Is 25 too young to pay for sex?

[bigvalboy]

Hey purplekow, Point very well taken, and I agree 100%

[bigvalboy]

Hey dolphin, I get nervous when you talk about not wanting to live long...My God.... son life is and can be amazing at any age no matter how long you live. I am alone because I chose to be alone. Possibly a mistake, but I am correcting that. There are those here who don't have ANY regrets about not searching for a partner. Paying for sex can be just the thing to get you started, I ditto what decatur Guy says. But PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, take the advice and listen to the guys in this forum. They can advise on who to go with, and that could make all the differnce in the world in having a good experience or a bad one. There are some VERY knowledgable guys here...good luck!!!!

[gp0560]

. . . I would suggest that you check through the NYC rent boy ads and select a few and come back to this site and ask about them. This will help you avoid the money hungry and the fakes. Once the posters here have an idea of your taste, we will be able to make some suggestions for you. . . .

 

Just one little footnote to PK's excellent advice: Look though Daddy's Reviews for escorts in your area. Escorts well-reviewed on Daddy's are always a good bet, especially if the reviewers have published more than one review. You can also get more detail about what talents the escort has, whether he's good with first-timers, whether he appeals to reviewers with your tastes in men, and so on.

[+ azdr0710]

I can't offer much, but it's good to see a whole group here offering their sincere thoughts......good forum we have here.....

[Edward]

Hey To Young,

 

I suggest you learn to cruse. Learn about eye contact at a bar or on the street. When you look at a guy on the street or a bar, is he looking back? If he does, dont be afraid to say hi. If you are at a bar, don't be afraid to send someone you are attracted to a drink. Learn to pick up on other guys suttle gesters. Sart hitting the gym. Looks is a lot physical conditioning. At 25, diet and a good workout routine can do alot for appearences. Besides the gym is a great place to meet guys. For me, the guy who in my younger days that could have any guy in the bar that was availble, I hire because I cannot pickup the hotties (hot studs) I want, anymore. Guess I was spoiled in my younger days. I don't want another old guy like my self. At least once in your life find a friend/lover, someone special that wants you for you. Money is nice but it cannot buy everything. Wished I was around to to coach you on the art of crusing. In the mean time enjoy your RentBoys.

[uwsman2]

Dolphin, no need to mention names of escorts who didn't respond to your inquiries. Other threads in this forum have discussed the myriad reasons why an escort might not reply to an email inquiry. I would speculate that some might be leery of taking on a novice customer, especially those who are themselves not particularly experienced -- and they exist! Just keep trying, and be careful what you write in your initial contact, but be sure to indicate that you are serious about making an appointment and even suggest some possible dates. The well-reviewed escorts tend to get flooded with email inquiries and in sorting through them generally delete those that don't sound serious about making a date. Good luck!

[down_to_business]

...I want to know what your experience has been. When did you start looking for paid companionship in the bedroom? Is 25 too young to give up on meeting someone by chance? Am I crazy for thinking the only way to have intimacy is by paying for it?

 

I first looked for an escort experience in my late 30's.

25 is most definitely too young to give up meeting someone, but I am not quite sure what you mean by chance. If you mean is 25 too young to stop thinking that out of thin air a perfect man is going to knock on your door and want to be your boyfriend forever, the answer is no. Is 25 too young to give up on finding anyone to share your life with, most definitely, yes.

 

This is an escort themed website so many will tell you to hire someone.. heck some escort using one of their aliases might even tell you to hire someone and pay them double and you will feel twice as good. The truth of the matter here, is hiring an escort-- at any age-- is only OK if you don't fool yourself into thinking it will fix everything that is missing in your life. An escort is NOT going to become your best friend, an escort is NOT going to provide you unconditional love, an escort will NOT meet your emotional needs and if you try to substitute hiring for living life, you will both regret it and end up alone. There are some escorts that decide to stop doing this due to any number of reasons and without a word you will find that your friend and source of intimacy has disconnected his phone number and adandoned his email and moved on with his life.

