Anything but sex

[TruthBTold]

Do you have a certain percent of encounters that you think are going to be sex sessions but end up being something not quite so? Like the person just wants to hold/be held and talk. Not because they don't like sex but because the moment did not move them. Does it disappoint you or make you uncomfortable? If anyone, I suppose it would be a regular.

[Juan Vancouver]

I have encountered that a few times. Sometimes with new clients, sometimes with regulars. Far from being disappointed when that happens I see it as an invitation for me to focus all my energy and attention and try to understand what is needed of me. Sometimes they need a compassionate ear, sometimes they need intelligent counsel, sometimes it's all about cuddling but sometimes even that is too much and what they really need is to have the chance to get used to hanging out with a man and feel relaxed.

 

We tend to forget that we all have entirely different comfort zones. When one person says "I want to stretch my boundaries a bit" he may be meaning taking two fists, while for another man stretching his boundaries may mean to be in the same room with you while you are wearing underwear and having a casual conversation about something entirely unrelated. One of my jobs as an escort is to try to understand what is needed of me and provide it to the best of my abilities and that is why it is very important to make sure that my own needs have been taken care of in advance. If I arrived to a session needing to get off and my client just wanted to watch the Teletubbies I would be incredibly frustrated and I would likely not be able to relax and give him what he needs, but if I arrive horny, ready, satisfied and curious then I can do my best while feeling present and excited.

 

Invariably whenever I have encountered this situation, if I am mindful and patient, the relationship has acquired a passionate energy in the end. Sometimes I needed to see the same person for up to five sex-less, sometimes even touch-less sessions, but sooner or later when they feel the energy is right, when they are relaxed enough, when they feel enough familiarity, the physical intimacy becomes inevitable.

 

When I remember that my profession is about understanding and facilitating my client's needs then it becomes incredibly fulfilling.

[TruthBTold]

Juan, that is incredibly insightful. BTW, was the six sexless sessions a nun.

[gcursor]

it was a very great response Juan.

Gcursor

[+ purplekow]

Juan, that is incredibly insightful. BTW, was the six sexless sessions a nun.

Well the first five sessions were none and the sixth was fun.

[leigh.bess.toad]

Well the first five sessions were none and the sixth was fun.

 

Lol. Reminds me of the old joke I heard years ago. Why do nuns travel in pairs? So the one nun can make sure the other nun don't get none,

[leigh.bess.toad]

But his answer shows why juan is one of the best there is. Remember we are simpling paying for our escort's time.

[Guest macnva]

But his answer shows why juan is one of the best there is. Remember we are simpling paying for our escort's time.

 

Really? So just how many times have you hired and been with Juan? I bet the answer is zero and if that is so that it is ok to give him a cheap Timex watch from the nearest WalMart as payment for an overnight session (on your tab of course!).

[leigh.bess.toad]

Really? So just how many times have you hired and been with Juan? I bet the answer is zero and if that is so that it is ok to give him a cheap Timex watch from the nearest WalMart as payment for an overnight session (on your tab of course!).

 

2007 Escort of the Year

More mentions than any other escort on the "Who's on your Wish List for 2011" thread than any other escort.

 

I think that speaks to Juian's standing.

 

You are correct that I've never hired him, but it's not for lack of desire. I've repeatedly stated my desire to hire him. If he would come east, I'd be there in a heartbeat. DC, Philly, New York, Boston, I'd be there. But since you don't hire any more, you wouldn't hire him either. So sad that a bitter old queen has to come and try to degrade others. But as Lucky said a year and a half ago "

 

macnva is an example of a guy who posts here under another name, but when he wants to take a shot at someone, he hasn't the courage to do so under that name, so creates a new one.

[orbital sander]

ugghh..I was just forgetting about Lucky...But I have to admit that the old dear did have a few sensible thoughts....