to be with. (Similarly, of course, I would imagine many clients don't use their real names when dealing with escorts, which would counsel likewise that an escort should not mention the client's name in public for the same reason.)

[zach_wilson]

This has happened to me a few times whilst being out at the bar with friends, or sometimes being in certain restaurants around town where a lot of business meeting are held. I find it easiest to see how the client reacts to seeing me out, if they give a nod or smile, a sign of acknowledgement, then i will do the same.

However as mentioned before it is a mutual respect to understand privacy and discretion, so in the event acknowledgement is not shown, then go along with it. I typically will send an email or text message telling them that I saw them if i know that contact is okay, after having previously discussed if it is okay to contact the client first; this way they at least know that you have noticed them.

[Guest Spanker01]

The only times this has happened to me has been in a work enviroment. Both escorts were treated as another customer. One of them hooks up with me frequently, the other very rarely. No one got outed.

 

Spanker

[Michael Wayne]

I only speak when spoken to. I tell every client the first time I see them that if I see them out I will avoid them and to NOT think I am being rude. It is part of discretion- THE PRIME DIRECTIVE OF ESCORTING.

[Guest countryboywny]

When I see an escort that I have hired in public, and I have, I'm not aware of his situation at any given moment. In case he's with another client and to protect both of our privacy, I never make eye contact, or little smiles. I totally ignore the fact that he is there and leave it to him if he wishes to say hello.

[youngclient2]

All the time. Too often, really. Guys I've hired have even worked their way into my personal social circle. I guess that's the problem with being close to their age.

[JoeyBryant]

All the time. Too often, really. Guys I've hired have even worked their way into my personal social circle. I guess that's the problem with being close to their age.

 

That's the benefit of hiring younger guys like me. What are the odds? My Saturday nights are spent at a dance club usually...very slim chance of running into a client there. And as far as I know most clients seem to have been there done that when it comes to shopping malls so fat chance there too.

 

That said, I have actually never ran into a client in public before. Lately though I have been going to Home Depot so my days may be limited in that department LOL. I echo most the other posters I'd just only speak if they initiated it, just like a phone call. I'm not the type to just completely ignore or avoid someone...as if they were alone a smile and a Hey, how you doing can't hurt right? Nobody knows whether we pass by each other at the gym, or worked in the same office (I used to work at a bank with lots of older men LOL) or what.