 

I don't know if you are too young to get a Pretty Woman reference, but a friend of mine once gave me some terrific advice. 'The escort you hire is not going to be Julia Roberts, and you are sure as hell not Richard Gere'. The chance that the escort you hire is going to fall in love with you.. well you have more of a chance winning the lottery. If you go into this with that intention, you will be hurt almost every time.

 

Hiring an escort for yourself is recommended by me in only the following situation. If you are so nervous about having sex with another man that the fear is paralyzing you, then by all means, pay for your first experience. Many recommended escorts, especially if you are a good communicator, can offer you exactly the experience you are looking for and if it allows you to get past that anxiety about physical intimacy with another man, it is money well spent.

 

Best advice I can give you-

* Consider moving to a gay friendly area if there are absolutely no gay friendly places near where you live

* Instead of looking for someone on a hook-up site or a gay bar or the internet, try joining a gay service organization, or a gay bowling team, a gay softball league, a gay choir.

* Join a gay church.

* Keep your eyes open in the grocery store, home depot, wherever you go. Talk to people. If someone smiles at you, smile back. Smile more often, make eye contact, say Hello to people.

* Volunteer at some Aids services organization or other place where you are likely to interact with other gay people.

 

Good luck to you.

[JT Brooklyn]

Biz is Biz Very few "Working Guys" would turn down a 25 Year Old Scenario! Hell the Working Girls Love'm!

[+ Charlie]

25 is not to young to hire an escort, but it is too young to make that your standard practice. If what you want is an opportunity to experience some really good sex with someone who fits your ideal of a a hot guy, then do it. I suspect you are in the Philadelphia area, so you might try calling Premier Escorts in Philly; they have an excellent reputation, and if you explain your situation and tell them what you are looking for, they will do their best to set you up with the right guy (they are also less expensive than most NYC escorts). Check out the guys on their website, and discuss them with the Premier owner. One of their regular "visitors" is Jason Carter, who is comfortable with guys of your type, and if he is available and you find him attractive, it might be a good fit.

 

However, as others have said, you are too young to give up on finding someone with whom you can have an emotionally satisfying relationship as well as a physical one. But those relationships often turn out to be with someone who doesn't fit your Prince Charming dream, a normal human being with whom you share values and interests. I came out at 17, and had plenty of sex before I finally found my lifetime partner when I was 25. Perhaps, once you have had some sexual experience, you will project more self-confidence about your own desirability, and confidence is often more attractive to others than physical qualities.

[youngclient2]

Hi there, I'm 25 also and have been paying for sex since i was 18. I'm above average attractive and very social too. I dunno why I do it. It's fun and easy in a way. I can get guys for free. It just takes effort and games. I have money, so its easy as picking up a phone and knowing exactly what I'm going into. Now the one thing is I don't put special stock into escort experiences. It's totally NSA sex. I can do that. They are not gonna be lovers, friends, or fuckbuddies. It's just pure, animal fun. It's hot to have certain guys "give it up" for money as well.

[Guest thedolphinsofaugust]

Hi there, I'm 25 also and have been paying for sex since i was 18. I'm above average attractive and very social too. I dunno why I do it. It's fun and easy in a way. I can get guys for free. It just takes effort and games. I have money, so its easy as picking up a phone and knowing exactly what I'm going into. Now the one thing is I don't put special stock into escort experiences. It's totally NSA sex. I can do that. They are not gonna be lovers, friends, or fuckbuddies. It's just pure, animal fun. It's hot to have certain guys "give it up" for money as well.

 

Well, youngclient... You and me baby ain't nothing but mammals...so let's do it like they do on the Discovery Channel. (Do you remember that song from when you were 13?)

