Escorts Who Contact You??

[+ Axiom2001]

For almost seven years, I have been seeing an escort from time to time, and over the years we've had some hot times together. But there is one thing that has begun to bother me about this man. He's begun to email me and discretely request his seeing me. He's never been blatant about it, just quiet.

 

Personally, I would rather contact the men whom I'd prefer to see again and again and have nicely shared this with my escort/man!

 

But this last Friday or Saturday he emailed me again in his wanting to see me. Again his request was NOT blatant or strident! I fired back that I hope all was well with him and that he have a wonderful weekend!

 

What do you do when you get emails from escorts who want to engage in fun with you?

 

<My man supposedly has a very good day job and only escorts because he likes sex, but I have indeed been perplexed when he's invited me for some play time!> - - -

[EZEtoGRU]

Sounds to me like he either really really likes to fool around with you........or he needs the cash. Either way, if you are uncomfortable with his contacting you, let him know nicely the next time he e-mails you that he needn't make the initial contact and that you know how to get hold of him when you want him.

[Guest Spanker01]

EZE is right and I will not repeat what he has said. You might try not responding to his e mails, if being nice doesn't work, and ultimately, "just say no"

 

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[seeker630]

For almost seven years, I have been seeing an escort from time to time, and over the years we've had some hot times together. But there is one thing that has begun to bother me about this man. He's begun to email me and discretely request his seeing me. He's never been blatant about it, just quiet.

 

Personally, I would rather contact the men whom I'd prefer to see again and again and have nicely shared this with my escort/man!

 

But this last Friday or Saturday he emailed me again in his wanting to see me. Again his request was NOT blatant or strident! I fired back that I hope all was well with him and that he have a wonderful weekend!

 

What do you do when you get emails from escorts who want to engage in fun with you?

 

<My man supposedly has a very good day job and only escorts because he likes sex, but I have indeed been perplexed when he's invited me for some play time!> - - -

 

I have a 'regular' guy whom I see about once a month (thanks to the economy!) Occasionally he'll email me a salacious invitation. If I'm not in the mood or 'ready', I simply respond that the present time isn't a good for me but I will be in touch as soon as the time is right. (I have even occasionally mentioned that I do budget my 'entertainment'.)

His response has always been polite, and he waits to hear from me.

[JT Brooklyn]

Sounds like he needs the $$. But I Totally Agree with seeker630 and his approach to this situation.

[Decatur Guy]

I was a little surprised when an escort contacted me to rehire him. I just chose to be flattered by it, though his needing the $$$ certainly crossed my mind.

 

I hire based on my schedule (my time is not always my own), expenses for that month and mood. And if those aren't in alignment, I just have to say so.

[+ deej]

I once had a regular who started calling me when he needed extra cash. Along the way I'd loaned him money for his business and we "worked something out" for repayment. He was a hot little piece of ass so I was usually happy to see him, but the calls did get out of hand and I laid down a new rule: "when I call you I'm paying, when you call me I'm not".

 

To my great surprise, the calls didn't entirely end. Sometimes he just wanted to get fucked.

[justaguy]

Axiom, the best advice has been given: in a polite way simply say what you've said here--that while you don't take offense in any way about his contacting you, you prefer to be the one that initiates contact.

[cany10011]

When a regular escort contacts me, i feel compelled to meet or answer him about an appointment as soon as possible as I'd like to remain in his good graces and would like him to be there for me when I *really* need him.

 

 

 

Axiom, the best advice has been given: in a polite way simply say what you've said here--that while you don't take offense in any way about his contacting you, you prefer to be the one that initiates contact.

[good ol boy]

WOW! and thanks for the thread! This is all very helpful. I find myself in the same situation as Axiom, and then sometimes the Administrator, and there is even a hint of cany10011 in there. Now let me unravel this and figure out what I morsels of advise I need to use. This is why we have the forum!!!!

[buckguy]

A couple weeks ago, I got a call from a guy. I had unsuccessfully tried to reach him by phone and email when he was in DC a few months ago. At first I didn't recognize him and as I was walking home on a noisy street, i asked him to call back in 10 minutes. I looked up his number and realized who he was---he never followed-up and given his history with my other inquiries, I made no effort to contact him. This was no fly-by-night flake; he was a well-reviewed guy I had hired in the past.

[CF]

Axiom, you mentioned this escort has been emailing you from time to time. What caught my eye was your comment that he discreetly request seeing him but never being blatant. My question to you is, did he ever outright ask you if you'd see him?

I have been seeing a well know and reviewed escort on this forum for several years. I mention that, because he has always found time to email with no intentions other than to say hello and see how I'm doing, or to send a holiday greeting. In the end, he's just a nice guy.

[Michael Wayne]

excellent thread. This is the helpful kind of discussion we need here. Ok, here goes (and alot of experience goes into my answer ). When I first joined the forum a year or so ago I posted that the PRIME DIRECTIVE aka rule number one in the escort business was , "NEVER call, text, or email a client.....no exceptions. period...end of discussion." This is what I had taught young escorts who had worked for me in the various services I had owned over the years. The response I recieved was interesting. I had taken a couple years off from the biz and when I returned I realized that times had changed. Technology has alot to do with it as texts, Ims, even emailing can be done alot more discreetly that outright calling someone directly. Most forum members indicated it was ok for the escort to contact them. When I travel noew the clients tell me to contact them when I will be in their city because some are too busy to look at the various escorts' schedule. That is fine. I know times change---BUT---I still feel wierd about it, every time. I feel as if I am breaking a rule or, even worse, looking DESPERATE. Those of you who know me or read my posts know I am not desperate at all. I escort because it is fun and it creates extra income. I meet alot of nice guys way beyond my SOCIAL STRATA. I learn business skills from my clients that I apply to my non-escorting start up business I run. I still thing when everything is factored in that it is better when the client contacts you. Then you know he is motivated and really wants you. Some times the old rules were rules for a reason and I think we as escorts are being pushed to test the bounds of discretion. Also, finally, they can get the wrong idea if you contact them. Who is in need in that situation?

