Why don't more escorts, if not booked, send out emails?

[bcohen7719]

I've asked this before, but I'll ask it again: why don't more escorts maintain private "group" email lists to reach out to local clients when they need some additional appointments? I've received emails from a few agencies, and once in a blue moon, from one or two escorts. I certainly get emails from other service industries. Is there any underlying fear that this would be considered "soliciting"?

 

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[dfw2sfo]

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I once got a text from a masseur I'd seen a few times. Fortunately my bf didn't see it. Some clients, when they know theyve texted or emailed a provider cover their tracks very deliberately and would not appreciate receiving an unsolicited email or text. I don't think an escort should do that unless it has been expressly approved by the client beforehand. Escorting is not just another service one might use like a dry cleaner or hair salon because it is still secret for many if not most clients. If you've developed a system to get approval from some clients, go for it.

[rossthebosssf]

Probably to avoid threads like this:

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/showthread.php?80650-Escorts-Who-Contact-You

[down_to_business]

I think the most professional method would be to default not emailing or calling clients without their express consent.

 

If you asked your favorite escort(s) to contact you (by whatever method was acceptable to you) when they were looking for extra appointments, they might oblige you.

[raife]

Escorts certainly do send out update e-mails, Facebook posts and tweets all the time. I think most are rather nervous of sending unsolicited messages to closeted (and coupled) types, so you just need to make it clear you have no such hangups, and you'll get plenty of updates. I'm constantly getting "pinged".

 

Part of the reason probably has to do with location. I'm in LA where the competition is pretty intense and the guys have to maintain visibility or they miss out.

[seaboy4hire]

When I used to travel more (can't right now cause of the new job and promised to stay grounded in Chicago for a year) I had a list of guys that I would email before posting my travel plans so they'd have first dibs. I only emailed them if I had prior permission and never sent out blind emails. Prior permission is key. As for networking sites that can be touchy and a very thin line.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Juan Vancouver]

I believe one of the reasons for which our rates are so much higher, compared to the hourly rates in other professions is because we are able to deliver very specific services, always on our client's terms: whenever they like it, wherever they need it, however they desire it. I would never send a solicitation of work to my clients because I think this would violate a very important genie-of-the-lamp quality: I come when they rub, I disappear when they are done.

 

It's for the same reason that if I see my clients out and about I will never under any circumstances say hello, unless they say hello first, and even then I will keep the information exchange at minimum.

 

I believe that if it is me who solicits an appointment, it should be me who pays for the session.

 

The only way I do send emails is when people have expressly asked me to let them know that I will be visiting their area. Otherwise, if I am not entirely booked for the day I find a good book, go to the gym, spend time with my loved ones or simply relax.

 

Actually, there is another time in which I do send emails and it is if I have shared an important moment with a client and he has expressly told me that it is OK to email him, then I will send him a message for the holidays to thank him about our interaction and wish him well. But this is never a "When are you hiring me again?" email.

 

I realize that there are many different -and perfect valid- ways of doing this profession but so far this is the one that works best for me.I am sure different things work for different escorts and clients and it is the variety that makes us so special.

 

Hope this answer helps.

[Michael Wayne]

very simply put, it is a violation of discretion UNLESS you are specificly ASKED by a client to contact them. It is always better for you the client to contact us. If it is the other way around then the question can rightly be asked: "Who is really in need here?" The old way of the client calling keeps things simply and avoids conflict and confusion. Just my opinion.... http://www.rentboy.com/mikey9nola1

[raife]

If it is the other way around then the question can rightly be asked: "Who is really in need here?" The old way of the client calling keeps things simply and avoids conflict and confusion.

 

Why does that question matter at all in the scheme of things? We've already had a mutually beneficial experience, a price is set, who the hell cares who's needier? And how does that lead to conflict and confusion? I seem to be missing some vital subtext here, can anyone enlighten me?

 

Our choosing to get together again is a win-win for us and nobody around asking these silly questions is of any relevance whatever.

[zeyfur]

I agree. It is a mutually beneficial situation for us. I ve had escorts e mail me and it never led to conflict and confusion.

[JoeyBryant]

I agree with most of the guys here. Unless they asked to be contacted, we don't bother as it's just a waste of time and possibly can backfire.

 

I used to NEVER contact ANY clients even if they did ask me to contact them. But then some guys would be like, "Joey, I thought you were going to call me when you got to town!". So as time went on I decided to be a bit lenient. I've actually gotten to where I can tell who actually wants me to call or who's just saying it as another way of saying, Had a great time...have a nice life!

 

I always tell myself, what's the worse that can happen? I'm not saying, "Hi, this is Joey the escort you met off men4rent last month. Wanna meet again?" I simply say, Hey _____, it's Joey and just letting you know I'm in town if you're interested in meeting let me know. Even if a s/o seen the text, there is no way to know what is going on. I could be a friend on his tennis team for all they know.

 

I find that generally works better when you are traveling though rather than in town. When traveling, there's a small window of time to work in and I think it's important to work together and not just wait because they may not be checking the sites daily. But while I'm in town locally at home, I wouldn't dare think twice about sending out any emails.

[Michael Wayne]

raife and Zeyfur: if you are single that is one thing but MOST clients are married to a woman or a man or have a serious boyfriend. That is just the fact. I have even had several TELL me they are single and to call anytime I am in their city then get DOWNRIGHT MAD AT ME for calling because the wife or boyfriend figured out what was going on. Agian , if a client is single, no problem or if they are in an open relationship, fine. But the rules and laws of discretion are for the overwhelming majority of clients who are involved and would prefer to contact you. I post NOTHING on here that has not been tested by years of in the field experience.

[zeyfur]

It depends on the individual concerned and there are no hard and fast rules. But I would understand that an escort who plays from a position of power with billionaires and millionaires as clients would not need to call anyone.

[Michael Wayne]

u r just a sarcastic bastard aren't you, zeyfur? i sent you a private message asking to talk these things over privately but you have not responded. I will no longer answer your posts in public as they are a disgrace to this forum.

[zeyfur]

I have no wish to discuss things privately. As far as I am concerned, you did not ask for my permission before you sent me a private message. Anything I say and feel will remain on a public forum. If the administrators deem my posts to be inappropriate, then they are free to delete them.

[zeyfur]

u r just a sarcastic bastard aren't you, zeyfur? i sent you a private message asking to talk these things over privately but you have not responded. I will no longer answer your posts in public as they are a disgrace to this forum.

 

I have no wish to discuss things privately. Anything I say and feel will remain on a public forum. If the administrators deem my posts to be inappropriate, then they are free to delete them.

[JoeyBryant]

I have even had several TELL me they are single and to call anytime I am in their city then get DOWNRIGHT MAD AT ME for calling because the wife or boyfriend figured out what was going on.

 

well never call...text or email. Calling is just too spontaneous. If I don't have their email or they didn't originally text me at some point, then there is nothing I can do to give them a heads up.

 

I've actually only had 1 scenario where a guy has asked me to not call him again. But it wasn't due to someone else in the picture, it was more the fact that the economy at the time in Florida was sending everyone into a panic and all my best regulars vanished! And so did I...