 

Well, I am not really as loadad as you are. In fact, raising the money for one hour will be quite a project. It may take me the whole summer. Kinda reminds me of childhood summer fundraising - when you wanted that special toy but had to save up for it by selling lemonade on the road. Maybe I should go into the lemonade business - although this time, the toy I want is a man.

[leigh.bess.toad]

First off, welcome to the forum Dolphin. You are off to a great start with a great question that seems to have attracted a lot of sound answers from some very wise people.

 

Is 25 too young to give up meeting someone by chance? Good god I hope so. I don't even remember 25. Hell, I barely remember 45. I'm 55 and just came out about 7 months ago. I am by no means a good looking man. I'm not ugly but nothing extraordinary by any stretch of the imagination. Average at best. I have been hiring only a little longer than I've been out. And yet recently I found someone whom I am now dating and it is going quite well. If I can find someone at my age, surely you will eventually find someone if you keep looking. One thing that is helping me is developing confidence in myself. Trust me, confidence in a man is as sexy as hell. I never had any confidence before. But the escorts I've hired as well as many of the friends I've met on this forum have given me a great deal of confidence that I can do anything I set my mind to. And I'm not talking sexually. Personally, knowing that I'm a good man, a decent man, a caring man has made all the difference. Knowing that my friends (and yes my escorts) have been there to help me has given me the confidence in me that I've needed. At 25, your life is nothing but possibilities. You can't give up finding that one great love of your life. Your life really hasn't even started yet, believe it or not. But hiring escorts is not a bad thing, a dirty thing, a thing that signals you've given up finding that one great love. I hire escorts for far more than simply the sex. They have become my teachers, mentors, guides, friends. Learn from them and then apply that to your real life.

 

If someone of my advanced years can do it, I have every confidence in the world that you will be able too as well.

[gcursor]

My advice to you is simply this: do whatever makes you happy.

Gcursor

[leigh.bess.toad]

and Rick Munroe. Isn't he an old porn star?

 

Nah,he's just our old residdent Smart Ass.

 

Like Rich, I think I needed medical attention after that line.

 

btw, Love you Rick.

[JT Brooklyn]

25 is not to young to hire an escort, but it is too young to make that your standard practice. If what you want is an opportunity to experience some really good sex with someone who fits your ideal of a a hot guy, then do it. I suspect you are in the Philadelphia area, so you might try calling Premier Escorts in Philly; they have an excellent reputation, and if you explain your situation and tell them what you are looking for, they will do their best to set you up with the right guy (they are also less expensive than most NYC escorts). Check out the guys on their website, and discuss them with the Premier owner. One of their regular "visitors" is Jason Carter, who is comfortable with guys of your type, and if he is available and you find him attractive, it might be a good fit.

However, as others have said, you are too young to give up on finding someone with whom you can have an emotionally satisfying relationship as well as a physical one. But those relationships often turn out to be with someone who doesn't fit your Prince Charming dream, a normal human being with whom you share values and interests. I came out at 17, and had plenty of sex before I finally found my lifetime partner when I was 25. Perhaps, once you have had some sexual experience, you will project more self-confidence about your own desirability, and confidence is often more attractive to others than physical qualities.

 

Thanks Charlie..As usual you have given the more articulate version of what I think to be good advice! It's one thing for Men of a Certain Age to "Invest in Sex"..

 

BUT to start that Investment so early in Life the Rewards in the long run will probably be a screwed up set of emotions later in the LONG Life ahead of you!

[joeyboy107]

My thoughts are not as profound as some but I think if that's what makes you happy, then go for it. As some have said, sometimes it's just easier! You're getting someone who you know you're physically attracted to, are compatible with (in theory- based on description and discussion) and without the effort of trying to go out and maybe fin someone you're interested in. Then, trying to make sure that person is into you...maybe buy a few drinks, etc. To me, if you're happy with just paying for it instead; why not?

[Guest Rich.]

My advice to you is simply this: do whatever makes you happy.

