Incall or Outcall Preference?

[Rhinestone Cowboy]

I'm new to this forum, so try not to make fun of me too much if this is a stupid question. Some of you bitches can be haaaaaaarsh!

 

As a client, I prefer hiring an escort for an Incall. I've done both over the years, but I generally find that the session goes better if it's on the escort's turf because they're comfortable with their surroundings, it's their space, etc. If it's a new hire, I assume the escort is already a bit anxious about the mysterious person who shows up at the door; I feel like it's sort of double-anxiety to also put the escort in a position where they don't know their physical surroundings, where the bathroom is, water, etc. An Incall only seems fair to me: they don't know what I'm going to be like, and I don't know what their place is going to be like...so there's sort of an even playing field which (I've found) makes things a lot more comfortable right off the bat. I'd be interested to hear from the perspective of escorts if you feel the dynamic changes (or not) with Incalls vs. Outcalls (or hotels for that matter) and if you have a preference. Thanks!

[orbital sander]

I'm new to this forum, so try not to make fun of me too much if this is a stupid question. Some of you bitches can be haaaaaaarsh!

 

As a client, I prefer hiring an escort for an Incall. I've done both over the years, but I generally find that the session goes better if it's on the escort's turf because they're comfortable with their surroundings, it's their space, etc. If it's a new hire, I assume the escort is already a bit anxious about the mysterious person who shows up at the door; I feel like it's sort of double-anxiety to also put the escort in a position where they don't know their physical surroundings, where the bathroom is, water, etc. An Incall only seems fair to me: they don't know what I'm going to be like, and I don't know what their place is going to be like...so there's sort of an even playing field which (I've found) makes things a lot more comfortable right off the bat. I'd be interested to hear from the perspective of escorts if you feel the dynamic changes (or not) with Incalls vs. Outcalls (or hotels for that matter) and if you have a preference. Thanks!

 

This is not a stupid question, and while some people can be a bit touchy here (especially the Thread Gestapo), most do not bite.

 

Since I travel a lot, I meet-up at my hotel. Hotels are generally the best, but if i have an ongoing thing with someone, and I am not traveling, I end up preferring my place as that is where I am most comfortable. Welcome to the forum!

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey Cowboy,

 

Welcome to the forum!

 

The only stupid question is the one that you wanted to ask but didn't, so I am glad you asked.

 

Personally I don't have any preference when it comes to incalls or outcalls. In my case, I have noticed the opposite, but for the same reasons: clients often feel more comfortable if the session happens in their home; they know the territory, they feel safe, they feel in control and it is easier for them to relax and let go. Since I like a relaxed client I love this kind of sessions when they let go and allow themselves to enjoy.

 

You say that you imagine the escorts anxious before the session because we don't know who will show, but I would like to invite you to imagine something different. At least in my case before meeting someone for the first time I feel excited and curious and intensely looking forward to getting to discover a new human being. This is not a stressful situation but an exciting one. I can imagine that there may be some escorts that are not very experienced and may be feeling fear or apprehension or simple anxiety, but I would imagine that's not the norm. If you stick to hiring well reviewed, experienced escorts all you have to do is put yourself in their hands and let them help YOU relax, not the other way around.

 

I hope this answer helps.

 

Happy hirings!

[Steven_Draker]

Some of you bitches can be haaaaaaarsh!

 

Did you call me, Cowboy?

 

If you're new to the escorting/hiring thing one should understand the proper terminology: an in-call is when the escort receives at his place/hotel and an out-call is when the escort travels to the client's place/hotel. You seem to have gotten the basics.

 

To answer your question is: it depends. Some prefer in-calls, others prefer out-calls. I think that a hotel is a very neutral place for a first time meeting. Usually when more profound and deep relationship is established things can be taken to a different level.

 

Personally, I would be leery if I invite a complete stranger off Craig's list to my place. One is never cautious enough.

[joeyboy107]

As an escort, you have to be a little cautious either way I think. Though the same could be said for clients, too!

I don't really have a preference. There are pros and cons as far as comfort level either way.

[instudiocity]

... most do not bite...

I only bite when requested to bite.

[Guest Rich.]

I only bite when requested to bite.

 

I know this is wrong, on so many levels, but Steve McQueen's Grandson? Anybody else? BITE me Stephen, BITE me... ! :o

 

Richard

[zeyfur]

I prefer meeting up at an escort's place !

[uwsman2]

I also prefer meeting at an escort's place. That means that with traveling escorts I'm usually meeting them at a hotel. There have been a few occasions, of course, where it turned out that the escort's place was pretty grungy and did not lend itself to a hygienic encounter, to say the least... But it just seems safer to me from the client's point of view not to invite a stranger into one's own home.

[colbyjansen]

Unless I have a hotel in Toronto, I never do incalls - I can't allow my privacy to be exposed.

 

If I'm travelling in a city I don't know, I generally prefer incall because it just ends up easier for me.

 

If I am travelling in a city I have been to and am familiar with, I don't care either way.

 

I always research the area I'm going into though - especially crime rates, demographics and property values. While I am a marine, I have no need to be walking into a battle zone! (see Baltimore lol jk, I lived there for a time)

[+ Shoreboy]

Believe it or not this question made me realize that with all of my hiring I have never gone to an escort's place....since I travel for a living it is always very easy for me to use my hotel room....maybe I need to break out and try going to an escort's place?