[Lewis H]

An escort/masseur I saw three times in the past 6 years has apparently added me on to his text message group which I never wanted to be on. His infrequent though regular (every month and a half or so) text messages has turned me off completely, so I delete his messages upon receipt. I understand the need to market oneself, but in this case, it has the opposite effect.

[Decatur Guy]

excellent thread. This is the helpful kind of discussion we need here. Ok, here goes (and alot of experience goes into my answer ). When I first joined the forum a year or so ago I posted that the PRIME DIRECTIVE aka rule number one in the escort business was , "NEVER call, text, or email a client.....no exceptions. period...end of discussion." This is what I had taught young escorts who had worked for me in the various services I had owned over the years. The response I recieved was interesting. I had taken a couple years off from the biz and when I returned I realized that times had changed. Technology has alot to do with it as texts, Ims, even emailing can be done alot more discreetly that outright calling someone directly. Most forum members indicated it was ok for the escort to contact them. When I travel noew the clients tell me to contact them when I will be in their city because some are too busy to look at the various escorts' schedule. That is fine. I know times change---BUT---I still feel wierd about it, every time. I feel as if I am breaking a rule or, even worse, looking DESPERATE. Those of you who know me or read my posts know I am not desperate at all. I escort because it is fun and it creates extra income. I meet alot of nice guys way beyond my SOCIAL STRATA. I learn business skills from my clients that I apply to my non-escorting start up business I run. I still thing when everything is factored in that it is better when the client contacts you. Then you know he is motivated and really wants you. Some times the old rules were rules for a reason and I think we as escorts are being pushed to test the bounds of discretion. Also, finally, they can get the wrong idea if you contact them. Who is in need in that situation?

 

I like receiving notification e-mails of someone being in my city. I think that's different than actively soliciting a client. I don't have time to look at those websites every day or even every week. In fact, I wish you'd send me an e-mail notification! LOL.

 

Solicitation would only be bothersome to me if I were to politely decline a direct and individual overture and then get asked again right after I say I can't do right now. That becomes a little high-pressure, and that's a problem.

[seeker630]

An escort/masseur I saw three times in the past 6 years has apparently added me on to his text message group which I never wanted to be on. His infrequent though regular (every month and a half or so) text messages has turned me off completely, so I delete his messages upon receipt. I understand the need to market oneself, but in this case, it has the opposite effect.

 

Did you ask him to remove you from the group?

[cany10011]

I have no privacy issues and don't care if I get a periodic update in the form of an email/text from an escort regarding his availability. If it became too frequent, then i'd ask to be removed from it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Did you ask him to remove you from the group?

[Damascene]

I had one escort who would text or call me almost every weekend that he was available. I had to tell him to stop it or I was changing my number. Letting someone know you are in town is one thing. Expecting me to jump to hire you that is just arrogant.

[Lewis H]

Did you ask him to remove you from the group?

 

I think I did once and he stopped for a while, then resumed a few months later.

[+ Axiom2001]

I like receiving notification e-mails of someone being in my city. I think that's different than actively soliciting a client. I don't have time to look at those websites every day or even every week. In fact, I wish you'd send me an e-mail notification! LOL.

 

Solicitation would only be bothersome to me if I were to politely decline a direct and individual overture and then get asked again right after I say I can't do right now. That becomes a little high-pressure, and that's a problem.

 

I don't mind receiving notifications of an escort's visit because I have. I've always written back with a thanks for being notified and my unavailability/availability!

[+ Axiom2001]

To all: Thanks for your salient advice. I know what to write to him the next time that he contacts me.

 

<This man does "wonders and is really into pleasing his clients." He's a sterling sexual dynamo, has much going for him, is highly personable, intelligent, and conversant, has a beautiful endowment and knows how to use it, etc., but now when I engage the services of escorts, I chiefly prefer to see new guys!> - -

 

I might eventually reconnect with this particular escort, but when that happens, I want to be the one to contact him. That is what I shall share with him if anymore emails come my way!

 

Again, sincere thanks, men! -

[snake28]

I receive periodic texts and emails from several escorts, and I like getting them. They are not hey let's get together messages, but more so hey how are you messages. I appreciate being treated like a friend by these guys, and never feel like they are solicitations. They are more keeping in touch until we see each other again messages, and I treat them just like I treat messages from my friends.

[+ azdr0710]

even if they're only "hey, how are you" messages, I know the escort has taken "Marketing 101".....but I don't mind receiving texts or emails from escorts....glad to know I at least didn't spook the guy in some way and that he's willing to meet up again......if I can't meet soon, I'll just reply that I can't meet soon, but will get hold of him when I can....

 

it's not that complicated, guys!!!

[fanman]

I had one escort who would text or call me almost every weekend that he was available. I had to tell him to stop it or I was changing my number. Letting someone know you are in town is one thing. Expecting me to jump to hire you that is just arrogant.

 

I had someone who would do that. I had to tell him a couple times that I would let him know when I had the time and/or desire to see him.

[+ newatthis]

even if they're only "hey, how are you" messages, I know the escort has taken "Marketing 101"...

Flip side of this: had a great session with someone who was talented at conveying the feeling that we had good rapport both sexually and otherwise. On the way out of his hotel, something weird/funny happened related to a conversation we had just had. I dropped him a note about it -- no more than a couple of sentences, and within an hour of seeing him -- and got no response whatsoever. That killed it for me -- his lack of marketing skills (if you want to call it that) lost him a repeat client.