Gcursor

 

Really Gcursor? No, really!? You got an axe I can borrow? Not sharp. Blunt will do. Oh... and Scott Sloan's address?

 

Richard

[youngclient2]

Let's put it this way. Sometimes the cost of wooing a guy is as expensive, if not more, than an escort experience. Drinks and dinner? How many times? What are you getting in return? A night out where you're being generous will easily top $200. It's a risk. At least for the $200 you spend on an escort experience, you know exactly what you're going to get.

[Midweststudentnyc]

Thank you for your welcome, cynicalflannerwearer (why flannel, lol?)

 

I don't really know if I am attractive or not. I guess the best answer would be that there are days I feel too ugly to live and days I feel like I'm okay. I guess people would describe me as sweet, cute, and feminine (definitely a bottom). I feel more transgender than gay.

 

I'm attracted to straight men really, which explains why I never get any. I need someone to balance my femininity - a big macho stud would be nice (:

 

Well I'm going to go a bit against the grain here and say the last thing you are looking for is a "boyfriend experience" from an escort. I think one of the things that ends up ruining sex is lack of communication. If you can't tell the person what you want, or are embarrassed to, or just hope they figure it out, it's usually a bust.

 

With that in mind, and if you decide to hire someone, I think you need some real dominance. Not abuse, but someone who just takes charge and more or less runs it for you. One who comes to mind is Luiz Prado/Rocco who comes through NYC a good bit.

 

Admin note: no erections.

 

I can't find an live link to him but he's appeared on Rentboy MassageM4M in the past and will again. He's in incredible shape, great dirty talk, very straightboy appearing, and knows how to (mostly) painlessly top. If I could go back and have my first, I would have loved it to be him. Nice, kind, sexy, and demanding. The sort of take-charge you need sometimes in the sack

 

http://www.massagem4m.com/fl/fort-lauderdale/14786/

http://www.massagem4m.com/fl/fort-lauderdale/14270/

[Midweststudentnyc]

Well I'm going to go a bit against the grain here and say the last thing you are looking for is a "boyfriend experience" from an escort. I think one of the things that ends up ruining sex is lack of communication. If you can't tell the person what you want, or are embarrassed to, or just hope they figure it out, it's usually a bust.

 

With that in mind, and if you decide to hire someone, I think you need some real dominance. Not abuse, but someone who just takes charge and more or less runs it for you. One who comes to mind is Luiz Prado/Rocco who comes through NYC a good bit.

 

Admin note: no erections.

 

I can't find an live link to him but he's appeared on Rentboy MassageM4M in the past and will again. He's in incredible shape, great dirty talk, very straightboy appearing, and knows how to (mostly) painlessly top. If I could go back and have my first, I would have loved it to be him. Nice, kind, sexy, and demanding. The sort of take-charge you need sometimes in the sack

 

http://www.massagem4m.com/fl/fort-lauderdale/14786/

http://www.massagem4m.com/fl/fort-lauderdale/14270/

 

Just a note to say he's popped back up on the boards and is coming to NYC on 6/24-8!

 

http://www.massagem4m.com/fl/fort-lauderdale/14786/

[mansniffing]

You're never too young nor too old to pay for sex.

"I believe that sex is one of the most beautiful, natural, wholesome things that money can buy."

---Tom Clancy

[Michael Wayne]

Hi and welcome to the forum! Let me say that I have several clients even younger than you. This type of situation is becoming more common all the time. i actually had to check an id recently. Turns out the guy was 23 but he looked even younger. As a hung muscle top a I find that 20 something bottoms are turned on to my look. I am kind of a twink magnet so I welcome younger clients with open arms although my primary attraction and focus is on older guys because of the maturity and experience level. That having been said alot of younger guys are super sweet and mature far beyond their years. http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

[Guest dansjando]

I don't think 25 is too young, I'm just a little older myself. But I think if you're insecure and or have some hangups, it may not be a good idea psychologically to go for an escort for your first time. It may make it more difficult to sorta enter the "real world."