[down_to_business]

I know this is wrong, on so many levels, but Steve McQueen's Grandson? Anybody else? BITE me Stephen, BITE me... ! :o

 

Richard

 

Although I feel like I am helping hijack a thread--

 

Steven R McQueen is a major hottie, although his current show.. the Vampire Diaries.. is chock full of them. Ian Somerhalder(Lost, The Rules of Attraction, Life as a House), Paul Wesley (Fallen, 24), Zach Roerig (As the World Turns, Friday Night Lights), Michael Trevino, Matthew Davis (Legally Blonde) and guest stars like Taylor Kinney, Sean Faris and Dillon Casey (whos Capt Jack's flame in the oft talked about new Torchwood).

 

I knew Steven was going to be something special when he grew up after seeing him as the young conflicted gay piano student on the awesome series Everwood.

[uwsman2]

Hey, down_to_business, why not start a new thread? These comments are likely to be buried and not get the kind of attention they deserve when they are appended to a totally different thread.

[gtx1]

As a client, I've done in calls in town and both out and in calls when traveling. Having the escort come to me gives me more control over the situation and I can select the type of hotel we are in, mke sure there are lots of towels and refreshments available especially if it is a longer appointment.

 

All that said, there is a certain edge to giving up that control, finding the escorts apartment and knocking on that door. I've been from nicely put together places like Alam Ladd's apartment in Houston and Miami pool houses on the water to basic flop pads with no furniture except a mattress on the floor.

 

My personal preference is a suite or suite type hotel with separate living area. It is always nice to start the action in a more casual environment. You can actually act out a seduction as opposed to immediately hitting the mattress. I also love the places with showers big enough for two.

 

So, in or out - BOTH!

[zach_wilson]

Sorry y'all that I have been away for a while. Had surgery but I'm back and now down to business on the threads. I feel this thread is very personal. Because. On one hand I think it can be very convenient if the client is passing through to do an incall. However as gtx said they have no idea what they could be walking into cleanliness wise Etc. As an escort I perfer doing outcalls as a way to keep personal and business life separate. Your apartment as an escort is a place of sanctuary. A place to relax before your next big trip, or just lounge around with friends. I always have a couple hotels on the area where I can recommend outcalls. That are reasonably priced. And that I have been to and know that they are accommodating. This way you still feel comfortable going there. But the client can have to control that gtx mentions. Works for both parties. hope this advice helps

[Strafe13]

As a client, I prefer in-calls for two reasons.

 

1st, my living situation is such that I cannot host.

 

2nd, I live in New York City, where the hotels are outrageously expensive. So, it's cost-prohibitive to hire escorts who will only do out-calls. Heck, I'd rather spend the money on the escort instead of the room! In NYC, the cost of a hotel room for one night can easily get you 1 or even 2 hours or more of an escort's time.

 

The only time I do hotels is for a special occasion where I'm completely treating/spoiling myself. Or, when I'm traveling, I'll just use the hotel where I'm already staying (I usually travel alone).

[uwsman2]

Strafe13, my situation exactly. In my hometown I can't really host most of the time, so I prefer to go to the escort. That's one of the reasons why I like traveling escorts who are visiting NY - they are almost always in a hotel where they can host, and going to a hotel you know there will be a reasonably high level of cleanliness and comfort and decent bathroom facilities to clean up afterwards! The main reason I've not hired quite a few of the local escorts who look terrific in the reviews and ads here in NY is because they are "out only" types. Once or twice over the past decades I've sprung for a hotel room, but that usually puts the escort out of my price range unless we're going to a real dive.

[jackcali]

Sorry y'all that I have been away for a while. Had surgery but I'm back and now down to business on the threads. I feel this thread is very personal. Because. On one hand I think it can be very convenient if the client is passing through to do an incall. However as gtx said they have no idea what they could be walking into cleanliness wise Etc. As an escort I perfer doing outcalls as a way to keep personal and business life separate. Your apartment as an escort is a place of sanctuary. A place to relax before your next big trip, or just lounge around with friends. I always have a couple hotels on the area where I can recommend outcalls. That are reasonably priced. And that I have been to and know that they are accommodating. This way you still feel comfortable going there. But the client can have to control that gtx mentions. Works for both parties. hope this advice helps

 

Welcome back, Zach. I hope the surgery went well and the recovery is speedy. I completely relate to your sentiments about your home. I hate bringing my work home (it's not escorting, trust me, lol), and have always lived close enough to work so that if I have work to do at night or on the weekends, I can go to my office (or stay late) to do it. Home is my sanctuary, and I don't want to pollute it with work stuff. First cell phones and then blackberries make this harder, but I'd still rather avoid doing anything work-related at home.

[jackcali]

Strafe13, my situation exactly. In my hometown I can't really host most of the time, so I prefer to go to the escort. That's one of the reasons why I like traveling escorts who are visiting NY - they are almost always in a hotel where they can host, and going to a hotel you know there will be a reasonably high level of cleanliness and comfort and decent bathroom facilities to clean up afterwards! The main reason I've not hired quite a few of the local escorts who look terrific in the reviews and ads here in NY is because they are "out only" types. Once or twice over the past decades I've sprung for a hotel room, but that usually puts the escort out of my price range unless we're going to a real dive.

 

I also live in New York and can't host (small apartment building, nosy doormen and neighbors, etc.), and it's very frustrating to see ads for some escorts who I would really like to hire but who cannot host. (There are some great escorts who can host, I realize, but my tastes run to the younger ones, who generally can't.) I often pay for hotels during the seasons when they're relatively cheap, but the weak dollar has attracted so many European tourists that the traditional cheap seasons (including the summer) aren't cheap anymore. Oh, well.

[rickp]

I hear what a lot of you are saying about the cost of lodging in New York City. I'd have to see triple as many clients in order to justify renting a nice manhattan apartment by myself.

 

I almost always do outcalls, because few clients seems to want to travel to Brooklyn. Although, I do enjoy incalls as well.