 

Personally, I'm a very experienced working professional that sometimes wants to cut through the dating bullshit and just get some with a better than average guy once in a while. If you're looking to get over a hump (no pun intended) and lose your virginity, then go for it. Call up an escort that has a reputation with first timers, have a few drinks, and let him ease you into it. Just remember that the experience is not indicative of the real world, no matter how good the escort is. There is always an air of fantasy.

[mansniffing]

Yes dansjando. "There is always an air of fantasy." And that's what make it so fab. Especially when the escort is into the fantasy. Recently I've been fortunate in that respect. Thank heaven for the men. Bi-Straight and Gay. Just keep in mind the lyrics to:

 

Just A Gigolo

 

Just a gigolo, everywhere I go

People know the part I'm playing

Paid for every dance

Selling each romance

Every night some heart betraying

There will come a day

Youth will pass away

Then what will they say about me

When the end comes I know

They'll say just a gigolo

As life goes on without me

[Rhinestone Cowboy]

You are most definitely not too young to be hiring an escort, as many before me have already said. Your sexual development is an incredibly important part of your personality, and taking steps to seek professional help with an escort is absolutely the right thing to do -- provided you do your research, make sure you are hiring someone who is well reviewed by many people and who seems to be someone who is going to provide you with the kind of service you are looking for. I'm in an open relationship of 8 years and have sex with my partner, with other people and with escorts and every experience is different and unique and generally wonderful. There is absolutely no need -- ever -- to think about your sex life as some fixed state that can't be changed. The thought that you've struck out at bars and on Adam4Adam and so feel like finding Mr. Right is off the table and now you're having to "resort" to hiring escorts is totally the wrong way to think about it, my young Dolphin. Finding romance is a numbers game, and you need to keep going out to bars or Adam4Adam or Grindr or gay bowling or gay church or Lillian Gish retrospectives at the revival house or whatever and just be a presence in the company of other gay men. The more people you meet and interact with, the higher your chances are of meeting someone...and the more confidence you'll develop in yourself. I'm 40, and was young and cute when I was 20, and then had a horrible job where I gained a lot of weight so was young and fat, then lost the weight but was battling an alcohol and drug addiction, and then got sober ten years ago and am now 40 and not a young boy anymore but am a mature man in good shape and I enjoy staying healthy. Through the various ups and down of my looks and self-esteem, and the many many many people I screwed around with, the one thing that I can tell you looking back on it is that I could NEVER predict who would be interested in me. You just can't possibly know what turns someone else on. Hot guys would jump into bed with me when I felt I looked like a drunken fat shit and I just couldn't understand it at all. Obviously, it must have been my spectacular personality! I promise you, if you overcome your hermit way of life and put yourself out in the company of fellow human beings and be open to meeting people you will find people who are turned on by you -- no matter what you think your shortcomings or hang-ups are. Ring them bells, Liza!

 

Now, regarding hiring an escort: I describe myself as enthusiastically versatile because I never have felt the desire to have to choose one way or the other because I think it's ALL a lot of fun. That said, there are times in life when the only thing I really need is to get fucked...hard. Sometimes getting pounded in the ass relentlessly by someone who really knows what he's doing is just what the doctor ordered to put the rest of the world in perspective. Sometimes a tentative, baby-steps approach isn't the best thing at all; sometimes you just need to lie back and let a pro show you how fucking amazing amazing fucking between two men can be. You will get over your anxieties, and you will feel GREAT about yourself. The guy you meet on Grindr isn't going to know what he's doing in bed. The guy who's been doing this as a professional for a number of years and has been reviewed well repeatedly on this site is going to give you an experience you'll treasure. And, although it is "only" about sex and nothing more, a good escort will make your time together totally focused on YOU and YOUR needs and making sure YOU have a great time. It's worth it.